internetgangste:
Don’t do it man. Make sure you’re ready! She will be the first person to put all the blames on you if anything goes wrong

sure that can happen thank you very much

Laird:
From a fellow Doc, getting a doctor job after housemanship is challenging and the pay might not be so fantastic so save Your HOUSEJOB money,, no buy car,, no buy land,, no marry and start gathering funds for UK IELTS ukvi and Plab 1 and Plab2....to practice in the Uk

thank ya doc ...I appreciate ya professional advice

chukwuma0000:
Doc,
pls Doc don't do anything to please her,
please yourself first by gathering resources and making investment, if may ask you, do you want after your practice you still depend on your colleagues ahead of you to pay you?
so make sure you save and start it all on your own and make your society proud,

remember women can be tricky,
so Bleep the love and pursue your dream

I see she's doing all these things to please herself, in other to settle down but you haven't settled down man,
if she really loves you make she wait for you to get what it takes to take care of a woman.

DM: whatsapp:08063968513

thanks I really appreciate the advice

sunnymighty:

is she working?

no she's a medical student in part2

hello everyone am Dr. Al-amin, am in a serious doubt and have seen alots of scenarios where people in different sort of problems ask questions via Nairaland and get some reasonable advice's and solutions to their problems.
am a fresh Doc doing my housemanship and my Gurlfrnd wants me to get married to her asap am Nat paid well (more than 170k)... I love her buh am skeptical about my income I dnt want her to come and suffer in my house so I told her dat after my service if I secure a much better job which pays better I will marry her buh she always said she doesn't care about my income she only cares about me so plsss people advice me on wah to do is it OK to marry and afford for all her expenses with 174k monthly ?? becos am afraid thank you all for ya kind advice.....

kernel501:


I feel sorry for you, are you begging us or forcing us to be part of Nigeria?

I thought you were educated buh seeing dis am surprised so ya mean ya are nat a Nigeria wow mechunu!

TheLogicalMind:
MUSLIM GAY RIGHTS ACTIVIST MAAJID NAWAZ SAID ISLAM IS MORE TOLERANT OF HOMOSEXUALITY THAN OTHER RELIGIONS. ACCORDING TO MAAJID:

Traditionally, Islam was open to exploring beauty and sexuality, especially when Islamic culture flourished and Europe was in what were known as the Dark Ages.

The Prophet Muhammad taught that “God is Beautiful, and loves Beauty.” The 11th century Andalusian scholar Ibn Hazm wrote “The Ring of the Dove,” a treatise on the different stages of love, including some rather explicit real-life homosexual stories.


It is true that many early Muslim scholars condemned homosexuality, and cited scripture to justify their position. But the themes of love and sexuality have been debated and discussed by Muslim theologians and artists for centuries.

The word “homosexuality” is not even used in the Quran. In fact, it did not exist in the Arabic language. The modern Muslim conclusion that homosexuality is “unnatural” is therefore not based on anything in Islamic scripture.


The Quranic story of the prophet Lot is often invoked by religious-conservative Muslims to denounce homosexuals. This is a mythical story which was borrowed from Jewish and Christian scriptures. It is not even remotely Islamic in origin. But even here, there has been debate. A renowned traditional authority on the Quran, al-Kisa’i al-Kufi, took the view that the story of Lot referred to heterosexual men who raped other men, and not homosexual men.

The chapter of al-Nur (Quran 24:31) specifically recognises “men who are not in need of women.” As the context of the passage shows, these are men who are not attracted to women. They may have been gay or asexual. By definition, they were not heterosexual men. They are also not judged or condemned anywhere in the Quran. The Prophet’s own example shows that he accepted men living around him who were called “Mukhannath,” seen to be “acting like women.”

IF MAAJID NAWAZ IS RIGHT, WHY ARE MUSLIMS SO HYPOCRITICAL ABOUT HOMOSEXUALITY?

