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mayowas23:
hi, I'm just seeing this. If you can reply with your email address, I'd send it to you via email. Yes it's in pdf format. Have you received an invite yet?

Senipapa:
Oh, you should have just said it's a meeting point for highly connected Nigerians, cos we all know say na candidates wey get leg them shortlist, abeg me I dey find work too o, make una use una long leg help a brother.

kelvin91:
Please can someone email me the Gmaths 2007 to my mail.. .. . ugochukwukelvinibeh@gmail.com
Thanks and God bless as you do so.

slyd90:
pls send it to mee too...daayobami@gmail.com....thanks

janengozi:
you will get a job far better than the one you lost

ISTANDWITHBUHAR:
If my wife can raise her hand and beat my 2yrs old daughter then she also deserve beating when she erred.

rawpadgin:
can't imagine myself hitting a woman

have always told guys, if u have to make a woman cry, do that right ontop the bed with ur d1ck as weapon

Cutehector:
If I have ever learnt something in life, it will be never to depend of family relations/family friends for a job...




Its only God dat sends strangers to give u job

eitsei:
COPIED


....... I have two wives. I married my first wife Sadiya when I was 31 and she 21. Then it was love at first sight. I truly loved her and wanted her to be with me for the rest of my life. Sadiya is calm, decent and patient. We have 5 kids. I met my second wife Bilkisu through a friend. This was 14 years after my marriage to Sadiya. Bilkisu is pretty, young and yes .......fresh.
I married Bilkisu. Sadiya was so calm about it that it actually frightened me. Her patience seemed too good to be true. She accepted my new wife and made her welcome.
This pleased me afterall I had seen what some of my friends who attempted polygamy went through. It was not always these easy.
I took it for granted that as a Muslim woman she had to accept her co-wife.
One day recently, Sadiq, Sadiya's first cousin came to visit. They had been quite close for they grew up in the same household. Sadiya and her cousin had lots to talk about. They chatted in the living room and it was obvious they had many pleasant memories to share.
Then I began to feel something..., some form of resentment began to build in me. I began to envy the way Sadiq could make Sadiya laugh so hard, the way her eyes twinkled as they talk. I hadn't seen her look so happy and oh yes...beautiful in a long while. I began to find excuses to make Sadiya leave the room. "We've only just started" Sadiq complained and grumbled as I asked Sadiya to get us some snacks. I almost snarled at him.
When Sadiq finally left after two long hours..... I watched my wife crawl back into her shell. I watched the sparkle fade away and right under my nose, I watched Sadiya become sad. She looked lonely.
It was at that moment it hit me hard. The truth I mean.
Had I failed in my duty as a husband ? I began to ask myself questions.

When was the last time I actually made an effort to make Sadiya laugh? When last did we really sit together to chat and talk about this and that like we did way back when she was the only apple of my eyes?

Is Sadiya happy? I couldn't help but remember that sudden look of loneliness as Sadiq left. This truly bothered me.

Then I asked myself ....if you feel some form of envy because some other guy who is known to you could bring out the woman you once had, what is Sadiya going through?
Hmmm. I thought to Myself. How does she feel whenever she sees me with Bilqis?
A sense of guilt engulfed me. I had been too involved with my new and fresh wife that I had never given this any thought.
It suddenly occurred to me that there were several emotions behind all that patience.
I needed to know
I had to know for that sad look kept haunting me. So I set out on my fact finding mission. Here are my results.

She had noticed some changes in me around the same time I began to date Bilqis.I became easily irritated, easy to complain and difficult to please. I often wore a frown face which scared and stopped her from voicing her feelings.

While I started passing not too pleasant remarks about her physical attributes (this really hurt her) Ya Salaam! I had stopped noticing her efforts to look good, to please me with her dressing, her make-up and her perfume..I even completely forgot to say she looked nice when she did

She had seen me rush to answer sms that came in from Bilqis and look pensively at the phone when I'm expecting her call. It also happened that most times I forgot to reply Sadiya's thoughtful messages and chats. Sometimes I didn't call when I was away from home. (Sadiya always kept in touch).

She watched me come home and all I spent my time doing was preparing for the new bride. In my excitement I got carried away, spent a lot of money and neglected some of the family's immediate needs.

She often initiated s*x, because most of the time I would just lie down there and ignore her. (Bad!!!)

She had to put up with it all cause she never wanted to displease me even for a moment.

She had worried about the new woman coming. Will they be able to tolerate one another. Will she like her kids? If 'this woman could distract her husband even from the outside, what will happen from the inside. Will she ...? She had so many things going on in her head with none to share her pain,her fears. She couldn't, naturally for the fear of being labelled envious.
These are just some of the facts.
How did I gather all these? I sat Sadiya down, held her hands and begged her in the name of Allah to talk to me. She did, and as she did, she fought with tears. I felt truly ashamed. I felt like I had oppressed her.
Did I hear you say so what? Isn't Polygamy a prophetic sunnah and every Muslim woman must accept it? True. My brothers, we need to go about it in manner that will not tamper with the
feelings of the other wife or wives.
Advice.

