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Family / Re: What One Thing A Kid Born After 2000 Will Not Understand? by akandea(m): 8:51pm On Dec 01, 2023
Military Junta
Sports / Re: These Two Falcon Players Were Beast by akandea(m): 9:33am On Jul 21, 2023
Abiodun seems to be the smallest/youngest player on the pitch, but her football sense is top notch. She is a gem!

The defence really tried, Payne held her own all through the match. Alozie was all over too.

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Politics / Re: Budget Padding: I Have Been Vindicated – Obasanjo by akandea(m): 7:23pm On Jul 25, 2016
How can we get it right when our suppose law makers end up as law breakers? Which way Nigeria!

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Politics / Re: Something Strange Is Happening In The Southwest - Azuka Onwuka by akandea(m): 3:06pm On Jul 19, 2016
All these because majority of the SW refuse to support your opinions and hatred for the present government!
Pathetic!
I smell insincerity and desperation in the write up. Lastly 2019 is very near and the best SE/SS could do is to give/convince SW of having a better alternative to Buhari rather than this unnecessary agitation that only make APC and Buhari more of the victim.
South East better face the true, You are losing the plot badly

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Family / Re: Freeman David, A Nairalander Is Dead! by akandea(m): 8:17am On May 02, 2016
RIP David
My condolence to his family and friends
Politics / Re: Fulani-Herdsmen Shoot At David Mark In Agatu by akandea(m): 10:51am On Mar 12, 2016
I believe it is high time the FG declare this Fulani herdmen causing this wanton killing of citizens as Enemy of state/ terrorists and dealt with appropriately.
Religion / Re: Pastor Challenges Lions To A Fight At Zoo & Almost Died by akandea(m): 10:56pm On Mar 11, 2016
Na question e dey ask now? I thought he ask all the answers before forming Aragorn for Lion.

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Forum Games / Re: Eye Test: How Many Squares Are In The Diagram? by akandea(m): 8:14am On Feb 27, 2016
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Forum Games / Re: Which Direction Is The Bus Travelling? by akandea(m): 10:38pm On Feb 05, 2016
Left!
In Nigeria, the right wheel drive is the accepted way meaning you drive on the right lane. The bus is driving toward d left on the right lane of the road
Fashion / Re: See Haircut Guy Asked His Barber For; See What He Got Instead (Pics) by akandea(m): 9:40pm On Jan 22, 2016
The barber is just trying to zoom out d style so that it can be easily appreciated grin
Celebrities / Re: Kemi Afolabi: 'You Look Horrible'' Fans Tell Actress [PICS] by akandea(m): 9:35pm On Jan 22, 2016
;DThe barber only zoom d style so that it can be easily recognised
Politics / Re: Terrorists Hide Bombs Among Vegetables Now by akandea(m): 12:59pm On Jan 15, 2016
Only God know what these misguided Boko Haram suicide bombers derive from killing themselves. They keep losing their lives for a creed that is DOA while shekau and his goon are coming up to brag on the internet made possible by the western education they deem Haram(taboo). Ignorance!! May God save Nigeria
TV/Movies / Re: That Movie You Can't Get Tired Of Watching by akandea(m): 7:27pm On Jan 13, 2016
Lord of the Ring
Education / Re: Can You Solve This Math That Baffled Australian Students? by akandea(m): 5:24pm On Nov 04, 2015
Its 60 degree
TV/Movies / Re: 50 Amazing Facts About Chuck Norris by akandea(m): 10:14pm On Oct 19, 2015
:oHaba!
LMFAO shocked. cheesy
All on top Chuck Norris head
Politics / Re: Diezani Alison-madueke Stricken With Cancer, Her Lawyer Says - Sahara Reporters by akandea(m): 9:20am On Oct 09, 2015
May God heal her, amen
Facing her prosecution and returning back Nigerian money with her will be a starting point in her healing process.
Nemesis/karma has always been a bitch! Imagine that kind of money in store and Gbam!! News of death.
Let every corrupt individual remember, "You reap what you sow"
Politics / Re: Return ‘Arabic Ajami’ To Naira Notes – Muslim Group(MURIC) Urges Buhari! by akandea(m): 10:54pm On Oct 02, 2015
This is from a professor! shocked
Why didn't he write his gibberish in Arabic? Mtchew!!!
I hope he won't mind if "Jesus is Lord" is written on the currency note.
Politics / Re: Saraki, Loyalists Lobby Emirs To Beg Buhari by akandea(m): 3:04pm On Sep 28, 2015
Saraki will have fought back if his hands were clean. He seems guilty of the charges, making it difficult for him to cry political vendetta/ witch hunting. He is not going to get any sympathy from Nigerians.