first of all I will say that what you wrote is total rubbish for saying the Quran didn't condemned or judge homosexuals big lie ya are a hypocrite to Islam for we all know that a whole Nation was destroyed because of homosexuality if ya don't know what you are saying just keep shut Dan saying nonsensical rubbish. with regards to wah ya said about the Quran nat condemning homos here are real verses of da Quran read and be knowledgeable thank......
Quran (7:80-84) - "...For ye practice your lusts on
men in preference to women: ye are indeed a people
transgressing beyond bounds.... And we rained down
on them a shower (of brimstone)" - An account that
is borrowed from the Biblical story of Sodom.
Muslim scholars through the centuries have
interpreted the "rain of stones" on the town as
meaning that homosexuals should be stoned,
since no other reason is given for the people's
destruction. (Inexplicably, the story is also
repeated in three other suras: 15:74 , 27:58 and
29:40 ).
Quran (7:81) - "Will ye commit abomination such as
no creature ever did before you?" This verse is part
of the previous text and it establishes that
homosexuality as different from (and much worse
than) adultery or other sexual sin. According to
the Arabic grammar, homosexuality is called the
worst sin, while references elsewhere describe
other forms of non-marital sex as being "among
great sins."
Quran (26:165-166) - "Of all the creatures in the
world, will ye approach males, "And leave those
whom Allah has created for you to be your mates?
Nay, ye are a people transgressing"
Quran (4:16) - "If two men among you are guilty of
lewdness, punish them both. If they repent and
amend, Leave them alone" This is the Yusuf Ali
translation. The original Arabic does not use the
word "men" and simply says "two from among
you." Yusuf Ali may have added the word "men"
because the verse seems to refer to a different
set than referred to in the prior verse (explicitly
denoted as "your women". In other words, since
4:15 refers to "your women", 4:16 is presumably
written to and refers to men.

Famocious:
CONCLUDING PART OF STRESS AND MEDICAL SCHOOL: PART III

THE WAY FORWARD

As medical students and future doctors, you have to learn how to survive and look after your emotional and psychological wellbeing. Stress is going to be your middle name. How can you possibly cope? What should be done?

Interventions have to be on two levels:

A) College-wide intervention efforts: Orientation for medical students, support in pre-clinical school including evolving the roles of Demonstrators in Anatomy for example, Seminars for Lecturers towards improving the study/work environment – and specifically eliminating emotional and verbal abuse e.t.c. The Dept of Psychiatry can also provide counselling and support mechanisms – including training and utilizing volunteer peer counsellors in every class. But this is outside your control so they remain recommendations for the College to consider and possibly implement. Professor Olayinka Banjo Omigbodun is the Head of the College Counselling Unit. Dr Adefemi Afolabi, Immediate Past CMAC has recently started co-ordinating a Mentor-Mentee training workshop for all teachers, residents and student representatives. These are positive steps in the right direction.

B) Individual efforts: I will focus more on this aspect, because these are practical things YOU CAN DO. My suggestions are by no means exhaustive, so feel free to comment and add to the list. What worked from my experience include:

1. Take control of your life and emotions: Your happiness and emotional wellbeing is in your hands. No one else owes you. It is not the responsibility of your classmates, roommates, family or teachers to make you happy and comfortable. They can lend you a helping hand, or make it easier (or more difficult as the case may be), but the onus ultimately is squarely on your shoulders. And no one else.

Eleanor Roosevelt was quoted as saying that “No one can make you feel inferior, without your permission”. Similarly, no one can make you unhappy without your permission.

You can’t control how others will treat you, but you CAN control how YOU REACT. And this is a lesson for life: In your family life, neighbourhood, work environment e.t.c.; you can only do your best but it may not be good enough. You will be unfairly criticized, humiliated or unappreciated. What will you do? Get angry, feel humiliated, stop trying, give up? Or shrug it off and keep trying to be a better you, every day of your life? Since the school environment is outside your control, the challenge is for you to keep your head above the water and make progress. How? By controlling how you react to adverse situations. Besides, tough times don’t last forever, good times will come around again. So enjoy the experience and the journey. Lament less, and learn to laugh at yourself.

2. Power of friendships: Cultivate friends who will always have your back, and invest heavily in your relationships. Enjoy every single day that you draw breath, appreciate your friends, roommates, family and so on. What helped some of us through medical school was a strong band of friends who became brothers and sisters over the years. We went through thick and thin together – marching on like soldiers. I believe in investing heavily in relationships, because you never know when you will be down and need to draw on that goodwill to help you. No one can go through life without ever needing to lean on another’s shoulder at one point or the other. The religious groupings and the former Arhema provided much needed camaraderie to many.
And when you graduate, and get married, treasure your family and invest your emotions and time on them. When your career is over, and you become a stranger on the corridors where you once held sway, you may have nothing to fall back on besides family.

