uche87: In recent times, most people have no life outside of work. It is either that they are actually working or sleeping in preparation to return to work. The implication is that the workplace becomes where they socialise and build relationships. Due to spending extended hours with the same set of people, feelings develop, and romantic relationships begin. It seems like a normal and natural cycle. But it is a grave mistake that rarely ends well. It is a huge risk to take. As a woman, never sleep with your colleague. No matter the assurance he gives you, take your desires away from work. It is better to give your body to a friend on social media.
This sounds odd, but I will explain. The gist of someone sleeping with a colleague is always the hottest and most engaging conversation. Everybody pretends not to care, but they actually do. Anybody the information is shared promises confidentiality, but it is a lie. Among young adults, the news is exciting, so it gradually spreads from one person to another like wildfire in summer.
Most times, everybody gets to know except you. Yes, you haven’t committed a crime, but the implication is that every male colleague develops the encouragement and motivation to use “your Wi-Fi” as soon as the “current user” logs out.
Some mischievous men can be very patient, as long as they believe there is light at the end of the tunnel. It starts with warm smiles, small favours, offers to take you out, buying you simple gifts, dropping you off in their car, and even doing some heavy lifting for you at home. Some might take up your work tasks. All of this is geared towards making you comfortable and endeared to them. Before you know it, you are changing positions in bed. Several good women have innocently walked into this trap and can’t get out of it.
You have come of age, but nobody is proposing marriage. Instead, you are getting passed around like a pen in a banking hall. No man wants to marry a woman who has warmed more beds than a duvet. This is the wrong position to be in. If you find yourself in this trap, the best option is to change your workplace.
You need to start all over and break the cycle. It is a vicious one.
koladata: Ones you enter Germany with your wife , Germany will lecture your wife that she's more powerful without her husband and the more children she has the more money she get paid. Before you know it Nigerian women will chase their husband away then later come back to cry of loneliness.
I think you are the only one who really understands the real issue. This is correct. They prefer the payments for the children which they send monthly to Africa to build houses and to their families
lildush: Omoh some places, things and people important for this life ooo. Watin u think say no concern u fit become big problem for u ooo. Imagine this straits of Hormuz way them close for few weeks.. everybody collect 🤣🤣🤣🤣 if not now I never knew of that place in my entire life.. never heard of it before. Don't know it's an important place like this 🤣🤣🤣🤣. It's supposed to be more famous than the statue of Liberty or ifur tower in Paris... 🤣🤣 May God make me as important as straits of Hormuz before I die . Amen..
Please is this Strait of Homuz that same small area the Persians blocked to win their wars in the movie "300"?
People don't understand what is going on and I don't blame them because US Media is imperialist propaganda so here's the 411:
Donald Trump is freaking out because he is not only losing, but this war against Iran is speeding up the collapse of the US empire
Iran taking control of the Strait of Hormuz is going to cost the US $3 trillion a year. Since the 1970s oil has been traded using the petrodollar. Iran knew this and knew it could severely weaken US hegemony by allowing ships to pass if they switched from the petrodollar to Chinese yuan.
The other major development that isn't being covered is the US has spent trillions of dollars on building US bases in order to occupy and control the Middle East. These bases have taken significant damage from Iranian missiles and are being abandoned.
The US is not and never was "liberating" Iran, but Iran is absolutely liberating the Middle East from US imperialism.
Like all empires of the past the US is no different: It is collapsing under the weight of its own greed, corruption, and barbarity.
I doubt you really understand what is going on here.
Iran is not in a position to decide things. Trump has the ace and is applying restraint because of the Iranian citizens he claims to love and wants to win to his side. Report says Iran initially rejected Trump's proposal but is now considering them albeit saying some are outrageous. Things are shifting underneath. Sit back and observe. Don't be in a hurry to analyze.
We pray for peace in the world so we all can do our businesses without fear and unnecessary difficulties.
Trump knows a lot that many of us are not privy to. Possibly a section of the Iranian leaders who will lean towards Trump are negotiating with him while a different group will always come out to deny it.
We will see how it all plays out soon. It does appear Trump has a lot of leverage over Iran on this war
HAVE AMERICAN POLITICIANS YOU WORSHIP GOT ''A LONG WAY TO GO''?
