OFO lema banbe! ema lule ni!! nothing for una

Brendaniel:
Wow, 22 years already, I remember the days of Jumobi Adegbesan of AIT...

Yes ooo, Kakaaki, AIT breakfast show.

Ballzproblem2:
the man looks like a serial woman beater ,but what do I know,dj cuppy moved fast ,she barely knows this dude ,I guess she did out of desperation,why her sister was building solid thing with mr eazi she was forming city girl , anyways I wish her luck ,but let her thread carefully

The only post i was looking for, she seems to be under some sort of pressure related to her sis being engaged. If na wetin dey sup be that, it cant last.

ogbeni, me and my family of 4, i spent roughly 30 million, and still spending till now as we dun finally enter. Omo its not for the faint hearted oo.

Buckeyemedia1:
With all due respect, only mumus for 1 second will imagine to think that the Federal Government will extradite Abba Kyari a serving force officer.

You these children in Nigeria have been watching too many western movies.

My own take on this matter is, is it possible for an American citizen to comit a crime related to Nigeria, and Nigeria seeks to extradite the person from the USA to Nigeria, will the USA allow such? I am not understanding why these people think we are these gullible, forget Nigeria being corrupt, all those boys extradite from Nigeria to USA shouldn't have been allowed in the first place.

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itsMrIke:


My dear, just rest. No stress yourself again. Let OP do whatever he likes. I have read all comments so far, and he seems to only like the comments of those who support him or are encouraging him to believe his wife is cheating in him. Na here we go dey when he go come give us update. Abeg ignore all the people insulting you. They will soon call me SIMP.

You can't talk to a man like this, obviously why his wife will agree with him and still do what she wants, because he doesn't have rational demands.

Just imagine the reason why OP wants her to stay home on Saturdays, is to "have her all to himself". This is the most selfish and possessive thing any man can ever think, how much more say.

OP, truth is Saturdays are a good day for her to go the market. If you keep commanding and banning her not to go, you will end up with a resentful wife. Do you understand how her shop works or its needs?? Try to understand her business. Then you can know how best you both can manage your time.

But trying to think you can command and ban your wife is going to cause more trouble than it will solve.

And relax with this Head of the house thing. This believe has killed many marriages. I am a Man no dey work again. Only small minded people think like this.

Good luck to you OP. And yeah, the rest of you bone heads can come call me SIMP. I am ready

Are you married? if yes how many children do you have? Do you think running a family in this LAGOS of Nigeria na beans? Dont come here to come tell me how to run my fams.

techgen:
It's quite easy to know your wife whereabouts on Saturdays....to keep your mind at peace.

Simply install tracker in her car or favorite handbag for like 3 Saturday.

Tech. Has made life easy...use it!!!

There is a tracker in the car for general security reasons, when she goes normally the car would be at the exact point where it is expected to be, she knows of that too so she wont be stupid enough to take the car elsewhere. In terms of putting a device in her bad,, she doesnt carry a bag to the market, just a waist bag, what kind of mini tracker can i put inside that she wont notice inside?

Das1mama:
First of all i dey h like dis but e no still get where e touch!! Me go still reason my mind.... As a man that i am i understand your plight but d bitter truth is stand on your ground and let her be the one to apologise for disrespecting u by flaunting the standing rules in your home which will make her understand how principled and cultured person you are which will make her even more to always respect your decisions as the man of the house.... But the moment you beg her when she's wrong, believe me that will be the beginning of your downfall... Give a woman a mile she would want to double it.... Shalom

Have stood my ground plenty of times, only to find out that she still would go behind my back to do whatever she likes.

Rita5:


Pele oh! A word is usually enough for the wise. People who tend to dismiss advice very quickly live to forever feel the sting of I was told before if only I listened. Wetin concern me na you get your marriage take advice or leave it doesn't affect the money in my account, so best of luck.

A child like you with no marital experience and early feminist symptoms can never be taken advise from. Who born u to advice me?

Rita5:


Tell them I said hello. We all have our struggles. I also have a friend who makes statements like this whenever we have a conversation like this, his wife left him and she's doing well for herself and their kid. While oga turn status and online warrior.

Abeg shift go one side, dont you know families functions in different ways? You seem to bring your point on a generalized level which is far from whats going on here.

okoroemeka:
first of all why keeping your wife at home with you when you know she wants to be at the market,her mind and soul will not be together at that time,it is just a forced holidays,as long as it is strictly business and no hidden agenda in the market,why not,give her a very long lesh,don't even try to restrict,curtail,or scuttle her ideas and ambition just for her to be with you, slowly adapt and start filling in some gaps she may leave behind, believe me she will love you more and volunteer her time specially for you,if she is a business woman support her with encouraging words and cover her back,love is sweetest when the woman is happy not when she is forced to sit down at home sullenly,you will have a happy family

You guys dont read post well sha, nobody is forcing her to sit at home. She chose the days to go to the market so that her outside runs does not interfere with the home, its a mutual decision between the both of us, the only issue here is the saturday movement which she isnt entirely restricted to, but she decided to compromise important things just so she can go hence her ban.

Graxie:
Welcome to nairaland where you will be told your wife is cheating, your marriage will take a different turn after this thread.

I am not dumb enough to get carried away.

tsmith:


Let me get this straight, you want to commandeer a grown adult's in and out?