3. Get a life: Have friends outside medicine, and engage in extra-curricular activities to enrich your life and distract you from work related events. Sports, social clubs and the arts, are possible outlets for de-stressing. Ibadan Medical School is particularly blessed with a wide array of student organizations where you can acquire additional all-round skills. I particularly recommend THE FORUM, which is a student organization that is focused on the acquisition of leadership and management skills. Conflict of Interest Disclosure: I was a member of THE FORUM, and it contributed immensely to my all-round learning. DOKITA, PlayHouse, Sinfonia, Press Organizations are other alternatives.

Go to UI and watch entertaining shows by students of Theatre Arts Department. Join the University of Ibadan LOM of JayCees. Participate in inter-block or inter-group activities. Join the Debating Club. Follow current affairs. Learn history and all sorts of odds and bits from individuals who have a knack for them. If you are not particularly good at sports, you can be very good as a member of the supporters’ club. Have fun and celebrate life and being alive. It is a gift. Treasure the moments and memories.

4. Avoid taking drugs and substances: It is very easy and often very tempting to turn to drugs and take something that would make you forget the stress and just make you feel good. The dangers include addiction and negative health impact. Some people smoke cannabis, others take alcohol or smoke cigarettes. Cannabis is particularly risky as it may be helpful initially but may cause a chronic syndrome characterized by a lack of motivation (Amotivational syndrome). Believe me, this is the last thing you want to happen to you, as a medical student – to lack motivation. Even when highly motivated, it is a struggle to make progress. If you lose the motivation and no longer care about anything, it will be an uphill task to persevere and succeed.

5. Look at the big picture and stop taking yourself so seriously. Nothing in this world is worth your happiness. The things that appear so ‘huuuge and bigly’ now, will pale into insignificance in a few years’ time. So just give it time. If you feel so terrible because you failed an exam today, do some honest introspection after the inevitable pain and disappointment subsides. Subsequently, resolve to work harder instead of feeling sorry for yourself and feeling humiliated. If you then passed the following year, would it really matter in 10 or 20 years’ time? I can assure it would not. I ‘lost’ 2 years as an Engineering student before coming back to medical school, but if I did not tell you now, would you know? And in the grand scheme of things, does it really matter who graduated before the other? I can bet you that what truly matters is whether or not you are happy and fulfilled, regardless of when you graduated or what specialty you are in.

6. Lastly, if it’s not working for you, CHANGE it: It is never too late to change. Never be afraid of change. Pursue what makes you happy, I know doctors, graduates of COMUI, who graduated MBBS and then decided that what they have always wanted was to become a pilot and have gone to aviation school afterwards. Others have gone into Banking, Health Economics – including a classmate who is now a Health Economist at the World Bank, because of his outstanding brilliance in the field of Health Economics. Some others have completed Residency in one specialty only to change their minds and pursue another specialty. Some changed mid-way during Residency. Bottom-line: whatever makes you feel alive and gives you joy, pursue it. Don’t let the looks of ‘are you crazy’? How can you abandon residency? How can you change after passing Part I? You will be seen as a failure e.t.c. hold you back. Some have left Nigeria after Residency to start all over abroad. A few others have done the reverse journey - albeit, a much fewer sample.

In conclusion, I leave you with good wishes from Tai Solarin: may your road be rough. But I hasten to add: May you come out at the end, unscathed, smiling, wiser and stronger…..and none the worse for the journey. Hopefully rejuvenated, skilled yet humb
le and compassionate. Dedicated to the service of humanity. And God help us all.

Jibril Abdulmalik
Consultant Psychiatrist, UCH, Ibadan.

who asked ya to sign up for medical school ya can always decline if ya can't dnt complain just do ya Best anyway am also a final year .medical student will be a doctor in a month time good luck to all medics all over Nigeria

priscaoge:


How do one know people's intentions? How sure is he that he have such intentions towards his bride? I don't understand, how do people read other people's mind? Not that he caught him in d act. He's assumptions
ns might be wrong tho. The case should be properly investigated pls

why would he go to someone house without the consent of da person da owner of da house is he a thief or wah no matter wah nobody should invade someone Else's residence except with da consent of da owner according to law ya can execute or attack a trespasser and no crime would be uphold or attributed to ya dats all

Ezedon:
if I have this as my secretary I may forget my wife

ya are DA kinda person who doesn't deserve a wife

PapaBrowne:
God bless Jonathan.
I used this train from ABJ to Kaduna 5 weeks ago. I was so amazed not just at the train but at the quality of work at the station and on the tracks.

