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SpatialKing:
Nothing good

Most of those goods input duties were paid by poor masses who are the consumers...

Our government keep taxing the poor yet nothing significant to show

God bless you for this statement. Some illiterate keep commending them, not knowing they're killing businesses and making final consumer pay through their nose cause of high custom duties.
In the name of generating revenue.

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brain54:
If you waited for 2 years of courtship...

You should put back your waiting cap for 9 months of pregnancy.

By the way I am not a fan of no sex before marriage for the simple reason of sexual compatibility.

I believe these are part of things that should be observed during courtship.

Just be decent about it and not use it as excuse for waywardness!

You've said it all, during dating and a lady ticks all the qualities you want and you're sure of future together. What stops you both from making out, to make sure both are compatible sexually.


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dettolgel:
In terms of communal life sure but character wise, Nigerian raised children are about the worst

I don't agree totally to this. It depends on the parents and the neighbourhood they're raised.

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Olachase:
During the year 2020 (Corona virus) Yahoo boys (scammers) turn many girls in their 22-27 to single mom with benefit Money

My guy girlfriend even left him and follow one G-guy like that, the girl is single mom now she is back to her father house

I don't pity them(Single mother by choice) only widows I have pity for. You see a guys life style but still went ahead to birth him a child.
The red flags of irresponsibility is always there but they won't consider it cause of money.

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dawnomike:
He is right... but all these are changing in this modem day.
A society where; "the way family, neighbours, and friends all look out for one another. That bond gives children a foundation money can’t buy,” is quickly becoming no more!!!

Even with changes it's far better in Nigeria than in Europe 🇪🇺, America 🇺🇸, Australia 🇦🇺 and Canada 🇨🇦, talking from experience living in Europe (Milan Italy) for 7years now. The communal living we have in Nigeria where neighbours check on themselves is not obtainable here. For six months or more you may not see your neighbour. Even those who lived in shared apartment for weeks you may not see you may not see the person you share apartment with with of work and how shift and off days are scheduled.


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gassbee:
u mean winning the party using dollar remix

Yes.


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miyagi01:
PitObi’s worse nightmare. ADC no gree give Obi ticket, as Atiku done snatch am, Labour party too no sure for Obi to contest next election with Oga Abure😂

Please Barrister Julius Abure is not the problem. Tell Obi to retrace his step and all will be well with him and labour party, mind you ADC will likely not give him(Obi) the ticket cause nobody in ADC can defeat Atiku in primary.


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Orlandoo:
Only Obasanjo and Jonathan were detribalized Nigerians that has ruled this country.

You're apt, the late PMB did same as BAT, if not worse.

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Carazon:
A police officer's manhood was cutoff yet he managed to die with the woman.

As a trained army officer, I'm still wondering what stops him from grabbing that skinny woman and die with her?

The military should investigate this matter very well, I'm suspecting that somehow someone actually help that lepa in executing the act.

Only my wife cannot physically kill me unless she drugged my food.

You said it all, but on a second thought, I guess she poured him the fuel and set him ablaze while sleeping or drugged his food. Cause can't imagine someone like that bone pouring you fuel and you can't grab her so both of you will be badly burnt.

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ZombieDredd:
ndi bestie.

See your life now abi?

You will surely go back to your papa house and tell him what you are doing with ex as a married woman

Simple, kick her out to go be with the ex, if any child(ren) take them from her


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Stephen0mozzy:
Here's a birthday gift.
Take responsibility.

You mentioned a lot of things which is like blaming the absence of what others could have provided, but you didn't see how important it is that you have gone out to make those things for yourself.


There's no need regretting anything. Some of us knew at a very early age, that there won't be helpers, no connections, no free money, and I'm talking VERY YOUNG AGE... Did we give up? Nope, it made us self-sufficient and hardworking.

You can start a new chapter today.

You've said it all, in my dialect(Esan) they say whenever you wake up is your morning. Wake up young man and take responsibility for your life.

