₦airaland Forum

Rajahbite:
Nope, I'm not claiming to be a saint but the truth is that I don't know how I got it and it's not relevant to me.

person wey no know when rain begin beat am no dey know when e stop to beat

Girls won't still learn i bet you

Osinanwata buru ogaranya 1 of the whole amafor in ishingu land

ogunsbanjul:
The only way and criteria to heaven is to do the will of our Lord Jesus christ and preach His words. Visiting our Lord Jesus christ Holy Sepulchre where He Was Crucified & Buried has nothing to do with our souls willing. No need of showing the pix because Jesus is coming soon

your jealousy is evident

Any person who isnt convinced that the catholic church is the only true church is blind

The truth be say u dey marry this because he's providing your needs but u sef no truly love am and him no love u

Nnah men, things dey happen.

Shoot'em all.

kittykollinxx:
GOD please remove anybody lying to me, using me ,speaking foul on me behind my back but pretending to love me in my face .Amen.

this should be the prayer of every man

I hope he'll be signing autographs for the common crimminals as per VIP crimminal wey him be.

This man woke up this morning oblivious of the fate that would befall him later on. May we not experience this sort of thing in Jesus name

Ifeanyi4491:
Say No To Cultism...
Like if you support Me.

Share if you dont support Me.

so that you gain both ways

totorimi:
Time heals all things..

time also kill all things

We shall all live to fulfil our destinies, whether good or bad.

While some men pray to have an erection, some are suffering from pesistent erection. Devil get many diseases in store oh!

SirImole:
I am 28years old.

no be small thing bro, its unfortunate the country put its citizens in this quagmire

SirImole:
I didn't go today because of empty stomach & I have no offering and tfare

Lol... How old u be my guy?

Honestly not everyone likes to be told the truth so i observe your inclination before i tell you whatever. You might make more enemies than friends if you try to be a perfect person so life is all about diplomacy. Different situations call for different aproaches.

Genevieve nnaji was the most popular first lady. Quote me and kpai!

My guy, make u no help am at all. She go see you as mugu instead. Those girls no get conscience at all at all, Im telling you!

Na Jim iyke dey serve refreshment for there so?

realestniggah:
Vaseline crew i repeat go back it a man

i repeat go back..false alarm!!

this is the first time i will see a woman in bikini and my dick did not raise..you know something is wrong somewhere

you sure say u no get erectile dysfunction?

Trueigbo:
Wow thats great after about 100yrs.

I remember the song we sang those days about the little children......

na obodo fatima na 1917 ezenwayi nke eligwe biawuteru umuaka ito osifa kpebe ekpere osifa mebe opipia.......

maka njo nke uwa

Its even better he was stopped here in naija otherwise he would have been facing a death sentence had he succeeded in landing in Indonesia. Umunne'm biko jiri nu ya nwayo

Am I the only one who thinks the pit toilet is devoid of poo

OmaniPadmeHum:
Hahahaha

YOU ONLY HAVE WHAT IS CALLED

"PERFORMANCE ANXIETY"

You panic and have conditioned your mind with that first incident. Your mind now sees sex as something that you would fail at and that would be embarrassing.

IT IS NOT SPIRITUAL. Naaaaah. only in Nigeria do we make everything spiritual. Left alone we might still have thought small pox/chicken pox is caused by "Sopana" and that Thunder and Lightning by Sango. Look with all these spiritual bla bla we were taken as slaves for hundreds of years. Our Chief preists and juju could not protect our fore fathers. Some of the masks were even stolen and exhibited in Europe. The nonsense juju has not been able to burn down London. No mysterious plague has befallen them. We were colonized for years too in Africa. No spirit could help us or our fore fathers.

It is purely psychological. You have been psychologically scarred due to the experience at the brothel. You feel you are going to fail again and again. Now anything that has to do with sex practically scares you and your body has learnt a rather "silly" way to react to sex. Infact, subconsciously, your mind sees sex as a fight or flight thing. It is sexual anxiety and perhaps panic attacks. It is very normal and not spiritual. Nope.

Unfortunately, your WAFTS (worries, anxieties, fears, thoughts and sensations) are things you have tried to fight off over and over again. Compounding the issue. Your mind now sees sex as a battle and gets your body to fight/flee. instead of allowing you get on.

LISTEN, WE ALL GET ANXIOUS DURING SEX. ALL OF US. MEN AND WOMEN ALIKE. ALL. But our anxieties, anxiety levels and how we have trained our body to manage them, makes a difference. Take masturbation for instance. Some people do it and suffer premature ejaculation as a result of it. This is because when this habit was learnt (most times at teenage years) , they had to do it quickly and get done so they won't be caught. This usually starts at a young age and then is often made a habit which the body adopts. Their body gets addicted to quick ejaculation. Meanwhile some guys had time and were so comfortable with it. There learnt it without being in a hurry and ejaculation was not the thing but enjoying the time spent. They now suffer from prolonged erection and can only ejaculate when they masturbate. They are only senitve to matrubation and not the feel of a them in a woman.

For you, you probably immediately started avoiding the things that embarrassed you and found another quick fix. Masturbation, Porn etc. All these still communicated to your brain that you need to "RUN AWAY FROM SEX!!! IT WILL EMBARRASSING AND YOU WILL FAIL"!!! It is like having insomnia and instead of allowing sleep to come naturally, you decide to take pills or use other stuff like sleeping tea, alcohol etc. They will work for a while, but soon their effects will be useless to the point of not working at all.

It is a flight or flight thing. Your body sees sex as something you would fail at. Let me ask, Can you get an erection when in danger? When fighting with someone or fleeing from danger? Nope. (unless you have trained your body/psyche to remain calm). During fight or flight response, your body removes blood from places like the stomach, sex organs etc and send to the brain and muscles preparinging them for danger. How can you get an erection when due to that first traumatic experience, you feel that you might fail again and you worry about how embarrassing it would be.

That one experience made you worry little by little and you took actions (unknowingly) that made matters worse psychologically. You sound like a worrier by nature. Lol. Unfortunately our brain is very silly and does not know the difference between real and perceived danger. If we worry too much about something, our brain tries to protect us by throwing all manner of things (thoughts etc) that can go wrong for us to act on them. When we worry and worry our brain even sends sensations like fast heart beats, sweaty palms, feeling dizzy, butterflies in the stomach etc. But keeping calm, noticing these WAFTS, and mindfully letting them go/be while calmly doing what you are doing whenever this happens helps to reassure your brain that all is cool and calm.

YOU WILL HAVE TO UNLEARN YOUR CURRENT WAY YOUR BODY RESPONDS AND RELEARN THE RIGHT WAY TO RESPOND. YOU WILL HAVE TO TEACH YOUR BODY TO RESPOND MINDFULLY TO THE FEARS, WORRIES AND ANXIETIES.

What book on Acceptance and Commitment/Mindfulness can I suggest to you....

Let me see....

Will look for something.

you have said it all bro, I've been a victim of that condition before but as soon as I realised my problem was psychological rather than spiritual or medical. I became fine. It's more surprising to note that 70% of youths nowadays go through this situation and die silently. Thoughts of suicide ravaged me then but thank God I can now pound like a pestle on a motar

Nwanne gaa n'iru

This is not a case of being a useless man or something else. A mental evaluation has to be done on him to ascertain his level of sanity. Like they say, many are mad but few are roaming.

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Mere looking at the way the names we're stated, you'd know that the op intentionally put them in other to malign a particular group of people.

sinaj:
iz ur deek dat might explode if u nt careful

dicks don't explode. Only butts do