Rickmann: Bros you get mind o, so of all the girls in the country na Jehovah witness you fall for like this? Personally I have never heard anything good about them.
It was obvious she wasn't feeling you the way you felt her..i mean, all the vital signs were there but you just refused to see it. It really hurts when you are in love alone.
Pls move on and stop crying here, she isn't worth ur love or tears at all.
"A failed relationship is better than a scattered marriage" always remember that.
Thanks bro and i truly cried �. I was in this alone all this while ��
SOFTENGR: This applies to girls from all religions. There's this girl I once fell for, having dated for few weeks. She invited me to her church, winners, so she could introduce me to her "daddy in the lord". I told her I'm a Christian, though not a religious person, so I don't think I have time for church things now. I went on to explain to her that my Bank job is very demanding and I work weekends and needed some rest on Sundays. She started giving me attitude. She stopped picking up my calls. She will only call me when she needed assistance, which I do help out. It continued like that for a year. When I realized that her mind is made up, I also stopped responding to her calls. I felt bad, but I have to move on. My advice to men is: never fall in love until you are married. If you don't have same religious ideology, your relationship will likely not work.
valdes00: Leave ur job cos babe left you ... You are a joker..... Thats why as a guy, its cool to have multiple babes... In this era, if u depend on one gf, you are on ur own... Always have it at the back of ur mind that u are not the only guy dating ur babe, it helps
You are right. I just decided to be serious and ready for something serious. Didn't expect things go this way . I'm not dumb just wanted something serious and I was carried away with her being religious never knew she could act like this . But you are right because just because of her I let other women go seeing her as my everything but we learn everyday.
brosom: U Better take the advice Niggerrs here giving u because that bitch ain't love u no bit
She's a LovePeddler hiding under the umbrella of witness, if u want to know if it's true, pay an anonymous niggaarr some naira to woo her, keep ur profile low, you'll see under a week the Niggerr go bleep her all angles and even bring u some pictures.
I don't need it. It's clear am not good for her. At least she found a man who shares the same faith. As for me I don loose �
InTheCloudySky: She's a fake JW and one with low morale. You'd be grasping at straws and doing yourself a disfavor trying to prolong such one-sided relationship, especially after she has made it clear with both her actions and words that she's not interested in you. Also, she seems like a narcissist and breadcrumber with the ways she treated you. Men behave like this but apparently women are capable of doing the same. The best thing you did was the end the relationship and cut her off.
Tokskob2008: It is very easy if you value your peace of mind. Personally I don't block people's number or contacts cos I might go back and unblock them again later, what I do is just to delete cos I don't keep numbers offhand so it will be very difficult for me to remember anyone deleted.
You are right and I have done that like 10 times already lol.
Tokskob2008: You have deleted and blocked her number which is the first step in the right direction now the second step is to take her off your mind, how do you do this? Just act like you never knew her.
gaby: Eyaaa...so sorry for the hurt and heartbreak.
But come oh...
Na because of woman you want quit the small job wey you take dey hold skin, are you okay...for this Bubu goment? If I whoze you slap ehn?
Do youyou see why workplace romance is highly advised against and frowned upon?
I understand how hard it is to get through this time but trust me, with time you'll be fine.
The first thing you need to tell yourself is if she or you both were indeed meant to be this wouldn't happen.
Just allow her go. If she is destined to be yours she'd come back in a good time but if she isn't yours, your whining or killing yourself over her won't change a thing.
Simply go on and engage yourself in activities that'd help get your mind off her, improve on yourself, keep a clear and open mind, and be receptive to other potential dates.
Life no hard jare, na we humans dey complicate issues.
Be strong, confident, and don't allow her see you brooding over her.
There is this lady I love so much, we work at the place, and we were good but she happens to be a Jehovah witness.
We have been dating for a year and half now but most times I have issues with her texting other guys and she kept saying they are just friends.
You can call me a fool but sometimes you love someone so much that you don't want to loose them.
Anytime I try to tell her about how I feel about her texting other guys giving them impression that she is single and always looking out for someone who happen to be a witness but always tell me it's me she loves and those guys are just her friends . Going out to see other guy's on a date and sometimes lie to me , she get mad and never for once say sorry . And when she says sorry, the same thing repeat itself.