Yet you go in and out as you wish?

You sat 'her down' and agreed her permitted outgoings?

Of course she simply agreed to fuel your already entitled and commanding ego.

It's obvious as well that you're not able to handle the truth or someone else's view that's contrary to yours, so she's playing you as your game. As soon as the cat is out, the mouse too goes out to play.

It's a marriage not a zoo, okay! Limit the zoo antics to your dog.

You sound like a feminist, am the head of the house, and I take full responsibility of my familys progress, so going out is going to play or what? Everyone have their role to play, as I am playing mine, so does she. I pity whoever marries you, cos i know damn sure u arent married.

boxer022:
I understand you perfectly, that is why I advised that you visit that market she goes on Saturday so as to know exactly what is always making her to go there. If is possible, if her friends around will notice your car and inform her, park it not too close to the market, make sure you disguise yourself so that even if they might see you they may not be sure it's you till you get to where she is before exposing yourself so as to achieve your goal.

In this case it has to be bumper to bumper while shes driving, cos if she gets there before me, there is no way in this world that I will be able to trace her, the market is big.

boxer022:
I am happy that there is communication in your marriage, and as you said the both of you agreed to certain terms and conditions concerning her going to the market. I do have questions for you, do you have children, if yes who takes care of them when she goes to the market in Saturday? You have made a demand as the head of the family which she is to abide by despite her initial reaction towards it. If it is possible for you to visit that market of hers without her knowing so as to find out what exactly is going on there that is really making her go back every Saturday.

This is the major question, we no longer have an house help, but a relative is staying with us though she works so she has little time to fill the gap for her in which she goes to work on saturdays too. My brother in law who is her younger brother also stay with us he is working class too but doesnt go to work on saturdays, so he stays with them. The problem here is, after agreeing on certain things, she turns around to do the opposite, as a self employed person, i work from Monday to friday, but few hours on saturday, i rarely get to spend time with her during week days because i get home at night, all i wanted is to at least get her to be fully around me on saturday/sunday its not too bad to ask for, because during the week days (5days) I can say categorically that I dont eat more than 3 times of her meal, so she dont stress at all, so if weekend are days she can have time for me, Its not bad at all, to even say that the previous saturday she dashed out without my notice, she was suppose to take oir daughter to the hospital based on an emergency issue, she left her and that made me to start thinking maybe there is more to the saturday market that i am not noticing.

Its very hard to trace her in the tejuoso market, most times sef network is very bad when i try to call her there, the market is rigid and there is no way in this world that I can make that happen. All I could do was to ban her, whatever she can get on saturdays, she can always get during the weekday, her excuse however is that sometimes materials they are using to sow for her isnt enough so she has to go, i said send your PA who you usually send there to help u get it, she said the lady is too lazy and sluggish bla bla bla

PerfectStranger:
What's so special about the Saturday market you asked? Maybe na only Saturday her side guy or ex dey get chance.
Carry your cross oga.

After stating almost the obvious, you come sey make i carry my cross, yes na me go carry my cross before na. I didnt ask you to assist me.

Nyascobar1414:
Weytin the worry this mumu simp...


The moment you get married, you have decided to be a simp...

Love is a sign of weakness...
Hatred is a sign of strength...



Know this and know peace!

I disagree with you.

I know some people will curse, call you simp, call you all sort of names, i dont care but i just hope the sensible married people with experience will drop their own
opinion and knowledge of this kind of ish. So the issue of food has been creating issues with myself and my wife, she takes her hustle more as a priority than taking care
of us in the house. Some people would think by saying that, she's probably the bread winner, not at all, as it should, i provide at least 82% of the family needs.
Sometimes 3 weeks ago after getting into a heated argument about quickly leaving the house to tejuosho market without making food, we sat down and agreed to some terms
which will avoid issues, she said she will only go to the market on monday and wednesdays only. Everything was smooth until the following saturday i had gone out to pick up vet to come
tend to my dog, she called and said she wants to quickly go to the market, that what is it that i want to eat so she could make it down b4 she dashes out, first off i wasnt happy, because i thought i wanted her all to me
the weekend, but now shes dashing out to the market when saturday isnt part of the day we planned. I told her to wait for me that I will drive her down, she waited even though she complained bitterly as if she was missing
an appointment, but its just clothing material she wanted to buy, i got back home drove her there and brought her back.

Fastforward again to the next weekend, i had driven out, she called me and as were talking, I asked where she was, she said she was driving to her shop to pick up something and head back home, i said no p,40mins later when I got home
didnt see her, I called her and lo and behold she was in the market, I was like what happened to the agreement we had, she said well if she told me she was going i probably would not allow her bla bla bla. She came home and I sat her down
that in order to maintain peace in a home, communcation is key, yes we communicated and had an agreement, but peace wont be maintained when one party isnt fulfilling his or her own part of the agreement, I told her that i want peace, so therefore I ban her from the saturday
market, she can pick any dat during the work days to replace the saturday outing, she change am, shout, raged and said all sorts of things, i nor kukuma answer her, went out that got back later laying on the bed sad and agonized, i was now
dumbfounded that what could be this important and serious about this saturday market thing, am lost and cant figure it out, ladies and guy whats ur thought on this?