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Hapi buff day madam CC, may u live long enuf to give ur invaluable advice 2 our children's children on nairaland ![]() say amen |
This issue of submission came about because there can't be 2 captains in a ship, just as you don't see 2 CEO's calling the shot in a particular organization; otherwise there will be chaos, a lot of bickering and no progress. I believe this is the same reason why in the Nigerian police force whenever a DIG is promoted to Inspector General, other DIG's are authomatically retired. The person in charge might not necessarily be the smartest, kindest, most loving etc. It just that one person has to call the shot for peace to reign. In marriage, God in his wisdom has decided that the husband should be the one calling the shots while the wife should help him. It doesn't mean the wife has automatically become a door mat, footstool or lost her mind, it's just that there has to be a leader & a follower. |
chinchunqugwonyunchanqwaaaaaa, you won't understand, I'm laughing in chinese |
I love the smell of dust (don't know why), when I was younger I used to deliberately raise dust & then inhale it. Then I will spend sometime sneezing; It was pure *bliss* ![]() |
tpia@:No, the girl is not cold blooded infact I think she is humane & still has a conscience. If she is cold blooded she would have aborted the baby when she realized she was pregnant(which by the way is a very easy/selfish option) or maybe she could have given birth to the baby, dump her inside one gutter in Lagos & go back to school pretending as if nothing happened (afterall nobody knew she was pregnant). But she didn't do any of these instead she cried out for help. I have heard/read many stories of newborn babies abandoned in unhealthy/unsafe places by their mothers who probably found themselves in the same situation that chioma found herself. I applaud her for having the courage to do the right thing. I want to thank everyone who has helped & is helping this girl in her quest to do what's best for her baby, may God bless y'all. |
^^I thought he meant that he's above 30yrs of age, |
maasoap:Were u so blinded by ur hatred for ibos that u couldn't see that the victim is from Akwa Ibom State(Even his name & Local Govt. were mentioned). Or is it ignorance that is worrying you? (maybe you sincerely believe that Akwa-Ibom is an Igbo State) ![]() |
IG + cooked beans=nice ![]() IG + moi-moi= yummy IG + bread fruit pottage = OUT OF THIS WORLD! ![]() where IG is a constant meaning Ijebu Garri. ![]() |
~Minx~:Do you have Children? (I hope not), I think you are making a big mistake; why should you leave him just b'cos you don't feel any more "spark" in your marriage considering that he's trying so hard to make it work. How sure are you that the "spark" with the other guy will last. |
@poster: Is your dad bedridden or , (just curious) 'cos 10yrs seems a long time for him not to have found something doing.It looks as if he has given up & chosen the lazy[s][/s]easy way out; leaving all responsibility for the wife. The way I see it, your mom cannot bear the additional responsibility of getting a house/apartment for your family & the insult will definitely keep coming until y'all pack out. So what can YOU do to help? (are u still Schooling? How old are u?). May be you can ginger your dad to rise up & be a man. |
I don't understand, what exactly do you want to solve? Because it's like you have made up your mind to end the marriage. I don't see how I can help you with this. |
@poster this your story is one sided, you are just trying so hard to portray your aunt as a very BAD person & garner sympathy for your family. Guess what? It is not working. You even sound as if you expected your "WICKED AUNT" to have completed her house, sunk a borehole & if possible put in a generator 4 your family to use (rent free). Wake up dear! your aunt has tried for your family big time, you didn't expect to live in HER house forever did you? She has to complete that building & she can't do that while y'all are still squatting there, can she? |
I don't blame the woman for deciding to settle out of court (though I felt that she should have pushed for a higher settlement, 30k is too small), I blame our justice system that is too slow in prosecuting cases. Who knows how long this case would have lasted (maybe 10yrs)and the woman would have had to be wasting money on transporation coming from Enugu to Lagos & back each time the case is adjourned. And of course with the recent hike in cost of transportation how could she have coped. I believe she wouldn't have settled if she was residing in Lagos. |
I like reading articles or books that explain to me why I act the way I do. This is why I really enjoyed reading this article & took my time to read all the posts. I have always wondered why out of 8 Children born by my parents, I am the only one that like keeping to myself. Others prefer being with friends, neighbors, even one another. When I was growing up (even up till now) I never visited neither did I have anyone visiting me (I have only one very close friend, we attended the same primary sch. were in the same class in sec. sch. & studied the same course in Uni.). When I was in school I never asked questions in class because I didn't want to draw attention to myself (all eyes looking at u &…). I remember in primary 6 during a quiz competition b/w girls & boys, the quiz master asked a question and to my surprise nobody knew the answer not even the intelligent ones in the class but I knew it! The answer was even in my book, yet I couldn’t say it so we lost that point & the competition (I really hated myself for this). Before I started using mobile phone, I used to worry that apart from family members I won’t have any other person to add to my list of contacts & that I won’t be receiving calls. I couldn’t imagine myself standing in front of people to speak (the thought of it alone petrifies me). Thank God I have outgrown my chronic shyness. Even though am still an Introvert at least I’m more outgoing and friendly & above all I love myself just the way I am. ![]() |
This is a dicey situation & from the way your friend wants to handle it, he's gonna end up regretting it. @ poster, you have to advice your friend very well. This is definitely not the time for him to be talking about a secret second wife who he will marry, instead he should concentrate on getting his gf to see reasons why they need to break-up. The truth is that they are not compatible medically unless they don't plan on having children. Otherwise, he had better put sentiment aside at this point & do the right thing. |
In 2Corinthians 12:2, paul mentions a third heaven; this means that there are three heavens: 1st, 2nd & 3rd heavens. First heaven being the air that we breathe(atmospheric), second heaven the place where angels and devils dwell(earths heaven), and third heaven being God's heaven(planet heaven). In my opinion Gen. 1:1 was referring to either the 1st or the 2nd heaven or probably both. Remember that He had already created the angels before he made man. So they must have been dwelling somewhere, |
^^^ , u wan try?? |
lagerwhenindoubt:. My broda no mind them jare, some people dey fall my hand for this country, notin do u! If surulere no work try Ikeja ![]() |
^^^ Pls u guys should not crucify largerwhenindoubt, I understand where he's coming from; seeing as shoprite surulere is the closest he's ever come to anywhere resembling yankee, he expected to see young & funky guys wearing baggy jeans, T-shirts with bling-bling and fancy looking timbaland boots & probably head-warmer. Instead he saw alaba boyz wearing bathroom slippers shouting at the top of their voice what a shock!!! ; |
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AYODEJI4LOVE:I guess in those days women were treated like 2nd class citizens, they had no say whatsoever in how the home was run: all they did was to take care of their husband's/children's need. Their desire & feelings were totally disregarded, that's why most of them had a master-servant r/ship with their husbands. |
I have always wondered why marriages during the time of our great-grand/grand fathers never failed(no cases of divorce), despite the fact that most of them were arranged marriages whereas in our own generation there are a lot of divorces, in spite of the fact that we choose our partners by ourselves these days. Isn't it an irony, what do y'all think? |





