₦airaland Forum

Stephen0mozzy:
This is a beautiful piece. Thanks for sharing.

You are welcome

All Nigeria politicians are not the same please

Kaczynski:
You and buhari. All nigerian politician are basically the same whether obasanjo, tinubu, peter obi.


It's like that even in asian countries. Chinese men are pressured by society to go school, get good job and get married not knowing life's not what it seems.

spiceadole:
Keep playing.
The men have agreed they don't need marriage.
With baby mama and OS, they are okay.
They say they have nothing to benefit from getting married.
And you are here advising them.
Hanty pick me, I see you

First of all, dear there is absolutely no reason to be rude
Secondly, I can't be a pick me, I am happily married, 15 years in marriage with kids.
Not looking for any man
Thirdly, try to be taking a chill before launching an unnecessary attack on every post you didn't cool down to read and understand

2 months

Happy to be back after a long period of break

Growing up,I used to think that marital pressure is a feminine thing, like it is something you as a girl growing up in a conservative African home must brace yourself up to face and conquer.

As maturity and exposure beckoned, I discovered that it is not gender based, even young men especially in their 30s also face this "pressure to marry" though subtly to a large extent.

Getting off the phone recently with an old time friend, he told me how the economic situation in Nigeria has been preventing him from settling down admist pressure from family and friends about him getting married; mind you, he is 37!!

What shocked me is that a neighbor of his is even suspecting him to be gay!!!
You should know some amebo Nigerians especially in some busy neighborhood, the lgbt conscientiousness has thrived so high that any young man who is not a womanizer or yet married at some point gets suspected to be one of the rainbow people.

I have to take my time to counsel him because from the voice, I detected a young man slipping into the degenerative arms of depression!!

To all the 30+ bachelors here!
Listen to me.

We live life once!
Don't allow societal pressure to push you into taking a decision you are not prepared for.
Marriage is not a child's play, it involves both emotional, social and financial stability.

It is a 50-50 journey with unpredictable outcome
Just focus on building yourself, chasing your dreams and making your a bit financially stable.
I am emphasizing on financial stability because it is extremely important for a marriage to be smooth!

You don't have to be a millionaire to start, NO
But get to a point where you can sustain two people (new wife and potentially a baby) for 30 days.

What about the wife? Will she not contribute? Someone may be tempted to ask!
My dear, yes , a supportive lady ought to support but big brother, You should not take the risk of entering into marriage with a meagre source of income and be hoping on the lady you want to marry to support.

Many went this path and it produced mixed results
Grow your finances
Develop yourself
Take your time, don't make the move out of pressure , It is your life to live and your decision to make.

I have gotten to the point in life even as a lady that I will not live my life according to other people's wishes
If you are not ready, don't enter!
Enter when you are ready .
Love you all plenty
Oriaku cares

What are you scared of ?
Her exposing you or what

Nobody is an island
You need "people"
It is up to you to carefully select the right people for your circle of friends.
Isolating yourself will end up affecting your social and emotional life

Stupidity [quote author=EmmyMaestro post=140219082]

I’m not one of those girls that when men takes them out they will be acting considerate, if you take me out I will make sure all your money is drained before leaving

— lady to men pic.twitter.com/iNm9qXq8ar

— ChukwuNonso✍️ (@Mazi_Chinonso1) August 1, 2026

]

Control your emotions next time

You can't put a crown on a clown and expect a king

Alright.

A person attitude can be influence by a lot of factors around him or her .
They most times carry this"baggages" to a relationship.
For instance,
Someone who grew up in abject poverty will see relationship as a poverty alleviation.
Someone who grew up in with a physically abused parents will behave Same way to their partners if not well checked

Leaving Nigeria with my family

obinna58:
Translate oriaku in English so everyone can understand
Thief

For people wey no understanding the meaning of oriaku, it means a thief and a gold digger

Who annoyed you

SweetBuns:
Where have you been
We missed you 💓

Missed you all too

Persephone1:
Where have you been?

I have missed this woman

Back with fire dear

Buzzbirth:
Una two fine Sha
But which one u be among the two for ur dm
I want check something

Am the little girl

Svoboda:
Youre right. Benin has no manufacturing base. Most cfa countries dont. They are just an extension of the french market. Ivory Coast, the largest cocoa producer in the world, has been crying for its cocoa industry value chain to be extended. Yet it still imports chocolates. The economic reality may be harsh in nigeria, but i doubt we are headed in the wrong direction. We are increasingly having a substabtial manufacturing base.

You need a basic lesson in micro economics
Stop spewing trash with confidence in public

My maiden state governor
The Lord is your strength
Never bow to intimidation
Rivers State is not Lagos
You are a real Ijaw Man
Be brave and fight that narcissistic frog voiced being

Its not a Nigerian thing
It boils down to individual differences, some are boring in nature or maybe the ladies you are meeting are not into you.
Like they are not feeling you.
Keep searching

Look for a professional counsellor around you.

Gerrard59:
You remember LotteraU? Ogugua something who was dating one run-around mod those days? There was this other lass who alfa meils pursued her away from Nairaland.

I wonder why most Igbo women, especially those who grew outside the East are feminists. Uloma, Moe (mother is Igbo) and all dem TwitterNG feminists are Igbos, majority of them grew outside the East. Even our residents Pocohantas and Cococandy are Igbos. I am willing to bet Ladyhopp something too is Igbo. The only non-Igbo Nairaland feminist I can think of was one Yoruba female moniker that starts with K. What I recall about her is her notoriety for not writing legibly.

Don't confuse being outspoken to being a feminist
They are two different things

ednut1:
Feminist that year

Merry xmas in advance

Lovemeharder:
Welcome.

Thanks dear

Rejouir:
Oriaku? Igbo women ehn.

Gracias

eepeepook:
Fine girl no dey Nairaland.

Speak good English dear
Don't be addicted pidgin english

I remember
Naijaboiy
Lalasticclala
Ngeneukweenu
Etc

Who remembers me?
Its been long dearies,
Where are all those Wonderful guys and babes in romance section back then
Am just seeing new new monikers here.
All the same
Its good to be back
Let me briefly re-introduce myself for the sake of ndi pm
I am Oriaku Amara
A nurse
A wife
A mother
A relationship counselor
I believe that romance section can truly be a refreshing point of educative threads that will benefit our relationship and personal life.

Be engaged with a skill/work you have great passion for.