Some of us started from the scratch, I took an internship that was paying 10k, immediately after NYSC in 2012, which was far less than the 19,800 been paid by the federal government as at then but I was looking at the bigger picture.

Thank God today got married at 39 a year ago and I'mblessed with a daughter and doing well for myself. I spend a minimum of 300k to run my home on a monthly basis.

Please don't give up and despise not the days of little beginning. I hope my story will inspire you a little. Get up man no one is coming to save you.

Happy birthday in advance

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Brahamimo:
No the guy isn't better than me. I already got details of him.

Think about anything, in all ramifications, I'm better than him. Remember, a cheat is always a cheat. You can satisfy a woman sexually, care for her, gift her, respect her, yet she would still cheat

You blocked her on WhatsApp and FB why didn't you blacklist her number too.

Cheat don't change, if you're ready to share your woman with another man you can continue to forgive her and accept her back. She has choosed the other guy by refusing to cut him off, you're the one still holding on to the relationship. I wonder what advise do you still need.

This is a girl friend, I can't condone such with a wife talk more of a girl friend I'm not married to. The day you cheat on me and get caught I will kick you out to go be with the person you cheated with. This is my principle and my wife know this from the onset.

Note: I'm a married man(for two years plus) with a daughter.


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ibechris:
You are good to go my brother and may God bless u.

Amen and you too



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DiarisGodoo:
Is she married? And does she want to get married? That's a very important question because her chances of that are very slim abroad

Alot of person won't understand.


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Austinbiggy:
Last year I met a girl who she claimed to be a nice girl, I was having a good intention of settling down with her not when she told me she has two son elsewhere. I was like two son but she told me the father of the two children are not dating but the children are with their father people.

We started in a good tone but not when she took in for me, she gave me condition that I am going to see her parents and also be responsible for her two children and I said over my dead body. I told her I can go and see your parents but I will not be responsible for your two children and she said we need to remove the pregnancy and I said no problem. She claimed to remove the pregnancy but all the drugs didn't work but when I took the responsibility of keeping the child she was so excited.

Since the day she gave birth everything about her change towards me, when she was staying with her former Guy, she took the two children and ran away from the man but when she discovered she can no longer handle the bill of the children she returns it to the man and the man took the children and returned them to her sister. The former Guy sister has been the one taking care of the two children.

Now, the two children came to visit their father for holiday now my wife left my house and go and see the children and hide my own child saying she doesn't want the children to know she has given birth. I have been having issues with her concerning the children, now the father of the children said she don't have business with her.

Guess what happened today, my wife knows very well that I am too attached with my four months baby, she took my baby and park her things and ran away from my house and my baby is just four months. I don't know her where about. People are saying I should calm down but I can't sleep. I met her former Guy and the guy told me she's a big fool, that she supposed to be happy that she see a man who accepts her even after giving birth for two. I don't really know what to do.

You guys will see red flag and still get yourself involved. A lady who has two children for two different men you still went ahead to date and got her pregnant 🤰.
While I wasn't married when I find out a girl is a single mother I avoid her like a plaque.

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ibechris:
This message is what it is.

Thanks for sharing...people would not understand the importance of having your own family early enough.

Thanks bro for a well written piece.

Have gone through the first two comments, only yours made sense. Many will not understand the importance of your own family (wife and children) until it's too late. If you find a good woman that is focused and ambitious having a skill or career, don't wait till your late thirties before settling down. At most do that by 30 years as a man. If you're waiting for the right time. That right time may not come

I'm 39years doing well for myself with a wife and a one year 2months old daughter. Sometimes I still regret not settling down while I was 30years.


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Glimpsetv:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fa9qcDadM9M?si=QfQrnCK9FT-4wRy_ c

Stockholm syndrome at play.


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genkins:
What if he is killled before then..let's be smart

You're right, didn't thought of this. A cheating wife can do anything to cover her track.

But what do you suggest he should do?? let me know your thought thanks

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Xso666:
I am just managing my life I don’t really think I can afford a dna test and that is why it’s breaking my heart and she has sworn that she has never cheated on me and I’m still thinking if I am over reacting to this

You're not over reacting how many weeks did the scan indicated??

