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rationalmind:
He never said the bolded neither did the research say so.

He can as well say not even painful at all. The pains is not something you can explain. And stop using the example you gave (to flog the girls and see their reactions afterwards) as a basis for this. (dont mind my typo error, breastfeedin and typin at d same time

Child birth not painful? I dont know what to tell this op. You think is the same as going to pass excreta abi.

Why not. I did and i am not regreting it

Speak Hausa with my siblings, Igala with my parents while in my home i speak English with my husband and sometimes little yoruba

[quote author=LewsTherin post=27157456][/quote]Thank you so much for this advice, i appreciate.
The reason why i stood my ground at the third attempt was at that same time she came up with the first bussiness idea, i also want to go into bussiness. I 've stop working for some time now and to be a full time housewife is a no no for me. But i had my reason why i allowed her own push through and i made sure it was a reasonable amount.
Some folks just feel because you stay in a big house and drive cars means you have money (I mean physical cash) at all time

Amusaopeyemi:
It still happens o, especially when the person is from a particular tribe your parents. Don't like.
I've seen parents telling their children not to bring home girls from certain tribes.

You are so correct. Especially if they have stereotype that particular. I hear some parents saying "my daughter/son can't marry from that tribe because they are fetish and are unfaithful in their matrimonial home". Its not about a tribe but an individual

[quote
author=LewsTherin post= You are not being objective here, i will certainly not create an avenue for him to choose between me and any of his siblings. I happen to be the secound to the last of my family, and some of my elder ones were married as far back as when i was in jss1 and their wives did'nt so why should i do unto someone what i wouldn't want another to do to me. I was even the one that forced my husband to give her the first cash and i wont want to disclose the amount here but it was quite a large sum.
Thank you so much for the delay tatics idea you gave to me, i will definently use it.

[[ LewsTherin/quote] To be sincere with you, at first i was even the one that encouraged my husband to give her the money to start a bussiness (certainly not from the joint purse) but nothing fruitful came out.
The next time she came up with another story i kicked against it but my husband persuaded me that we should give her another chance, still same story. on the third one i stood my ground and he said ok, not knowing that he gave her the money from the joint account.

[quote

author=LewsTherin post=27123662]That aint right. That's a total betrayal of trust. Although, your
husband may be trying to avoid a confrontation between you and his
sister and so is trying to keep you from knowing about such transfers.
Still very wrong.

For me, I get the email alerts and my Lady gets the text alerts. Exactly
what he said, avoiding a confrontation between us. But the end of it
was more than a confrontation. My income there is not up to 12% of the
total sum but i still deserve to know what goes out because it is called
a joint account.

[quote
author=ultrazone post=27118482]This is a new dimension to the joint purse idea. Personally, I believe
the onus lies on both partners to keep the trust solid if they want to
see it work. Your husband must have expended efforts to earn your trust
again before you could continue...or what is your reason for still
sticking to the arrangement despite the shattered trust?[/quote]i saw to the reasons he gave to me while he did that. Between for now i am not working, so his money goes into the account for now.

My husband and i have a joint account, the alert goes to one number (which we all know is his). Few months ago i was so bitter with him, what he does is to send money to his younger sister, with her unending bussiness ideas that we have not seen any profitable one out of them all through that account and immediately delete the alert sent to his phone.
I wont advise my younger sister to operate a joint account.

signs of end time. What was he thinking?

I got to know about the igala speaking part (Anambra west) during my service year in Awka. I was a onyekusi (teacher) and a student in my ppa was bearing an igala name but claim to be an igbo. I confronted him and told him to tell his dad that he is an igala and not igbo.
To summarise the story, he came to school with the dad next day. The man was even having igala tribal mark and speaks igala fluently.

My MIL started as the lion/Tiger type. As soon as her son told her he wants to get married, she became something. She will call her son at 2am crying just to tell him not to marry me.
But now she has graduated to the motherly type, she confess to me that she was actually brainwash by some people that my tribe are bad and fetish.

MNDY:
[@Amuga] Oma abo ugbo e che?

Abejukolo Ife

[quote
author=MNDY post=26887280][@Amuga] You may be Igala by tribe from your
reference to the "Obala Degwu"! Is your "Amuga" the one Igalas
bear?[/quote]yep

[quote
author=MNDY post=26885825]This happens everyday in church! The pastor's
countenance is that type that hardly smiles and you find hard to
differentiate between whether he is angry or happy!

He usually bashes the tithe defaulters strongly whenever it is time!
Calling them cheats & thieves in an Igala phrase that is extreme and
very very derogatory - "Obala Degwu."

Hilarious in each occurence but very disrespectful! Some of the
defaulters take it lightly, others don't! He on the other hand is very
serious about it![/quote]Obala degwu je li, Lmao. No one should be cajole or force to pay tithe

I wont advise anyone to marry a person they dont love. They may end up loving each other at the long run, but it takes serious efforts.

I would like to know what your line of discussion would be with your
brother.[/quote]@mekula, in as much as i will like to be objective i wont take it likely with her on the third scenerio. I use to pray for my brothers not to encounter women that will end up being knives instead of wife.
I will advice my brother to carry his cross properly, he can't tell me he didn't notice this attitude of her's during courtship. He choose to ignore her or even quarrel or fight with anyone who tries to talk him out of marrying her. He should dance to the music.
I will tell him to never hit her and if she persist, send her packing or better still leave the house for her.

valmunich: Lol... Do you prefer he hits you instead?

I dont like any........... but silent treatment is better

valmunich: Lol... Do you prefer he hits you instead?

I dont like any....... but silent treatment is better

[quote
author=valmunich]People still beat their wives? Silence for me does it,
just deny her the attention she used to feed on for few days, believe
me she'll die inside. [/quote]I hate silent treatment. I feel like strangling my husband whenever he does that.

you can't love someone and not be a little jealous of what goes around the person.But some people jealousy are too extreme that they become a monitoring spirit.

Nice one op. Especially on the area of IN-LAWS and money.

berem: Yes I had my secondary education in the north and I do not work for APC.

ok. Thank you for the matured response

Berem: Have you stayed in the North before or do you work for the APC?

What can seperate my mother inlaw from putting ankle chain. Lagos women i hail una.
Imo, it doesnt look decent to me, though i had to put it on when i travelled to lag to meet her.

According to my 12yrs old nephew he said, Nigeria is the first Africa country to have the cure to Ebola.

"You wont be seeing me often" that is what i usually tell my friends who got married before. But now that i am in the same club with them i call and visit them often because we have something in common to discuss and learn from each other.
Which kind friendship single dey do with married? You are discussing about Jide and Akoji as your latest guy, while she is thinking on what to cook for her husband.

anonimi: That husband nor be better person abeg!

I tell you

This is a good one @op. some men should learn to include their wives at making such financial decision.
A friend of mine was lamenting seriously yesterday that whenever her husband wants to give money to his steps, (he is the only child of his mom) as soon as he see her coming he will change the topic or tell them to meet him in the office thereby portraying her as a bad person.