uboma:



The loan is not interest free. How do you expect the Civil Servants to pay back conveniently with the lockdown in place when they have to rely on only their monthly salaries (which sometimes payments are unnecessarily delayed).

Without these lockdown and covid-19 pandemic, the Civil Servants have side income generating activities like farming which complements their salaries.

Most important of all, these people are fraudsters, they are not going to give you any loan. They are looking for who to scam. Maybe they have been scamming some people. Rogues.

These people are scammers, I can prove that. They are really organized criminals.

These people are some lying bunch of rogues. After supplying them with everything they asked, the said account officer started a tale of how the company wants him to stand as my guarantor which he can't do. You see their trick; after harvesting your data, they will start demanding for an impossibility. How can an account officer be complaining that he's being asked to stand as your guarantor and that that is not within his job scope. Not just that they want a guarantor, they are asking for an impossible one. These people are crooks.

People, don't bother yourself, these people are only interested in your financial data. You can't give what you don't have. I will still make a post narrating my experience with them.

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Requirements: A minimum of SSCE, a higher qualification is an added advantage. Should not be more than 24 years of age. Good communication skills. Should be somebody willing to learn/undergo trainings.

Company is located in Enugu Urban. Interested applicants should forward their resumé to en.gmaxng@gmail.com

Offer closes 4th February 2019.

Blakjewelry:
everybody should go and their prepaid meter

they refused to give us. We have applied for it for over two years now.

NonsoWow:
Wawa people should pay their light bills and stop complaining just because they are envious that anambra man owns EEDC.

You are abysmally stupid. Your ignorance stinks. You think being chairman of the Board of Directors means the person owns the company. Stupid slowpoke.

There has never been a colossal failure as Minister of power like the current minister of power. They have continued to provide safe heavens for fraudulent organizations like EEDC. EEDC is the disco in South East geopolitical zone. EEDC have been on fraudulent mission. They have refused to distribute prepaid meters. At one point, the network manager of my area told us in a black and white that they are not going to meter everyone that some will keep receiving inflated bills till God knows when. I contacted them on Twitter and they claimed they bill everyone according to what they use while at same time, saying they can't send us a metered bill because we don't have meters yet.

Most people in my community have this old digital meter but EEDC, instead taking meter reading, opt for fraudulently inflated bills. EEDC is so confident that they brag about their scam. NERC being ranked among the top 3 three most useless organizations in Nigeria have no business attending to customers' complaints. NERC is a rubber-stamp organization with Nigeria's resources being sunk in that phoney organization.

Again, we have protested time without number and even matched to the government house on more than one occasion, the governor is more interested is returning to office in 2019 than doing anything in the state. Enugu State Under Fat Ugwuanyi, has been thrown to the dogs.

EEDC, enough of your scam! We will not continue being robbed. We are your customers. Bill us according to meter readings or give us prepaid meters. How can you be expecting a family without AC, no fridge, no use of electric stoves etc,to be paying ₦30,000 monthly? Is this not grand theft? The Nigeria's government have been colluding with criminals to rob citizens.

Bethel711:
Can a student there serve in Nigeria after grad?

No but you will get exemption just like doing a mature programme.

oluwashola4me:
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Have you graduated?

famersfriend:
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Please, is there any other Marshall strain apart from Obasanjo and Foresight? Is there also another Ross apart Agrited.

The Obasanjo Male Line, does it grow fast? Why is that breed of male line not popular, does it have any defect?

Is the Obasanjo's male line broilers good? How healthy is it? Does it grow fast? Is it 100% male?

Orobo2Lekpa:
I wish this writer had better money, he would have loaded his phone with plenty of airtime to call Sai Baba directly

Can you provide Mr President personal phone number?

sonofluc1fer:
Hmmm, the carnal mind will see a seat. The spiritual mind will feel the essence of God deposited like a fart upon that seat.
You just have to believe. And it will work.