Then I just let go and assume those guys are just her friends and I can't stop her from texting her friends but there is something within me that keeps telling me something is wrong. Like I love her so much but I still have this trust issues ,like I want to be convinced that I am wrong and try work on my trust issues.
Just yesterday I just login to her Facebook because she gave me her phone sometimes to help her format it and restore her apps back but she could not remember her password, so I had to reset it and get them working.
So I login to her Facebook then I realized she has been sneaking out to see another man who happens to be a witness because my place of work . We spend 2 months in and 2 weeks out , even her time off she plan on going to see him yet lied to me she wanted to go write exams and look out for other opportunities and she told me we would see when we out and spend time together .
Like we go on leave and off days same time ,for me we were so close and we even kissed and hugged that same week. Like she was already certain to end up with this guy yet she still call me and tell me she loves me . But one thing about me is I can't keep things to myself I got mad then I texted her .
She greeted me well then I suddenly asked her about the guy . She denied it totally and asked if I had a prove . Then I sent a screenshot then she said "did I not tell you that I can't marry someone who is not a witness then I was like Bleep". This same person we talk almost everyday , see everyday , kissed and do crazy stuffs even at work now say all these to me. Like I almost died yesterday. I told her all this then she said " I just love you as a friend and you are my best friend" .
Then I asked since when ? She just ignored me all through then line busy. I just blocked her and delete her number because she was not even sorry .
Here is my question, why are witness like this ?
This will be my first experience with them and I will say this really hurt me. Like I can't even think well. So a relationship of almost 2 years just a waste?
So all those I love I love you were just jokes? I just pray God heal me fast .
Like I really loved her. Now I don't know what to do. The job I am managing for now we both work there. How do I face her? Like am still looking out for another job but now I just have to leave this job and move on.
I just decided to share this with you all so you can learn from my foolishness and advice me on what to do.
Oceanblaze: Your way of reasoning is what has kept you in the dark ...try reason like person wey get sense small
You wey no dey dark we see you. The same ignorance na in dey kill you so. Why take David side so easily ? Person wey you no no. If any other person from his crew die this year, something is fishy . Na so people dey die or you dey talk say na coincidence? You can easily respond with an advice for them to quit smoking or hard drugs not just say shit. And moreover is obvious davido and in crew don reduce the way dem dey do hard drugs or smoke. So these year,let's see the excuse again. The guy's comment above ,I see nothing wrong there and he is not the only one who is interested or waiting to see how things unfold. No be these same naija wey we dey hear bad bad news everyday . Even teenagers dey kill not to talk of adults. No be only politicians dey drink blood now. Small pikin nowadays self want money without thinking of the consequence. In conclusion na you suppose improve on your thinking mentality and not trust people easily just because they do give away or help the poor.
greatiyk4u: This question goes to the married and the single pro-life individuals who believe in marriage but have had some fears due to their current experiences (for the married) or what we see, read and hear outside about challenges in marriage courtesy of socio moral implications of globalisation on Africans.
Looking at the society in general today with reference to Nigeria, the general euphoria and enthusiasm attached to marriage is gradually going into extinction by miasma of wrong narratives from those against marriage...I guess.
I still hold on to this believe that any functional and healthy adult who cannot manage both marriage and family is irresponsible and just as my culture and religion accord such respect of been responsible to the married. There are certain cultural engagements, responsibilities, benefits that are made only for the married persons, You can't be coronated a traditional ruler without a wife and so do I think of swearing in of Governors and Presidents
Why shy away with the proliferation of religious bodies and their core mandate of teaching LOVE Let love lead because LOVE Is a beautiful thing especially when you found the right companion.
