₦airaland Forum

cutetonye009:
Have missed you too, and I have been wanting to thank you for taking care of my brother (lero15). You came at the right time . Loving your e-personality, hope i get to see in person someday.
Cheers!

Lol. Thanks too and I hope we meet in person or people someday!

antispexish:
are you saying that the life of the woman was cut short by the man cus he did not perform marriage rites? what an excuse! The woman would have died! married or not!

She certainly would have died someday but not in the mysterious way she did. I hope you realize that she bled to death and of course her family was unaware all the while. I'm of the opinion that at least if they were married, the "husband" would have informed her family and if they could provide money or any form of support they would have offered it.

There is a huge difference between someone legally married and birthing babies and someone living with a man unmarried and giving him children, they are not the same thing. So, tradition stands. Poor dude has to do the needful.

cutetonye009:
Happy Vals day fam!
Cc:
Lero15
Tolutweety
Amicable
Cc150615( hope I got it right this time)
Eldeevee
TheRealAdonye
Mambani
Ksstroud
Ilori1930
Davide470
Beau49
Jamean
Et al in the house.

Mmmh. Since you celebrated your birthday last year Tonye, you just pack. Welcome back and happy belated Val!

I hope we see more of you here. I sha miss the cute Tonye. Take care and have a splendid day.

nwakaegoabisola:
Amicable I'm so sorry for going awol, been so preoccupied. Mail me jare, I have also missed you.
Cheers

Oh! I see. Welcome back dear, your silence became deafening and even though you aren't known for dropping comments, I could tell I was missing the once in a blue moon sight of your comment on your favorite thread... *smiles.

I'll reach you someway. The mailing system doesn't quite favor me.

Enjoy your day!

arofemites:
You are dumb n stupid! What Nigerian law supports dis baseless claim of urs?

Grow up and live in a real world! The only thing i kno d family can do is to jazz d man.

Go easy on the abuse bro! There is something and someplace called "Customary Courts" and they function in Nigeria. Just so you know.

SIRKAY98:
My dear brother .this is the worst thing am trying to explain to you but you are adamant.why not let shun some evil traditons that asked us to Marry a dead being? Is God not fare? He rains on the poor and rich .remenber the children are still alive even with new sets of twins.? I will not support to forcefully make someone to do what he has no capacity to and in which i can bearly see it myself.and i know he has nothing to do with the death of the lady.

Ok your bother is affected, sorry. Good thing is he is not being accused of killing the deceased through diabolical means, her people are simply saying marry her before she can be buried. They are not wicked here. If he goes to them in remorse, they can work out sth for the sake of the kids he is nursing but first, let him go and apologize with kolanut and palm wine *smiles.

After apology, he will sha marry his wife. Marry as in do traditional marriage, small in-house sth, no biggie. Then he will compensate the family for their loss, small compensation.

It is simple. The people are not bad at all, things must be done accordingly.

One Love! *winks.

SIRKAY98:
Wait you don see craziness of a poverted IJEBU MAN BEFORE. i am a real ijebu man,and let me say this i never say i will not pay d birth right if i had money.i will pay them into thier bank account and never allow anybsacrifices made on me.but no money? Kasala go burst. Na to run sure pass na.shey na who dey see them dpgo hold. U will see that they will bury there daughter last!

Dont quote me wrong i loved d lady till death and she will know its the wickedness of her family that made me act that way.

Wait a minute! Who am I dealing with? Are you the main man? The man who was busy putting my sister in the family way up and down!? Na where she dey born your pikin she die! Do you know how much bride price cost? Less than a 100 naira and you couldn't respect her enough to visit her family and make them proud by marrying their daughter!

My ijebu friend, begin now dey run o because you sabi run but run and know that you have no hiding place at the back of your mind.

Because that money you must pay!

chimkaire:
Right. But then, was the woman under a spell? Point is; she knew this is what applies, yes she knows. Why did she stay? She would have saved the man this hot mess
I know this applies to most Igbo communities.
The man's gonna go through with this tradition even if he calls on the Authorities in Hague. Guys condemning this outcome would cry wolf if their daughter(s) goes co-habiting with a guy in the name of marriage.

You are right babe.
But about the lady, most of them told their men to marry them but the men felt they were too smart. Why marry her when she is living with me and is giving me children already, that's their question but it backfires unfortunately when she dies because if the family knows how to make trouble, that guy will sha go down.

Not as if he is not down already sef... lol. He has to do the right thing. My own place sef, if you marry a lady after the birth of the child, the baby still goes to her family. If you really want the child, then make sure you secure baby by paying her bride price before she puts to bed.

antispexish:
trying to stop them for indulging or trying to make money out of them. If it's the issue of marrying the corpse now,I would have just termed it babaric tradition. but adding money to it shows babaric way of life.

The adding money is for cutting short the life of their daughter. If she were to remain alive, they know the joy that will feel having their daughter bury them not necessarily to be alive to give them money. The lady should have buried both parents and not die while cohabiting with a man somewhere.

SIRKAY98:
Gbagbe osi.forget poverty. Marry who? Am ready to die join oya. Am ready to die join. 2dead body oya.

Hahahaha. Marry who? Marry the late mother of the kids o. If you no die, the family will not relent especially if her parents are still alive. Her people will make sure you marry their daughter because;
You can't bring her corpse back to her father's compound to bury.
Worse is, she died while birthing YOUR seed. Which in some places won't be yours sef because you just dey help the lady's family with more children.

kelechiodo:
Please sir, they are not overated and dont ever toy that line. The wife's family actually own all the kids as no dowry has been paid. What they did to him was just to give him the leeway to claim the children. Without dowry and no wedding of any sort, then the man is just absolutely childless.

