SugarGirl44:
The way some women lose their shape and beauty after childbirth tho.
This woman is a typical example.
She used to be very beautiful as an AIT staff back then.

Not saying she’s ugly now, but she was waaay more beautiful then.

Happy anniversary, pls don’t join the bandwagon of divorcees.
Thanks.

Let's see yours after 10years.

Dimples2022:


How are you comfortable talking about your own father on the internet amazes me. This generation is something else. We have all insulted your father with you so I hope you feel better now!

Clout chasing generation

I didn't come here with the intention of having him insulted. Only wanted to know if I did the right thing by not stopping him, and with that, I have to give reasons why I didn't.
I'm not one of those who chase clout.

emmanuelbrown26:

My dear, their must be a secret reason and he doesn't want d children to know.
Due to d nature of my hustle, I do meet a lot of people on daily bases.
So I came across a family, lovely family but cold/silence issue was going on (they are from sokoto). They mother gave birth to 7 children,
could u believe that out of d 7 children they parents have, 2 are from d d father's younger brother.
U see in issues like dis, u hv to be very very careful in handling or tackling it. Waiting my eyes dey see for field plenty pass me.
Their might be a cold/silence issue going on BTW ur mother and father.
Was ur father like dis from d beginning?

Yes, sir

olasaad:


Please don't abandoned him. You can call him to check on him after 2 or 3 days. He may even have something bothering him and now that you his family have rejected him, he may died of depression or even commit suicide. Please if throughly he is your daddy don't abandoned him.

He's only with because he has no other accommodation. If he had, he wouldn't be with us by now. He doesn't care se!

Kobojunkie:
Well, that statement has been going around from before her ancestors considered having her, but that didn't stop her from marrying your father then, so why should it stop her now from remarrying?

It's well jare

Wawelexy:


Lol ... Small pikin dey worry this one.... Has he been liked that from onset? Anyways, na you get your family, so na you know where shoe dey pepper you for leg.... Enjoy

He has been like that since I was kid, sir

Kobojunkie:
He is back again? Look, your mother should cut the cord and free you kids from the emotional anguish that is your current existence. Not only does she deserve better as an individual in life, her kids also deserve better as far as parenting example is concerned. What she is currently teaching them is that even when they are rejected in a relationship, they are to blame and that is a horrible lesson to teach anyone, let alone, one's own kids. Making you beg and plead with your father when he hurt you is wrong. Parents need to be responsible for their own share of the blame— they are not gods and they too make mistakes and should apologize when they do.

Once jokingly advised her to remarry, but she said all men are the same

Funny enough, I discovered he's here again

Wawelexy:


You are saying this out of mere emotions... I pray you don't witness the pain of discovering that the children you have spent so much on, are actually not yours. Some men that re psychologically weak go to the extent of killing such kids, sir, the pain is out of this world. .

But nonetheless, I'm not justifying his actions....

Oga, if someone has made you fathered another man's child, doesn't mean all women are the same. I'm talking about someone who gives no hoot here and you're twisting it. Abeg, rest jare. Which yeye thing him discover?
He even get time to discover all that one. Mitchewww

Kobojunkie:
1. Many people don't! That is why there are millions of homeless children who roam the streets of your Nigeria every day. So, wake up!

2. Even if he discovered something of the sort, he cannot simply disconnect as there is a process to dealing with such things. You don't just abandon kids you were previously responsible for.

Let him be talking trash there

FOLYKAZE:


Sense no go kill you.

The only wise response on this thread.

I am afraid the OP is a female. Pretty bad lot of them think with their heart instead of their head.

If she is 23yrs, she should answer the question if her dad was like this during her adolescent years. What went wrong and where did things began going south?

What kind of business or source of money does her pop has? What was his relationship like with her mum before now?

If she really need answers, she needs to cool down and ask him personally. But wetin our women got. Nag

He has always been like this since I was kid. In fact, he only just started living with us around 2018.
All of my childhood, he only comes home once in 4months. Not because he does any job that requires that.
The matter is complicated.
I'm done explaining

BluntTheApostle:


Speak to your dad. I am certain there is a reason.

When I was teaching at a school in North Central, there was a man who was working in Abuja, but had family in the community where I was teaching.

The two children were always sent out of school every time instructions go to we teachers to drive school fees defaulters out of the school compound.

These children didn't look hungry. So I was moved to ask the elder one (a girl) why they were always defaulting. She said their mother said their father does not have money. But somehow I found out that their father was comfortable and that their mother is a fashionista (a tailor by profession).


In summary, kasala burst one day. The man came to school and caused a scene. Apparently, he had always sent school fees on time, but the mother was using it to buy wrappers. She was always present in every gathering of tailors in the city. Yet, her children were already associated with school fees debt.

Speak to your father. Are you sure he doesn't give your mother money for your upkeeps? Are you also sure he doesn't give a damn when you are sick or he is just not the type of man.

Try and speak to him. I am not saying your mother is bad. But you, the children, may be misinterpreting body languages.

Nothing. Absolutely nothing is hidden to me. U won't understand

Truvelisback:
Let him be. It is good u didn't stop him. I would advice that u and ur siblings should support ur mum financially also learn skills. Ur dad will come back. However, i would have love to hear his side of story. Something must have prompted him to do these things.

