Family › Re: Genotype In Place Of Love In Marriage by afoife(op): 5:31pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
24kmagic: The first time i found out I'm AS, I was so, so down. I have always believed I was AA, may be because I don't easily fall sick or weak.
I can stay a whole year without taking any drugs or visit the hospital and I carry out rigorous activities most times.
Each time I remember I'll have to look for an AA to have anything serious to do with, I just get angry automatically.
Funny thing is most people think they are AA because they are strong. They've never really taken time to go and test their genotype. They just believe they are AA.
Go and find out your genotype today. Better do than regrets |
Family › Re: Genotype In Place Of Love In Marriage by afoife(op): 6:16pm On Oct 09, 2019 |
UjuJoan2: If you had gone ahead to marry her, you will be surprised that the 'love' will not be able to withstand the and and trauma your situation would have brought. Trust me, love FADES a . . . . and there are soooo many love killers in marriage.
Also, you WILL love again . . . a solid marriage creates an opportunity for love to thrive. I also did not marry the person I wanted because of the AS issue. I thought I will never love again the way I loved him. I thought you can only experience such love once in your life. But I was wrong.
You see if you marry someone chosen by God, (not by your own definition of 'love' oh) . . . You will experience love in your marriage like you've never known.
So take it from someone who has been in your position and chose healthy children . . . that is the BEST choice you can ever make!
I have children now, healthy children . . and when I look at them, my heart is over-flowing with love. Imagine if one of them had the SS syndrome? I'm not sure the love I had for my ex would have survived that. You speak sense |
Family › Re: Genotype In Place Of Love In Marriage by afoife(op): 9:27am On Oct 09, 2019 |
thorpido: If I were the father,I'll give her a hard knock on the head,then invite you over and give you a hard knock too. You guys don't know what the experience is. You know Eucharia Anunobi,the Nollywood actress? I saw her go through all the experience she had with her only child/son.They were in and out of the hospital frequently.Her husband abandoned her(guess the health issue contributed).She eventually lost the son as a teenager.Imagine that's her only child and she is over 50yrs. Not worth it. Hunm this is deep |
Family › Re: Genotype In Place Of Love In Marriage by afoife(op): 9:01am On Oct 09, 2019 |
Greatzeus: Love conquers All, those are the words of God. So inconclusively, Love > Genotype  Love indeed conquer all |
Family › Re: Genotype In Place Of Love In Marriage by afoife(op): 7:23am On Oct 09, 2019 |
sisisioge: Hmmm, just like you I refrained from commenting too because I wondered why a grown Human that had seen/heard of products of the AS/AS marriages would ever think of creating one!
For you, even though you left on such a bad note, you should be thankful that it never happened. That love you continued to carry as you remembered it to be would have taken another form if you went ahead with the marriage. Just see it as a gift from nature....it could have been worse.
To further convince yourself that you did the right thing, take a trip around the hospitals that cater for the SS carriers and also find families that have them. Try to see for yourself the effect on both the children and the parents. It is well, may God help the world. I As nice as this sounds, we live in pain of silence and an endless search for love in mirage |
Family › Genotype In Place Of Love In Marriage by afoife(op): 6:43am On Oct 09, 2019 |
Having read through this thread https://www.nairaland.com/5459719/genotype-fiancee-what I choose not to respond all through, but within me I know I have paddled this waters in the past and presently swimming against its tides now. My case is very similar to his, I loved my girl so dearly she is everything I wanted all through, we were what everyone one in the university wanted to be as Lovers. She is my first Love, but I was ever strong, never falling sickly, so I assumed I was AA. Then after school we came for masters together, then she got a job before me, I decided to take up a driving job and progress for a PhD while we plan our marriage. Heaven smiled on me and I had a minor break in my finances, started marriage rights, the unthinkable was revealed and I was told I am AS. I choose to ignore it and progress, people pressured me against my will and told me different reasons I must not progress. I succum, but I could not face her to tell her I can't go ahead with our marriage, so I went AWOL (my mistake). It was easy to get into another relationship cos I was ok to an extent, but I never loved this person and I promise you she is a good Lady but I just can't bring myself to love her or any other person till date. People say love grows, I strongly disagree, in as much as it is impossible to love two persons equally, you can't have true love for two persons. Till date I have not been able to get the same love I once shared with her. So choose whom Yee will serve in marriage, LoVe or Children. Just me, I didn't say this should be for everyone ooo. |
Car Talk › Re: What Is a "scam" in auto repair? by afoife: 3:46am On Oct 07, 2019 |
radautoworks: To better understand Rad Auto Works and I, I'm posting this article that was written some time ago. Happy reading!
