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Lukmanraji:
My gf of seven years has been giving me attitude recently which I noticed sometimes last year. I observed that she always check my phone to look for something to hold against me. Yes, she suspected that I'm having something with someone. So, every time she's around me, she always find one or two thing that will lead to argument and all that. Aside that, the respect, love and intimacy between us reduced drastically.

Fast forward to this year, She successfully read a chat on my phone where I was talking dirty with someone. That's the genesis of the whole mess I'm in right now. She just walked out quietly and decided to end it all. Since then, I've not been myself because this is the person I have planned to live the rest of my life with. So, I started begging her but she's not giving me any green light. I called, messaged her but no response. I asked my Junior brother to beg on my behalf but she didn't succumb to that not until my dad intervened to apologize on my behalf.

So, she call me that we need to see. I rushed to visit her and apologize again and again. She agreed to continue with the relationship but she hasn't forgiven me. After few weeks of the whole issue. I suspected that she's hiding something from me. Then one fateful night, I spy on her phone when she was unlocking her phone. That night, I was able to access her phone while she was asleep.

I checked her WhatsApp, I discovered that she has been clearing her chat with one particular guy who happens to be her friend from NYSC since 2021. They became close as they both work in the same financial institution but in a different branch. Then I went further to her Instagram page to see what's going there.

To my greatest surprise, I discovered that they have been having an affair since 2023. My gf has been throwing herself to this guy, they have been going to the cinema together and other places. On her birthday, my babe and this guy went out together without my knowledge, they both book uber to somewhere without my knowledge, they were both sharing their feelings online, talking about marriage, how to raise their kids irrespective of their religion differences and my babe even throwing herself to the guy for sex. Everything thing I found in their chat especially how my babe has been treating this guy with love and respect is the opposite of how my babe has been treating me lately.

So, I screenshoted all the evidence and save on my phone. I then challenged her that she's cheating on me with that guy but she blatantly denied it. Not until I showed her all the evidences with me before she began to cry fowl and started debunking all I saw. She claimed that they are not true, they were just playing and not into any thing serious. They are friends and that's how they banter each other online. All her excuses were not genuine but I still forgive her on one condition that I don't want to see her with the guy again and she should cut off any form of friendship or relationship between them because I had done something more than that to her just recently and she forgive me.

Meanwhile, during the cause of this issue, I proposed to my gf that we should take this relationship to the next level by seeing her parents this year and maybe by the end of the year, we do the whole thing. The shock response I got from her was that she's not in a rush to settle down with me. Not even this year as she's just healing from the heartbreak I caused her and I can't use marriage to tie her down then I continue breaking her heart. There's no how I tried convincing her that I am a changed man now as I am ready to take responsibility and be a responsible person.

After few weeks, I logged into her whatsapp on my system and then again I found out that she's still talking to this guy and they were even planning on going out again. I got angry and send proof to her but guess what, my babe para for me for cloning her whatsapp on my system. Hell almost let lose that evening. This time around, she felt unapologetic about the primary issue that I warned her to desist from. Funny enough, after close observation, I learnt that they move their chats from whatsapp to Snapchat where their chat is just "view once". Then I knew that this lady is not ready to stop talking to this guy. I have shouted over and over this matter but this time around, my babe is now feeling lackadaisical about this issue.

Right now, my babe is now comfortable with the guy and she's now sitting on defense about this matter. In our last conversation, my GF literarily told me that she doesn't love me anymore. And then she started rewinding all my past during the cause of the relation and using it as an excuse for not been able to love me like she used to. In our conversation, the only thing she didn't mention is that we should go on our separate ways (break up) but everything she said to me indirectly simply means that she is done with me.

I felt unloved as this is the woman I never placed anyone above, this is the woman I've nurtured when we were in school and outside school. I respected her and love her so much that she has become part of me. My parents, family and friends are expecting us to tie the knot soon but here is my babe telling me she's not in love with me anymore. I felt unloved about this whole thing and I'm heartbroken.

I am lost and crying inside silently as I never expected someone I have sacrificed something huge for before to be acting like this to me. I'm depressed. I need mature advise from you guys. Thank you.

why u go love woman? Loving a woman is a sin.
Once you meet a woman show her care if you could and fuccck her so hard

Pepperdemisback:
The lady is alleged to be a daughter to a money bag in SS. Maybe na trap catch am, he can't marry her if she's poor.

The father of the bride is the paramount ruler of Eleme LGA. With serious connection to major oil companies in onne and the entire Eleme. All these companies pay royalty to this man.

If na money e dey

yarimo:
Bitter OBI your visit to them has no any value to the nation

Na poverty go deal with you

Useless somebody

Who know ur Papa for history

benuejosh:
Oga don wear blue cloth

The fear of Umahi due to his national acceptance is the beginning of visiting the Northerners.

Peter Obi you will fail a million time in Nigeria.

He may never be as failed as ur father who both financially and parenting

Long over due

That's helinues elder sister, yarimo Mama


That's their family stature

yarimo:
FUBARA must be chase from Rivers state government house , according to majority of rivers state voters.

Keep dreaming
mr. dreamer, that's why ur life will always remain a dream, achievement in dreams

Nobody voted for the drug lord

Confirmedzombie:
Fubara I'm your strong supporter but your days are numbered.

You will weep and sorrow this coming week.

There is a court judgement recognising Martins as the speaker inputed of his defection and others as members of the house.