Nigeria my country chai. It's a personal thing to develop yourself but I don't see any reason why in Nigeria there is no skill acquisition programs. There are no jobs is the main problem and the ones we have , only people with connection get them and the companies train them not the university. University in Nigeria and other countries in the world only offer theory while you develop yourself or the company you work for develop you to get paid. No company will allow you use personal skills with them . First they will train you about the job and all you need to know. Personal skills is just a plus. There are lot of problems in Nigeria which job creation is one of the main issue we face. Our leaders are not creative at all. Most of the companies in Nigeria is private and the tax/bribe the government charge this companies give them the opportunity to treat Nigerians the way they like. Most of the stores that should employ graduates or non graduates is owned by private organizations. Another problem in Nigeria is the fact that investors find it hard coming to Nigeria. So many reasons to that we all know. Both present and our past administration have failed us as youths. Not everyone will have a good job but at least we should be able to survive with the little job we have . Imagine stores in other countries paying well per hour. Not everyone should be paid monthly . You can hire people ,pay them hourly thereby giving them opportunity to decide whether to work more or do other stuffs with their time. Getting a federal job seems to be hard because you don't hire those who are good for the job. You need to know one person or the other to get a federal job. Some even pay for it. Anytime I see our government talking about graduates not well equipped or lack required skills , I begin to wonder if their brain is still functioning at all. When our parents or leaders were in school , they had lot of opportunities. Government programs , scholarship and more that gave them opportunity to develop themselves not just university. Now there are lot of guys that are good with no job . It's not about you being good or not. The youths in Nigeria, I will say we are really trying . We survive no matter the problem we face. Suicide rate in countries that are better than Nigeria is so high due to lack of good jobs yet we try our best to survive no matter the odd and we still keep up seeing our leaders saying trash. For us as a country to move forward we need something different not all this yeye dullard in power.
Easylion3569: My girlfriend last saw her menstration last month, its been 30 days and 4 day since she last saw it.. So i was wondering why, and i had to visit a chemist who gave me a pregnancy test tools called 'accuracy'.. he told me how to use it, and what the various line display means. so i called my girl and told her to urinate small on a small cup, followed the instructions and two thick red line showed.. and the chemist said two line is positive.. i'm still schooling i don't kno what to do now.
everything i have worked for, how i have planned my future is now trying to fade away. i cant even hold my tears
Bro shit happens and you need to face it and move on. Why regret ? You can always get a job and move on. I understand it will not be easy but that's why you are a man. Don't you spend on her while dating , don't you guys go out , don't you spend money drinking and other stuffs? You just have to reduce all of that. If your parents are understanding and are willing to help you then congratulations. I have a friend who impregnate his girlfriend while in secondary school then (ss1). His mom was so supportive and understanding. Now the child is 13 of age . Although he did not further his education to higher institution, now he is doing fine. He is a mechanic but trust me he is doing fine. I will be 30 next year and I don't even have a child and we still dey hustle for this same street. He is done with kids already and I'm not even married yet. I am telling you all this so you don't feel bad or feel you have no future anymore. How many graduates out there have a good job ? If she is someone you like so much and both families are understanding, baba double your hustle and move on. The reason why we feel this bad is because our parents put this feel in us that as destroyed lives . I am not saying people should continue with this act but when things like this happens,it's not the end of the world.
The people of Oyo state should be ashamed of themselves especially. I don't blame the Yoruba's at all. Yoruba leaders are not United at all. All they want is recognition irrespective of the political party. They are not fighting for the Yoruba's at all. A Yoruba man unlike the Igbo's always learn form mistakes, wise and know the right time to back of. I won't blame igboho but he made a big mistake. Even the Governor of his own state is not in support of his agenda and other top political leaders. Imagine ffk that should be talking now , all of a sudden quiet and already switched to a party he was pushing igboho to fight against. And you expect innocent Yoruba's that are yet to meet up with their basic needs to protest , waste their lives or risk the lives of their families? No way!! There is a adage in Yoruba that says Yoruba proverb " he who fights and run away lives to fight another day". But igboho was not smart enough. The likes of ffk kept pushing him and he danced to their tune. Sometimes I find this whole Biafra of a thing funny. You leave your business fighting for one yeye Biafra. The same thing happened during ojukwu's time. People died and at the end what happen? Nothing to show for it . Yet they still repeat same cycle. Very wrong . I still believe for our voice to be heard , we need a leader .Our leaders are just like ffk, they push you to war front but seek political post then forget about you. Are you saying Igbo's don't have leaders at the top to represent them? They have enough but they are not representing them well. Same with the Yoruba. Rather than protest or waste your life, japa.
damilola4162: It was an emotional day for Nollywood actress Nkechi Sunday Blessing as she laid her mum to rest today October 16, Newspremises reports.
