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Moneyyman:
He would not say that if he married right. Most fine guys will end up marrying the wrong woman for several reasons.

Just pray, keep open eyes, and have a standard you don't negotiate.

You've said it all, have been married for three years with a daughter. Marriage is good if you get the right partner ( and you also been the right partner).


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adenigga:
Source: https://dailypost.ng/2026/01/01/convert-to-islam-or-die-iswap-burns-down-christian-village-in-adamawa-nigeria

Where is Rev. Fr. Matthew Kukah, guess he said there's no Christian Genocide(Persecution) in Nothern Nigeria.


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richmond500:
Wike is the small one here.
In round 1 and round 2, Fubara did not use federal support, it was Wike that used federal support, else Fubara was defeating him.

Now we are in round 3, they will both use federal support, let's see who is stronger

You've said it all, Fubara would've dealt with wike of not for federal might.



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We4all:
When you say pregnancy is a very big risk and a great sacrifice on a woman's part, some chauvinists will talk down on you. Without pregnancy, this woman would still be breathing. Shout out to all mothers and pregnant women!

You're right, if that's all a woman bring to the table is far enough. Any other thing is a plus. When you get married and watch your wife go through the process you will appreciate womanhood.


No woman deserve to die while bringing life into the world


Note: Have been married for two years plus with a daughter, I'm talking from experience nobody should quote.

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Mystery2020:
They are both in the UK with their daughter. She is from Kogi state, read medicine in a private university.

My brother who was a doctor, bore all the cost of their relocation but made himself the dependant. He is still repaying the debt after two years.

The wife has completed her studies. She works but keeps all of her own money and left my brother to be slaving for her. She threatens him with police at the slightest misunderstanding. She shouts at him, and insults his family. She even said she thought my brother had money, that she would not have married him if she knew he was "struggling".

I had a conversation with my brother last month. He told me she spends most of her time watching toxic feminists content on tiktok about how terrible men are, and how women should not give them any chance. All that stuff.

We read these things on the internet about how Nigerian wives misbehave when they go abroad. I never knew it will happen to someone close to me.

He bore the entire cost of relocation and made himself the dependant, who does that.



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BarrElChapo:
Awesome. Hope you’re doing well today? Best wishes

Doing great thanks, best Wishes


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BarrElChapo:
He’s still a Bishop and I’m a Catholic, he deserves to be appropriately addressed even though he’s in error.

Noted, I'm also a Catholic, a practising one at that.


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BarrElChapo:
Your Eminence, kindly shut the Bleep up ! Thank you

Why using Eminence, Kukah has lost it. His brain needs to be checked.



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LibertyRep:
Good one.

But I hope the governor and indeed other governors know that no one can protect an area better than the locals, someone who has allegiance and ties to the area. There could be some saboteurs here and there.

The governors do not even control the Police , Army or even the Civil Defence.

Look inwards, empower the Amotekun and the vigilantes. State and community policing is the way to go.

These governors should also put the interest of their people forward and not be concerned about the politics of not offending some powerful people.

You've said it all, that's why state police at the point is inevitable.
"No one can police a place better than the locals of those area"

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AllBlack:
I don't think I have ever heard WEDNESDAY & THURSDAY but I have a feeling you can find them all in CALABAR

has anyone seen a female with these names?

I'm from Esan in Edo state, my Dad younger brother (Uncle) his name is Wednesday.


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lilsmart:
this recurring tragedy underscores a critical need for a paradigm shift in our security strategy. We must move beyond reactive measures and build a proactive, technology driven defense system.

This is where the Need for a Drone Command Center comes in

The vast and rugged terrain of Northern Nigeria makes traditional ground patrols insufficient. A Drone Command Center (DCC) is not a luxury it is a necessity for the following reasons
Force Multiplication a single drone unit can monitor an area that would require hundreds of troops on the ground, providing real time intelligence over impossible distances.

Persistent Surveillance Drones can loiter for hours, tracking bandit movements, identifying hideouts, and monitoring the abducted girls without risking human lives.

Actionable Intelligence They provide clear video and thermal imagery, allowing command centers to see exactly what the security forces are dealing with number of hostages, number of kidnappers, Weapon type andterrain layout before any rescue operation is launched.

we must cancel the wasteful spending on outdated strategies. It's time to re allocate resources, to defund the methods that don't work and invest in technology that does.

