SILVERLINES:
babe don't allow these evening news papers on nairaland to push you on the wrong direction. From what you posted up there I can note that the guy truly loves you and ready not to let you go, stick to him and love him more with these he may change. Others chics out there do envy you that's why they referred you as a witch, most time they approach your guy and other stuff to make sure they break up your relationship, I am a guy I know how ladies of these days behaves they have been waiting for you to step out of that guy so they can occupy the space, and never you let that happen. Moreover you leave the guy the truth is you may not find any other guy who doesn't cheat, we guys do flex no matter how holy or pretend we are.

If you genuinely love him don't let him go

Wicked advice! This is how you people justify evil. What type of nonsense love are you talking about? "Love" that has no respect for her & for their relationship! You want her to settle for someone who has no self-control? A man who is already sleeping with multiple women before marriage? Let me tell you if she leaves him, she will find someone else who is a thousand times better than him... and she would be very glad that she did.

@op, if you want to die before your time, go ahead with that marriage. You will be worthless to him, he will never respect you anymore...he will sleep with your maid, with your sisters, with your friends, and any female that is close to you...and there's nothing you can do about it!
WHY? Because you accepted this nonsense from the beginning... by going ahead with the marriage!

Thank God you have not married him & you've not even done engagement! LEAVE HIM NOW & focus on your life. Don't go into any relationship immediately, just focus on improving yourself, getting a job or starting a business...adding value to your life. If he continues to threaten you, report the matter to the police!
If you go ahead with the marriage...Let me just tell you SORRY in advance, because you will NEVER be happy in that marriage.

mccloud224:


Na becos of shemales like you the word SIMP was created. Wimp,Simp,Sissy....Na niggas like you woman go use 2 by 4 smash your brains scatter...you go still carry your dying self go make report for police station as "real man" wey u be.

Pussified feminazi bitch ass nigga. You are a failed man. If I was Hitler, na your type them go shot die as inferior specie....I ain't joking.

Wimp.

Hiaan...Is it that reading comprehension is no longer taught in secondary schools these days? All you know is how to insult someone, read & understand you cannot! Please kindly go back & read that post slowly... don't you know when someone is being sarcastic?

[quote author=LadySarah post=99281143]In the same situation too. I was trying to adjust but after watching Johnson Suleiman's video, nah! let me keep giving to those genuinely in need.

haven't even been to church this year self. God help. me. [/quo

The worst thing a person would do to himself or herself is to base his/her Christianity on the behavior of another human being instead of a personal relationship with God based solely on His word. When you die & face God in judgement, nobody will be there with you, even the very person that misled you will not be there. It's only between you & your God!

Op...I think you should start ghosting him. Start ignoring him and whatever he does, pretend as if he doesn't exist. Talk to him only when it's absolutely necessary, otherwise anytime you're alone with him in the house, carry novel and be reading. If he says something, expecting you to respond...ignore him. Start giving one word answers to his questions & comments, like yes, no, I don't know, Ok, fine.
Also if you used to beg him to help you do chores or borrow stuff from him. STOP!
When he realizes that you hardly talk to him & he trying to gist with you, and engage you has become an uphill task. His brain will reset and the insults and mockery will stop.

Dear Madam, CNN published their report with evidence. If you claim their report is fake, then present to us the evidence you have that their report is fake. Tweeting accusations that you cannot support doesn't cut it for us.

And for those that keeping saying that CNN has been known for fake news. All I have to say is this: "The truth in the mouth of a known liar will always remain the truth."

cfree14:
So today(Sunday) I decided to stay at home because of yesterday's wedding I attended. Not that I don't go to church but I came back home yesterday feeling very tired, even till this morning.

A neighbour saw me this morning and was like "Bros, you no go church today?" I tried to make him understand why but he kept on telling me how it's wrong not to go to church and stuff.

So the question on my mind today is, why do people tag others who "miss" Sunday service as sinners?

