landwin:

Ini Edo is still a slowpoke for marrying a divorcee,what makes her think he wouldn't divorce her someday/


Common sense

Pataki:

What a senseless and idiotic post. You can as well go ahead and be sleeping all your in-laws, since you wish nullify the several posts that speak against the actions of the poster.

Birds of a feather. . . . . absolute rubbish.

luckiest:

is this naija or what why are you people deceiving yourself like this as if you don't see what is happening around; if you abuse this girl and you have slept with either a married man or woman na motor go jam your leg. you are raining abuse as if you have not legalised aristo, make una enter bush for all i care; what you should do is advice her without the causes. fire fire una mouth those who have done the same

kelvodavee:

o girl, chuk him wella, f@ck the bros, f@ck now because this is your time, Remember that once you leave this earth, you wont hav the opportunity of fucking in heaven,  so f@ck and enjoy life.  Ashewoooo

Uche Abia, a civil servant, says it is a taboo in his culture for a man to touch a woman’s undergarments when they are not engaged in sexual relations

MrCrackles:

_{Danke Super!}

Of all the stars in Nollywood, top actress Ini Edo, has had the most scrutiny by the media. Ever since she burst onto the crowded Nollywood scene about 6 years ago, and quickly distinguished herself as a great talent - with beauty and alluringly sexy attributes to boot, she has been the object of the media’s total fascination.

The fascination however, appears to have been one-dimensional - her enormous sex appeal appears to be the media’s eternal fascination. Instead of stories written about her great acting skills, the media have spawned all manner of sleaze, scandals, and salacious liaisons about her.

She has been painted and defined as a sex-crazed young woman who has been an object of fascination by the rich and the powerful - a desire she seemed to have encouraged. She has been linked with every imaginable rich person, and stories of her sexual shenanigans dot the pages of all major newspapers and magazines all over Africa.

In this exclusive interview with Ekerete Udoh of The Diasporan Star, a tabloid newspaper based in the United States of America, Ini speaks on a number of controversial issues revolving around her love life, past scandals, her heartthrob and his ex-wife, Ruth Okoro.

Earlier this year, a national newspaper, (not Saturday Vanguard) was forced to write a retraction and apologize to Ini Edo, after they wrote a front-page story stating that the actress was arrested in London on drug charges. The story had turned out not to be true. Few months ago, she got married to her sweetheart-Philips Ehigiwina, and the media’s reaction to the romance and eventual marriage has been decidedly negative. Many in the media are openly speculating that the union will not last -that the marriage is one of convenience than one rooted in true love.

This year again, her husband’s ex-wife - Ruth Okoro, went on a media campaign, lambasting the actress as a husband-snatching, calculating gold-digger who was cold enough to snatch her husband from her while she was bedridden recuperating from cancer.

To some people, the constant barrage of negative stories would have taken a toll, but Ini Edo, seemed less perturbed by all these stories, taking refuge in her faith which she described as the “rock of my life - the foundation that has grounded me.”

One reason why the media have written so much on her private life is her penchant for not granting interviews to journalists “if you don’t talk to us, we would talk about you” was the way a colleague from Africa responded when I asked why so much negative stories have been written about the actress.

Early this year, the actress was in New York to receive an award from the African-American Women in Cinema, and before her arrival, I received a call from her husband -Houston-Texas based car dealer and businessman-Philips Ehigiwina that his wife would love to grant The Diasporan Star an interview.

And so, a day before the award, Ini Edo, her husband, and I sat down and between rounds of pepper soup, Hennessey and hot bowl of rice at Festac Grill - the Brooklyn eatery for this exclusive interview.

“As you may probably know, I do not grant interviews, but I have finally decided to break my silence and talk to your newspaper, which by the way is a wonderful piece of great journalism you are doing here. I have decided to finally talk and let the world know who the real Ini Edo is, and not the object that the media have painted which I do not even recognize.” For two hours, Ini Edo spoke passionately about all the scandals that have been associated with her.

In spite of the fact that she has compartmentalized many of the hurtful stories, you could feel the pain in her voice when she spoke about some of those stories. There was no scandal or negative stories about her that she was not willing to comment on. At the end of the interview, I came away with the conclusion that Ini Edo has been hugely misunderstood. She is brilliant, articulate, thoroughly grounded, focused and has a girl-next-door demeanor.

