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AntiChristian:
You saw a cross that the Jews used to punish criminals and you wept!

He's already inclined before.

So cross is a symbol of Christianity and not idolatry now?

The Romans crucified criminals on the cross and it later became a symbol of torture, pains and humiliation. Nothing changed from that perspective except that Jesus Christ of Nazareth was also crucified on the cross, humiliated and buried thereafter. He rose again from the dead.

Christianity identifies with the cross because of Jesus of Nazareth. It didn't remove the suffering associated with the cross. They identify with the cross as the painful object Jesus died on to save the world from sin.

Atheists and skeptics also know the cross is a symbol of pain and suffering. They also repeat the clause " to carry one's cross" after Jesus said everyone needs to carry their cross....

ridwintin89:
It depends on your standard at moment.

If you are financially sustainable,you can go ahead to assist her.

Paying evils with evil elongated to a disastrous moment.

Thank God you are blessed now,what if she was in your life but you are being poor.

If you cannot forgo the past,you are putting yourself in boundage.

If you have what you can give away go ahead bros.

God will bless you abundantly.

You will be richer and richer.

God had forgiven us countless times.

If she was good to you when you are together, please help her.

Leaving you might not be fully her fault since you are not ready at that moment and later had limited time to wait for a suitors.

I think you know better than us.

If you have the means, talk to your and let her know you want to assist your friend. Of course ensure you and the old friend are separated by a very long distance with no plan to meet in the near future.

Then help her and just leave it at that. No strings attached. If you could help your enemies and all who dealt with you when you were growing up, how much more a friend.

Most men won't have some unwanted issues if they carried their wives along. It makes most things open, transparent and reduce certain temptations.

FreeStuffsNG:
https://thecradle.co/articles/from-lions-roar-to-cats-meow-israeli-media-officials-decry-tel-avivs-latest-failure-in-lebanon

Implication of your write-up: Many Israelis do actually support their govt to continue the campaign against their aggressors. This is contrary to some opinions alleging the Israelis are not behind they govt or PM.

Implication number 2: Israel has the capacity to continue the campaign but was pressured by the US to halt it, not to stop it.

Implication 3: Trump wields a lot of influence over Israel to have been able to pressure them to halt.

Implication 4: Iran pressured Trump to pressure Israel to stop. Implying Iran needed the ceasefire to work.

Implication 5: The citizens know fully well that Israel has the capacity to forge ahead and are saying Israel should continue.

Implication 6: Almost everyone wants peace and stability in that region including me. The after-effects of the war globally is negative and extreme hardship for many. We all want peace.

dododawa1:
Iran’s Foreign Minister Abbas Araghchi said Friday that the strategic Strait of Hormuz, vital for the global oil trade, will remain “completely open” to commercial ships as long as a ceasefire in the Middle East holds.

“The passage for all commercial vessels through Strait of Hormuz is declared completely open for the remaining period of ceasefire,” Araghchi said on X.

It was not clear whether he was speaking of the 10-day truce agreed by Lebanon and Israel that went into effect at midnight or an earlier two-week truce between Iran and the United States that began on April 8.

Iran, which sent shockwaves through the global economy by essentially blocking passage through the crucial Strait, had made the extension of a ceasefire to Lebanon a condition of opening the waterway, state media reported.

Lebanon was drawn into the broader war launched by the United States and Israel on February 28 when Hezbollah attacked Israel in support of Iran, its key ally.

An Iranian senior military official told the state broadcaster that only civilian vessels would be allowed passage through designated routes and with permission of the navy of Iran’s Islamic Revolutionary Guard Corps.

The passage of military vessels through the Strait of Hormuz remains prohibited,” the official said.

US President Donald Trump welcomed the Iranian announcement that the narrow waterway would be open, but said the US naval blockade of Iranian ports would remain in place until a peace deal with Tehran was reached.

“The naval blockade will remain in full force and effect as it pertains to Iran, only, until such time as our transaction with Iran is 100% complete,” Trump said on his Truth Social network, adding that “this process should go very quickly”.

Oil prices that had spiked during the supply disruptions plunged after the Iranian announcement of opening the Strait.

Thank God. Let fuel prices come down for the common man. We need peace in the world.