Nothing prompted him...at least not from us. He just wasn't trained to know his responsibilities as a man

zeuss:

emotions aside the man gives no Bleep about you or your good mother. You think you are normal and balanced right now? Sorry but you cannot understand the emotional, mental abuse and damage he is inflicting on you and your mother until something happens. he will easily use you guys for miney ritual should the opportunity present and so i calld him evil.

God forbid..... Abeg

Can't for now or maybe the fact that I will miss my family

JoyousFurnitire:


Okay, not like he doesn't right?

Well at least he was helpful those times. You could use that as a point for your mum. Who knows when next he could helpful. At the most critical time?? No one knows (even though he hardly spend). He's still part of the family. Infact the head.

Try to talk to your mom. Call your dad too. Tell him how sad you are.

To cap it, make sure you work hard. Be successful. If you will marry, look before you do. Marry a good man.

Good luck

Thank you. I appreciate your advise

jimmychang:



Do you look like your dad?

Yes
Height ( they are so tall in their family which is not in my mum's), he's dark, I'm. Even with other features which people have commented on severally

JoyousFurnitire:
I know how you feel.

I guess his business is not fine (correct me) and poverty is the reason he doesn't care (I'm sorry if my words hurt you).

He doesn't have a high EQ and his best way to cure depression is to be nonchalant. Instead of him to be closer to you guys (especially your mum).

May I ask how does he relate with you guys when he got a few money??

Hardly

Nicepoker:
Look for him. Just the two of you, ask him what exactly is wrong and why his nonchalant behavior. He will open a lot to you. From there you will know what to do.

Lol...
It's part of him. Countlessly, I've spoken to as daughter to father. That's the way he has chosen to live his life

Jovialjune1:




1) The mum is tolerating the irresponsible man because she doesn't want to break her home and the single mother tag on her and her kids

2) How do you expect the mum to continue to love an irresponsible man?

3) The marriage was not built on a wrong intention, instead, the continuous existence of the marriage is built on a wrong intention, it should have ended a long time ago.

Therefore, your logic is senseless.

I wonder o

prof0fficial111:



Logically if your mum tolerates your dad's attitudes because of the children, that means the marriage would have ended long ago if it were childless.

Logically your mum doesn't love your dad
Or vise versa

Logically the marriage was built on a wrong intention

What she meant is, if she treat him exactly the way he treats her, it may affect her children's future. Hence, that's why she's been careful about her behavior towards him

Benwallt:


God will bless you jare. It is a good thing to do but those ones have eaten their cakes under cheap circumstances and still wanna have it. It won't work.


Closing their is the easiest to do in the world but chop chop no go allow them.

It will also reduce all these bashings we receive and increase women's value.

Because all these silly small boys get it at cheap rate that is why they run their filthy mouth.

How I wish all women could close their legs for men who are unmarried to them.

Justbehave:
Lol. You are wondering if that thread is real because a woman is involved but you want us to see yours as real? I just dey look Una. Continue.

If you do not understand me, I don't waste my time repeating myself. You may think whatever you want

Justbehave:
Mad people. Una don gather to finish the man but on the thread were a mother is beating her sick husband and aiding her 16 years daughter olosho work,non of Una condemn her. Hypocrites.

I don't know that, and if truly the thread is real, the mother is indirectly laying curse on her children.
My mum do tell me all the thing she tolerates from my dad is solely because of her children

Foodqueen:
Someone dash him plenty money for Xmas, that's why he look for smaii excuse to leave,

He will be back when he has finish the money on him.

Lol

nicerod:


Only God knows


Maybe ur mum offended him in the past

You no get point oga. Not taking sides with my mum, but I'm no kid. I'm 23 approaching 24. He knows my mum is a prize to him. He's just doesn't deserve my mum. In fact, I've been resisting the urge to ask my mum why she ended up with him.

Redoil:

maybe you and your siblings are not his biological children

Yinmu....
He do say it that he can vouch for my mum anywhere. He's just being nonchalant

nicerod:



I'm not staying with


I'm not judging you


Just advising u not to takes sides .

I understand you asking me not to take sides, but stating there could be a reason why a father wouldn't care for is children is sounds annoying

libertyfather:
If everything you type up there is true ...let him go

In fact, I'm mincing my words. Those are just tips of iceberg compared to what he does.
I'm not perfect, my mum is not, but hmmmmm

nicerod:
There must be a reason he's not showing concerned about his children.


Please don't take sides


I pray God provides for ur needs

Pls, what kind of reason could make someone not concerned about his children?
Your comment is just annoying.... I'm sorry to say.

Mitchewww

nicerod:
There must be a reason he's not showing concerned about his children.


Please don't take sides


I pray God provides for ur needs

What are you saying? You better know what you would say.
My mum is not even the kind of mother who would spoil father to his children. In fact, whenever I want to react based on his behaviors, my mum cautions me.
I once reacted badly towards him and my mum kneeled to beg and order me to seek his forgiveness else she will never forgive me.
I'm not taking sides, but even the blind knows my mum isn't a bad person. He himself knows, but he's just that way( no thanks to his up bringing).
My mum didn't even and I know will never ask him to leave, but he decided to, thinking I would stop acting like a victim, not knowing I'm even pained than my mum.
So, don't even go there.