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Politics / Re: Kennedy Izuagbe, MD Of Saraki’s Company Declared Wanted By EFCC by akandea(m): 8:50pm On Sep 17, 2015
It has been said, "if you don't have a very long spoon, don't eat with the devil"
Guess Saraki thought this was all a fairy tale or tale by the moonlight.
The problem here is that we all know and accept Saraki as a corrupt person, so no matter the obvious witch hunting he can clear himself in this matter.
Everyday for the thief just one day the owner go catch and handle am!
Romance / Re: Singles And Sex: How Do I Say No When My Hormones Say Go? by akandea(m): 6:49am On Aug 25, 2015
delectablegyal:
Sincerely, I understand the pressure for sex that singles go through. There are many forces yelling and yearning for sex that come against singles;

1.Your hormone get hungry for sex because of the physiological changes your body go through from time to time. Its much even stronger when you are in your ovulation season. For those who don’t know, ovulation is when females produce eggs that are ready for fertilisation by the male spermatozoa and ovulation usually takes place between 7-12 days after the menstrual cycle if your monthly period is regular.

2.It is tough when you are ‘due’ for marriage but yet single. It is a different experience for those who have chosen to be eunuchs (celibate) for the rest of their lives. At least you would have counted the cost before deciding so. But not so for those who for no choice of theirs are waiting for when God will bring their partner their way and they can walk the aile with their God-given partner and subsequently get sexual satisfaction from their spouses.

3.It is tough when sex is the price you have to pay to sustain your sex-demanding fellow single partner. When your partner (or both of you don’t) does not even blush because you lack values and bereft of Christian virtues, anything goes.

4.It is tough when sex is the price you have to pay for promotion at your work place. If you happen to work in a perverse work environment where sex is part of the KPI (Key performance Index) considered for promotion, you got to be able to hold your head when others have lost theirs. I pray God set you free from bondage of such employers or bosses.

Also, if the following are your habit you will have a formidable pressure for sex to contend with;

A. Habit of watching porn– If you are in the habit of watching blue films (or porn films) you are sowing a very evil seed in your heart and in a short time the seeds you sow will germinate into hormonal charge for sex. What you watch will create an indelible picture in your heart and in no time you want to begin to practise what your eyes have captured. There is nothing bad with the internet or television, it is what we watch or do with them that matter.

B.Habit of dressing seductively-Your dress is a reflection of your person. Many female singles wear clothes that present them as sex objects in the name of fashion. You wear clothes that reveal your privates and you wonder why ‘’flies’’ follow you. One day a young lady told me; ‘’I can barely walk any where without all kinds of guys throwing passes at me for affairs’’. Well, I knew her well and I told her to change her clothes that often pop up her cleavages and see if that experience will continue. Ofcourse they stopped following her. The more attractive you present yourself, the more you are under the pressure of people demanding sex from you.

C.Habit of Touching each other– If you are in the habit of touching each other seductively, then you will have temptation for sex to contend with. Touching is the preliminaries to the main the main event (sex). Once you participate in preliminaries, it may not be easy to say no to the ‘main event’.

D.Habit of staying together for too long in a lonely place– Its good to spend time together with your fiancee or fiance but spend time together for the right reasons and not for the wrongest of reasons.
Haven highlighted some of the sources of pressure for sex that singles encounter, my focus in this piece is for those that fall in category 1-3 above. How do you say no when your hormones are demanding for sex and your Pastor kept drumming it in your ears that it is fornication, as the Bible calls it? Does your Pastor know what you are going through? Not sure if God also knows?