Demigod22:
She even said the corper guy forced his gbola inside her mouth. How did one force a gbola in a girl's mouth?

Things dey happen sha

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Demigod22:
I have this friend that is dating a girl, so the girl went for her NYSC and met a guy, a whole lot of things happened. My guy got a glimpse during the girl's birthday, the corper guy posted this girl's picture with caption that can beat William Shakespearean love poem. So when my guy confronted his babe, she said the corper is just a friend, and I told him that his girlfriend is bedding that corper guy, he didn't believe. The girl lied that it was the guy that was pestering her for relationship, my yeye guy wants to go confront the corper guy, I stopped him from displaying foolishness.

I didn't know how he did it, but he just found out, the girl confessed that she only gave the corper guy handjob, that nothing happened.

Why I created this post is how this guy was able to forgive this girl with these overwhelming evidents that she cheated. For those whom have been cheated on, how do a reasonable person that is loved at home forgive a cheating partner?

I'm a married man with a one year 2 months old daughter. My rules right from our dating days my wife is aware of it. The day you're caught cheating I'm kicking you out immediately to go meet the person you cheated on me with. You don't forgive cheating partner hence she can't and won't change


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Xso666:
Good day everyone, please I will be as brief as possible on this. After my first post here on naira land I was adviced by members of this forum never to bring my family predicament on the internet space as I would not get answer or solution to my problem. Well I made a complain here about my virgin wife who I caught coming back from God knows where with a guy that sells thrift in my area because I went for outside work but unfortunately the work didn’t hold so I had to come back home unexpectedly. My wife denied having an affair with this guy and even swore on her late father grave that she never had anything to do with this guy and that the guy only escorted her from where she went to buy something that evening. Now here comes the big problem as my wife is pregnant and and we went for scan and the date of the pregnancy didn’t match with the last time we had sex because I am a very busy person and I go outside for work. I am confronting my wife now and begging her to tell me who is responsible for this pregnancy but she insisted I am responsible and she has never cheated on me, I didn’t want to take the matter to the village because I was advised not to involve her family members in our relationship for now but honestly I don’t think I can hold it anymore I really love my wife and I don’t know if I am overthinking things or I am doing too much on this. Some weeks ago when she was bathing I quickly went through her phone and I saw a number not saved in her WhatsApp and I went through the conversation and I found out it was a guy she was talking with and this is same girl I have warned never to give her number to anyone I don’t care who the person is but she always have a way of making me feel like I am too in-secured and I end up apologizing to her because I married her a virgin but her high sexual libido is my greatest insecurity as I feel like I might not be enough for her and maybe she might be doing things at my absent as the pregnancy date isn’t matching when last we had sex . Please I need sincere advice on how to go about this issue and please I don’t want insult or abuse as I am not in a right state of mind now.
Help me move to front page so more people can help me contribute to this so I get good and matured answers.

My candid advice, tell her after the birth of the child you're going to get DNA done on the child. Inform her family too and the reason you insist on it. If the child happens not to be yours she and her family will refund the amount you spent on anti natal including drugs bought. Note the DNA will be done before leaving the hospital.

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9jatriot:
He may have been a good man, but with due respect to him, there were question marks about his credentials as a leader. It was in his time we were hearing 8 point agenda. What many young people do not realize is that there were a lots of complain about his leadership style and people were saying he should reduce the 8 point agenda to 1 since it was looking like he was overwhelmed.

Maybe reducing fuel price is what you like about him, it was a populist move but on the long run was a bad move. CAnceling the sale of the refineries was another major bad thing. Then the investment in the power sector which they prematurely began to probe is why we are still where we are in terms of power.

The power plants that were coming into the country were abandoned at the ports because there was no more funding to get them out and continue with the power plan.

GEJ just came and decided that looting was what he should be remembered for

And some clowns are rooting for GEJ for 2027.