He told you it's wrong not to go to Church, he didn't tag you a sinner.
Of course there are times that someone who is faithful in church attendance may not be able to go to church, it's quite understandable. But you also have to ask yourself if you would have decided to stay at home because you are tired had it been it's work you are supposed to go to. This will help you know what you value more.

If you don't tell your so called friend then it means you're not a good person & you are supporting the girl. Since you said the girl promised to call you to explain, why not record the conversation with her as evidence. Then inform your born again friend what you saw, send him the recorded conversation as well as the contact of that your other friend you went to visit, so that he can confirm what you saw.

It will be a terrible thing if you keep quiet & allow them get married without at least divulging what you know.

My Pastor will always say that next to hell fire is a bad marriage.

nBag:


I like you because you make me laugh every time in this forum. but don't say what you will regret someday.. recall the statement you just made about rapture please.

a humble advice from one Edo boy to another. you still be my nigga

Likewise me, I don't know why but I just like him. You can tell that he's fully into this world & only interested in satisfying the cravings of his flesh without a care about his eternal destination. My earnest prayer for him is that he will have a personal encounter with Jesus Christ (not religion) & become delivered from spiritual blindness & death.
God can use him mightily.

konkonbilo:
the way these white guys care about dogs ehn is beyond my imagination, if you think we're taking care of dogs here in Nigeria just go watch all those videos online that those white guys post on Facebook and on Instagram you go know say we no even de close. The dogs sleep with them in same bed, play with their new born bady and even lick thier skin which can never happen here in Nigeria, there even buy different toys for the dog, some dogs even have thier own bed and chairs inside the house. They call themselves dad and mom of the dogs can't even keep mentioning what they do but it's just so different from the way we train dogs here. If they can treat dogs like humans how much more them treating their fellow humans. Na that side real humanity de no be africa.

Please stop this generalization! I can assure you that there are many families in Nigeria that have pet dogs that are well taken care of; they feed them well, bathe them often, play with them, sleep with them, take them to vet periodically for vaccination & generally treat them like members of their family. We still have dog lovers in this country abeg.

Kissiemu:

Bro do you know that what you do on every thread if a Muslim does it many people will complain to the mods and call it Islamization?
I am a Christian too but take it easy.

Take it easy! People are perishing and you are telling him to take it easy! If you're a Christian, then you must know that there is no more time. Bro. go & win the lost, they are all around you, instead of telling someone doing the job to take it easy.

The Spirit and the Bride says "Come"...

Tickles001:


I was thinking the dark figure is the shadow of the leopard. It was the third picture that gave them away.
It's almost a shadow if not for the eye.

At first glance that was exactly what I thought. It's really amazing & beautiful.

omoadeleye:



Thank God that you're not the wife, you are kinda broke, while your woman is busy supporting you with millions you wanted to support her with just 300k, now she see knows what's on ground and she wanted you guys to economise the wedding, but, your broke ass mindset is insisting on spending above what's on ground... So after wedding, you still wants her to be supporting you with money all in the name of, she is a nice woman, bro wise up and stop doing like a pvssy.

From the post, I believe the lady has shown that she's better at managing money & she's not selfish at all. If the Op is wise, he will allow her to be the one to manage their finances in the marriage, with that they will never get into any financial hardship.

Justarandomguy:
Where dem get the money? Why we no dey buy Ronaldo dem if naija team get money like this

The money is not directly from the club, but from a Life Assurance arm of an Insurance company. The club obviously insured all their players. Go and educate yourself on how it works.

foreverdiamonds:
She made a mistake, she probably wanted to play a fast one. i will advise you to forgive her and continue with the marriage.

It's one thing being tempted by such an amount of money and then trying to play a fast one by keeping it to yourself; that is greed. But when a human being like her calls & begs her to return the money because he made a mistake, and she still refused and instead proceeded to transfer it to another bank account just so that they won't touch it. Then that is wickedness, and goes to show that she is inconsiderate. And then when the person she loves call to ask her about the money, she denies it, until he confronted her with proof. Kai! This one has gone beyond mistake abeg. This is character problem, and in marriage we pray to marry someone with good character.