Friends, God knows what you are going through and that is why Apostle Paul says;
“But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them to remain even as I am;but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion’’
1 Corinthians 7 Vs 8-9

Ok, from above scripture, marriage seem to be the solution to burning with passion right? But how do you hold yourself before you marry is what is our subject. So, how do you say no?

HOW TO SAY NO
Let us look at practical things you can do that can help you to say no when your hormones say go;

1.Feed Your mind– The greatest battle man face in life begins from the mind. Our minds influence and inflame our thought and thought pattern. Subsequently thought becomes action and action become habits. The mind is 100% gabbage in gabbage out!

There two types of mind that operates in every human being;

1.The Carnal Mind– If you are yet to be regenerated, that is, you are yet to believe in the Lordship of Jesus, your mind will be carnal.
This is mind that is set on the things of the flesh. When you live according to the dictates of your flesh and hormones you have a carnal mind. And a carnal mind leads to only one place, DEATH- Romans 8 Vs

2.The Spiritual Mind– This is the mind available to those who live on the things of the Spirit. What are the things of the Spirit? Having a functional relationship with God will give one an insight into what God wants and how by His help we can fulfil God’s plans. God’s plans are written in His Word in the Bible. An understanding of what God wants and what Christ lived and died for will help fine tune ones spirit to focus on the things of the spirit. If you focus on the things of the Spirit you will have a spiritual mind and ultimately have life and peace- Romans 8 Vs 6-7

The Spiritual mind serve the law of God while the Carnal mind serve the law of sin- Romans 7 Vs 25
All kinds of conflict will be going round and round your mind if you have not given your life to Jesus and you have not matured through the Help of the Holy Spirit. So, you need to surrender your life to Jesus by accepting Jesus as your personal Lord and Saviour and then form the habit of feeding your mind with the Word of God as regularly as possible.

1.Feed Your spirit– After you have given your life to Jesus by accepting Him as your Lord and Savior, you need to feed your spirit regularly with the Word of God and by constant fellowship. Oh dear, you got to stop this your Sunday Sunday reading of the Bible. You got to form the habit of reading your Bible as regularly as possible. Man (and woman) dies first spiritually before physical death. Physical death is when your heart stops pumping blood, spiritual death is when your spirit is no longer in sync over time with the Holy Spirit! While physical death can be sudden or gradual. Spiritual death is usually gradual!
‘’For when we were in the flesh, the sinful passions which were aroused by the law were at work in our members to bear fruit to death. But now we have been delivered from the law, having died to what we were held by, so that we should serve in the newness of the Spirit and not in the oldness of the letter’’Romans 7 Vs 5-6
‘’And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit’’Galatians 5 Vs 24-25
Everytime you are online and you go and read gossips and all kinds of websites or blogs that pollute your mind and spirit, you are not helping your Spiritual growth. That is why you think sex and indulge in sex even when some of you don’t want to!

1.Avoid staying too long together in a lonely place and at odd times-Yes you are in courtship. Yes your family know the two of you together. Yes everybody know the two of you together but the truth is that both of you are not yet couple. So, you cannot indulge in what God approved for couples. The more you avoid staying together in a lonely place and at odd times, the more you are able to avoid fornication!

2.Dress well– My dear, dress like a Christian that you profess to be. These your revealing tops often send a wrong message about your person and your intention. Stop visiting your fiance and wearing clothes that are seductive. Men (without self-control) are moved by what they see!

3.Keep your courtship short– It is common practise that some people in marriage intended relationship go through long courtship. This long courtship sometimes is self-imposed because you want to have a talk of the town wedding, you keep your courtship long while working out the wedding finance. It is not advisable that your courtship exceed 6 months for people who just knew each other and 3 months for those who have known each other over a considerable long time. The longer your courtship, the stronger the temptation for sex!

4.Deliberately Keep yourself Busy– The busier you are the less you think of sex. When better positive things occupy your mind, you have less time to consider the dictations of your hormones.
Friends, happy are you if you take to these golden advise in the above write-up. God did not forbid sex for mankind. It is who we do it with and when, that we should watch!