SmartPolician:
If you don't have someone in government, don't waste your time applying. Embassies and consulates are the toughest places that random people can get jobs. 99% of their workers are based on recommendations and referrals.

I think you read in a hurry.

The USA doesn't have Senate sanctioned Ambassadors in many countries plus Nigeria.
Those are the gaps or vacancies being referenced here. Maybe diplomatic issues. Maybe current priorities. We may not know why.

Thank you.

SixSeven:
One more thing to add to your post. Aside those words, it shows the person lacks empathy and was not raised well. Family is everything and more. Anyone who tries to convince us otherwise lacks those foundation. Be it Asia, Africa, Antarctica or Europe or even New Zealand, family is a big deal and it is the foundation of the ecosystem. Those who lack love can't give it back. It is not a pay me back system, it is HUMAN.

Africans do not believe in individualism. It is

Thank you so much for this.
Family is everything, whether at infancy, mid life or as aged adults. We take care of our own.

Kobojunkie:
I hope in turn that life ensures to put you through the lessons necessary for helping you reality truth from your many delusions. 🥱🥱

By the special grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, I am doing my best to train my children well and also save for my old age. I do hope my children will take care of me in our family home using the funds I will save. I also pray they do well and raise responsible and godly families and then the cycle continues.

If you wish to be dumped in a care home by your family at your old age, that is your tea of cup. I pray God Almighty do your bid.

Kobojunkie:
Children here are dependents, not vulnerables. The term vulnerable is typically applied to adults who are sick or elderly. It is for this reason that I, in my response, specifically used the term children and vulnerable together in the sentence to show the separation between the two. 🥱🥱

Dependent: relying on another for support

Vulnerable: capable of being physically or emotionally wounded; open to attack or damage

Those 2 words are not exclusive to children. Your argument is not strong.

Kobojunkie:
I call you to think carefully before responding, please. 😒😒

No contract means no obligation exists for the children of these vulnerable people. No obligation means the onus is on the vulnerable individuals themselves to do all that is possible to provide for themselves the care they envision they would need. 😒😒

I pray you get a good spouse and good children who will be responsible to take care of you at your old age. But I also see you are okay with being dumped at old people's home at your old age. If that is what you wish yourself, that's fine.

Kobojunkie:
I call you to think carefully before responding, please. 😒😒

No contract means no obligation exists for the children of these vulnerable people. No obligation means the onus is on the vulnerable individuals themselves to do all that is possible to provide for themselves the care they envision they would need. 😒😒

You keep shooting yourself in the foot:

"No obligation means the onus is on the vulnerable individuals themselves to do all that is possible to provide for themselves the care they envision they would need"

This quote of yours above is counter-productive and dissolves all your arguments.

Children are vulnerable at young age.
Aged parents are vulnerable at older ages.
Both are vulnerable. Your point? All vulnerable people should take care of themselves? Read that again. Lol

Mirasteel:
Power play? Lol. do you even know the meaning?

Yes you do know what I am saying. It's clear as the daylight abg doesn't require too many definitions.

Kobojunkie:
You are not making sense. You don't need a contract to know what manipulation, bullying, or subtopics like gaslighting mean. 😒
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The one attempting to go around in circles here is you, because you are convinced that your place in this must be right regardless of issues pointed out so far. 😒

If you don't have a contract on this, then every vulnerable person deserves to be taken care of by those they have helped if they have the capacity, children and aged parents inclusive.

Kobojunkie:
E be like say you dey struggle with simple comprehension. 😒

Circular argument. You say no contract and yet adds "manipulation". What is the basis for this manipulation if both are operating without valid contracts ?

ebubeson:
Have you seen any guy you know boasting that he is sleeping with married women that you know? If such is revealed and he has friends, they may abandon and reject him with disgust. Also, have you seen any married you know boasting openly that she is sleeping with men?

While it is very wrong to cheat, some married men may talk of side-chics, and some side-chics may talk about their married sugar daddies: but a guy sleeping with a married woman may be ashamed to say it, and a married woman may be so ashamed to reveal she is sleeping with someone else.

Married women are sacred.

It's disgusting to sleep with anyone who is not legally married to one...very disgusting.