I cannot understand how people can judge that the man is poor based on that single picture posted. All I see is an elderly man who decided to take a picture with his grand daughter wearing his stay at home clothes. My dad has some old & faded t-shirts & trousers that he loves wearing at home & he's very much attached to these clothes. Yet in his wardrobe he has nice clothes he wears when he's going out & when you see him you will know that he's very comfortable even though he's retired. Does putting on faded clothes in your own home automatically translate to being poor? Why are people so myopic? No sense of reasoning any more

hstar:
Please any body that has the ability should please help me o with any thing to feed. At the beginning of the pandemic I went to collect food stuff. Up till now I was unable to pay, I was just avoiding the woman, because what do I want to tell her?

The day they brought NEPA bill I was scared to death as I had nothing and I couldn't give any excuse about no payment of salary, other bills are there.

I myself find it difficult to feed, three days ago I found it difficult to talk due to hunger, I went for cleaner job, I was not picked, please anybody that is financially blessed should help me o please. 212 232 0833 uba. Please for God sake, I don't find work tire and I'm still job hunting, please help me with anything

You should have at least included the initials of your account name. What if somebody trying to send you money makes mistake by typing a wrong digit in your account number & another person's name shows? That's how the money meant for you will go to someone else...

tutudesz:

Sensible Selling my property to feed or begging online which is sensible? How you aware most of them begging are scammer?

So you want him to sell his phone before he can eat? If he does that, how will he communicate or even get information about any job opportunity. OK, after selling the phone probably at a giveaway price & eating all the money, what next? He should then proceed to sell his clothes abi?
In situations like this, if you don't want to give, just wakapass instead of making some comments that are not helpful.

fieryy:
Op, YOU ARE TO BE BLAMED AS WELL!!!!

Did anyone force you to marry her? Why are you acting like you were a kid that was forced. It'd have been better, if you had ended things, instead of first getting her pregnant and now planning a divorce

You sef! Is it that you didn't read what op wrote or what? Isn't it obvious that the op was guilt tripped into going ahead with this marriage. Didn't you read where she threatened to either kill herself or the op if the marriage didn't hold? You think that wasn't force?

@Op, so you visited your brother's house, his wife went into the kitchen to cook rice specifically for you (I'm assuming it's white rice), then she served you with one piece of meat. Instead of you to be grateful, you came here to complain. Meanwhile you didn't consider the fact that maybe there isn't much meat remaining in the stew.
You don't know how they have been managing their life given the current realities, all you care about is yourself.

By the way, did you even buy bread or anything at all for them when you went to visit or you went there empty handed?

Omojudy:

I didn't have it easy either for my decision not to pretend or to give this testimony. But after all I have seen in life, I refused to live for the audience anymore. It is what it is, sorry if my decisions offends people who don't care about me in the first place.

Wow...I thank God for your life! I really love your testimony. I don't even understand why people would want you not to be open about how you got your babies; are they trying to protect God's integrity or what? Who told them God is not glorified by your testimony? People have become so religious and deceived to the point that they have put God in a 'box' in their imagination & so they actually believe that God must do things or answer their prayer in a particular way. If not, then it cannot be of God. But that's not true. Sometimes, God answers different peoples prayer concerning the same issue in different ways. For instance, He has blessed you with two beautiful children via surrogacy, some it's via IVF, for some it's via adoption and yet others it's via natural conception. Whichever means it comes, doesn't take away the God factor because every good gift comes from God, and children are his heritage.

I pray that your testimony will encourage some TTC women out there to prayerfully try other legal means of having children instead of wasting precious time waiting for a 'miracle'.

Going through the comments, I just realized that most people here don't bother reading a post, they just read the caption and start commenting without bothering to read the content.
Nigerians, make una try small naa!

Jubilancy:
So I have been indoors since morning staring at my fridge thinking should I drink the coke now or later....and I am like Bleep it I am drinking this shit now if I perish I perish

Eyaa! Is it all that you have? But coke is not food naa!