HAVE YOU SEEN HOW FLAMBOYANT AND OSTENTATIOUS THEIR HANDOVER IS?
Do you know Nigeria is still LEARNING in that department?
DID TRUMP RIDE OFF ON A BICYCLE AFTER HIS INAUGURATION?
Will his FAT FRAME not CRUSH a bicycle if he sits on it?
WAS IT NOT A 'BEAST' CAR IN A $100 MILLON FLEET OF BULLET-PROOF 'BEAST' CARS, AS THEY ARE CALLED, IN A 100 CAR CONVOY?
WHEN YOU SEE ONE WHITE COUNTRY (Netherlands) DOING SOMETHING YOU LIKE, YOU INSTANTLY APPLY IT TO ALL WHITE COUNTRIES.
DOES RUSSIA DO ANY HANDOVER AT ALL?
NO?
IS RUSSIA NOT THE BIGGEST AND MOST POWERFUL COUNTRY IN EUROPE?
DO THEY PRACTICE DEMOCRACY AND HAND OVER POWER RIDING BICYCLE LIKE NETHERLANDS?
NO?
IS HUNGARY NOT A DICTATORSHIP LED BY VIKTOR ORBAN?
IS BELARUS NOT A DICTATORSHIP LED BY LUKASHENKO?
IS TURKEY NOT A DICTATORSHIP LED BY ERDOGAN?
IS AZERBAIJAN NOT A DICTATORSHIP LED BY ILHAM ALIYEV?
HAS HE HANDED OVER POWER WITH BICYCLE, OR IS HE BUSY JAILING DISSIDENTS AND HOUNDING JOURNALISTS?
DON'T EUROPEANS HAVE A ''LONG WAY TO GO''?
PROGRAMMED PEOPLE.
You know you could actually say all of those things you copied from somewhere without throwing an insult?
If you are an African politician or you are part of the people stealing our commonwealth without helping the masses, may you perish in your thoughts and your wealth.
LoneSoldier: I have been away from Nairaland for over a year now, focusing on my life and career. I didn’t plan to come back here, but what I witnessed this past weekend has left me trembling. I cannot keep this secret alone; it is eating me alive.
My close friend, Tunde (not his real name), has been married for 7 years without a child. The guy has spent millions on fertility treatments, herbs, and prayers. The wife always told me Tunde was the "problem" but that he refused to go for a clinical sperm test out of "male pride." I always pitied her and encouraged Tunde to go, but he remained stubborn.
The Timeline of the Betrayal:
Friday Evening: I met them at a lounge in Ikeja to celebrate. Tunde was over the moon, buying drinks for everyone. He told me, "Lonesoldier, God has finally remembered me!" He was even showing me the baby clothes and a stroller he already bought.
Saturday Afternoon: The wife called me, sounding very troubled. We met privately because she knows I am Tunde’s closest confidant. She broke down crying and confessed: She is 3 months pregnant, but the baby belongs to their Church Marriage Counselor.
The Reason: She said she "helped" Tunde because he is "useless" in that department and she couldn't wait any longer.
The Cover-up: She told me the Counselor himself advised her to keep the secret to "maintain peace in the home" and give Tunde the joy of fatherhood, even if it’s a lie.
I haven't been able to sleep. Every time I see Tunde’s WhatsApp status with "Thank You Jesus" captions, I feel like vomiting. If I tell him, I will destroy a 7-year marriage and a man's joy. If I don't, I am watching my brother raise a marriage counselor's child as a fool.
Men of Nairaland: Is "peace" worth this kind of paternity fraud? Women of Nairaland: How can a woman be this cold-hearted after 7 years of loyalty?
Lalasticlala, Mynd44, Seun... please move this to FP. This is a serious matter. I need matured advice on whether to speak up or mind my business. Trust is officially dead.
Fear Women!
Church marriage counselor? This story doesn't look true. And she is telling you already within a few months of the pregnancy and not after many years which is the usual trend? It doesn't add up.
Are you a suspect in this story? Why are you too close to the wife?