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Baawaa:
ADC will scattered after the primary elections,those that understand Nigeria's politics will agree with me,let wait and see

You've said it all, the implosion of ADC is inevitable after the primary Election.


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Sonnobax15:

Okay na

Make Dem come back home

At least,every sane Nigerian should know by now that an average south African derives pleasure from hating Nigerians

Did you read the write up He said Nigerians and other foreign Nationals.

Not only Nigerians.

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[quote author=richiemcgold post=136522020]Hell fire straight! No doubt about it. Rest in Pieces man. The Devil is really proud of you.

That was how our transformer was vandalised last month at Lugbe Abuja. We had to contribute money to replace what they stole.

This will be the fate of all vandals


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erad:
150k per month isn't enough?

Lol... What are you eating? That's enough to get basic foodstuffs and every other little thing can be bought when needed. Y'all act like food is now gold in Nigeria.

Or wait first, where do you live in Nigeria? I think that plays a role as well.

What basic foodstuff?? How much is a bag of rice currently?? How much is a kg of gas?? Come on be realistic i mean a family of four. I'm a man with a wife and a daughter we spend more than that in a month.

Procashtips:
Almost 42 years
A freelance/independent consultant
With 2 children (Almost 6 and Almost 4)
Wife working.

Lost it all in bad collaboration, fraudulent investments, bad/wrong investments and also theft.

Got an asset that can give him ₦20m after debts are paid.
How does he bounce back with the above?

Rent is 2m annually
School fees is 300-350k termly.
Feeding ₦150k+ monthly
Others: ₦100k monthly


If you are in his shoes, what are you going to do?

He plans to be responsible for running the house this time around without relying on assistance from the wife to restore sanity/orderliness.

Advice him from the point of financial and career stability,

Sell the asset. But do your due diligence properly


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KobeMan:
We married A Year ago. We decided to wait for a year before having kids. We started trying 3 few months but no success. I told both of us needs to get tested. I did Sperm Analysis & the result is good, I'm very fertile.

She did pelvic scan, and in the scan, She has fibroid (Submocousal fibroid 5.5cm). The news broke me and I was very sad, I never imagined I'll be in this kind of situation. We went to the gynecologist and He told us to go for HSG to check her fallopian tube, The result showed that Both Tubes are blocked.

I've not been myself for the last couple of days. I had to pretend to be strong because She was down & has been crying as well. This are two serious fertility issues and Her chances of conception is very low. Even if The gynecologist tells us to do the IVF(Which I don't even have money for it cause it's vey expensive) They'll still have to remove the fibroid.

This are very expensive procedures that are not even guaranteed that it will work and She will conceive. I'm the only male child in my family, in my early 30's. Pressure will start coming from all directions and also considering my my age, I don't pray to experience delay with child birth. I just decided to pour own my mind here. I'm really down, I don't know what to do.

Sorry for your plight, but are both of you not suppose to do all these test before you commit??
To find out how fertile both of you are, so to make informed decision whether to go ahead or not if she isn't fertile then you know what you're entering.

I'm married for 2years 3 months with a daughter. We did all the test before our nuptial.


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Immatex:
The airport security is a disgrace.

Someone that should have been placed under arrest, cuffed and taken away to cool off in a detention facility.

Simply because he sings noisy songs and has the President’s contact, he was allowed to fool himself at an airport and ground a flight.

You've said it all, you can't try this elsewhere especially in a European airport. You will be handcuffed and taking away, the airport security is a mess. Have used Istanbul airport(Turkey), frankfurt(Germany)airport, Charles de gaul airport(Paris), Milan Airport(Italy), Bole International Airport Addis Ababa(Ethiopia).



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Silentgroper:
Just keep fvcking..

Then finally divorce ..

Nothing like forgive here...

Keep fucking?? Where i come from in Esan when you caught your wife Cheating (not girl friend) if you continue to sleep with her and eat her food you're gone( dead) cause is an abomination. You either kick her out or do the cleansing traditionally.


But for me the day you cheat on me you're living my house that very moment. You're going with the said man.


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