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This girl can actually kill. She's got some serious personality disorder.

Reference:
When seeking what relationship again.
At his age shouldn't he be thinking about what is left of his self respect. Except he takes pleasure in notoriety.

You even put it straigit more than I did. He should forget anything relationship with women at his age.

Ned should learn a big lesson from this unfolding drama by his estranged wife and family. Going forward he should tread carefully when seeking relationship with women for the sake of his class preservation and prestige.

tundegan:
I dont know what this senator is saying. Nigeria is a sovereign nation and we will not entertain any form of foreign intervention or threats.

Leah Sharibu will be accounted for by Nigeria and her family. We dont need any self-serving foreigner to remind us of that.

what are you pro APC, ass-licking sycophants afraid of, huh?

mascot87:
Let me tell you what you people don't know.
In as much as I want all the Islamic terrorists and Fulani terrorists wiped out including there sponsors by the United State in the North, there would be a big humanitarian crisis in the South too and that's the fact.
There is no law stopping the movement of people from the North to the South in Nigeria including the disguised terrorists. They will move down south to find shelter. We are talking about 250 million Nigerians here.
Is the South ready for this infiltration and the consequences it will bring? Is the South ready to take care of the Northern immigrants because you cannot stop them from free movement.

Islamic terrorists would not thrive in the southeast and south south because the predominant Christians in those regions will never sympathize with them and would put up a fierce defence and offensive against those extremists.
Quote me anywhere.
Trump should do the needful biko.

mascot87:
We sane Nigerians know you people don't like Nigeria and you don't have any problem with anyone that goes to the international space and spread lies about the country and we know you hate anyone that counters such lies. So what new thing are you saying?

we rather don't like the crop of wicked charlatans leading this country astray. That's the people we don't like, not Nigeria.

HeyMeNot:
Which work she dey do wey she get 50k dols
Inside this Nigeria

In other words the picture painted is that Regina Daniels made
Ned nwoko by sponsoring his campaign to become a big success. What an irony!!! Lol!!!

Callous, arrogant Tinubu and his Draconian APC regime have made a lot of enemies both domestically and internationally by misruling Nigeria, creating a Hallmark of decay and ruins in virtually every humanitarian related sector.

This move by the US is not unconnected to the scheme of some so called powerful "justice league" interested in a regime change in Nigeria for the sake of the suffering poor masses. I am 100% behind a regime change in Nigeria spearheaded by the mighty US of A.

RollinTNDA:
Nvidia is the world's best computer chip manufactuers.

Taiwan is where Nvidia produce the most sophisticated computer chips in the world.

China has been trying to get that advanced chip from Nvidia but haven't succeed
USA refuse to sell that chip to China

USA will rather burn in hell
Than allow China to own that chip

Could it be that the US relatively bags the monopoly of having the brightest computer geniuses in the world that they are able to produce unique and unmatched advanced computer chips that other countries can't produce even with their own crop of relatively bright computer geniuses?
Like, often I do wonder if the US has some sort clandestine extraterrestrial alien-factor behind their tech superiority over others.

spiSeyi:
What did you know about investment Elon musk is a Fvcking entrepreneur, and the job of every entrepreneur is to take a leap of faith. Did you think that he is an automobile specialist before starting Tesla . You don't need to be a specialist in any field before you succeed in the biz just have the entrepreneurship mindset.
Even Dangote is not a petrochemical specialist or a Petro marketer yet he is doing well in the oil industry

get your point.

Ibehchizzy:
y’all sit in your slum and act like you know it all
Musk is a business man
And business men take risks

you don't know me.

Guyman02:
Chai, see person who cannot guarantee his lunch this afternoon advising a multi billionaire

You don't know me.

Elon musk is investing in fields that aren't his forte. This reckless approach might cost him a chunk of his fortune in future.

DoTheNeedful:
I have been living in the US for almost a decade, and I can tell you that value of $1,000 in the US is less than 90k in Nigeria.

It is surprising that many of you, including graduates, don't understand that you can't just arbitrarily convert dollars or pounds to naira in this context.

You cannot start a family anywhere in the US with $1, 000. You would need at least a job that pays you $6,000 per month to think of marriage. An ideal monthly salary would be around $10,000.

With 1.5 million in Nigeria, you can afford to marry a jobless partner, support two children, and own a decent car.

You could eat out in Nigeria with 2k, but eating out in the US would cost you around 25 dollars (35k). I get a haircut every month for $50 (75k) in the US. In Nigeria, I could get the same haircut for around 1k.

If you have a baby in the US, you would need to spend around $2,000 (3 million) per month on day care. In Nigeria, you would pay maybe 50k.