So recently I've been thinking about marriage. Tho I'm in a relationship but the woman I've been dating doesn't really seem to have the same serious interest and intentions like me. I've talked to her severally but it seems she isn't ready to settle down yet. Imagine this is someone whom I've gone to see her people and they know me well. My own people know her too. I've equally talked to her mom since she's the one parent she has . And had also talked to her best friend about it too.
But one thing I've noticed about her is that she's over religious and seems to be too close to her pastor. The last time I talked to her about the marriage stuff,she directed me to go and talk to her pastor. Tho I was initially furious about it but I just had to man up,kill my pride and decided to pay her pastor a visit.
From the conversation I had with her pastor,it seems he's one of the major stumbling blocks. Because he was only curious about my financial status he was even asking me what was my source of livelihood,and of which I told him. Afterwards,he then asked me what was my monthly salary. Saying if I'm sure I can take care of my fiancee with that amount,or if I'm planning to have a side hustle. That he doesn't want a case where any of her spiritual daughter will go into a marriage where she'll be suffering. I told her categorically clear that I'm not a lazy man and I don't intend to put anyone's daughter into suffering in the name of marriage.
It's been over a week since I left the pastor's office, and since then,my fiancee has been behaving so cold towards me.
So I don't know whether to continue with my proposal or I should just kindly look for another lady to marry.
Seun mynd44 Dominique nlfpmod obembet
Were you able to discuss the finances convincingly with her?
From your narration it appears she/her people are unsure of the financial stability after the wedding. Discuss how the 2 of you will support your family financially and pull through in the new future family.
I think this is her greatest fear from your write up.
attackgat: Mark Rutte holds the record as the longest serving Prime Minister of Netherlands. He became Prime Minister in 2010 and handed over to Dick Schoof in 2024, after a coalition led by Schoof won elections
But how Mark Rutte handed over is a lesson for African leaders. In July 2024 after winning elections, Schoof arrived at the Prime Minister's Office in The Hague for handover. Schoof and Rutte signed the handover documents, displayed the documents for the press to take pictures, after which Mark Rutte came out of the building, got on his bicycle, waved to the New Prime Minister and his aid, they waved back, and Mark Rutte cycled away to his house after 14 years in power. The whole thing did not take up to 15 minutes
Mark Rutte is now Secretary General of NATO.
The Nigerian and African politicians and political leaders have got a very long way to go.
Thewrath: They are all gonna fall in line,even though the US is just testing their loyalty,it doesn’t really need that much help…Israel alone is enough for Iran..EU as a whole is nothing without the US!
You may be right. I doubt Trump is overwhelmed by this war yet. Perhaps he is just testing their loyalty for use against them in the future. I think Trump still has more cards to play that he has kept close to his chest.
For me, the war should end. No need for unnecessary war anywhere. People should live peacefully and do business peacefully.
Guys! Who's to blame for this moral decadence of our genz? . N.B: I am not saying immorality hasn't been there since ages o, just that it has been taking to a whole new dimension, another level entirely.[/quote]The society needs to turn back to God. A godless society has no restraints, no moral compass, no responsibility to higher powers, lack of awareness of consequences in life after here.
The older generation has a share of the blames. Some parents don't care about moral upbringing of their wards. The politicians do things without consequences. Some religious leaders lead double and hypocritical lifestyles. Joblessness. Get-rich-quick syndrome.
We may not like it but an unregenerated soul doesn't care about moral standards. Anything goes. And that is what a godless society looks like.
Nnakatsan: I was talking to a friend recently and she opened up about something that shocked me.
She said her husband had changed… less attention, less affection, always on his phone.
At first, she thought it was just stress. But over time, the distance became obvious.
What struck me was this — nothing “big” had happened. No fight. No major issue. Just slow emotional and physical disconnection.
It made me realize something… Most marriages don’t break suddenly — they fade quietly.
I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately, especially how attraction and effort change after marriage.
For those who are married — what do you think causes this?
Many reasons but we won't know. We can only hazard a few guesses. Isnt it better she sits down with him and discuss challenges he is going through and see how they can resolve it.
Financial pressures can push a man who doesn't want to trouble the wife to withdraw. Denial of sex can. Discovery of an unpleasant secret or info about the wife can. What was their relationship like during courtship? She can just ask what changed first and then take it up from there.
Marriages of a few years old are always challenging. From 10 years upwards, they would have weathered some issues and then push ahead with experience.