The blueprint for a safer Nigeria is ready. Reach out to me via my bio to engage, collaborate, and demand this change.

The game changer is clear Strategic Deployment of Drone Technology
Imagine a Nigeria where our security forces can See threats from miles away, across vast terrains.

You've said it all, the traditional method of fighting insecurity is not working and should be discontinued. Technology is the way to go.

We should also factor in political solutions like decentralisation of power from the centre to it sub unit(Regional system of government)

May Nigeria succeed.


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SpatialKing:
Nothing good

Most of those goods input duties were paid by poor masses who are the consumers...

Our government keep taxing the poor yet nothing significant to show

God bless you for this statement. Some illiterate keep commending them, not knowing they're killing businesses and making final consumer pay through their nose cause of high custom duties.
In the name of generating revenue.

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brain54:
If you waited for 2 years of courtship...

You should put back your waiting cap for 9 months of pregnancy.

By the way I am not a fan of no sex before marriage for the simple reason of sexual compatibility.

I believe these are part of things that should be observed during courtship.

Just be decent about it and not use it as excuse for waywardness!

You've said it all, during dating and a lady ticks all the qualities you want and you're sure of future together. What stops you both from making out, to make sure both are compatible sexually.


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dettolgel:
In terms of communal life sure but character wise, Nigerian raised children are about the worst

I don't agree totally to this. It depends on the parents and the neighbourhood they're raised.

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Olachase:
During the year 2020 (Corona virus) Yahoo boys (scammers) turn many girls in their 22-27 to single mom with benefit Money

My guy girlfriend even left him and follow one G-guy like that, the girl is single mom now she is back to her father house

I don't pity them(Single mother by choice) only widows I have pity for. You see a guys life style but still went ahead to birth him a child.
The red flags of irresponsibility is always there but they won't consider it cause of money.

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dawnomike:
He is right... but all these are changing in this modem day.
A society where; "the way family, neighbours, and friends all look out for one another. That bond gives children a foundation money can’t buy,” is quickly becoming no more!!!

Even with changes it's far better in Nigeria than in Europe 🇪🇺, America 🇺🇸, Australia 🇦🇺 and Canada 🇨🇦, talking from experience living in Europe (Milan Italy) for 7years now. The communal living we have in Nigeria where neighbours check on themselves is not obtainable here. For six months or more you may not see your neighbour. Even those who lived in shared apartment for weeks you may not see you may not see the person you share apartment with with of work and how shift and off days are scheduled.


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gassbee:
u mean winning the party using dollar remix

Yes.


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miyagi01:
PitObi’s worse nightmare. ADC no gree give Obi ticket, as Atiku done snatch am, Labour party too no sure for Obi to contest next election with Oga Abure😂

Please Barrister Julius Abure is not the problem. Tell Obi to retrace his step and all will be well with him and labour party, mind you ADC will likely not give him(Obi) the ticket cause nobody in ADC can defeat Atiku in primary.


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Orlandoo:
Only Obasanjo and Jonathan were detribalized Nigerians that has ruled this country.

You're apt, the late PMB did same as BAT, if not worse.

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Carazon:
A police officer's manhood was cutoff yet he managed to die with the woman.

As a trained army officer, I'm still wondering what stops him from grabbing that skinny woman and die with her?

The military should investigate this matter very well, I'm suspecting that somehow someone actually help that lepa in executing the act.

Only my wife cannot physically kill me unless she drugged my food.

You said it all, but on a second thought, I guess she poured him the fuel and set him ablaze while sleeping or drugged his food. Cause can't imagine someone like that bone pouring you fuel and you can't grab her so both of you will be badly burnt.

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ZombieDredd:
ndi bestie.

See your life now abi?

You will surely go back to your papa house and tell him what you are doing with ex as a married woman

Simple, kick her out to go be with the ex, if any child(ren) take them from her


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Stephen0mozzy:
Here's a birthday gift.
Take responsibility.

You mentioned a lot of things which is like blaming the absence of what others could have provided, but you didn't see how important it is that you have gone out to make those things for yourself.


There's no need regretting anything. Some of us knew at a very early age, that there won't be helpers, no connections, no free money, and I'm talking VERY YOUNG AGE... Did we give up? Nope, it made us self-sufficient and hardworking.

You can start a new chapter today.

You've said it all, in my dialect(Esan) they say whenever you wake up is your morning. Wake up young man and take responsibility for your life.

