Successtube: I never thought I’d find myself contemplating divorce just two years into my marriage. As a bachelor, I’d look at couples splitting up and wonder how they ended up there. Didn’t they date and get to know each other first? Didn’t they see the signs? And yet, here I am, standing on the brink of making the same decision. I dated my wife for a year and three months before we got married, and I thought I knew her. But I was wrong. She lied and pretended to be someone she wasn’t. Now, I’m starting to see who she truly is, and it’s tearing me apart.
Immediately after our wedding, I noticed changes in her that hadn’t been there before. One month in, we were not having sex like any newly married couple would. Every time I tried to be intimate, she’d have some excuse—a headache, feeling tired, or being stressed from work. I tried to be patient, thinking it was just a phase. But it didn’t end. When I finally asked her what was wrong, she bluntly told me she didn’t like sex. I was shocked. How could she not like sex? We had been intimate enough times while dating for me to believe otherwise.
“How can we have children if we don’t have sex?” I asked, trying to keep my frustration in check. Her response was indifferent, almost as if it didn’t matter. From then on, she’d sometimes only have sex with me during her ovulation period, like it was a chore to check off her list. It went on like this for over eight months, and I felt more and more disconnected. I felt unwanted, unloved. Every attempt to bridge the gap between us only seemed to widen it.
But the cracks didn’t just stop there. Through a relative of mine, I managed to get her a job that paid her 300,000 Naira monthly. She seemed happy, and I was glad I could help. Then, fate dealt me a blow—I lost my job. After months of searching, I managed to find another one, but it paid only 120,000 Naira a month. I couldn’t afford to stay home, so I took it, thinking it would just be temporary until I found something better.
My 120,000 Naira salary barely covers our expenses. I take care of the rent, food, bills, and still fuel my car to get to work. The one that hit me hardest was when our rent increased to 700,000 Naira around the same time my car’s engine gave out, needing another 500,000 Naira to repair. I felt the walls closing in on me. I was struggling, juggling all these financial burdens alone. I turned to my wife, thinking she’d step up and help. After all, she was earning more than double what I was. But all she could offer was 50,000 Naira.
I was speechless. She looked at me and said it was a man's duty to cater to his family, and she could only "assist." Her words felt like a slap. Here I was, drowning under the weight of our expenses, and she was holding back. I had to sell one of the lands I’d bought back in my bachelor days to cover the bills. I never thought I’d be in a position where I had to sell my hard-earned property just to survive while my wife, who I had helped get a better-paying job, stood by and watched.
The emptiness gnawed at me until I reached out to someone who had once filled a different kind of void in my life—my ex. We had broken up years ago because of distance when she moved to London for her studies. But we never really ended things on bad terms. There was always a "what if" lingering between us. Now, in my loneliness, that "what if" turned into late-night conversations, laughter, and the kind of warmth I hadn’t felt in a long time. I sneak out every now and then to be with her. I know it’s wrong. I know cheating is not the answer, but I felt like I was drowning, and she was the only one who could save me. With her, I felt alive again, seen, and heard. Things quickly escalated, and before I knew it, I was back in her arms. It felt like a betrayal of my marriage vows, but at the same time, it felt like the only way to reclaim a part of myself that had been lost.
I never imagined I’d be contemplating divorce, but here I am. I want to marry my ex. I want a fresh start, a chance to feel loved again. I don’t know if I can continue in a marriage where I feel more like a burden than a partner. Maybe it’s time to face the harsh truth: some people change, and some people never really were who they claimed to be. Maybe it’s time for me to choose my own happiness, to take a leap and start over.
Don't make the same mistake I made. Study your partner thoroughly before to married, don't rush!
First off, you owe apology to all the married men that were passing through similar stuff whom you judged unfairly in the past. Your like are littered over the internet space blaming men for not loving harder in their marital woes. Secondly, most women behave same in similar circumstances. Most married men can effortlessly relate with your woes because they are all neck deep in that same shit you are in. Marrying another woman will only repeat history. Was your current wife not loving you well before marriage? Was she not supporting you (or pretending to) before marriage? Why did she changed? The reason for appearing to be good to you was that she needed to marry and unfortunately, you were the best available at that time, not that she loved you. Marriage only revealed that part of her she craftily obscured from view. This ex of yours is currently in that same pre-marriage stage when your wife spoiled you with care to get you to commit. The next phase shall also open your eyes like the first experience. She neither loves you too, but needs to get off the shelf too. My candid advise: Focus on your self and build yourself into a person of value. It is after you assume this stature that you can conquer women if you got the necessary will power. Good luck.
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Who is this damaged apartheid empty head bleating like a ram on heat?
Sannisege: This idiot was with yaradua when he reversed the privation of refineries done by Obasanjo. That all suddenly know the right things to do once they are out of government.
So you mean that Tinubu will know the right thing to do once he leaves office too.
What this just shows is that igbos don't have monopoly of violence
Shey igbos think they can insult anybody anyhow just because they don't like the government in power , that's why they keep getting set up and gaslighted all the time.
They think they can do all they do to Buhari for 8 years to Tinubu but have seen that yorubas are clearly not Fulanis especially online
As if Yorubas are fairing differently under this their inept brother's regime. Yoruba ko, morons ni
Tightpussy2024: High time i built my page on twitter. Single mom of three with different men. Now I am teaching other ladies in order for them to learn and not repeat my mistakes.make sense sha. Then daily pick me tweets teaching women how to treat men Will drop link to my profile when it's ready
You now admit you made a mistake because you are at the evening of your life. How do you intend to convince your female followers, who are now at their prime, that they are making mistakes when no one could convince you of your own mistakes when you were at your prime?