I laugh each time I see some posts on social media converting people's salary in UK/US/CA to naira, thinking the naira equivalent of those figures have the same impact in those countries. It is unfortunate that some people have such mentality.

That being said, if you manage to have some savings in places like US and you bring such to Nigeria, you could tie up a project.

What's your point cos I don't gerrit

muyico:
Madam?? You re too harsh, weytinz 7yrs old boy knw!

7 year old is mature enough to know the difference between right and wrong if well raised. Failed parenting here.
Although the woman was too harsh and stupid to launch all out attack on a mother in front of her children in public.

Why the guy man dey bleach?

federal9:
I earn 1.5M monthly working from home

I save 1M 450K monthly.

The remaining 50K is for food.

1500 daily, that's 45k

The remaining 5k na bag of pure water.

No one knows I earn such

I just pretended like I'm broke.


Reason why people don't save is that:

They have girlfriends

Lots of friends


Flexing friends

To boost their ego

Avoid women if you want to save and grow

If you go broke, she will run from you.

save purposefully. Don't save at the expense of your pecuniary needs and frivolities.

On a good month I save 200k. Usually I save 100k.

Jman06:
If you investigate very well now you may discover that these couple are quarreling over insignificant things. The man should think twice and settle amicably with his wife. So long as it is not infidelity or threat to his life, he should forgive his wife and mother of his six children and restore their marriage for the benefit of all.

Men still forgive cheating wives and remain married to them let alone when cheating was not involved. Anybody who is going into marriage must learn to forgive because marriages thrive on continuous forgiveness of one's partner.

Say no to divorce over flimsy excuses! Let's restore the institution of marriage to it's glorious place and intended purpose.

You are called to be a marriage counselor. Perhaps you are one already, are you?

BadBradley:
7up is using Pepsi franchise I think

I was once a staff of Seven-up bottling company. You are right, 7up is a franchise bottler of PepsiCo international-bottles PepsiCo's range of beverages under license.

JackDaAlienz:
Looking at human history from old testament till now wars wars wars wars wars and more wars.

I can't even remember a period in life where there was no war.

Is it that human beings are brutal animals.
But we use civilization to disguise our true evil nature.

Even Jesus that came to preach good news
Was tortured, beaten and crucified in the most horrific way to die

I think something is fundamentally wrong with the human race.

Remember that even in heaven there was war once upon a time. So the act of war started in heaven.
War will always be part of every civilization. It's inevitable.

Wish God will use this man to disappoint BAT at the 2027 polls.

Kobojunkie:
1. How can her problem stem from that when she mentions that her husband is nothing like what she is used to and would rather want in a man?

2. The ordinary bare minimum of romantic relationships takes months of hard work for a woman to earn from a man she is literally married to? (It ain't like the man was forced to marry her, but here you are literally telling the woman that the hard work to obtain just the bare minimum that even children in romantic relationships handle with ease, she would need to work many months to earn? Why do you hate women so?

3. Stop lying to her. Her husband does not sound laid back; He simply does not like her. His attitude towards her has shown her more than this. Yet you are literally trying to invalidate what her senses have been screaming at her in the 1 year that she has been with him. Why?

4. You are lying! Your wife is absolutely nothing like OP's husband, and you know it. According to you, your wife attempts to adjust to your energy, while OP insists in her case that she has been the one being adjusted by her husband to his energy. If we look well now, na you get traits closer to OP's husband than your wife can even be found to have.

5. Yes, marriage requires work indeed, but nothing of what you pointed to is the actual work required in marriage for couples who are in marriage; all your words have been attempts to gaslight OP into believing she is the problem when her mind is literally screaming for her to change course and quickly before she becomes lost.

You must be a she.

breadtoaster:
We dated, but I think the pressures here are quite different from back home in Nigeria. Back then, we weren’t struggling to survive — we were both doing okay. I had a good job, and he was also working. I was renting my own place, and he had his. We didn’t really live together, but we’d spend evenings together a few times a week.

I had an older friend who usually drove me to work and helped me with errands — things like going to the market and driving me home afterward. So most things were already sorted out in my life. When I saw my husband in the evenings, it was mostly just “How was your day?” and light conversations.

I also had my mum’s house help staying with me at the time (she was continuing her schooling after my mum traveled), so she helped with light meals like rice, indomie, or pap during the week (evenings after work). I usually cooked on weekends when I was fully home — things like swallow and soup, stew, fried rice etc. (any heavy cooking for the week that we would keep in the freezer).

Basically, I was taking care of myself. I didn’t depend on him for money or anything. If he gave, I appreciated it, but I never asked.