PMForce: Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu on Thursday (March 19) delivered a press conference amid the war between the US-Israel and Iran. Even as he spoke about the ongoing conflict in the Middle East, a comment he made about Jesus Christ and Genghis Khan sparked a row, with many accusing Netanyahu of being "anti-Christian."
In his address, Netanyahu said: "Jesus Christ has no advantage over Genghis Khan. If you are strong enough, ruthless enough, and powerful enough, evil will overcome good." His comments seemed to come in reference to a 2019 interview where he summarized historian Will Durant's book “The Lessons of History.”
The clip of Netanyahu's remark went viral, with many interpreting the comments as anti-Christian.
@Grok why did the original poster edit Bibi to remove the context and the fact he was quoting someone else? More important, why didn’t you catch that and include it in your original response?
Grok response: The Disclose.tv post uses an old (~2019) clip with a paraphrased caption that drops "unfortunately/unhappily" and full phrasing. Netanyahu was summarizing historian Will Durant's "Lessons of History": history often favors the strong (Genghis) over moral examples (Christ) unless values are defended with power—not endorsing evil winning.
Even if many Jews don't believe Jesus of Nazareth is the saviour and Messiah promised by God Jehovah in the old testament, they do acknowledge his historicity.
olioxx: I am happy that men are now voicing out against the manipulation that women have hold on men for the longest of time. Gosh I am happy seeing this and this is not only happening on social media but real life. Omoh e sweet me
Omoh peace of mind and self sufficiency is the goal ooo
Some things I have learned about women that has shaped me positively
- Women see men as work machines, the moment you stop being useful, she will just discard you. Now when she knows that discarding you will make her lose, she will help the man find a job to be useful again, many men will say the wife is loving whereas women will never do something that won't benefit them. Look at most married men doing work that they dont like simply to work for a woman and her children. - Women dont think of men the way men think of women, like men are really last thing women think of. When a woman thinks of a man, she wants to benefit from that man. Women will choose the company of another woman or fictitious character ahead of a man, and believe me when I say that this has played out 100% of the time. - Women wont date themselves if they were men. They are always broke and enjoy poverty and wait for a man to lift them out of poverty. The average woman is POOR and they will keep living in that POVERTY while waiting for a man/ - Women withhold sex for manipulative purposes. As I read from someone here is to control your sexual urges too. Women have mastered that art so well. - Women need children to continue to feel HELPLESS and depend on the father of the children or society for help.
Omoh understanding women is the beginning of freedom for every man.
His usefulness expired and so she left him behind, he wasn't informed 😂
This is the foundation of FREEDOM.
It appears you haven't met elderly couples in which case the woman who is younger is fully supporting the husband based on how the husband had supported her over the years?
Life is always a matter of give and take. Nothing comes free.
kingthreat: I met an old friend and all he was doing was hyping his wife. When I visited them together, he kept on adoring her in front of me like he was paid to do it. Financial crisis recently hit them, he now does Uber while his wife via other connections was able to japa alone. I don't know if he's still adoring her or maybe he has hopes that she will connect him to join her.
You don't have the whole tales and so wouldn't know.
There are so many men who genuinely have been helped by their wives contrary to what you see outside. Many good women quietly put in a lot of work to support their families and stand back to allow the man take the glory outside. A wise man who is in this position will reciprocate by using every slight opportunity to praise his wife.
Only time will tell whether your friend's fits into this narrative or whether he was acting. The wife could still assist him or may abandon him. Only time will tell. I wish they bounce back okay. Life is always complicated even for single persons.
God1000: The fear of Iran is the beginning of wisdom, now the rhetoric is changing
I doubt you really understand what Trump said up there. Iran doesn't hold the ace. The US is applying restraint because of mutual interest and the Iranian citizens. He did add that further escalations from Iran will make him change his mind. That is not a position of anyone afraid of Iran.
For me, war is bad. We should all live peacefully and do our businesses without threats from any quarters. The escalation has affected us all.
JackDaAlienz: The man dey shame me bro He get PhD for Simping He is a successful man but his only problem is he is too nice and worship his wife. Mumsi come dey drag am like pet chuwawa Do this, go here. Stop, turn left, turn right
As a guy I go discuss something with popsi Next thing he go say let me discuss with your mum before I conclude. Like seriously!!! Must you involve your wife!! If mumsi come say No Popsi will come and tell me your mother said it's not good idea. So I won't be part of it.
