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Etumgbe: why is my name (Etumgbe) not there?

wonlasewonimi: Cos it sounds retardedd

hahaha na name be dis abi na agric specimen....sounds lyk nama name in chinese.....

wetin happen,why my name no dey among platinum,gold or silver category...na CLASS OF 2007 i be....upon all my millions of kilobytes una draw,no even official recognition....i go sue una,we go jam 4 court.....

good day nairaland....pls i nid profitable bussiness idea that i can start with a capital of N300,000.00k to start a new life.....?ur ideas r welcum

We all face ill-wishers, when we set goals and begin to reach them, no matter at what stage we are now: sceptics, critics, people who taunt us or say that we won’t succeed in what we do. Such people are a very powerful force, because even with “innocent” jokes and
comments they can make you slow down or even stop moving towards your goals. How to deal with ill-wishers? Of course, they are all different, but here
are a few good general tips:
1. First, learn to identify them. Sometimes we just do not realize that someone is our ill-wisher. They can be close friends or family members, so when they say negative things, we
often believe them and take them to
heart. You should remember that there
is a big difference between realists and sceptics. Learn to listen to what others say, and note your reaction. If that upsets you and makes you feel
depressed, then probably these people
are your ill-wishers.
2. Think maybe they are right. As was mentioned above, sometimes
they are just trying to be realistic. They may have good reasons for their
negative attitude. Take a step back and
think objectively why they have doubts and see a real obstacle, and if so, then try to figure out how to
overcome it. If you really want to reach
your goal, you will find a solution. If
your ill-wishers are certainly wrong,
just move on.
3. Reject any negative thoughts they
bring. Enemies will always try to bring to you their negative thoughts, which can raise doubts about your rightness.
Then it can grow and affect the way
you feel about your goals. Stop these negative thoughts as soon as possible! Replace them with positive beliefs. Do not let them beat you!
4. Understand that you will always
have enemies, and don’t take them
to heart In everyone’s life there is at least one enemy. You can not avoid seeing them but you can avoid listening to them. Just smile and do not pay attention to
their words. They will not be able to
affect you if you ignore their words.
5. Try to win them over. Sometimes ill-wishers are your close
people and you can’t ignore them. If so,
it is better to enlist the help of these people, rather than fight them. Try to do it as soon as possible. Tell them that
it is very important to you, and you
need their help. Tell them that you
understand their concerns, but you
really need a positive attitude and support. If they are your close people who care about you, they will become your best allies.
6. Laugh with them. Sometimes people feel uncomfortable when you take some changes and in order to get rid of this discomfort, they come up with different jokes and begin to taunt you. They just do not know how else to react. Be aware of
this and just laugh. If you take their words as nothing more but just a good joke, it disarms them. They can continue making jokes at you, but it won’t longer affect you if you’ll just laugh at them.
7. Have ready-made counter-
arguments and use them. Sometimes people are just misinformed
about what is happening. They may
misunderstand what you are doing.
Think on all their arguments and prepare your counter-arguments. Conduct your small research and justify the correctness of your actions. Then try to “enlighten” your ill-wishers. If
you do it correctly, with a positive and
sincere attitude, you can manage to make a person listen to you, and perhaps even change his opinion. If you fail, then at least you will be much
better informed about their arguments
and won’t let them give birth to doubts
in your head.
8. Be sure that you are doing
something good. Sometimes there is nothing you can do
about it. You can’t convince them, you
can’t avoid them, you can’t laugh with
them… Therefore, you should just ignore them and continue telling yourself that when you reach your
goal, it will be a reward for enduring these people.
Remember that enemies will always exist in your life. But they are just an additional obstacle on the way towards your goal. If you look for solutions, you can defeat them or make them your allies.
http://www.learning-mind.com/8-best-ways-to-deal-with-your-enemies/

sexkillz: [color=#000030]When you start paying before you make comments. . . [/color]

say wetin happen,nairaland draw my bundle,use my comments attract attention,don't i get rewarded for being first to comment....?besides na only sharp guys dey becum 1st to comment

na breakin news...but they neva showed us wen d shootin was done...just people lyin down....why not show us wen d bullet is fired at them....?this sounds as illusions

Freiburger: N20,000 for the first person to comment on a topic will be perfect. no be human right?

correct talk moderator,dat mins dis na my bill don enter second reading waitin for field mashal SEUN for approval.....
N20K for first to comment....dat na do me i do u....i.e nairaland draw my bundle,i comment first i get reward...deal

Temismith: first to be comment+ i dont have any problems....