The only thing you will see outside the seat is as a result of mental delusion.

lokobyforch:
Abeg make una keep una letter jare. Wetin una do when $26B turn debate.

If we were not in this mess, this letter won't be necessary nor would we be asking questions about any $26B, it would be the affected region that would answer that question.

Open Letter to President Muhammadu Buhari: what are the benefits of being a Nigerian in the world? By Carlos Chinwendu

Dear President Buhari,

Mr President, I am not very comfortable with some of your recent comments on Nigeria. First, you were quoted as saying that the ‘unity’ of Nigeria is not negotiable. I have tried so hard to understand this statement but until now, I have not. My inability to grasp the contextual meaning of the statement is not just because I am hearing such statement the first time, I am not: many other Nigerian leaders have made similar statements. And let me be honest with you, most of us have come to agree that they are only insisting that Nigeria – which is evidently their mill ticket, must remain as it is so long as it continued to provide them tickets for expensive meals and medical tours abroad.

If you have not told us during your campaigns that you are very different from these other leaders, I would have placed your statement in same bracket and you in their category. I cannot do so now until I understand fully, what your own ‘the unity of Nigeria is not negotiable’ means.

While I wait Mr President, I will like to move on. I am just a young man and while I can boast of knowing the history of this country right from the colonial days to this moment, I may have missed lots of things. One of such things is the date the people of this area now known as Nigeria decided to be united as one country out of their self-will. The only unity I knew of was the one done by our ex colonial masters, the British. As a young man – and I believe most young men will like to know too, Mr president, will you be kind enough to remind me and other inquisitive ‘Nigerians’ of the day the inhabitants of this country now known as Nigeria came together and asked the British colonial masters to unite them? This is important, for I shall write yet another letter if my questions are not responded to.

Mr President, I love unity and have always preached about it. While I preach my unity, I also preach against unity by force. Once again, we have come to face the questions I asked earlier. The unity of Nigeria can either be real or unreal. It can be real when and if every constituent ethnic nation had come together and asked the British colonial government to unite them. On the other hand, it will be unreal – that is if the British colonial government forced the people together with the aim of assimilating them into British cultures.

Speaking from what I knew, most of the ethnic nationalities in Nigeria did not willingly decide to join Nigeria. They were forced into it against their will by the British colonial government. I knew much about the Ekumeku war by the western Igbo speaking people now located in Delta State. I knew also of the many resistant groups that sprang up in the east such as the Aro resistance, the Ezza resistance and so many others all for the purpose of resisting the forceful annexation of their lands into the country the British colonial invaders were creating. If they had enough firearms to match their resistance, I doubt if they would be in a Nigeria today. In the western part of this country and in the north also, I read about the resistance put forth by the natives against the annexation of their lands into the country the British were creating. What this means Mr President, is that these people are in what you and I now call Nigeria today because they were conquered by the superior firearms of the British colonial administration. This also means they were forced into it and therefore, did not decide to unite with their neighbors on their own. Mr President, this also mean we are all victims of the colonial trick and hooliganism that was birthed by the Berlin 1885 conference in which European nations had an agreement about how to share the territories in Africa without the consent of the inhabitants.

I am of the opinion that you are aware of these events Mr President and hence, I assume I am only refreshing your memory: that the unity of Nigeria was not originally done with the consent of the inhabitants of Nigeria; that the British forced these people into the Nigeria they were creating merely for their own economic gains. Mr President, this is a problem and gladly, one with a solution. Firstly, we do not solve problems of this kind by pretending they do not exist. We can only attempt to solve them by recognizing their existence. The unity of Nigeria was done by force. And I am open to change my opinion any moment someone comes up with the evidence that the people asked for this unity from the British colonial administration and did not resist it. There are no places in the world were unity is done by force.