Very well said!

Somehow these days everything that sounds a little discomforting to young people, trying to stop them from indulging in youthful exuberance is tagged "overrated"! Too bad things don't work that way.

Guys think they are enjoying, chopping and cleaning mouth while endangering the life of a lady whose dowry they haven't paid, when she dies, they begin to cry wolf!

Poor guy will have to marry that corpse first before anything.

Lero15:
Nah... Just you and I today. Time must wait for us today!

Lol. Yes o, it must

cc150615:
Go to church

Lol. cc hon, don't mind me o
My brother in law suddenly turned pastor this morning and we did family devotion for hours with him preaching a long sermon. We even had testimony join. Now, we have dismissed from family church. I'm home.

See you after Church.

GEExclusive:
amicable

Heard my name... How far? Happy Sunday

Lero15:
Hmmm... ToluSAN is just dreaming jare.
Abi, Amicable09?

My mingled boo, you and I, hand in hand and foot in front, we shall be marching!

Today has finally come o! 24 hours is too short for us Lero, please how do we stop time? We have a lot of sites to visit, parks and private gardens too to relax and listen to the birds of the air cooing.

Don't tell me you will be attending all the services + evangelism and discipleship class o... lol.

Abimbex007:
Happy Sunday Fam! Have a blissful week ahead

Oh yes love, you too!
Happy Val's day + happy Sunday!

adeaks:
You know the court also took notice of how Amicable09 was blushing after reading ToluSAN's comment.

That doesn't support your assertion.

Lol @blushing.

That was a reflex action my Lord!

TheRealAdonye:


Tolusan, Lero15, Amicable09

Hahahaha. Adeaks my lawyers will be in court for the hearing.

Adonye, get me the best and brightest please. Somehow Mr Tolusan my counselor is entangled in the web of construed what again sef? I need someone to hold a brief for now until later

tolusan:
@amicable09. Your last update, plenty hugs for you.  You're the kinda girl I wanna marry.  

* receives all the plenty hugs *
Thanks but my application has been under review since in your Chambers, when will I at least get a chance to be interviewed? *smiles.

How are you doing? You have been busy too somehow.

Kaylexzy:
LMAO!!!!


Aii ma'am... Can't argue again...

U win jawe... No be my fault nao... Dem blood me too ni


But it's all good sha

Lol. You ehn! I will keep following your comments. Let me know the chic that you will trip for...

Kaylexzy.... blood dey run for every body vein your own no red pass the other guy own!

Kaylexzy:
U see d problem I have with girls? Una sabi dive into conclusions ehn... So Wat makes u think a young nigga hasn't made money or cause he has a young face, he's definitely still struggling...

All girls keep giving off dat impression... And I love it, cos it goes to show dey are only moved by Wah dey see on d surface...

And I'm happy dat way, at least a few pals of mine who are d show off type, have shown me dat once u show em d cash,dey ff u anywhere...

Not like I care tho, I will jex continue doing Wah I'm doing... Observing dem

This isn't diving into conclusion, it is saying what I have observed. Whether you have money or not, na for your pocket, if the money don too much and you wan show off, you go continue to get girls wey want you to get their share too.

You never for once comment say you wan marry as you don get money and body no gree you, rather na how you go show sexual prowess up and down. Seriously, try marry abeg if the thing too much or stick to one girl and stop receiving accolades for being the guy who has shagged every girl with a big behind. Stop reducing ladies to that I beg you. Have some respect for the sisters. Na beg I dey beg you.

Kaylexzy:
Madam, Shebi Na only 1 I tell u ehn?


So many of em wey don happen sef, Well I don't generalise...


Jex dat I've become more cautious while dealing with em

Oga, if na you dey your dp, you too young to talk heartbreak sef, let alone to number them for me. If again that is you, then looking for vaginas to shatter as you and your guys are claiming here is a misplaced priority. Trust me.

Study hard, make money and see whether you won't find decent girls to trust. Forgive me but if you no get money, you go attract that kind who have been breaking your heart.

Simple truth.

Kaylexzy:
Bros, u said it all o... As if say u dey my mind...

D experience has really changed my view about dem girls o

Kay Kay! Chairman of Romance! The way you navigate through this romanceland ehn! I bow.

So because your first gf walked into boys hostel with another guy all girls are bitches? Mmmh... generalize small small, all girls aren't bitches as all guys are not dogs.

beau49:
Lol.....you like money o

Lol... just small likeness.

Abrahamjesus:
Amicable09, you are really much to me. Thanks to you for remembering me, i'm very busy nowadays especially working on getting people new job to do, collecting numerous cv & checking it has taken a whole day of mine, so working tired this day. How are you doing & work? What do u have for me for Val? @Babacele, i dey call your number you no pick up my call, i got u a buyer for maize, but i dnt knw if he still needs u, i called u to link u with the buyer, he needed 60ton. Anyway we can talk on phone later.....

I have been seeing your new act of kindness on NL, very commendable. But when I stopped getting your shared stuff and job connections post especially in Agriculture and foreign exchange or so, I knew sth must be keeping you busy outside NL. Welcome back and keep up the good work.

This Val ehn! It will be on the 14th oooo... Lol. Mark it first on your calendar.