It seems to me that the thin line (of self control) separating humans from beasts have completely been wiped off; 'cos humans are behaving more like beasts these days, whereas beasts are becoming more humane.

Say No to domestic violence...

uuzba:

Exactly my thinking
No friend. Nothing.
And it's this nairaland website that he's showing us, strangers, his pictures.
This guy doesn't have better visa. He did maga-mago.

Envy is a terrible thing... Smh

ROCKYJOE:
Remain in the house and tell your sister's husband that you are sick. That you are HIV patient with excessive and continuous menstrual flow. He will not near you again. But don't report him to your father or anybody else, because that alone can cause a lot of damage. Keep it secret, Wisdom is profitable to direct.

Like seriously! This is the most stupid advice I have come across so far... Smh.

Ken4Christ:
There is an error somewhere. This is not supposed to happen to a Christian talk more of a servant of God. No one should blame God on this. You don't know where he missed it.

Be very prayerful especially in tongues. Never step out without spending at least one hour in prayer. Always listen to the Holy Spirit. If the Holy Spirit says don't step out, obey. I hope he doesn't have any unrepented sin in his life? It will be a big disaster if he ends up in hell. Please make your ways right with God before it's too late. I pray that God will grant the rest of his family the grace to bear the loss.

Please just stop this type of reasoning! It's very flawed, and is simply not true. With this type of reasoning, you can easily turn against God and stop believing in Him should something unexpected happen to you which you feel shouldn't have happened simply because you area Christian & His servant.
God is a sovereign being, and His ways are higher than the ways of men. We (mortal men)can never know ALL the ways, thoughts and plans of God. What is written in the bible about Almighty God is not the totality of who He really is neither does it reflect all there is to ever know about Him or His ways. God through the holy scriptures revealed to man just enough of what He felt we should know about Him and His ways in order for us to have a successful relationship with Him ( no more no less).

I understand that Christians are under the protection of God and we are supposed to rely on the guidance of the Holy Spirit; but you must also know that the fact that you are a Christian does not mean that only good things will be happening in your life always, neither is it a guarantee that you will live long on earth or die a painless death. Sometimes God ALLOWS bad things to happen to His children. I don't know why, but I do know that it's usually for a purpose which will eventually lead to His glory.

If we should agree with your flawed reasoning, how can we explain the violent death of John the Baptist at the age of 30yrs via beheading? The shameful death of our Lord & saviour Jesus Christ at 33yrs via crucifixion? The violent death of all of the apostles except John? The death of thousands of missionaries and their families whose lives were terminated by sicknesses, accidents, and some murdered by the very same people they went to preach the gospel to. Were these people not Christians? Were they not servants of God? Were they not under the guidance of the Holy Spirit?

Your reasoning is just like that of Job's friends who felt that he must have done something wrong to warrant all the calamities that had befallen him. But they were so wrong! They couldn't have known that God was testing Job's faith in Him. Yet despite their ignorance they were so presumptuous...no wonder God was very angry with them.

So Bros be very careful, do not in your zeal to defend God (which He didn't ask you to do), put blame on someone when you have no idea the relationship he had with his God.

Vortex369:


You are talking nonsense. We are talking about economic empowerment and you are talkjng about morality.

Can a hungry stomach understand morality?

Is it until these hungry boys kidnap you and I ?

I am scared of Nigerians becoming like Somalians, Chadians and Malians. Watch news.

You are Soul and you have 100 yrs for the body you are living in.

There is no hell except the one in your imaginations that has no physical location in space time.

So you think it's hunger that pushes most guys into yahoo? You are so wrong! It's not hunger or joblessness. It's GREED! They want to make so much money within a little space of time, so they engage in yahoo or even kidnapping, because they know that if they should engage in an honest business, it will take time before they can start making the amount of money that can finance the kind of lifestyle they so much desire.
So my dear, all the economic empowerment by Federal government will still not stop some of them from kidnapping or scamming you.

Besides, hell is a literal place that has a physical location. Don't be deceived...