I don't get you people. What has body count have to do with the fact you connect deeply with someone on a level you know will never be possible with anyone else?
Richtaiwo: I thought the world doesn't recognise Tinubu as the president but Peter Obi. Also, no world leader wants to associate with the "notorious narcotics addict".
Anyway, I'm here to see how the same clowns propagating the above jaundiced shyte start typing another whole load of bunkum.
With the current state the Nigerian economy under the man you are gloating about his presidency, i can only say "shame on you".
KnowAll: The APC man is granted by default. OLUMIDE Akpata I am led to believe he is sponsored by someone in Tinubu’s kitchen cabinet. And AI is neighbour from Tinubu on Bourdillon road. So know wahala for Tinubu he can go & sleep on this one.
Na Ododo of Kogi I no trust🤔
Fuel is selling for#1,000 a liter and you are gloating about those that will work for Tinubu in 2027. Are you sure the menace of hunger and insecurity brought upon the country by the same government you are marketing for a second term will allow you see that year?
confusedlady: Cutting your nose,to spite your face. When you finish killing all your own people and destroy the economy of your region with perpetual sit at home,who are you going to rule over,if Biafra finally comes?
He was not only bewitched by the gang into joining them, the exchange people also did bewitched him. How can $1,700 be converted to just #1,800,000? Take the full proceed of your crime so that when you face the full consequences, there won't be much regrets.
EreluRoz: Hmm Anambra women are very wicked, I hope this one is an exception. Check all the housemaids torture in Nigeria 99% of them are from anambra
Defender of women causes denigrating women. This exposes the real woman in you: enemy of other women's progress. Like most other women, you are fake and filled with jealousy .
UpaIweka: I love how igbos are now insulting Yoruba elders across board From Adeboye Kumuyi Soyinka Joke Silva Fashola n now Bode George. They should include Obasanjo and all others who supported Obi, soon Obasanjo go collect and the rest of them go get sense. Igbo can have the presidency anytime they want but a foolish soul like Obi who can caution Obidient on tribal n religious insult will never appeal to the majority of Nigerians. Fools like this Ibe should continue insulting every elders from all part of Nigeria that is how to quickly get Atiku into the presidency.
Poo mixed with small brain cells. You must drag Obi's name into every issue. The bruises he inflicted on you people no dey heal? Get well soon
flokii: Hotels, clubs, restaurants.. those are the biggest investments in South East, it's Lagos and Ogun they troop to to look for Company job.
You asked us to go back to our state and we needed. This is just the beginning. Lagos will soon grind to a halt. The people that built Lagos are out price it. Zion ministry has taken the lead, this mega project and many others are following suit
EreluRoz: And she didn't arrest him? Ordinary shout sef I don run leave you. Some women can tolerate rubbish sha.
If you smell any traces of abuse in a man, run away and never look back. It's not hard to do hian
We men now run at the smell of any trace of narcisism in your gender. No need to shout or hit anyone. Even the gods cannot help any woman that is destined to die single.
Imagine selling your N50m property to relocate to the saner clime, only to find yourself in the wrong place at the wrong time, few days after arriving.
May the demons of the saner clime not find us as victims.
All these tantrums is to sell narrative that we should support Tinubu's bad government and refuse to Japa from this killing field called Nigeria to Germany if he has the opportunity because one can be killed in a possible stabbing attack at the chance of 4 people in about four years. It really takes having a medically confirmed dead brain cells be an APC apologist.
FreeStuffsNG: Facing a crumbling economy, global calls for boycotts, internal strife, a shortage of troops, and war on several fronts, Israeli authorities have continued to sabotage ceasefire talks that could quell regional tensions
“All roads of political and military rank lead Israel to the slope … Israel has entered an existential spin, and it may soon reach a point of return,” Brik concludes.
Some people hide in Nigeria, in their comfort, and hype war as if they have ever in their own lives seen the kind of magnitude of war going on currently in Israel, Palestine and Lebanon. Is that not the height of hypocrisy? Smh.
Whole Northern region of Israel is now a war zone and no school is resuming there next month. Isrealis are currently living in camps away from their homes.
This feedback from the retired General is the new reality gradually setting in. Both sides can't be at peace and the world can't continue watching the genocide in Gaza or ignore the fatality of the October 7 attack. Both sides should stop the war and embrace peace.
It's been over 10 months that Isreal, in spite of its touted military might and backing of the west led by the USA, has not been able to defeat a small army of poorly armed Hamas fighters and had to resort to blowing up the buildings and killing mostly civilians and innocent babies/children.
Both sides should end the war NOW. Check my signature for free stuffs!
It will certainly be your delight as a terrorist sympathizer if Israel collapses. Why are you bothered about this prediction?
This idiot and his entire generations will never know peace or progress. Afflictions of diverse nature will always be their experience forever and ever, Amen
They are the same set of ladies that eat Arab men's shit for dollars in the porta parties they frequently attend in UAE. See how they are shaming other innocent Nigerian ladies.
Anybody can start a war, but no one knows how it will end. Modern warfare has changed over the years.
You can destroy a physical structure but not an ideology Conflicts in ideology is better resolved by negotiations.
I believe this is an agenda, that has been planned a long while back All these so called instigators are all part of the plan.
Iran like all other Oil rich countries, the USA has gone to war with Is their target for a forceful regime change ?
Brazen attacks on a sovereign country like killing a diplomatic guest Is like sticking your finger in someone else's mouth and accusing them of biting it.
One day....just one day, the war mongers will go to war and never come back.
And that day will remain in you terrorists' immaginatios
Politics / Re: Tinubu And Dangote Playing Kalokalo Over Nigerians by Amumaigwe: 6:58pm On Sep 03