Stick to your spouse and focus on your family problems. That's a good way to have peace of mind.

madridguy:
From regime change to open the strait to obstructing the stray Donald Trump is now a clown

It's a power play by Trump. I don't support war and violence but Trump outplayed Iran on this so far.

Kobojunkie:
. No amount of whining to me will change the facts.😒😒😒

I am hoping you will drop the contract children jar with parents for compulsory upkeep and care.

If you can't show me one, then I think same applies to children and their aged parents.

It's a matter of convenience, altruism, social construct and assistance to vulnerable persons.

MarketDispatch:
Fear of God, who loves God, what will we say about Pastor Chris Oyakilome and ex wife, or Pastor Chris Okotie and ex wife?

Those are not my yardsticks on the fear of God.
Look around and see millions enjoying their marriages. Sample opinions from those.

Kobojunkie:
1. No such legal contract exists. 🤔

2. That norm only exists in your mind. Again, there are no laws that mandate children take care of their adult parents or any adults for that matter. So, you need to be able to separate delusion from reality at this point. 🤨🥱

3. It is manipulation/fraud to require something ,without adequate agreed-upon compensation, from someone else where the law does not obligate any such. 🥱🥱

No contract a child signs for the parents to take care of them. No contract an aged parent signs for their children to take care of them if they can.What exactly are you taking about?

Parents take care of their children because the children are vulnerable and cannot take of themselves at those points. No social contracts signed. When those aged parents are vulnerable, the children who have the capacity should take of them.

That is what makes the world go round.

Why would you think it's irresponsible for a parent to not cater for their children and then not irresponsible for a capable adult to take of their aged and vulnerable parents?

You haven't made any point aside from the use of "manipulation"

Kobojunkie:
it does not. 🤔

2. it does not. 🤔

3. it is manipulation to impose yourself on someone who never had a say in it all from the beginning. 🤔

It's not enough to say "it does not". I was hoping you will show me the contact between children and parents on this. You have non and so there is none.
It's a rule of thumb and it covers both.

In Africa, this is the norm. Elsewhere where a child takes a loan to fund his or her education on their own, maybe you can say the child doesn't owe their aged parents any duty of care.

Again , I am trying to see what you call manipulation here unless you mean the society actually manipulates adults to take care of children and then manipulates people to think it is unreasonable for aged adults to be taken care of by their children.

Kobojunkie:
That is the manipulation we are talking about right there... this notion that because they chose to birth and feed you, you therefore owe them. 🤔🤔

2. Adults who choose to have children are legally responsible for the support and wellbeing of their children. Young people are right to expect support and care from their caregivers. 🤔🤔

If there is a contract parents signed to take care of their children at their vulnerable periods, then that contract extends to children (who have the wherewithal) to cater for their aged parents at their vulnerable period.

If it's a societal construct, then it applies to all.

It is not manipulative for a parent to suffer and invest in their children and then ask the children to support them when they are aged. It is not at all.

LeeSmart:
There's no big secret oo just be a Husband and a father that's all.

I love this. Play the husband and father role well.
Let your wife play her wife and mother role well.

Marry a responsible person who loves God and has the fear of God. The fear of God to a extent serves as a deterrent for misbehavior in many people.
If a responsible child of God views cheating one's spouse or hurting one's spouse as sin against God, they will out of respect for God choose not to do such things. This will ultimately benefit everyone.

Everyone involved must be willing to make sacrifices to make the relationship work. Everyone. It's a lot of hard work but it's achievable. I am enjoying mine aside from the financial pressure to raise children, support siblings and relatives.

Kobojunkie:
Reality has always been that a good portion of them will be abandoned. Gone is the age where they could bully or manipulate their way into being maintained by family members as entitled beings in their old age. Every adult out there ought to be responsible for his/her own life and welfare. Age, should not be an excuse. 😒

Bully... manipulate... entitled....all three words are wrong to be applied to those who supported one when one needed help. It's a dangerous trend that could turn the tables and make some adults re-think support for youngsters. Many young people already feel some adults are not providing them the required help or support or platform to succeed. It could be worse if most people think helping their aged parents or relatives are a big unwarranted burden.

WatchYourSix:
Shey na another person pikin go come love and care for you at old age?? I know there are no guarantees in life… but if children are are alive, they should be empathy driven towards their own immediate flesh and blood…… yall just like sounding politically correct….