Like excuse me? Who is the man of the house?? I pray non of my kids inherit my father Simping DNA. It is actually shameful
In all of these you haven't said what you all children are doing for your dad. Why would a 70 year old man be washing clothes while you are there watching him?
You are trying to be a better version of your dad yet we didn't see you say how you have supported him.
omakay: Faithful married women out there are faithful because of either of 2 major reasons.
FEAR OF TRADITION/CULTURE.
FEAR OF RELIGION.
If you take the above 2 off the table, we no get any clean woman again for this life.
WHY DO PEOPLE STILL GET MARRIED NOWADAYS SEF?
We have MILLIONS of faithful, responsible, God-fearing men and women all over the world. Just calm down and do your search and you will get. You also need to have same qualities you are looking for in your woman. It's a two-way thing and no double standards.
People are getting married steady. Many are not enjoying their marriage. And many are enjoying theirs. Marriage is for mature minds and for those willing to put in the works and the sacrifices.
Is it justifiable to be faithful because of deterrents like family name, self pride, self commitment, marriage commitment, discipline, societal constructs, religion, fear of God, fear of failure, fear of getting caught, fear of the negative consequences of cheating, etc etc?
Yes all of those are good if they make you responsible and faithful. We all have motivations for living right. Nothing wrong with that.
Pacesetter123: Other workplaces do,but those that top the chart are those that do night duty.
.. health workers
.... aviation industry (airport environment) ..... security/uniform organization (police,army, immigration,fire service,etc) ....big broadcasting media houses.
If you have ever worked in those places that have night shift duty for at least 10 yrs, you will know what I am telling you. The temptation is too strong at night being frequently together with opposite se.x coworkers.
After a night shift one returns home to meet one's spouse. It's not a difficult thing to quench all sexual emotional fires with one's spouse after each night shift.
It's not a difficult situation unless one is weak and is hiding behind their moral failures to blame night shifts.
Why should one be thinking of sex sex sex after a few hours of enjoying with one's spouse? Think of money to feed your children and think about the other pressures of life
gentlegiant95: lol. You're correct with the ranking. Didn't know about civil servants until I got posted for the first time as a newbie, within a week i was flirting with and bedding the lady i shared an office with. Way older than me 🙃 . Six months later I was posted out sha, and just before then a guy was posted there who happens to come from her place, and their body language suggested she did same with him. She told me how from their conversation she discovered he's married to her childhood friend. A year down the line, We aren't as chummy as we were, but we still jamming. While I was in the same work place with her, I suspected she was/has been passed around, from my observations and by listening to what she wasn't saying.
N/B: she was always telling me of how she's being disturbed by the men in the office and how she doesn't wanna get involved with them.
If you story is true then she is really a weak human. Not everyone acts that way. Not everyone will act that way. There are many women who get irritated by this kind of stories or by anyone touching their skin aside from their husbands. It's a mindset and it keeps them faithful to their spouses.
It's not even about money because there is always someone richer than one's spouse always. If it's about money or meat or favors, then the entire world would have collapsed on gratifications.
omakay: Faithful married women out there are faithful because of either of 2 major reasons.
FEAR OF TRADITION/CULTURE.
FEAR OF RELIGION.
If you take the above 2 off the table, we no get any clean woman again for this life.
WHY DO PEOPLE STILL GET MARRIED NOWADAYS SEF?
Why aren't the unfaithful faithful because of these phobias or societal constructs you listed?
It boils down to self discipline and firm resolve to be chaste and faithful in the midst of all temptations.
That counts .
Almost everyone is rested with money, greed, bribes, sex, drugs and all good things. But we still have many responsible people who don't succumb. That counts and that is how the world is designed.
Fiscus105: People sleeping recklessly with one another in all professions, you only seeing the ones in your own environment and thinking it's the highest.
Have you gone to university community and see how recklessly they sleep with both students, married and unmarried women?
What about film industry? All these upcoming actresses are food to devour.