Source: http://adegboyegailori.com/singles-and-sex-how-do-i-say-no-when-my-hormones-say-go/


Lalasticlala, thank you.





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Education / Re: If You Can Solve This Maths, A Financial Institution Should Employ You. by akandea(m): 8:32pm On Aug 15, 2015
Does the Bank run Simple interest or Compound interest.
For simple interest
480000 + 57600 = N537600
Education / Re: If You Can Solve This Maths, A Financial Institution Should Employ You. by akandea(m): 8:23pm On Aug 15, 2015
81600 after 20 years
Sports / Re: Nigeria Remembers Sam Okwaraji At Cup Games by akandea(m): 12:04pm On Aug 12, 2015
It about time Honour is given to those who deserve it. Many Nigerian professionals will be ashamed when compare to the Legend Sam Okwaraji regarding his love and zeal for Nigeria to the extent of dieing in the service of the Nation. Let remember he was a lawyer and a professional footballer playing in Europe which was very rare in those days. He fought his club to represent his country for free, but all we see these days are pampered players that Nigeria has to beg or bribe to play for us. I just relished how it will have been had Sam not died for he was that Good!
Salute to one of our Heros past.
Education / Re: Many Persons Will Fail This Maths (photo) by akandea(m): 8:53pm On Jul 29, 2015
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Education / Re: Which Switch Lights The Bulb? by akandea(m): 9:37pm On Jul 05, 2015
Yellow
Politics / Re: Corporal Lawal Ahmed: ‘Buhari Should Retire All Generals’ by akandea(m): 1:18pm On Jun 14, 2015
My only prayer for everyone in Millitary and our politicians is, 'may you receive your just reward'
My heart goes out to all the deprived and downtrodden in nigeria.
Sports / Re: Sweden Vs Nigeria (3 - 3) Fifa Women's World Cup On 8th June, 2015 by akandea(m): 11:37pm On Jun 08, 2015
I gladly take this draw!
I only hope we don't come to rue this golden 3 points we dash out. The keeper need to be changed and anyone playing attacking right wing should help out if Ohale is the best we have to offer.
As per the coach, na motivational coach e be. His Pidgin no be here, he just dey shout pidgin scatter Sweden head but low on tactics and technical know how. How will a coach not make substitutions in a game like World cup. Hope someone reminds him of player BURNing OUT! What is the bench for then

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Politics / Re: I Don’t Know What Fuel Subsidy Means– Buhari by akandea(m): 1:59pm On May 24, 2015
Buhari is proving to the world he didn't get to the presidency by chance.
He know his plans well!
We will see his scoresheet soon. I'm praying and hoping he PASS, for it will be to our gain
Politics / Re: Oil Platform Fabrication: Ijaw Youths Draw Battle Line by akandea(m): 4:27pm On May 18, 2015
Some people like given themselves more relevance than they are. Anyone wonder why there's pessimism about placing major structures in the NigerDelta. They seem to be seeing every other persons as enemies. These threats are becoming one to many!

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Politics / Re: Conduct Bureau Orders Jonathan, Ministers, Others To Declare Assets by akandea(m): 7:16pm On May 15, 2015
Well let see who go first take the form,
Let Mr President lead by example, if GEj declare his assets other members of his cabinet will have to follow suit. The question on the minds of Nigerians is 'will he Dare? cool
Politics / Re: Okonjo-iweala Directs SURE-P To Terminate Pact With Firm by akandea(m): 5:15pm On May 15, 2015
coolMedicine after death!
When we complained that SURE P is all fraud, suckers defended it. Now 2 weeks to handing over, the government now want to pass the blame. We are watching the scenerio in 3D, continue!!!

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Politics / Re: Buhari's Certificates Were Stolen During IBB Coup. -... Alhaji Lai Mohammed. by akandea(m): 6:08pm On Jan 06, 2015
This is not good
but without the original there can be no photocopy! Let ask waec
My own is who is the integrity to help from this problems? I will take Buhari over Jonathan

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