You are right.

Anyone who has made investments into one ought not be forgotten or pushed away when they need help especially at old age. There is no guarantee on this but anyone who can and is able should support those who supported them. That is how it ought to be. A deviation from this for one who is capable is pure wickedness.

Ragingthunder:
so why are you pained

Who cares?

ogododo:
https://punchng.com/n60k-salary-four-wives-17-kids-wikes-aide-says-irresponsible-parenting-fueling-northern-insecurity/

True.... absolutely true

Pukkalolo:
Let me hit you with a truth so ugly that might make you hate me after reading this:


A woman’s real job is not to love you. Her real job is to catch you and put you in the cage called “commitment”

Once she succeeds: once you commit, once you make it obvious you’re fully satisfied with her. Meaning you're not trying to escape from the cage… her job is done.

And when a woman’s job is done,
She stops trying to please you. She starts misbehaving. She starts looking outside.

Because a caged lion that stops trying to escape is no longer exciting.
It’s just furniture.

Think about it like this:

Commitment and marriage are a cage, and
Her mission is to lure the wild, dangerous man inside and lock the door. The satisfaction for her doesn’t come from catching a man who WANTS to be in the cage.

That’s boring. That’s weak. That’s prey walking willingly into the trap.

The real thrill: the thing that keeps her wet, respectful, attracted and on her toes… is catching a man that is constantly looking for ways to escape. A man who she knows, deep down, can walk away at any moment if she bleeps up.

One of the oldest tests a woman run on her Man is:

She open the cage door to see if you'll escape

She opens the cage in form of:

Disrespect.
Silent treatment.
Withholding sex.
Threatening to leave you.
Flirting with other men in front of you.

What is she really doing?

She's checking: “Will this man stay in the cage like a domesticated cat… or will he have some backbone and walk out of this cage?”

If you stay, that's, you apologize, beg, chase, and stay put like an intentional good boy — she knows her job is finished.

Game over.

From that moment, she starts looking for someone more challenging. Someone who still feels dangerous.

If you walk out of the cage — go no-contact, flirt with other women, enforce real consequences, or straight-up dump her — something magical happens.

She respects you more. She suddenly remembers how to be sweet, submissive, and sexually available again.

The dark truth:

A woman needs a little bit of fear that one day her man might walk out of the cage and never look back. That fear keeps her on her toes. That fear makes her bring her best behavior, her best sex, her best effort.

If your wife or girlfriend is disrespecting you, denying you sex, giving attitude, or treating you like an option… it’s not because she’s “changed.”

It’s because she knows you’re 100% satisfied with her and have no intention of leaving the cage.

Be wise brothers.

Pray to God to help you find a good wife who will love you, be loyal to you, fear God and flee from intentional sin and evil and then get committed to solve problems in your home.

When you and your wife are busy building wealth and raising children, you will have little time and energy left for irrelevancies.

Marriage is more complicated than some of the write-ups we see sometimes

Estello:
https://applesbite.com/islamic-and-christian-god-not-my-belief-wole-soyinka/

Who cares about your beliefs Prof?

I respect you a lot but don't care about your religious beliefs. You said one appeals to you more. That's okay. But it's not all about what appeals to one.

Seems the reality is being reported now.
It seems the past few weeks have been more of propaganda.

Please they should settle amicably so everyone lives in peace and petrol price drops again.

President Trump is a strong man.

Oledia:
Written by PROF B. CHIMA ONUOHA

Freedom of religion is both a fundamental and constitutional right of people, including students. It is important to state clearly that _rights_ should not be abused or used to inconvenient other persons. It is also necessary to indicate that university campuses are not seminaries or theological schools. Even such religious institutions are governed by rules and regulations. They emphasise hard-work, focus and discipline. There is no place for lawlessness or self-aggrandisement.

The Nigerian larger society is afflicted with “over-religiousity”. Churches are everywhere and springing up every day. People are highly religious without being Christ-like. Miracle seeking has become the order of the day, instead of hard-work, sincerity and dedication. The Almighty God and the angels in heaven are earnestly expected to solve all our problems including those that we have the physical and mental capacity including resources to solve by ourselves. Every failure, misfortune or sickness is an “attack” from someone or somewhere. People are simply not ready to bear the consequences of their actions or inactions.

