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to all my Nairaland thank so much for the advice. i love you. please dont stop to sent me advices

sauer
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thanks for nothing. i know the are still good nairaland people out there and they will give me advice wooo

sexy74 (m)
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PLEASE thanks for nothing. is better to say nothing than to write what you said. nawaooo for you

My Nairaland please help

i have a friend which to the best of my knowledge i am open to her. we share a lot together. good memories and bad memories. we shared a lot of advices together to such a stand that i see her as a sister that i never had. i love and care about her so dearly and she is among the people whom i hold dearest to my heart. she is doing well by special grace of GOD and i thank GOD for that. i have been going through a set back recently. i bought goods of about R32 Thousand rand, planning to sell them so that i can be able to raise more money to travel out with my kids. but the devil is a lie. i am a (South AFRICAN IN SOUTH AFRICA) most of the goods which are moving here are what they called I legal. i bought Nike, Adidas and Uzzi and sports wear. The police were given information and came to where i put them and raided the place. i felt like dying for that minute, up to today sometimes when i think about that day i feel like it just happened now.i am the first in three girls at home. no brother or sister, so it means a lot is expected on my head at home.i am a single parent with 2 of my own kids. after the raid, she came in and help me out with a R3000 thousand rand to re start again. Well i did that and i will forever be grateful to her. since that incident, mmmmm my things have been going from bad to worst. i am not even able to save even one Rand. with no one to run to again, i ask her to help me out again as my business is going down. she told me that she can help me out with any amount of money but here are her conditions
1. i must park out from where i am staying with my kids and she will get me a one room accommodation
2. she will pay for the place until i am on my feet.
3. she will give me money to but enough goods to sell and be able to make a turn over

where i am staying, i am not paying rent and i am not buying food. no matter the pains and the abuse i go through each and every day from the place but the is a promise of me i told her she must start doing those things first before i start seeing my self and my kids homeless. she is involve with a Niger guy for almost a year now and the bobo is not working but is also non of my business because they love each other. she just been put to bed of a baby girl a week ago. she is the one doing everything of the guy from head to toe. well that is not a problem they are both adult and i believe they have agreed on some other things which i know she will not tell me. but never the less, she always complain about the guy using her money for drugs and other ladies or clubbing. i always told her to be patient things will be fine. i never in one day tell her, leave the guy, or send him packing, or stop giving him money. i knew very well how much she love the guy so even if you will tell her to leave the guy, she will tell the guy what i said. so i was avoiding to be in the middle of no where, but i always pray for GOD to open ways for the guy to get something doing so that things can be better for them. cause before two months they met, my friend was pregnant for him. so i always consider the pregnancy before talking what is not right. then who is she to tell me to leave the man that is the father of my second child? where i don't pay rent, or buy food, though he cant give me money to start something of my own or help me out in anything which needs money. fine if Niger guys are bad, why is she keeping one for her self? mmmmmm . she told me about a month ago that she will borrow me something to help in my business, well the day which she promised me came and she entered voice mail. well who am i to ask questions. i send sms, call her phone but she didn't pick my calls nor reply my sms. after a week she now send me sms, read like this, do you still need the money? no greetings no bye. well poor people don't have choice, I SAID YES IMMEDIATELY. and she reply how much? I SAID R3800. and she said it is too much for her, she has a lot to do with her money, accounts and lots of responsibility at her hand. well i reply by saying, anything that she is bale to borrow its fine with me, i will manage it. she now said fine but i should give her time again. well the time came, i called her more than 20 times, send her sms's but no respond. on the proses of doing that, i just forgot my mobile phone on the table where i was sitting and when i realized that, the phone was gone. someone stole it. i went home so sad and frustrated. after few days, i manage to get hold of one of our friend and she told me, that my friend has been put to bed with a bouncing baby girl. with that joy and excitement, i ask her to give me her number as my mobile was stolen few days back when i was trying to get hold of her. well i called her and i told her i want to come and see my baby ( my son's wife) she told me her car is fine, she took it for service, ahhhh with shock due to where she is staying now, i don't know the place, she just bought the house newly ( one month). so i ask her if the bobo is not around to come and take me there, she said fine, she will call the bobo cause he is around my area. it was in the morning time when i make that call. i waited till afternoon, no one came, so i called her again that i am still waiting for the bobo to come and take me. she said fine he will come. no one came. well the following day, i call again, i ask her if she don't want me to come and see the baby? she said no, is not like that. the bobo will come and take me. fine i waited again, mmmmm nothing came out. and i told her i don't have a mobile now and i am using the public phone to call her but the bobo knows where i am selling. i waited till the following day. i called again and the phone took me to voice mail, i left five voice mesages to her and up to now no respond. i don't know what to do now? well i am not going there for the money but to see my baby girl. i was thinking maybe she is afraid of me because a month ago, she send me sms that when she deliver the baby, she want to kick out the bobo, maybe because she has delivered now, she fear i will ask her how far? but she knows me very well that i never in one day mentioned with my mouth for her to kick the bobo. so what is her problem? Nairaland what must i do now? did i asked too much? help me out please. i still love and care about her. she is my best friend no matter what she is doing to me.

brother this is the time for you and GOD. no amount of advices can help now but the intervention of the almighty can help you only if you believe. i believe you are in Nigerian please go to THE Lord's Chosen. My friend was healed of HIV 1 & 2 RECENTLY there.