Temismith: u have problemses too. Must u also state it dat i stated it dat i was first to comment?

no be me talk'am,na u write am

sexkillz: [color=#000030]LMAO! [/color]

moderator wen will nairalander start givin out gifts for first to comment....?

Temismith: first to be comment+ i dont have any problems....

u hav problems...? u r first to comments but no reward from poster,moderators....?must u state it dat u r d first to comment....?

good day nairalanders.i create dis thread to challange moderators,posters,seun,ladies and gentlemen.
1.why do rubbish post make front page lyk tonto mess & d rest...?
2.why get banned by moderator in favour of blackmailler....?
3.why english words censor...?
4.why many wrong tings run on nairaland as thread...?
5.why no thrash basket/button for inproper thread/comment/post...?
6.why no dislike button....?
7.why no reward for first to comment.....?
8.why must comment/post not in reference to post/comments stil stays on thread....?
why....why....why....why....many tings disturbin us but afraid to talk...
pls add ur problems,nairaland members-care should pls respond to our complains...no insults lets be matured pls.....

switdick: How many faces are there normally ??.. Hmmmm first instant I looked I saw 9. Just nine o...LoL"

I think that ATMC girl is a native woman, she's seeing spiritual faces now .. Pls single out for us the ones you've seen dear ? Maybe I should look thoroughly!!!

relax....free ur mind....then shine ur eyez.......look again

ORAFA: 9

no.....shine ur eyez

ATMC: ...no dey too form joor, pipe down low

wetin come be form nairaland J.J.C...?

ATMC: ...it was for me

ATMC....is she a learner...?go down low

britneykyute: Lngtym

longtime no know...?

ATMC: I just saw two faced rat, is animal's included?

animal ke..?just face

Queenw: I only saw 6 faces

shine ur eyez clearly....look carefully....or better take kai...kai

cult my foot...just sum bunch of fools been ruled by lies....damn irritatin....just be brave and quit...but remember u hav to face d music wit courage....wat even pains me is that they r always guilty....just repent,accept JESUS u wil be free....
RESPECT ALL...FEAR NO ONE...BELEIVE IN GOD

ATMC: I just saw two more...twelve

shine ur eyez take small kai kai or alemo,abi stout or take sum ganja wil giv u sum inspiration to see clearly.....boooooom respect

em no want learn area boys grammar
kilo sele...area....shooou...oloshi buruku americans
baskitad
ediyat
pool
dan isika
malo
idey come i dey go i dey craze

toluene12:
common give this girl a break

which kind break....poster no giv us break wit her weddin photos....wen pako marry we no dey see am 4 front page...but dis TING marry e disturb us...wetin self

No....

we dey wait to hear breakin news on breakups,quarells and bla...bla...she looks lyk a whooore,hope say d'banj neva tatse.....?

nairalanders shine ur eyez....how many FACES can u see in dis ART....?

slim fit :
Why is that man carrying a radio ?

na em be d hardnock niggaz...him look lyk tupac friends in d movie JUICE....

d one wit white trousers and black hat...na sti d hat him dey wear up til now...?na 4rm shrine...?

eye witness......[color=#990000][/color]

ZUBY77: I just recieved a call from my mom sayng that police vehicles are all over the city arresting people here and there. I knew the police will not let this one slide since it happened to one of their own. A CP for that matter.
If you are travelling to Enugu for the first time, i suggest you hold on for now, unless you are not going to ask for directions. The order was to arrest anything suspicious even goats.

eye witness, dis is happening there...remain nama,dogs....?

so na here dis poster come hide...
sorry nairalanders him just escape 4rm psychiatric ward 7
national madness centre

#runaway-madman