Instead of the government and political leaders confronting unemployment, insecurity, economic hardships, and underdevelopment head-long, they get church owners or the big religious entrepreneurs to tell Nigerians to pray for solutions to descend from heaven. And Nigerians, suffering from what I call “religious mumuism” will key in.

Religious leaders, particularly General Overseers (GOs) and pastors are instilling fears in people, making them to be excessively prayerful and being lazy in the process.
Over religiousity has long creeped into the university campuses, from Monday to Sunday. I have observed that during school hours when some students have free hours in between lectures, instead of revising treated topics or those to be taught, or go to the departmental, faculty or main libraries to study, they form prayer groups, singing and dancing thereby disturbing on-going lectures around. In a particular federal university, prayer groups of its Faculty of Management Sciences, stage their religious disturbances behind the Senate building of that particular university, very close to the faculty, serving as distraction/disturbance to on-going lectures.

In another federal university, a faculty that has Eleven (11) BSc programmes in five departments not mentioning part time and post graduate programmes, with acute shortage of lecture halls had a myopic disposition of leasing out a very important lecture hall for three days (Wednesday-Friday) for religious Event. This is repeated at intervals. What a priority! The implications were/are very obvious – many lectures will continue to be cancelled, disturbances and distractions of on-going lectures in the vicinity and far reaching academic consequences.

In a particular state university where serious academic competition was the order of the day, students – those in the hostels and around the campus had the constant habit and practice of returning to classrooms and lecture halls to read between 7:30 pm and 12 midnight every day. Along the line, there were many prayer groups that were also competing with students for the same venues, with their noisy activities. It took almost a riot from the larger student body for the university authorities to ban all religious activities on campus during school periods/days.

Pentecostal churches are finding university campuses fertile grounds for crusades with the usual road shows/funfair around and inside the campuses. These crusades can last three or more days. During these periods, many students abandon their lectures and studies. It does not matter if the semester examinations are starting in the next two days. Instead of studying hard, students are keying into miracle and prosperity preaching. The wealth without work mindset or perspective. We have heard of students going to “men of God” to bless their biros, rulers and pencils before the exams. Some go to tap “anointing” before examinations. In a particular faculty, two lecturers are fond of spending the first ten to fifteen minutes in praise and worship before commencing lectures. These actions often disrupt teaching functions in close-by lecture halls. In fact, campus religious activities are becoming fads in the Nigerian tertiary institutions.

The youths are the most endangered group today in the country from three sources:
1. No tangible programmes for them from the government – devaluation of education via underfunding; poorly paid and unmotivated teachers; inadequate youth empowerment schemes; high unemployment rate; they are used for thuggery and election rigging, etc.

2. Religious and spiritual enslavement from Pentecostal churches, with all sorts of deceits and manipulations. Some students are hoodwinked to use their school fees, feeding and book money to pay tithe, sow spiritual seeds, bless “men of God”, etc, and expect miracles thereafter. Most times, the miracles don’t happen, yet they keep hoping endlessly.

3. Social media negative influences – “education is scam”; pinging for hours instead of reading; watching films/videos endlessly; penchant for hook-up; quick money and yahoo syndrome; pathological lying; proclivity to partying; drug abuse; imbibing wild values, etc.

At this point, let me ask few innocuous questions
• Are universities meant for incessant religious crusades, apart from the usual weekend (more specifically – Sunday) church programmes?

• Are universities not meant for studies; providing solutions to societal and the nation’s developmental challenges, the so called “the gown going to town”? These are the main purpose of establishing universities, nationally and globally.

• Which university in Nigeria has reasonable endowment funds from research, innovations and commercialisation of research outputs? See my article – “Nigerian University System and Endowments”.

• What research efforts, technological or industrial hub will crusades bring to the campuses or society?

Instead of joining leading global universities to be agents of economic and technological advancement, the nation’s university system is seeking the easy-way out like government and political leaders – miracles, relevance and success without hard-work and strategic plans. There is no single technology centre in Nigeria. Universities have critical roles to play in the establishment of technology centres. Most global dominant clusters have their origin from nearby universities. For example, the history of Silicon Valley (in California, USA) will be incomplete without the notable roles of Stanford university, its industrial park, affiliates and graduates. Silicon Valley is home to many of the world’s largest and richest high-tech corporations and thousands of start-up companies. Some of them are Fortune 1000 companies.