Most people in government will want me to desist from this line of talking. Some will say I am heating up the polity while others who like to pretend will say I am only saying things that don’t matter. Mr President, this thing is the heart of the matter: it is the remote cause of why Nigeria is not working. This is fact. Come to think of it Mr President, I have to be honest to you, I do not wish to uphold a forced unity. By insisting that the way and manner these people in the North, East, South and West of Nigeria is not negotiable 57 years after their ‘independence’ from the power that held them, we are simply telling them that their fate had been sealed by the European invasion and they cannot reverse it. We are telling them that they cannot aspire to be anything above whatever the British colonial invaders had intended them to be. Mr President. If this is your stand – and I hope it wasn’t, then it is a bad stand. It is a stand that represents colonialism, tyranny and probably slavery. I will always stand with those who want to negotiate their position. Unity by force in my dictionary is not any inch away from slavery. I believe in the dignity of all humans – that every human is free to define their fate. Don’t you Mr President?

read full http://www.aekwe.com/2017/11/open-letter-to-president-buhari-what-are-the-benefits-of-being-a-nigerian-in-the-world-by-carlos-chinwendu/

What I have seen here is arrogant display of ignorance. Some people are still too warped that they don't know education is evolving, they still want the same old and familiar system. People that thinm a certificate is a certificate only when you tip lecturers and walk from department to department trying to sort out one course. The world is moving black people

As a growing Christian boy, it was always a pleasure to be linked to Israel. As a Christian, Israel is capable of destroying the whole world because God (Yahweh/Jehovah) is with Israel. Having been told and having read and believed that Israelis are special people chosen by God. And that Yahweh, being all-powerful and All-knowing has promised Israelis (Jews to be precise) victory in any war they engage in. In all, it was a blessing to be linked to the Jews.

I am from South East Nigeria, an Igbo by tribe. Most people, at least, over 80% of Igbo people are Christians. Just like me, other Christians see Jews the same way I saw them. Until the arrival of the missionaries, the Igbo people had no idea the existence of anything like Jew or Israel.

However, it became a common story that Igbo people are descendant of the Jews. It started from being Jews by adoption for Christians since according to Christian belief, Jews are the firstborns of Yahweh, the Christian God. To be associated with Jews, just like I pointed out earlier is a monumental blessing.

Along the line, some similarities between Jewish and Igbo cultures started cropping up. I will look into these similarities one at a time; at least, the most prevalent and widely believed similarities:

Circumcision: This is one area I have always had a hard one for. The Igbo Jewish wannabes postulate that since they see circumcision as a requirement for purity just like the Jews, it is therefore a strong indication that Igbo people are descendant of the Jews. This is also strengthened by the perceived circumcision of male children on the 8th day of the child’s birth. However, this practice of circumcising male children on the 8th day was not a prevalent tradition in Igbo land until Christianity found its root in the land. In Nkanu land, a clan of Igbo land, the early people, pre-Christian Nkanu did not practice child circumcision. I remember a story told of my grandfather, he was a street man, had many girlfriends, and also, was a handsome man. He eventually decided to go for circumcision when he got to age of circumcision, he didn’t inform any of his girlfriends that he was going for circumcision and a song was composed by some of his girlfriends, showing disappointment in him for not informing them beforehand that he won’t be seeing them for some times. In Igbo land, pre-Christian era, circumcision was a ceremony.

However, the Jews have been practicing circumcision on the 8th day as decreed by Yahweh in the bible. But we can also glean from other articles that from record and research, the Jews were not the only ones who practised circumcision.

Circumcision is part of initiation rites in some Pacific Islander, and Australian aboriginal traditions in areas such as Arnhem Land, where the practice was introduced by Makassan traders from Sulawesi in the Indonesian Archipelago. The origin of circumcision (tuli) in the Philippines is uncertain. One newspaper article speculates that it is due to the influence of Western colonisation, however, Antonio de Morga’s 17th-century History of the Philippine Islands documents its existence in pre-Colonial Philippines, owing it to Islamic influence. Circumcision ceremonies among certain Australian aboriginal societies are noted for their painful nature, including subincision for some aboriginal peoples in the Western Desert.