The Taxi driver that carried me to the station at Idu didn't even know there was such a facility there.

He appreciated Jonathan more and regretted every fiber in his body that ever supported APC.

Even the wonderful airport terminals Jonathan was building have all come to a grinding halt under thi failed administration.

is da train fast compare to car?

At exactly 5.30am this morning a bomb blast occurs in the University of Maiduguri main campus in a mosque at gate 5 and another bomb at around 6.00am at gate 4.. Many were feared dead including a professor of Veterinary medicine and multiple injuries. More to come

Benita27:
Lol, this man is mouthed.
Bubu free him joor!.

the man is stupid is nat like he have an army dat can fight da president or anything or rather he thinks his brave mouthing himself making more allegations on da president which without prove is a penal offence he keeps prolonging his selfish Agenda he's nat doing this for anybody buh himself am sure of dat so next tym ya support him just know dat alot have done wah his doing b4 and none triumph rubbish ya all can rain insult on me buh dis ma opinion for I knoe even if we divide Nigeria into two there will be War no historic division dat doesn't erupts to war be wise and be an advocate of peace.. I hate war and all dat threaten peace as well

Mayflowa:
Valeria Lukyanova from Ukrain and Anatasiya Shpagina are two real life barbie and the Anime girl. Though Valeria do not like called being barbie, Anatasiya says dolls look like her not her like dolls.

1. Valeria
2. Anatasiya
3. Together

So do our male nairalanders like to have any of these dolls as date?

this is a really depressing pix wtffffff is dia

Mayflowa:
Valeria Lukyanova from Ukrain and Anatasiya Shpagina are two real life barbie and the Anime girl. Though Valeria do not like called being barbie, Anatasiya says dolls look like her not her like dolls.

1. Valeria
2. Anatasiya
3. Together

So do our male nairalanders like to have any of these dolls as date?

this is a really depressing pix wtffffff is dis

Lanretoye:
How do we knw the poorest citizens now?

using BVN lol

Lanretoye:
How do we knw the poorest citizens now?

using
BVN lol

lyntiffany: My dear is not as if Cameroonian soldiers are more active than Nigerian soldiers , the issue is that Nigerian military is filled with Hausa Fulani Muslims that are bokoharam sympathisers. Some which have their brothers in the sect. That's the reason it seems this people cannot be conquered.

immagine wah ya are saying even an illiterate won't alter such ya knoe boko haram are ruthless and crazy they kill on sight irrespective of religion or ethical perspective so why would a soldier sympathize with someone who want to kill him does it make any sense

I don't do 2weeks I dey drink tea 4sambisa I nova still change da work mtchwwww.....

Peter griffin from Family guy

ceo4eva: Wonderful!

I heard it even deliver ASUU & FG to call off da strike chai!!!nothing person no go hear

oLA AbEf€:
If u wish real sociedad to win"click like"

if u hate dis post press like United 4life

prem love: I dont want to know if it is GEJ or amosun all i care about is that my country is developing in high speed

and I still dey house becos of ASUU and FG mtchew ur talk no wear pant e dey run niked

Abeg ASSU abeg na I don tire 2stay house.....I get plans 4life why una no want ma execute my plans na why!!!!!!!

Olamagnifico: Had it been we are seperate countries not in one Nigeria... There can't be strike in my country and your country at the same time. GOD PLEASE HELP US DIVIDE NIGERIA

when dem divide Nigeria there will be War btw them which indicate End tym tynz.........

Emmzalon: Me
Me
Me
Me
Me

dem say5nairalanders wey u wan meet nd u are saying you you you you oboy u lost ne wey u nova meet urself na ye ye dey worry u

kennybelle: Another good samaritan has risen to fight 4d Nigerian students, sueing both parties, i hope this leads us somewhere.

it will by God grace that was what I wanted to do well another person have done it........

eaglechild: so manure still has fans

see you united are still da champion of europe mtchewwwwwww
Like it or leave it na u sabi jawe

I wanted 2open dis thread buh is sooooo coool cos is ma birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I will gladly celebrate for ma country am proud of naija and also celebrate our thieves AKA owa leader for a smooth and sucessful stealing without a trace while ASSU is sleeping and begging 2be woken up.....

Poster...na now u see am... oboy.......e be like say u no dey watch AIT

Lol I see I no wan comment......buh ASSU..................... I beg........understand na