https://www.franchisetimes.com/June-July-2019/Mr-Transmission-zee-aims-to-change-Africas-auto-aftermarket/
“This is going to sound corny,” warns Temi Adelu-Davis as she explains the impetus behind searching for an auto-related franchise to bring to Nigeria, “but what really tipped it over is love.” What started with a marriage proposal from then-boyfriend Glen Davis before Adelu-Davis moved home to her native Nigeria began a nearly five-year saga filled with delays, logistics challenges, bribery—or rather lack thereof—and ultimately perseverance to open a Mr. Transmission/Milex co-branded location in Africa’s most populous country.
“When I was going to say good-bye he said he was coming along and he proposed,” remembers Adelu-Davis of relocating from Houston, Texas, to Lagos, the largest city in Nigeria. “But what was he going to do in Nigeria?”
Her husband, a master technician, owned an auto repair shop in Houston, and after Adelu-Davis took a trip to visit her parents and survey the business landscape in Lagos she immediately saw opportunity in the auto aftermarket. “My mom’s 2012 Murano was just sitting there, she was having trouble getting it fixed,” says Adelu-Davis, noting her mom’s frustration first with an incident of faulty parts and then with a mechanic. “And if a mechanic didn’t do a good job, there’s no recourse. This seemed to be the story for everyone. …
Finding genuine parts is a problem and finding a skilled technician was a problem,” she says.
The auto aftermarket industry in Nigeria is also highly fragmented, meaning people have to take their vehicles to one shop for an A/C repair, another for the transmission, and yet another for an oil change. “There’s not a place to get everything done at once,” says Adelu-Davis.
Temi Adelu-Davis
Temi Adelu-Davis, along with husband Glen, opened a Mr. Transmission/Milex repair shop in Lagos, Nigeria (main photo), where she aims to improve the overall quality of the auto aftermarket industry and open nine more shops.
‘Third-world problems’
Adelu-Davis, who has an executive MBA to go along with degrees in math, applied mathematics, quantitative methods and biostatistics—“My family is all engineers, I was the first one who wasn’t but I decided I was going to have more degrees than anyone,” she says—and Davis got to work evaluating franchises before meeting with Pete Baldine, president of Mr. Transmission/Milex franchisor Moran Family of Brands. Moran, Adelu-Davis says, had the right blueprint and “we knew they would give us the support we knew we’d need.”
After signing an area development agreement to open 10 locations, the Davises broke ground in March 2016 and earlier this year celebrated the grand opening of their store in the Lekki Peninsula area of Lagos. The time span in between brought what Adelu-Davis calls “third-world problems,” but notes she was prepared for many of the obstacles, such as delays in approval of the site plan.
“We did everything by the book so it took longer,” she explains, noting the prevalence of corruption and less-than-transparent government decision-making. “We anticipated them and we prepared for them; we could have done it easier if we bribed everyone, but that’s not what we were going to do.” Recalling another incident, this time with customs, Adelu-Davis says a pre-owned forklift bought for $4,500 was later valued by the government at $26,000, “so they taxed us for that amount. You can’t avoid it,” she says. “We took what the project would have cost and estimated two-and-a-half times that for unforeseen issues.”
In its Country Commercial Guide, the U.S. Commercial Service notes, “While Nigeria offers U.S. firms export opportunities in many sectors, it can pose some daunting challenges including the high cost of doing business in Nigeria, the need to duplicate essential infrastructure, the threat of crime and associated need for security countermeasures, corruption,” and also “the lack of effective judicial due process.”
Baldine and Midlothian, Illinois-based Moran felt prepared to navigate the regulatory environment in Nigeria, especially after addressing supply chain and intellectual property concerns early on. Picking through “a junkyard—a flea market for parts” is how Adelu-Davis describes the process for procuring auto parts in Lagos and other major Nigerian cities, so Baldine connected with suppliers Advance Auto Parts and Carquest to work through the logistics.
“We talked to them before we executed the deal with Temi to figure out how to make that happen,” says Baldine. Carquest undertook much of the legwork to research tax issues, permits and the process for transporting containers, and the Mr. Transmission/Milex store in Lagos doubles as a distribution center that will also supply future shops as the Davises sign sub-franchisees.
“We’ve established the parts supply in that market, so we’ll require franchisees to purchase through the master franchisee warehouse,” he says, adding the company will duplicate this framework as it looks to open locations in Liberia, where it has a 10-store agreement, and elsewhere outside the U.S. Moran Family of Brands also secured IP and trademark protections early on, and Baldine says despite the roadblocks his company was “willing to step up to the plate” and is now looking to enter other regions without an established auto aftermarket.