Scandalous Stories and Me

“I am usually at a loss when I read stories about my sexual relationships with phantom figures and personalities. It is really astonishing when people could just manufacture stories, give them legs and let them fly when they know the stories are totally and absolutely false. What kind of journalism is that? Take the case of the story that one of the reputable Nigerian newspapers published about me in April this year: that I was caught in London, and detained on drugs charges. How reckless can one get? I was not arrested.

I was not even questioned by the police, and none of what they wrote was true. I remember my publicist calling me in London to say I was on the front page of the newspaper. And the story was that I was arrested for drugs. I was so stunned that I felt like crying. There I was in London-free and enjoying my vacation, yet the media said I was detained.

The story was a big hit on the internet and I was devastated. I do not even smoke cigarettes, neither would I recognize cocaine or heroine if I saw one, and here I was being tainted unfairly as a drug carrier. The newspaper was forced to write a retraction and apologized profusely for publishing an untrue story. That is one instance of what I have been going through in the hands of the media.

Their relationship with me has been thoroughly adversarial, and I sometimes ask myself, ‘why me?’ What have I done to deserve this treatment? I have not done anything that is out of the ordinary yet. I am being defined in a manner that is totally out of sync with who and what I am.”

Sexual Shenanigans

“It is perfectly legitimate for men to have designs and desires on stars. I was recently voted by the public as Nollywood’s Sexiest Actress. So it comes with the territory that men would want to date you. The question then becomes: do you fall prey to every man that comes your way? The answer is absolute “no”. I was raised well by my parents and I have always been a one-man lady. All the sexual shenanigans that the media have associated me with are all false.

The problem with our journalists is that if they saw you at a coffee shop with a man - just any man, even if that man is your cousin or brother, they would automatically assume that that is your new lover, and without asking questions, would rush and publish that you were seen at a coffee shop with a new lover.

I have lost count of the number of such innocent outings with family members, friends that they media misconstrued that I was dating. What the media failed to understand was that I had not allowed stardom and celebrity to becloud my values. What they did not realize was that I wanted to be married, and start my family, and that the notion that I was some kind of a sexually crazed hormone raging young woman, was totally false and a bad reading of who I am.

Have I had friends in the past? Of course, just like any other young and single woman out there. I had friends. Did that make me an out-of control sexual goddess? Absolutely not! It has been very painful for me when I read all the sleaze that are written about me, stuff that are patently false. I have, however, come to accept it as part of the price you pay for stardom. I just wished they could do a little investigation before they rush to publish.”

My Husband, Our Affair Our Marriage and His Ex-wife

One story that has pained me a lot is the notion that I snatched Philips from his ex-wife - Ruth Okoro, while she was recuperating from cancer treatment. Nothing could be further from the truth. The ex-wife said I was callous and mean-spirited to have done so. Initially, I had wanted to ignore what she had said about me. But I would like to use this medium to state that I did not take Philips from Ruth Okoro.

When Philips came into my life, he was a single man, with no marital encumbrances. Philips was divorced from Ruth by the time we began seeing each other. So, I do not understand what she is talking about.

I remember asking Philips to come clean with me, and tell me everything that had happened between him ‘and his ex-wife. I demanded to know if he was still married to her, and Philips said “no” and produced a divorce paper to back up his claim. It was after that that we began dating.

There is no way I would have dated him if he was still married to Ruth. My values would have been in conflict with that. There is no way I would have dated and agreed to marry Philips if I knew that he had abandoned his wife at the hospital while she was recuperating from cancer treatment.

That would have been a huge turn-off. The Philips that I met and got married to is a perfect family man - a dependable, God-fearing man who treasures his family. Philips was there for his ex-wife throughout her hospitalization, and she knows it. Let me also add here as a piece of advice to our fellow women: If you had a home, one that you truly love and appreciate, you should treat that home as a prized possession. You should treat your husband well.

There is nothing to be gained if you maltreat your husband, and make his life miserable. Men do not like that. I hope Ruth understands and appreciate the depth of what I am saying here. That will be my response to everything she has said about me - all the negative things she has written and caused to be written about me.”

How I Met My Husband

Philips and I met during one of his many visits to Nigeria, and right there and then, I realized I had met the man of my dreams. I am sure you ladies understand what I am talking about here - when that special person who excites that special passion in you comes along, you begin to do things that are out of range - you begin to be consumed by his thoughts - you begin to send text messages, call him all the time and just feel so much in love. That was the way I felt when Philips came along. I knew that he was the man for me.