You can also go to local government as well ,you will think, no other sector can beat them, when it comes to immoral affairs. I know a wife who is leaving with two different men for past 5 years. She works in out-station while husband staying in the capital city, by weekend, she stays with husband, and for work-day, Monday to Friday's morning, she stays in concubine' house.
What about banking sector? Among traders? I will advise you to go and do enquiry about butchers, they sleep with all shades of women, married ones inclusive, even religions' houses are the the worst.
[b] Wherever men and women meet, it's bound to be romantic relationships.[/b]king
Just appears everyone here is struggling to beat the other at storytelling with embellishments.
Get a responsible god-fearing spouse and have peace of mind. Whether in the health sector or banking sector or educational sector or the hospitality industry, a reasonable, god-fearing, responsible and intentional spouse will wade through the temptations and intentionally decide to be responsible and faithful to their spouses.
FitCorper: Happy weekend everyone, hope we all are doing fine?, I won’t be long but very concise. Pls men out there if you know you’re a legit hustler and want the best for yourself, pls do not sleep with any sex worker, (street babe or corporate), wether free sex or monetized sex, it will keep setting you back and end up crumbling your source of livelihood. Be warned! Leave the hooks for the frauds.
Reckless sexual lifestyle is highly condemned by God and our society.
For peace of mind, all sexual relations should be within the confines of marriage.
Malagans: Mention that worst thing you once overhead while pretending to be sleeping.
It could something bad that was said about you or someone else. It could be an evil plan against someone else. It could be a bad gossip about you or someone.
Nothing. Just the noise from my children running up and down or my wife playing music while working.
ExudeLoveToAll: Who b ur plug, your highness no be here.
According to Gemini, this is the fact check from the rubbish you posted
The information you've shared contains a mix of extreme misinformation and some elements of current events that are being heavily distorted. Based on the most reliable reports as of March 1, 2026, here is the factual breakdown of the situation:
1. USS Gerald R. Ford (Not "Kiniko" There is no "USS Gerald Kiniko." You are likely referring to the USS Gerald R. Ford (CVN 78). The Fact: The ship has not been sunk. It is currently operating in the Eastern Mediterranean as part of "Operation Epic Fury." The Rumor: While the Iranian Revolutionary Guard Corps (IRGC) claimed to have struck the USS Abraham Lincoln with missiles today, there is no confirmation from the U.S. Navy or independent sources that any American aircraft carrier has been sunk or even significantly damaged.
2. ICBMs Heading for U.S. Cities The Fact: There are no confirmed reports of 40 (or any) Iranian ICBMs currently en route to Washington, New York, or California. The Context: Iran claimed to have tested a long-range missile capable of reaching 10,000 km earlier this year, but experts and the Pentagon have expressed extreme skepticism about their ability to strike the U.S. mainland. A massive launch like the one you described would be detected immediately by global early-warning systems and would be the lead story on every news outlet worldwide.
3. Marine Casualties The Fact: The U.S. military has confirmed that three service members were killed and five were seriously wounded today. The Discrepancy: Your source claims "over 200 Marines" were eliminated. This is a massive exaggeration. The confirmed deaths were reportedly ground-based forces in Kuwait, not a mass casualty event on a naval ship.
4. Ayatollah Ali Khamenei's Status This is the most confusing part of the current news cycle. The Conflict: Iranian state media (Press TV) and several news outlets have reported that Ayatollah Ali Khamenei was killed in a joint U.S.-Israeli airstrike in Tehran on February 28/March 1. The "Faked Death" Theory: There are viral social media posts (including a fake photo from the Sahara Desert) suggesting he is alive and in hiding. However, the Iranian government itself has declared 40 days of mourning, which they would be unlikely to do if it were a ruse to "make America relax." Summary Table
Romance › Re: As A Woman, Never Do This With Your Colleague At Work by amoco(m): 5:31am On Mar 29
he was even asking me what was my source of livelihood,and of which I told him. Afterwards,he then asked me what was my monthly salary. Saying if I'm sure I can take care of my fiancee with that amount,or if I'm planning to have a side hustle. That he doesn't want a case where any of her spiritual daughter will go into a marriage where she'll be suffering. I told her categorically clear that I'm not a lazy man and I don't intend to put anyone's daughter into suffering in the name of marriage.