Mr. Transmission/Milex shop
The Mr. Transmission/Milex shop in Lagos doubles as a distribution center for future locations.
The United Arab Emirates, Oman, Bahrain and India are all potential markets where “there are high-end dealerships and backyard mechanics, but really nothing in between,” says Baldine. International development will come through master agreements, and Baldine notes he’ll look for franchisees like Adelu-Davis with local ties and familiarity with the business environment. Richard Adelu, her father, spent decades working in Nigeria’s oil sector and later started an event rental company. Her father’s success is yet another motivating factor for Adelu-Davis.
“My father’s name is synonymous with petroleum in my country,” she says. “Everyone in the industry knows him. So I wanted to have my legacy. I’m an only child, so to be an only child and then I’m a girl … I wanted to build my own success.”
Fulfilling a need
A soft opening in late 2018 proved the demand is there for a Mr. Transmission/Milex shop that guarantees an oil change within 30 minutes and provides a range of services and repairs for everything from transmissions and brakes to air conditioners and radiators. They’re servicing 30 to 40 cars per day, and Adelu-Davis notes she’s done “zero advertising.”
“All I’ve done is maintain a social media presence,” she says. “It’s all word of mouth and by trust, that’s primarily how business is done here.” Labor is “still a huge challenge,” and her husband is “overworked,” but they’ve hired five technicians and as a master technician Davis is able to handle much of the training.
A second location is set to open in June after they signed a franchisee to convert an existing repair shop in Lagos to Mr. Transmission/Milex and Adelu-Davis expects more to follow soon.
Nigeria’s upper middle class is growing, with many people like Adelu-Davis “trying to go back home, but all the amenities they’re used to aren’t there.”
“This is the perfect time for any company to come to Nigeria,” she continues. Indeed the country has the highest GDP in Africa, $376.4 billion in 2017, and while still heavily dependent on oil it is in the midst of implementing the government’s Economic Recovery and Growth Plan, which focuses on diversifying the economy.
From her vantage point, Adelu-Davis wants the Mr. Transmission/Milex model to also bring transparency to the repair process by educating customers and helping them make smart decisions. “That’s unheard of here,” she says, acknowledging there’s been some pushback to the hourly billing structure instead of flat rates. But customers soon realize this prevents the upcharging practice that Adelu-Davis says is common elsewhere.
“I’m trying to change the entire market,” she says. “I’m not trying to just open one shop.” I woke up some 45 minutes ago for security reasons, couldn't go back to sleep decided to read this again. Aunty Radu, the bolded makes me tremble as the task you have chosen to undertake is indeed for the strong and brave. I pray God grant you grace. Thank you for bearing the task |
Autos › Re: Any Neatly Used Corolla?? by afoife: 9:22pm On Oct 06, 2019 |
WhatsApp 08033957617. Car is in ibadan |
Autos › Re: Dont Miss This!! Less Than 6 Month Toyota Corolla 2008 Manual @cheap Rate by afoife: 7:03am On Sep 26, 2019 |
Oga this car is over 7years old on Nigeria ground. I beg tight your game. |
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) › Re: Chelsea Vs Grimsby Town: Carabao Cup (7 - 1) On 25th September 2019 by afoife: 9:17pm On Sep 25, 2019 |
Albinoflash: Today is my last day on nairaland and my last day on earth,this life is truely unfair to some people,i can't continue to dwell in misery.am gonna miss nairaland and football when am gone.11pm tonight the gate of hell will be opened to me.i have been the worst creature since birth and i curse that day i was born 25th december 1992.what a wasted life Guess this should be his number Emmanuel 08164629434. Got it from his profile Please let us call him |
Autos › Re: Unlimited Free Carfax Autocheck Vehicle History Report by afoife: 1:29pm On Sep 25, 2019 |
Got mine thanks |
Autos › Re: Free 2-day Vehicle History Report(over 1000 Free Carfax &autocheck Reports) by afoife: 1:28pm On Sep 25, 2019 |
Just got mine.... thanks |
Autos › Re: Unlimited Free Carfax Autocheck Vehicle History Report by afoife: 8:24am On Sep 25, 2019 |
sent you a VIN as you promised a free check but you did not reply. Does this mean your promo is over? |
Car Talk › Re: Repairs by afoife: 9:22pm On Sep 18, 2019 |
Great. Energy properly channelled. Please keep you calm |
Autos › Re: How Cosplay Does The Magic?? by afoife: 5:59am On Sep 08, 2019 |
Cosplay has proven himself overtime by exposing evil cardealers in their intentention to charred NLers. I support the notion to have him as a mod. |
Car Talk › Re: Are There Cheap Nigerian Used Cars? by afoife: 6:40am On Sep 07, 2019 |
Avedonn: Check out the professional review of all Honda cars I4 engine. From 1976 to 2019. Their problems, the one to buy and not to buy.