In the Pacific, ritual circumcision is nearly universal in the Melanesian islands of Fiji and Vanuatu; participation in the traditional land diving on Pentecost Island is reserved for those who have been circumcised. Circumcision is also commonly practiced in the Polynesian islands of Samoa, Tonga, Niue, and Tikopia. In Samoa, it is accompanied by a celebration. Among some West African animist groups, such as the Dogon and Dowayo, it is taken to represent a removal of “feminine” aspects of the male, turning boys into fully masculine males.

The evidence of circumcision in other culture who do not in any form link themselves to the Jews dismisses the idea or the assumption that circumcision started from Israel and was passed by the Jews.

History: Up till this day, nobody has come up with a comprehensive history of the Igbo people. However, some Igbo people believe they departed from their Jewish brothers during the Exodus from Egypt 3000 years ago. These people believe the Igbo landed in Nri Kingdom. According to them, Eri being an edited version of a Jewish name, Eli was the ancestor of Igbo people. However, historical fact available to us have proven this to be false. We have at our disposal, some pottery works depicting the existence of Igbo people as early 10,000 BCE, while the oldest Hebrew pottery that is found yet is just 3000 years old. When compared to the Igbo pottery work, it mean we have a pottery work revealing Igbo existence that is up to 12,000 years old. From this, it is practically impossible to be a descendant of one who you have much more older history than his. The Eri that these Jewish wannabes see as their ancestor has its history rooted in the 8th Century. How Eri managed to father the other Igbo people who are thousands of years older than him is what I still can’t get how these Jewish wannabes arrived at.

These Igbo Jewish wannabes have other arguments they hold onto. Looking at the Jews and their history, they hold their belief and spirituality in high esteem. While the Igbo people were never aware of any Jewish annual celebration even if they called them by different names, these Igbo Jewish wannabes still managed to convince themselves they are descendants of Jews. It is however strange to not have found the semblance between Igbo and Jewish culture until the arrival of Christianity in Igbo land.

The Igbo Jewish wannabes also claim that Jews and Igbo have common entrepreneurial history, that since the Jews are scattered across the world and the Igbo also scattered across the world, that this is an obvious similarity and an evidence to back up their claim. However, the Chinese are also scattered across the globe and the Chinese never linked themselves to the Jews. In fact, a typical Chinese would consider it an insult to be linked to the Jews.

Right until the arrival of the Europeans, Igbo people never had a homogeneous history. Each clan has almost different historical background from the other clan. Igbo, as a nation was a democratic nation. Each clan was autonomous. The history of Okigwe is different from the history as told by Nsukka people. I believe these people came together on common interest, maybe business relationship, and one language eventually swallowed the other languages, not really that the Igbo people came from one place. When the Europeans arrived, most of the other tribes that constitute Nigeria have a history of their origin, according to the tribe, Igbo didn’t have anyone that tells how the Igbo people originated. I think, it was in a bid to appear like other tribes that some Igbo people came up with the claims that Igbo people are from Israel.

Having looked at our evidence and facts, it will be ridiculous for someone to still hold onto this fallacy that Igbo people are from Israel based on what he read from the Bible while he doesn’t have any evidence beyond the Bible to back this claim up. Summarily, we can say the idea of the Jews of West Africa is a hoax. It is however unfortunate that those making this claim don’t care about evidence or facts, they merely hold onto their beliefs which they desperately wish was true.

- See more at: http://www.knowledgeshamba.com/the-jews-of-west-africa/

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In this section, we are going to look at the Collisions ad Explosions. On our list today, we are going to touch and discuss the following:

Types of Collisions

Elastic Collisions

Inelastic Collisions

Explosions

Explosions: Energy and Heat

Important Equations and Quantities

In most physics courses questions about collisions and explosions occur and to solve these, we must use the ideas of momentum and energy; with a bit mathematics of course. This section allows you to pull the momentum and energy ideas together easily with some specific problems

First of all, we have to understand what Collision really means as we won’t assume you already know the meaning/definition of collision.