Some of us started from the scratch, I took an internship that was paying 10k, immediately after NYSC in 2012, which was far less than the 19,800 been paid by the federal government as at then but I was looking at the bigger picture.

Thank God today got married at 39 a year ago and I'mblessed with a daughter and doing well for myself. I spend a minimum of 300k to run my home on a monthly basis.

Please don't give up and despise not the days of little beginning. I hope my story will inspire you a little. Get up man no one is coming to save you.

Happy birthday in advance

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Brahamimo:
No the guy isn't better than me. I already got details of him.

Think about anything, in all ramifications, I'm better than him. Remember, a cheat is always a cheat. You can satisfy a woman sexually, care for her, gift her, respect her, yet she would still cheat

You blocked her on WhatsApp and FB why didn't you blacklist her number too.

Cheat don't change, if you're ready to share your woman with another man you can continue to forgive her and accept her back. She has choosed the other guy by refusing to cut him off, you're the one still holding on to the relationship. I wonder what advise do you still need.

This is a girl friend, I can't condone such with a wife talk more of a girl friend I'm not married to. The day you cheat on me and get caught I will kick you out to go be with the person you cheated with. This is my principle and my wife know this from the onset.

Note: I'm a married man(for two years plus) with a daughter.


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ibechris:
You are good to go my brother and may God bless u.

Amen and you too



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DiarisGodoo:
Is she married? And does she want to get married? That's a very important question because her chances of that are very slim abroad

Alot of person won't understand.


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Austinbiggy:
Last year I met a girl who she claimed to be a nice girl, I was having a good intention of settling down with her not when she told me she has two son elsewhere. I was like two son but she told me the father of the two children are not dating but the children are with their father people.

We started in a good tone but not when she took in for me, she gave me condition that I am going to see her parents and also be responsible for her two children and I said over my dead body. I told her I can go and see your parents but I will not be responsible for your two children and she said we need to remove the pregnancy and I said no problem. She claimed to remove the pregnancy but all the drugs didn't work but when I took the responsibility of keeping the child she was so excited.

Since the day she gave birth everything about her change towards me, when she was staying with her former Guy, she took the two children and ran away from the man but when she discovered she can no longer handle the bill of the children she returns it to the man and the man took the children and returned them to her sister. The former Guy sister has been the one taking care of the two children.

Now, the two children came to visit their father for holiday now my wife left my house and go and see the children and hide my own child saying she doesn't want the children to know she has given birth. I have been having issues with her concerning the children, now the father of the children said she don't have business with her.

Guess what happened today, my wife knows very well that I am too attached with my four months baby, she took my baby and park her things and ran away from my house and my baby is just four months. I don't know her where about. People are saying I should calm down but I can't sleep. I met her former Guy and the guy told me she's a big fool, that she supposed to be happy that she see a man who accepts her even after giving birth for two. I don't really know what to do.

You guys will see red flag and still get yourself involved. A lady who has two children for two different men you still went ahead to date and got her pregnant 🤰.
While I wasn't married when I find out a girl is a single mother I avoid her like a plaque.

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ibechris:
This message is what it is.

Thanks for sharing...people would not understand the importance of having your own family early enough.

Thanks bro for a well written piece.

Have gone through the first two comments, only yours made sense. Many will not understand the importance of your own family (wife and children) until it's too late. If you find a good woman that is focused and ambitious having a skill or career, don't wait till your late thirties before settling down. At most do that by 30 years as a man. If you're waiting for the right time. That right time may not come

I'm 39years doing well for myself with a wife and a one year 2months old daughter. Sometimes I still regret not settling down while I was 30years.


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Glimpsetv:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fa9qcDadM9M?si=QfQrnCK9FT-4wRy_ c

Stockholm syndrome at play.


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genkins:
What if he is killled before then..let's be smart

You're right, didn't thought of this. A cheating wife can do anything to cover her track.

But what do you suggest he should do?? let me know your thought thanks

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Xso666:
I am just managing my life I don’t really think I can afford a dna test and that is why it’s breaking my heart and she has sworn that she has never cheated on me and I’m still thinking if I am over reacting to this

You're not over reacting how many weeks did the scan indicated??

Demigod22:
She even said the corper guy forced his gbola inside her mouth. How did one force a gbola in a girl's mouth?

Things dey happen sha

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