Based on what I saw, 2005, 2006, 2015 and 2017 are less problematic than other models.
While the worst and the one they advised people to avoid like plague are 2014, 2013, 2009, 2008, 2003, 2004 models.
Peoples complained about the following mostly:
1. transmission failure
2. brake pad
3. suspension
4. paint peeling
5. electronics malfunction etc.
http://m.carcomplaints.com/Honda/Accord/ Thanks. Well appreciated |
Car Talk › Re: Warning!!!! Don't Buy Synthetic Engine Oil by afoife: 4:22am On Sep 06, 2019 |
EgunMogaji2: A newer engine still has tight tolerance.
As the engine wears out then tolerances start appearing but gets patched by sludge.
So when you remove that sludge then “Exxon Valdez” appears. Egbon welcome back. Missed you Sir |
Car Talk › Re: Are There Cheap Nigerian Used Cars? by afoife: 7:49pm On Sep 02, 2019 |
Avedonn: Please review I4 accord Just as I requested earlier. Don't understand why oga ignored. |
Car Talk › Re: Are There Cheap Nigerian Used Cars? by afoife: 8:04pm On Aug 30, 2019 |
Oga Gaz you did not make any reference to the I4 Honda. And the 2009 Honda Accord. please do when you have the time.
Secondly how does one recognize the engine variant available for the Corolla. |
Autos › Re: Honda Accord 2003 Toks by afoife: 10:23pm On Aug 24, 2019 |
Please share VIN |
Autos › Re: Sold by afoife: 10:24pm On Aug 23, 2019 |
crestedaguiyi: I request that you guys stop this ego flexing on this thread .
I will post update on Saturday on how far I have gone
Any post that is not related to how to track this petty thief is actually insensitive at the moment.
Pls stop making insinuation Wishing you the very best in your recovery quest bro |
Autos › Re: Toyota Camry 2001 Used Still Like Toks Whatapps 08038379715...1m by afoife: 5:51pm On Aug 22, 2019 |
This car is over 7 years old in nig. Your price is outrageous please be reasonable. |
Autos › Re: Volkswagen Sharon Toks For Sale by afoife: 5:39pm On Aug 22, 2019 |
That engine is has a manual carburetor installed. I can't imagine that for 1.4 million |
Autos › Re: Please Recommend A Good Car Dealer For Me by afoife: 5:34pm On Aug 22, 2019 |
I really can not say enough about oluwaseunla, he indeed is an epitone of humility coated with professionalism. |
Autos › Re: Family Car, Opel Zafira For Sale, Cheap by afoife: 11:59am On Aug 21, 2019 |
Don't you have a phone number?. I mailed you severally without any response from you. |
Car Talk › Re: Is Opel Zafira A Good MPV Car For Transport? by afoife: 11:54am On Aug 21, 2019 |
I used to own an Opel zafira 2006 model. A very pleasant car to drive but the drought of parts could be hurting most especially body fittings. Why not get an older model and seek a good mechanic to advise you on the engine variant cos they come in different Shades. In all I had no regrets, it was a good car while it lasted. |
Car Talk › Re: How Much Is Opel Zafira Clean Tittle????toks by afoife: 10:51pm On Aug 19, 2019 |
Check for a guy here on NL esteral or something. He has it for as low as 900k. Or better still come to ibadan |
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Autos › Re: Slide In Here For Your Cheapest Deal Ever On Cars by afoife: 12:10pm On Aug 14, 2019 |
Location |
Autos › Re: Sold!!!Registered Honda Accord 04:700k. by afoife: 12:00pm On Aug 14, 2019 |
Tried calling you. Please get back to me 08033957617 |
Autos › Re: Best IAAI Deals (₦1.5m Or Less) by afoife: 4:47pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
Timmy, please check for 2007 Honda Accord with minimal damage and drive. Thanks |
Autos › Re: Toyota Camry Pencil Light Nigerian Used For Sale. N650k. by afoife: 4:31pm On Aug 11, 2019 |
Bro 550 ready to pay |