Collision is short duration interaction between two bodies or more than two bodies simultaneously causing change in motion of bodies involved due to internal forces acted between them during this. Collisions involve forces (there is a change in velocity). The magnitude of the velocity difference at impact is called the closing speed. All collisions conserve momentum. What distinguishes different types of collisions is whether they also conserve kinetic energy. Line of impact – It is the line which is common normal for surfaces are closest or in contact during impact. This is the line along which internal force of collision acts during impact and Newton’s coefficient of restitution is defined only along this line.

Types of Collisions

We will consider two types of collisions in this section.

Elastic Collisions
Inelastic Collisions

In both types of collisions, total energy and total momentum is always conserved. Kinetic energy is conserved for elastic collisions, but not for inelastic collisions.

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I have received a lot questions on the subject matter above: Of Misandry And Feminism. In this part of the world, not many people seem to understand the difference between Feminism and Misandry. This has in effect made feminism met with strong oppositions; even stronger oppositions from women.

My sister works with a women right group. They empower women while establishing and ensuring that the rights of women are not violated. Many people consider them charity organization. They see them as poverty alleviator. I went to one of her bases with her, while fixing some few things with a woman outside, I brought up the issue of feminism. The woman is not an illiterate, so she understood what I meant when I told her that feminism is gradually gaining ground on our soil. She turned and looked at me in an unpleasant way. She vehemently told me that God will never allow feminism to find its stand on their soil. Shocked I was. Also confused. I asked her why such extreme rejection and opposition of/to feminism. She said, “is it those people that expect us to abandon our homes, be beating our husbands or even kill our husbands? God forbid why I will beat my husband, or even plan to leave my marriage!” I stood lost in thought. I decided to educate her on what feminism stands for. I made her understand she is already benefiting from feminism.

We got to a point, I asked her if she could report her husband to my sister’s organization if he beats her, she responded in affirmation. I said well, you see, that’s it. You now know some aspects of your rights. You no longer feel you are a lower specie that needs to be beaten by a man and all that. However, she insisted that what my sister and her employers are doing is not feminism. That they are only helping people.

Folks, this left me wondering where we got it wrong. I was wondering until one day, I was reading a post from a friend on Facebook, I came across where she mentioned that a man waiting for her to cook for him will die of starvation. Little inquiry revealed to me that the lady is a leading feminist figure. She is divorced. I tried to check her organization, it is filled with single, bitter, and divorced ladies. Whaat? I couldn’t believe it. Are these people out to get a revenge? This is vendetta! It then dawned on me that a lot of leading feminists in our country are divorcees, single ladies, and women who have no family values. And so, the domestic women think they want them to start living like them (leave their husbands, don’t get married etc). I see this as a major setback to feminism in our country.

These women think they are being called on to abandon their homes, start maltreating their husbands, refuse to get married etc. This brings me to the question; when did misandry turn to feminism? We have tons of misandrists who hide behind feminism to unleash their hatred for men. It has also come to my notice that even the men who beat the drum supporting them are doing so in dishonesty. I have noticed that a lot of these men, avoid having any serious relationship with these female feminism (misandrists). This shows they are either supporting them for some benefits or for fear of being attacked by these misandrists.

Let me put it simple, feminism does not want you as a woman to leave your marriage or to start insulting and maltreating your husband. Feminism is only telling you that you’re not a housekeeper. You too can be the breadwinner. The breadwinner must not be the man. Feminism is only telling you that if you are carrying your family as a woman, you are not taking on anybody responsibilities and shouldn’t be expecting a special accolade. Feminism is telling a woman to stop crying our loud thinking she is doing the work of a man because she is the breadwinner of the family.