I realized that we had the same out look on life, that I could start a sentence and he would finish it for me, and would convey the same exact thoughts I had in mind. When I took him to see my parents, they wholeheartedly accepted him, even though he is not from my part of the world -that is a testament to Philips’ humanity that is very, very transparent.

Philips and I have the same ideology, and I am excited and happy to be his wife. Our attraction is mutual, our focus is interlocked and what a great family man he is! Philips calls my family even more regularly than myself. He would just call to find out how they are doing. He has such good heart and kind spirit that is just a beauty to behold.

That is the man I met and agreed to marry. All other depictions are borne out of malice and hate, and we do not even want to dignify their hate with a response.

But I am being forced to do so, now.

Those who say our marriage is one of convenience, and that it would not last, I have news for them: “While you traffic in hate and malice, we will continue to celebrate our love, our marriage and the happiness that God has endowed us with. You can continue to revel in negativity. We revel in positive glow, and that is what defines us. God brought us together, and God will keep us together.

The machinations of the naysayers will not stand, because that is not our portion. Our marriage is a celebration of love borne out of deep sense of mutual attachment, trust and abiding companionship.”

seurhoda:

i came online yesterday to see what i posted, in fact i have not slept or done anything good since yesterday, I even get more confuse to handle this issue , now i see myself almost going crazy, pls who will help me out, pls i need somebody who will help me out, i am mow confuse

Tudör:

@jaybee.
come to think of it,i know you,you're one of those unintelligent peeps insulting people who diagree with you at the islam section. . . .dude aren't you supposd to be at jummat today (dnt 4get to share whatever was preached)

Jessy answered by asking, “which is worse, to go down on his wife or to wash her panties?” She added, “why should a man find it strange to wash a his wifes underwear when he can do worse things even with his mouth. Man can wash up his woman with his tongue and yet cannot wash her panties with his hands. Tell me now that this is not stupid”

For Isaiah Beke, a trader, it is a taboo. Hear him, “I am a man, why should I wash my woman’s panties. Abi I be woman wrapper”. He said if his friends found out they would laugh at him. He further said his siblings will kill that woman, saying “she has given me juju”. So for her safety, “I would not do it”, he added.

“Personally, I do not see what is wrong with washing your babe’s panties. What if it was just the two of you and she took ill, will you allow the dirty panties pile up?” he asked, saying that those discriminations should be resolved. “I do it, but in the safe of haven of our bathroom, with the door locked”, he added.

A friend recalled how her husband’s attitude at finding her undergarment among his dirty clothes packed for washing upset her. According to her, the man screamed and queried how her underwear got mingled with his clothes. He said so many unpleasant things that she got angry and began to wonder what was really wrong with it.

She could not imagine that the same man who would buy her sanitary towels would make such fuss about finding their dirty undies together. She thought about all the intimate things they had done together in the relationship and thought there was something in their culture that she was missing.

In many homes even among those often described as modern day couples, one of the causes of controversy is not so much the issue of who should wash the dirty clothes especially, where both partners are busy and contributing equal time to the upkeep of the house.

The issue is often associated with the cleaning of inner wears. Precisely, the problem emanates when for various reasons, there is a reversal of role and the man who is used to having his underwears washed by his wife is suddenly confronted with the necessity of doing same for his wife.

Is it possible for the man to come down from his Olympian height, away from cultural prejudices and do the cleaning? Would society see anything wrong or right with husband or partner who lends a helping hand in all things including washing the outer and inner wears of his spouse?

For some men, it is preposterous and unacceptable for any husband to go as far as that, no matter the circumstance, hinging their reasons on cultural biases and egoistic considerations. While some women do not wish their husband’s expression of love or understanding to extend to the washing of their undergarments, there are others who do not see anything wrong and want all barriers removed.

A friend recalled how her husband’s attitude at finding her undergarment among his dirty clothes packed for washing upset her. According to her, the man screamed and queried how her underwear got mingled with his clothes. He said so many unpleasant things that she got angry and began to wonder what was really wrong with it.

She could not imagine that the same man who would buy her sanitary towels would make such fuss about finding their dirty undies together. She thought about all the intimate things they had done together in the relationship and thought there was something in their culture that she was missing.

http://nigeriafilms.com went to town to get views on what is really wrong in a man washing his wife or partner’s undergarments.