Late Mrs. Gloria Obasi Sunday died in September after a brief illness. Her remains were laid to rest today.
As her mum's body was being taken to her final resting place, Nkechi cried so much until she passed out. She was however resuscitated by her friends and family.
Truly losing someone you love is painful but this is not real at all. I remember my aunt did create a scene during my grandma's burial. While my Grandma was alive mehn , that lady did not act like her daughter at all, she was rude and sometimes don't even call her at all. Sending money for her upkeep end up with complaining . But when mama died , she faint like 3 times . I wish my Grandma could wake up and give her a dirty slap. Rip to the dead anyway.
I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.
However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.
My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.
She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.
I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.
It's either you carried away with your so called ex and you regret getting married to your wife . You can't blame your mom for getting married to her. Every mother want the best for their children and marriage is one of those things. And it's also possible your wife also regret getting married to you and also want someone else . You have to be careful I tell you . I think you have to talk to your wife and try to know what the problem is. If it's something beyond you , pray about it . I don't support divorce at all. And it's against God's will except you suspect infidelity. There is no perfect relationship or person . We are all trying . First thing first forget about that ex of yours. What if she has moved on with someone else and decide not to tell you. Then you will move from frying pan to �. So you need to be careful my brother. Accept your wife for who she is , stop assuming and forget about your so called ex. If you truly love that ex of yours am sure you won't listen to your mom at all. You two did not get to know much about one another before sex and you think it will work well. I am not against you having sex with her but before getting married , you need to know at least 70% about your wife /husband. I made same mistake in the past because I met someone who allowed me make love with her the first day and today we no longer together. I was enjoying the sex and I love her quickly but I never knew she was dating me because I had small change . When things turned the other way , my brother she started misbehaving and we broke up. But I don't blame her . I did not even know about her background ,her kind of person and how much she loves me. But I was deeply in love with her because of the sex and how we spend quality time together. After we broke up , it was hell for me. I could not think straight again and it was hard loving another woman again. But she moved on quickly with another person that same day we broke up. I tried calling her to talk things out, thinking there is time to make up but she already moved on. Real relationship is beyond this sex of a thing. If you can't wait till you get married, try use condom to avoid story that touch. And I have come to realize that we guys we fall In love too fast. Why? So the solution you have now is just keep praying to God and believe things will work well.
Since u Marry in the Lord, why not Work in the Lord too? : Meaning that any Employer that does not belongs to jehovah witness, you must not accept their job offer. But instead, u take my job offer when it comes to job seeking, but when it comes to marrying, you tell me marry in the lord, or join jehovah witness, please the World will be a better place if you people stop creating this stress
Very correct that is why the once who marry them eventually change along the way
9japrof: please am one of Jehovah's Witnesses and would like to make our beliefs clear in this issue of marriage.
Rightly as you guys have answered we Jehovah's Witnesses don't marry people who are not members of our organization and there are clear cut reasons why we do so, so please relax and follow me gently as i unfold them:
According to instructions that can be found in the Bible at 1st Corinthians 7:31, it made it clear that we should marry only in the lord ,yeah some may ask "Marry in the lord" Does it not include other members of other religions or denominations that constitute Christianity I can emphatically say NO, In so many places in the bible the expression "in the lord" signifies sharing the same beliefs, principles , attitudes,way of life. It is obvious that no other religion on earth share the same ideologies with the witnesses and at that cannot be said to be in the same lord with them
Please do not be too fast to conclude that we are a sect or that we segregate so much that we don't have marriage dealings with members of other denominations or religions.During the time of the Ancient Israel, they were barred by God to have marriage alliances with people of other nations , Why? this was to keep their worship of him sacred or undiluted and not for segregation reasons, because outside marriage, Isrealites still traded businesses with Other nations. At your time read Deuteronomy 7: 3 , 4
In marriage a lot of things are considered, but i think that one of the things that must be considered most is, COMPATIBILITY, With a witness that holds fast to the teachings found in the bible, it would be very difficult been compatible with such witness devoid of serious problems in marraige
LISTEN TO MY ADVICE
(a) there are many celebrations that are accepted in many churches today(e.g Christmas, Birthdays, Halloween etc)which do not have biblical backing which the witness may strongly desist from attending those functions with you thereby creating creating cracks in the unity of your marriage.