On the side of men, feminism is telling you that when the child starts crying at night, it must not be the woman that will wake up to tend to the baby. Feminism is telling you that it is not the responsibility of anybody to wash the dishes, change the baby’s diaper, make the dinner, get the kids prepared for school etc, anybody that is disposed can do it. There is this imbalance we already have in our society. Imagine a situation where both husband and wife are working class, returning home tired and worn out in the evening, the man retires into the sitting room and turns to a DJ, hopping from TV channel to the other. This is not right. This is the objective of feminism. Feminism is telling you that nobody should be the panel beater in the house. Man don’t hit woman, woman don’t hit man!

I think we have come a long a way. I believe we have established one thing: feminism is not about dissing men. Feminism is not out to subjugate men. Let’s face it, there is nothing like the brain of a woman. It is established that both male and female brain have the same brain capacity. We have also seen that in blood transfusion, a woman’s blood can be used on a man with no complications, it works just fine like the blood of a man would. This is an indication that women being considered weaker vessels is not a natural phenomenon, it is a society construct. If you need heart or kidney transplant, a woman’s heart/kidney would work just fine like that of man would. It is therefore, not natural for a man to be the boss, it is patriarch. It is society stereotype.

Women are entitled to the same amount of opportunity we give to men. There is no such thing as what a man can do, a woman can do better, neither is there such a thing like a woman should be under a man. Both man and woman need one another so partnership would best describe us than boss-subject cast.
- See more at: [url=knowledgeshamba.com/of-misandry-and-feminism]Knowledge Shamba[/url]

RealAdewole:
can u proof that God did not exist

No, he can't prove that god doesn't exist. He is not the one making the claim, you made a claim that there is a god, he is simply asking for your evidence

Can I write the Certification there as well?

Religion is the greatest evil brought upon mankind by mankind himself. Even the Christians can't agree on the same version of their god. I have similar experience. Mine was that my Christian girlfriend left because I am atheist. She prefers dating her parish priest and his cook to dating a nonbelievers like.

enijoshez:
I knw NIIT offers training for MSCE. U cud contact them, or try aptech

Please where is NIIT office in Enugu? Thank you

I want the training and the exams as well. Thank you

Who knows where I can traing and write MCSE Server Infrastructure in Enugu or Awka? Please help!

Anonymousartist:
Photocopy or what?

What is photocopy?

It is such a painful thing to be separated temporarily from loved ones by distance, time or something else. I remember when I was in a distant relationship. There is every hope we would meet each someday but the thought of being thousands of miles away from each other was heart-shattering. We would spend enormous time on the phone. A day was like a year. Now imagine when you have been separated from a loved one forever. The feeling is always like you are not going to survive it. The shock could make us lose our minds, but in most cases, we carry on. We eventually get over it. At the time of our loss, nothing else mattered except how to rewind the time and bring back to life our loved one.

The above got me thinking. I have observed some strange happening. Even the most hardened criminal among us turns a saint the moment his death is announced. I remember when a distant relation died. Mom, siblings and other people were crying themselves to stupor. I wasn’t moved. I can’t remember the last time I saw this man, that is if I have ever seen him before his death. My mom looked at me and yelled “don’t you know he is your brother, you should cry that he is dead”. Well, I didn’t feel anything for him. His death is like the death of somebody unknown to me. I don’t know why I should cry that he is dead when I never knew him. I don’t even know any of his children. I think that would amount to hypocrisy if I should start crying because it is expected of me to cry even though I have no feeling in my heart that a loved one or family member is dead.