Angela Ibekwe, a business developer in the above narration says “it beats me”. According to her, until that occasion, she never thought there were restrictions in their relationship as they were always explicit and adventurous in helping each other. Quoting the scripture, she said … and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife and were not ashamed”. Genesis 2:24-25. Following this scripture, she added “I fail to see why a man should not wash his woman’s panties”.

Jessy answered by asking, “which is worse, to go down on his wife or to wash her panties?” She added, “why should a man find it strange to wash a his wifes underwear when he can do worse things even with his mouth. Man can wash up his woman with his tongue and yet cannot wash her panties with his hands. Tell me now that this is not stupid”.

However, Miss Abaku, an undergraduate says, though she is not married yet, her fiancée has no qualms washing for her and it makes her love and respect him more each time he did it.

According to her, one thing couples must understand is that when there are no boundaries between them, it brings them closer to each other and communication, which is very important in any relationship is free flowing because they can easily talk to each other about their likes and dislikes.

For Isaiah Beke, a trader, it is a taboo. Hear him, “I am a man, why should I wash my woman’s panties. Abi I be woman wrapper”. He said if his friends found out they would laugh at him. He further said his siblings will kill that woman, saying “she has given me juju”. So for her safety, “I would not do it”, he added.

Uche Abia, a civil servant, says it is a taboo in his culture for a man to touch a woman’s undergarments when they are not engaged in sexual relations.

“Personally, I do not see what is wrong with washing your babe’s panties. What if it was just the two of you and she took ill, will you allow the dirty panties pile up?” he asked, saying that those discriminations should be resolved. “I do it, but in the safe of haven of our bathroom, with the door locked”, he added.

In his response Okachi, a school teacher, said, “it is hard. Who then is the man at home? From childhood I was made to believe that men do not wash women’s panties, so why should it be different now”? He explained that he was told that it cheapens the man before the woman and make him lose his place as head of the home.

“I wash for my wife, and it does not take anything away from me. It does not make me any less a man”, says Jacob Bara. “I don’t see what is wrong with that. Before God, all men are equal. If it is good for the goose should it be terrible for the gander?” he asked.

For whatever it is worth, experts say it is a healthy practice for the couple to share in mutual support. “Doing intimate things for each other cements the relationship”, say relationship experts.

Uche is in love and all those who know her swear despite being a little overweight at the moment,she is the happiest person alive.

Infact hear the tatafo''she has cut off all her old friends,changed her phone numbers and changed her ways.she is now a new creature.its all got to do with love and the fact that she is in a stable relationship with an older man who has been spoiling her with anything that money can buy.he bought her the black toyota yaris she is cruising around town in''.

The man who has changed Uches life for the better is none other than a man nicknamed 'Otunba'or 'hints'.Otunba is the owner of dardey apartments in portharcourt.

Are you reading this and wondering if Otunbas status is single?please continue to wonder,the answer you desire will not be found on this page!.

Hoodwing:

@amebo no1.
do you think am a victim of mugu?
you talk like someone who have been on dry fasting because of lack of food.

Busy_body:

Whats new, ain't that what we all say

Since when did that stop anything Now get to work with sealing that cat-flap once and for all, so that that tatafo Jenny would not have access to her midnight runs with you anymore Word on the street is that she is planning to usurp Nomanicole from her rightful place beside you and I would not allow that to happen on my watch Unlike Jenny, I intend to be very discreet and classy to boot

OMO IBO:

what garbage!!!

after reading this twaddle, i think threadstarter a has point

Busy_body:


@ Sister Amebo

E be like say all this girls don share all of NL men finish and that is not a good thing at all Me too I dey go open my "romeo" thread now, you berra follow join me and open your own thread too, Mine is Sharon, who's yours

~Sauron~:

Sara is Eleshin's girlfriend
She logged in with another username to test if Eleshin is a faithful boy/friend.

eleshin:


i'm sorry sweety,i gat someone else that i cant trade for anything in this world not even ur loud first move on nland.you can take the next bus to a willing victim,fortunately we have them in tens,tboy,jbee,izeek,blaccky, they are all willing to host those two round leather weapon in ur chest.

Hoodwing:

have you ever tried to stay alone for one week without calling,talking,buying or even sending recharge cards to a girl?
guys try it and see how much you will have.
truely we hustle just to spend it in an ass.women only eat your money and call you mugu.they know nothing apart from money.
try this- any day ur girl or a girl ask you for money,give her the impression that there is no money and that you dont know when you'll have.keep her posted for a week or more and post your findings. success pals