mmmm nawaooooo guy i am very interested on this one. please make everything open here on the forum. Nairaland is a family in case you have forgotten. please open it well. take care

mmm well i don't support for them to separate. i don,t know what lead the poor woman to do that, but something is wrong somewhere. is never too late for anything. all the balls are in their hands and now is time for them to seek GOD, may he help them. the shoes are too big for my legs.

man i feel so sorry for you but don't worry. one day you will look back and smile over it. if to get another wife is a problem, hmmmmmm don't worry, i have a friend who is looking for a GOD fearing man, loving, caring, understanding and full time working or legal business man. if you fit the description please send me email on my private mail so that i can hook you up. i am not an enemy of progress, i want you to be happy again. well by the way she is a South African, You know how we are created, BIG BIG LOAD TO CARRY ALONG. i hope you get strength. byeeeee. oooh here is my email tinavuyo@yahoo.co.uk

y me thank you for the advice, please i am having one child with him age 3 yrs. i have my first son who is 14 yrs before i met him. he is the father of my younger son not the older son. today is 7 years since i met him. thanks

odunnu, if you don't have any advice for this girl, please don't insult us. keep your comment to your self. or better still before replying to anyone on Nairaland read the story 10 times so that you can be able to understand, it will help you a lot.

i don't know what to call you, i am still looking for a words which can describe how crazy you are. may GOD FORGIVE YOU. are you a Nigerian? yes you Bleep them so what? yes you can break the family apart but let me assure you. he who laugh last, laugh the best. are you jealous of them? see one day you will be married to someone you love dearly maybe with kids involved and here they show up, you Bleep us, wife, sister and mother. do you think your wife will wait for that shit? she will be afraid of you around every female in her family. who knows maybe you have bleeped your mother already as you don't have respect, pride and shame as a man. may GOD have mercy on you. take care

girl just wake up and smell the coffee, you are so lucky to have a man that is following you with a marriage story. see do you know the true meaning of love? stop playing games. just give the guy chance to marry you, hm-mm marriage is a pride of a woman. let the other guy that u claimed you love sort his shirt out first. you said he want to settle his family first ,yes and when is that going to happen, please i wasted my seven years on mission impossible, don't wait for him. MAY GOD give you wisdom. how old are you self?

well, i understand what you are going through. let me leave your age aside as sometimes a 40 year old man do Bleep up. you were suppose to wait for her if you truly love her. she was just less than an hour late. please give her time to rethink herself out. you can wait or move on. MAY GOD help you.  

i am a south African, please don't talk like that about the Niger babe. i have two friends and i am very proud of them. give them chance

girl friend, i think you should put everything in prayer for now. living a mistake life is not good, i know from experience. take care please

my country is South Africa. thanks for all the advices, care and most of all thanks to all who send me their prayers, GOD will never forget you all. i feel better now, i know my tomorrow is coming. thanks guys

i am involved with a Nigerian man. he is from ABA state. a full igbo man. i met him seven years ago. when i met him i was a prostitute and him he just came newly in the country. he was always holding a holy Bible, preaching salvation to me. then i didn't know God. Glory be to God through him i receive my salvation and turn my life around. we rented a place where he started cooking Nigerian food. i use to go around to deliver food and also help with other things beside cooking as i didn't know yet how to cook Niger food. God with his mercy made everything possible, now he has three shops by special grace of God and he brought 3 of his nieces here. he bought 2 cars which i am not allowed to even drive one in my own country. he started to show me his true colors from no where, when i told him i am pregnant. he told me to abort the baby cause he is married with two kids and his family are in Canada. well i told him i am ready to swallow my shame, i raised my first son alone so God will make a way for me. my nine months was hell as he made it possible for me to vomit the pregnancy if possible. he was now changing women like lady under wear, that is not my problem. i am working for him in his business which he is not giving me any money for myself. i mean like buying cosmetics or cloths, or what of my first son which he met me with. thank God I DELIVER a baby boy,He named him chiwendu. he love his son like nobody's business and he forget he wanted to kill him inside the womb. well i try ed so may times to talk to him but he is playing games and giving me hopes of mission impossible. i told him that i followed him for love not money after all he was not having anything, i am the one who assisted him to have a base here. we are not married. due to he is the one holding his money and i was so stupidly inlove not to safe for myself anytime he goes home. now i beg him to push me and my children out as i can see he is not ready to marry me beside i am not ready to stay with a married man, now that i know.i am a woman and i am not growing younger, my kids are growing so fast and i want the best for them. he promised me so many times to push me out (travel) and anytime when that time reach, he will say another story. what can i do now as i don't have money, even to start my own business. i trapped my self because of love. i ask myself how did i get into this kind of relationship in the first place. six months ago i caught him with my blood younger sister, which he apologies,i am pretending i have forgiven him, i am waiting to be on my own so that i can really tell him piece of my mind that he don't know. he calls me a fool, idiot or illiterate sometimes in front of his younger once. i am pretended to be fine but deep inside i am not. i have no where to go as far as my country is concerned. i asked him not to keep me longer than it is. he has his own family, so why all this? i am the first of 3 girls in my family, so any problem is on my head.no one is working. how do i come out of this mess? please help me out. i only manage by stealing small small money from him but that is not good. if i talk too much about how he is treating me, he will remind me that he picked me up on the street today i have a mouth to talk. if i caught him with a woman, he will tell me not to complain after all when he met me, how many men were sleeping with me? i told him those men were paying me unlike him its free., i am 31 my kids are 14 and 3 years.