(b)On my own self i would not encourage you Poster to be a witness, because it is obvious that you are becoming a witness just for a selfish motive(marrying the girl). try to see evidences and proofs why been a witness is worth it and not because you are in "a one month love"
(c) Even if the girl agrees to marry you against the wishes of her parents , do not blame the parents of the girl for not attending the marriage functions or blessing the marriage, because they wanted the best for their child and marriage and would not condone seeing her get married to somebody they know would not provide the best for their children
Please no matter how offended/bad you feel about this post, that is the truth, in my short life's span i have seen many marriages like this break down, at least 60-70 percent of them do break down,and those that do not ,sometimes happiness may not be there .
Please feel free to ask your questions and relplies, i am so busy , but i will promise answering them
Beautiful contribution up there. Thanks But I have a lady I am seeing and she is a witness and am not and I am facing this similar issue. I am open to having Bible discussion getting to know more about her and her belief. Deep down I really love her but those conditions you put up there are not 100 accurate. Are you saying for sure that witness are the real Christians or follower of Christ? The homes that are destroyed due to this beliefs,how do you revive them as Christians? Why do parents neglect their children choice because they feel the standard provided is the best? I guess your point is clear, getting married to one will lead to the greatest disappointment one could ever imagine
Maxymilliano: You can not add white color to black and expect it to remain white.
FFK is a highly unstable fellow, give him food and watch him sing your praise to high heavens.
Wish him well in his political vocations ...
Don't blame him. It's obvious that man is broke. His recent pictures and post with APC members especially yaya Bello explain it all. For him to come back to his feet again and become politically relevant ,he needs a political post. No matter what he says , the truth is Mr Femi is broke.
I don't know if you remember the product am taking about. How did you reinstall the os of that Tecno winpad 10? Been to carlcare and tried so many engineers in computer village but they can't fix it. The only one that tried loading (wins 10) and didn't work.
Darkseid: This shouldn't be hard to fix; it's either the OS needs reinstalling or the EMMC chip is dead.
Did you ever find solution to your Tecno winpad. I am having similar problem and I have tried my best and also visited carlcare and computer village but didn't get it fixed. Please how did you get it fixed?
mrvocalprowess: I switched on my Tecno windows pad one day, and this was what came up. I've tried every solution online i saw , but nothing worked.
Does anyone here know how i can solve this? Thanks.
No matter how good you’re as a person, how many friends you have, how much you’re loved by your family. You’re always going to be alone, especially in your tough times. Nobody is going to understand you, help you in your struggles or take you out of difficulties except you. You’re your own hero.
My grandma also appeared to my dad in his dream telling him she as been forgotten. She was crying bitterly in that dream asking them to kill even a goat to remember me . My dad said the dream was so real but when Baba wake , he said why me
James4358: Hello my nairaland family. I'll make this post short & precise... I buried my dad around april this year.
Am the only available child, as my elder brother relocated abroad in january & has refused to make contact. I took a loan to sponsor my bro's trip abroad, & also took another loan from my bank to partly sponsor the burial as all the family burden rested on my shoulders..
Last month, my dad appeared in a dream telling me to hurry up in paying a vow he made in church of abt 50k before he died. I was warming up to pay the vow this month's ending as am stil servicing the loans i got from my bank.
He appeared last week to remind me but yesterday night's own came with severe flocking. Am stil feeling the pains from the cain he used at my back & joints..
How do i contain him before month end when i'll be bouyant to pay the vow.
Am afraid he may return with more beatings,. & am jst 30yrs old, & wouldnt want to have any part of my body deformed as a result.
Pls i am not allowed to use my system at my place of work but there is internet service 24hours. Can I learn also with my phone and take the exams. Here is my email olaoluwababafemi@gmail.com
Romance › Re: My Experience With My Jehovah Witness Lover . by adetula148(op): 7:55am On Feb 07, 2022