The burial was arranged. They wanted to give him a befitting burial. He is regarded as a powerful man. They came up with a bill of two million (2,000,000.00) Naira for burial/funeral. This money is nowhere to be found. A lot of people made their contributions but it was nowhere close to what they have budgeted. This bill was trimmed down to arrive at this figure. The initial budget was way too high. They finally decided to dispose a piece of land of theirs, this idea returned the budget to the initial budget of three million, five hundred thousand (3,500,000.00) Naira. After the burial/funeral, I came to realize that the two eldest sons are jobless. I was speechless. They have returned to their former ways of hopelessness but they have succeeded in impressing the public that their father was a powerful man. I said to myself, “is this how we love the dead or just stupidity?” Why not sell the parcel of land and establish one of the sons.

I have come to realize that this happening is not just peculiar to my relations but it seems this is an African disease. We give to the dead what we would never give to the living. I once confronted an elderly person in the family to know why we cherish the dead more than the living, she told me it is a tradition, that we must respect the dead as they will never live to have our respect again. This response sounds the most stupid to me. The dead is dead, and will never appreciate whatever you do for it. The living will appreciate, or you will at least cut the world short of a jobless person.

When shall learn to understand that a dead man is a dead and does not need all the pains you cause yourselves to bury him. The best thing we can do for the dead is to bury him, but going extra miles to borrow or dispose our properties to paint a picture of the dead as a powerful and famous person is utter stupidity.

http://www.knowledgeshamba.com/how-we-love-the-dead/

It is such a painful thing to be separated temporarily from loved ones by distance, time or something else. I remember when I was in a distant relationship. There is every hope we would meet each someday but the thought of being thousands of miles away from each other was heart-shattering. We would spend enormous time on the phone. A day was like a year. Now imagine when you have been separated from a loved one forever. The feeling is always like you are not going to survive it. The shock could make us lose our minds, but in most cases, we carry on. We eventually get over it. At the time of our loss, nothing else mattered except how to rewind the time and bring back to life our loved one.
The above got me thinking. I have observed some strange happening. Even the most hardened criminal among us turns a saint the moment his death is announced. I remember when a distant relation died. Mom, siblings and other people were crying themselves to stupor. I wasn’t moved. I can’t remember the last time I saw this man, that is if I have ever seen him before his death. My mom looked at me and yelled “don’t you know he is your brother, you should cry that he is dead”. Well, I didn’t feel anything for him. His death is like the death of somebody unknown to me. I don’t know why I should cry that he is dead when I never knew him. I don’t even know any of his children. I think that would amount to hypocrisy if I should start crying because it is expected of me to cry even though I have no feeling in my heart that a loved one or family member is dead.

The burial was arranged. They wanted to give him a befitting burial. He is regarded as a powerful man. They came up with a bill of two million (2,000,000.00) Naira for burial/funeral. This money is nowhere to be found. A lot of people made their contributions but it was nowhere close to what they have budgeted. This bill was trimmed down to arrive at this figure. The initial budget was way too high. They finally decided to dispose a piece of land of theirs, this idea returned the budget to the initial budget of three million, five hundred thousand (3,500,000.00) Naira. After the burial/funeral, I came to realize that the two eldest sons are jobless. I was speechless. They have returned to their former ways of hopelessness but they have succeeded in impressing the public that their father was a powerful man. I said to myself, “is this how we love the dead or just stupidity?” Why not sell the parcel of land and establish one of the sons.

I have come to realize that this happening is not just peculiar to my relations but it seems this is an African disease. We give to the dead what we would never give to the living. I once confronted an elderly person in the family to know why we cherish the dead more than the living, she told me it is a tradition, that we must respect the dead as they will never live to have our respect again. This response sounds the most stupid to me. The dead is dead, and will never appreciate whatever you do for it. The living will appreciate, or you will at least cut the world short of a jobless person.

When shall learn to understand that a dead man is a dead and does not need all the pains you cause yourselves to bury him. The best thing we can do for the dead is to bury him, but going extra miles to borrow or dispose our properties to paint a picture of the dead as a powerful and famous person is utter stupidity.

http://www.knowledgeshamba.com/how-we-love-the-dead/

Quit taking it