Now things are different. Here, we have to really work together to survive — bills don’t wait for anyone. Rent alone is about NGN 1, 400,000 for just a room and bathroom in a shared house where we share kitchen with 3 other people. We are barely surviving, I have so much on my credit card already. So to me, teamwork just makes sense; it should come naturally.

I never imagined being with someone who could see that the only contract job that I am doing, that we are both using to survive which barely covers the rent — and with the contract ending as at then — did not feel moved to do more in our quest to find a better job or even just another job if that contract was never renewed. He slept peacefully every single day. It was share luck it was renewed. Someone quit and left to another company because my boss had told me earlier to start looking for work as she wasn't sure it would be renewed by management. The complacency sometimes kills me.

Sometimes I honestly feel like quitting that job myself just to see what happens or what he would do. Maybe he’d just go to his brother’s place and live with his brother and his wife and then tell me to go to my sister's house in another far location to stay or what? I would just go to her house and help her take care of her kids. I was there before, it was because of him I moved out, put this weight of rent on my head because of marriage feeling we were a team and would work tooth and nail together to figure it out.

But his focus is different, his focus is on who I called, controlling who I talk to, he even makes reference to who I may have had time to speak to at work, things he thinks he heard outside from one or two random people which of Course I would always be the culprit for, not even telling me he loves me, me begging for non-condom sex, he telling me that we are adults who can decide if the relationship would work or not and move on if we know it wont from now so we dont waste our time (though he says he only says that when I say i am tired or if he is leaving everything to me, what's the point of being two when it still feels like its only me), him sleeping peacefully like we have no real problems, reading those junk emails that enter your laptop in large amount everyday, ensuring I dont go for outings etc.

I just know he is waiting for his papers and he tells me when it comes out, I would know how hardworking he is.

I really feel like going out to pay for a lie detector test, i think I researched and it cost about NGN 600,000. I just really want to know if he ever loved me or should I say, if he genuinely loves me or it's a thing of convenience.

Because as I read all the messages here, I tend to remember things that I took casually that may have been strong signals if I was calm enough. I also kind of feel maybe I was a bit desperate maybe. Maybe I should have waited for someone with drive for living and growth. I knew him first in 2017 and when we were coming back together to date, my worry was that it was the same place / state/ level I left him in that he still was when we met again, which I told him was an issue for me. He then told me he did a lot of investments that failed, crypto, uber business where the driver based the car and all.

I know that we all dont have it covered and life is not always easy for us all (it was a bit easier for me back home as compared to here and now), so we are a product of the information we get access to and the people that advise us to go for greatness. So I then felt that if we could work as a team together, share materials that would make us grow, I can sharpen him and he too sharpen me where needed etc. I am just not sure if i am the only one in the team at the moment.

The problem stems from your subconscious memory of having had platonic male friends who were very active, motivating, and inspiring before you married your hubby.
Your hubby apparently happens to be the antithesis of all the attributes that you liked and admired in those male friends in your defunct circle.
Madam, marriage is hard work o!- to gel and blend with your spouse will take time, maybe months, and even years depending on the intensity of commitments from both parties.

You married a good man that is just laid back, that's all and you should do well to understand that and even come to terms with his inert nature.
Look at me now, I have a high drive and because of my forceful nature at getting things done(proactive)I often tend to push my wife who happens to be like your husband but she is having quite a hard time adjusting to my energy. It causes friction between us often and we are 6 years already with 2 boys.
Madam, marriage requires pertinent hard work; the initial palpable love (infatuation) during courtship will eventually wear off when the actually ball of marital reality begins to roll. It takes maturity and dogged will power to keep finding reasons to stick with your spouse in a lifetime.

Jennyclay:
As for me, my major red flag is a man who is broke and poor

No finance, No romance my dear.

You must be capable of taking very good care of me and also show me true love

This is my standard and I believe everyone has their standard.

I feel pity for your vagina.

ImpartialGuy:
Congratulations! I'm just wondering if serious companies post their openings on Nairaland.

Yes.
I worked in 2 big FMCG companies in Nigeria through the job openings posted on nairaland.
Nairaland is a resourceful tool for job seekers if you know how to use it.

Goodlady:
It's one of the symbols of holiness. That no man has entered me before marriage despite several approaches and temptations means I deserve some accolades.

You are partly right but you remaining a virgin till you got married does not mean you can keep a man and make a good wife at home. Am I making any sense?

DrAda:
Very dangerous. Glad they took no chances

Not dangerous anything. Since when did you become a pundit in aviation matters?

Great exploit young man. You really are a pacesetter in your own league.

Double0h7:
Why is that? 😁

your writing style maybe.