For me, any person is free to disagree… excessive religious activities on campuses are affecting studies, hard-work, creativity, productivity and research efforts, adversely.

When we were in the university, undergraduate programme, intellectual competition was rigorously encouraged by the system, lecturers and students themselves. As students, we challenged ourselves to mention how many As and Bs each of us aimed at scoring. The courses should also be mentioned in advance. In that era, more than 90 percent of courses/exams were “attempt all questions”. Four or five questions to answer all. Again, we challenged ourselves to answer the questions the way they appeared – no jumping questions. For example, if a course has four questions, to answer all. We said that if you are intelligent or hardworking, your answers should be 1, 2, 3 and 4 questions; not 2, 4, 1 and 3 on your exam booklet. The same was applicable if the course has options. For example, a lecturer may set 6 questions and asked the students to attempt 4 out of the 6. The challenge to ourselves remained – answer the questions the way they appeared. If you are intelligent or hardworking, your answers would appear (in the case of 6 questions) 1, 2, 3, 4, leaving out 5 and 6. In other words, it didn’t matter if questions 5 and 6 were easier. What am I saying? In addition to the enslavement from indiscriminate and unwholesome religious activities, majority of our current students are not interested or involved in academic competition. It is common to see in a typical exam booklet, students attempting questions like this; 1a, 4c, 3b, 6c, 1c, 4b, 3a. Along the line you see an appeal note for leniency or prayer for you and family, how God will bless you and your family if you pass the student. Cheap emotional blackmail everywhere.

Why are many students not ready to study hard or take their lectures seriously? Apart from their uninterested or lazy disposition, the system is also encouraging them openly. Lecturers are told or warned that failure rate should not be more than 30 percent. So, what a student needs to score in a course is 20 percent in exam and 10 percent in continuous assessment. The system will take care of the rest, to enable the candidate get 40 or 45 percent. Lowering of academic standards have gotten to the post graduate levels. These students will eventually be future lecturers, administrators and political leaders. This country has a long way to go, in terms of development.

In conclusion, university managements across the nation should restrict the indiscriminate and unwholesome religious activities on their campuses. Before religious fanatics start attacking me, I need to state that I am also a Christian – a Catholic.

Finally, universities are not religious institutions; Simplicita!


B. C. Onuoha, Professor of Management and development activist, wrote from University of Port Harcourt, Sunday, April 5, 2026.

God bless you Prof.

I am a dedicated Christian and I agree with some of your points here. A very prominent man once told us in the university that he would have sent his son to a seminary if he had wanted him to be a pastor. But since he is in the secular university, he should focus and study what brought him to school while worshiping God at appropriate times.

Same thing I tell my children now.

Too much of everything is bad

Munzy14:
He could be right with the way freestuff, God100 and other terrorist sympathizers have been posting Oluwole news here and there regarding this war. Who knows? 🤣🤣🤣😂😂

Those handles are really mischievous on this forum. The bad side of being unemployed is that they begin to constitute nuisance online and offline. Giving the country bad name. Internet will never forget.

Those handles are notorious for fake news on this site. I wonder what the benefit from such acts.

Nastrademus:
My favorite tv show then,
New masquerade
After the storm
Beyond our dreams
Wili willi
Tales by moonlight
King zebrudaya

Beautiful programs.

Clarus may your soul rest in peace!
You and the "New Masquerade" team brought much joy to us every Tuesday night back in the days. Same with Samanja.

kelspinall:
They will change, I can change him/her are most of the reasons people have problems in their marriage... Love is delusional never real... Most people are still in marriage because of the kids, religious beliefs and what they society will say, live in public yard and see what or how married people disgrace each other even b rich people too or share the same space with your gf/bf for six months and see what ya future looks like, if the trouble is too much leave... Some people can never change. Simple

Many single persons are living in constant chaos.
It's a normal issue with humans. Job in the Bible said humans are born into troubles as the sparks go up.

It is not only married people who have issues sometimes.

If you are lucky to have a good spouse, you will work hard to make the marriage work. If you don't, it won't work.