There is an Appeal ti this judgement yet you secured a kangaro injunction banning same Assembly from sitting.

This week you will taste the bitter aspect of life.

Obedients and Ipob have led you to your doom

Take ur fuccck to ur ashawooo mother at home.
No one needs ur fuccck here

Na u and ur generation go weep

Make thunder fire you

😅

Onye Isi

Na u da waste time if na me I for don blow off those yeye reps head wey no gree hear word

Lay ambush da wait for the criminal wey dey Abuja

yarimo:
FUBARA keep fooling yourself with paper weight politicians in rivers state

See this yeye begger yarning trash

U don chop this evening?

Go chop fess so u go get strength withstand the thunder that's about to fire you

Good for an ancestor who thinks running a government is an easy task as running a drug cartel, drug empire and druggie businesses


Sorry Mma

Yarimo not even being recognized by his ordinary neighbors not to be talk of being recognized my his ward councilor yet the poor thing has been BATize with serious infection and won't let someone rest on social media with no again to his name

yarimo:
Mumu governor that doesn't know anything about the law. Assembly can seat anywhere in rivers state.

You can go and die

Poor thing

ogbonti:
the cowards have escaped successfully

surrendering their fatherland to criminals


only too willing to settle down in already made


country - reaping where they did not sow is


really divine grace, abi ? useless cowards!

poverty has finally gotten into ur already sick head.


Odima

Never underestimate the strength of a quiet man

uchman:
She no too send her husband, na her kids be her priority.

I think say na only me notice am oooh

Divine escape

Just an ordinary 100L students oOoOOh

It's not a enough
That girl is so heartless
Jail her even it's 3 months

Beeb1e:
I am a lady. Someone was advising getting soldiers to carry him

Oohh sorry
Na see finish cos this one

But I no get brother wey him head da hot?

Beeb1e:
Hello everyone, I got a call from a man in the Village (Elele, Rivers State) on Tuesday night, that we should look for a way to come and carry our mother as she has slumped and was rushed to a hospital, where she was in coma.

He explained to me that my mother went to demand for the payment of the debt the man is owing her and he angrily beat her up, he stripped her , tore her clothes, her underwear was torn too. I’m literally crying as I type this. Everyone that tried to stop him he chased with the machete. Now my dad is late , else he won’t have tried this.

I am in Lagos so I’ve not seen her my sister that was able to travel to Elele to see her sent me the pictures.

She is out of coma now, but still unable to sit or stand or talk. We also noticed she is bleeding from her private part.

We arrested the evil man with the Elele police but the community Igwe bailed him, he is a known person in the community and owns a hotel there.

I really want this man to receive this level of Physical pain or more, because my mum almost lost her life.

I don’t know what to do or how to go about getting justice for her.

We are at military hospital port harcourt now.

U da stay Lagos post us pictures on nairaland?
You are not a true Rivers son
Something wey u 4 reach home sharp sharp and arrange boys for town carry go the yeye man go one side for bush flog him wela. Shoot gun community scatter. Flog the Igwe with 2 by 2 plank.

Make this evil go away from me cos I go kill person

Sharpsharp00123:
oga don’t rope the whole Nigeria into this madness, we know where the trouble makers are from

Everyone knows that but here on nairaland we must not call a spade a spade so they won’t ban us

That's why Fulani herdsmen will keep killing you people while you keep pointing ur broken fingers on the East.
Idiot

Sharpsharp00123:
Na dem dem

Always causing trouble anywhere they go n if the locals should retaliate they will start blackmailing them by shouting xenophobia

Imagine having the mind to do rubbish in another man’s land n u won’t want him to talk,as in some people get mind ooo

No time now they will start tagging Kenya xenophobic when those ones wake up to their madness

The same way they are blackmailing South Africans now

you won't never stop being stupid like ur father. Who be the dem? I was even angry when I saw the video and even suggested Kenyan should have jail the man, however, Who in this earth will support this evil meted on that who? Instead of you idiot to talk directly to the perpetrator rather you want to cut corners and go tribal.
Make go punish you for this nonsense comment.

The guy was meant to say I am working for Tunibu

thesicilian:
Stop copying dumb Instagram posts.

Don't mind that illiterate

Na aboki judges judge the case


Money we senators and politicians da steal and work freely on the streets never pass this one?

ThiefnubuBandit:
Where are the Emilokan online miscreants?

Thunder don fire all of them. None of them left to comment trashes here anymore. From yarimo
Helinues
Leodking as been fired by amadioha including the nairaland admin members . Those left will be fired on the second phase

Codepain:
I don't know what nonsense Op is trying to prove.
Do Govt have right to demolish property standing in the way of construction? Yes
Did Obi himself demolish Properties during his unfortunate reign at Anambra ?
How much of the money come from his pocket or his state
Let him and his low-thinking fools continue to cry.

. Obi might have had unfortunate reign in Anambra but could not be unfortunate like that of your father who impregnated ur ashawooo mother out of wedlock. The unfortunate sojourn that resulted to ur unfortunate birth which was worst than miscarriage.

People da talk this mumu da follow talk

Glo is even worst

yarimo:
popular in a negative way

Only if ur poverty wretched papa was this pupolar in negative way, u and ur household wouldn't be that miserable.
You are a typical seed of an unfortunate generation.

I dare any of these unfortunate nairaland mods to ban me and get instant thunder