Never neglect your wife/wives.
Always show concern and care. You may have many to show you love and affection, she has only YOU.

Give her her dues. By these I mean spend quality time with her and satisfy her needs especially in the bedroom. Hug her, kiss her and play with her. Remember you're her only husband.

Take her out once in a while, alone. Go for drives, walks, visits and shopping.
Go for another honeymoon if possible away from your town. If not, to some place near you that you can
afford.

Say good morning and goodnight. Don't wait for her to say it all the time. Check on her daily. Call when you're not around.

Be responsive: that is listen to her and genuinely pay attention. Reply texts and chats. Blow her kisses...

Every woman wants to know her MAN still belongs to her You can belong to 2, 3 or 4 at the same time if you follow the being 'just sunnah of the Nabiy SAW.
I mean don't fail to be the loving husband of each. Never let any wife feel like she's living on the grace of another.

Give her all that is meant for her. Feed her and clothe her as expected. If you do any of these only when a new wife comes in, you can naturally expect bad feelings and distrust. Even the wise among the kids will notice.

Let the older wife or wives know you appreciate them. Don't wait for the arrival of another to say that much expected Thank You.

Never marry and compare. You tell or tease a woman she's old or her breasts are this or that and thereafter take a younger and fresher woman, Ya Salam! You have given her reasons to feel inferior and reasons to dislike the new comer.

Yes you have many to choose from, but you're all she's got.

Above all, it is imperative to communicate. Talking helps to clear minute issues and heals wounds.
So I talked to Sadiya and felt her pain. She loved me enough to be jealous, she loved me so much she bore it all peacefully.
sadiya is a good wife and loving mother. What else could I ask for?
I took my time to earn her love again....and I got it!
I wooed and courted her and it was both exciting and fulfilling as I watched her blossom and glow.
I love both wives. Each for different outstanding qualities.
May Allah forgive us brothers and help us to keep the amana. Women must be cared for and loved.
They deserve nothing less as they strive to please us and compete for our love and attention. This is the sunnah.
Alhamdulillah!


Cc
Mukina2
Sissie

QueenSuccubus:


Men are the one creating DRAMA most of the time..

QueenSuccubus:


Men are the one creating DRAMA most of the time..

akanji4good:
My Personal Information
Name: Adeyemi Moshood Akanji
State of Origin: Osun State
Religion: Islam
My location: Surulere Lagos
Qualifications:
- B.Sc in view
- OND
- Diploma
Age: 30 years
Occupation: Teaching
My Genotype: A A
Blood group: O+
My Phone: 0808 874 5435, 0909 217 3787
Facebook: moshood.akanji@yahoo.com
Whatsapp: 08088745435
Email: moshood.akanji@yahoo.com


My Requirements
1. An Hijab Female Muslim Sister
2. 20 - 25 in age
3. Beautiful
4. AA genotype
5. Employed or Self-employed
6. Ready for Nikah within one year
7. Lovely and Romantic in nature
8. Non-fanatic but divoted in lslam
9. Slim in nature
10. Educated etc.

bobolizim:
Lol, ...the thing pain the guy Gan oo ...All that I see is someone that's really saddened cause someone he truly loves left him. I'm sure there's still iota of love for the girl from the guy ...Did I just hear the guy say karma ? Lol ...
You were playing with other ladies' heart before you met her cause you thought she's there to stay and change you..lol,you were never gonna change ,you guys are the same...you're both hoes , even if she gives birth to a baby for you,you will forever be a hoe you are and she's gonna be the same !

Karma happens everyday of ones life , you've also had sex with some ladies and later broke their heart and now someone just did the same to you , you're embarrassing yourself on the social media !

I hate the way guys think many times,like they can do anything anyhow anywhere in a relationship but the female folks are not allowed to do that . They will tag them as slut ...
Karma goes around and comes around.

SorftWerk:
bleeping yen ma baaadt!

mezynaija:
A Facebook user identified as Kingsley Ugochukwu cries out as he alleged to have lost over N3Million to the popular MMM Ponzi scheme.

He took to his Facebook profile to share his story, read below:

i have been comporting myself and i think is high time to cry out for the word to hear my voice. i was supposed to be paid since on 21 of December but till now nothing has been done, ok the officials told me to provide help of at least 100k that once someone merged for me to pay that they will immediately assign people to pay me... ok i pledged to provide help of 100k since on Friday till now nothing has been done.

now MMM is playing with my 3M that i made with sleepless night!!!!

Zidane52:
Believe me, it's not mere physical attraction. I honestly love that girl. It's the love that have kept me going despite the differences. And i don't know how long i can continue going if/when the love begins to fade