cigaricon:
You will never know the pain of being a victim to thieves until you have a first hand experience. I'm literarily going through the same thing as I type this. Thieves burgled my home a week ago and stole my laptop. I work remotely rendering design service. Now I cannot work, I cannot earn, I've been devastated since last week.

I'm very disappointed with some of the comments above. See what some people are saying to their fellow human being even in this hard time. Nigerians have no empathy at all, very bitter people, quick to rejoice at someone else's downfall.

Unfortunately that's where we have gotten to... Most people on this platform reason and behave like beasts...it's really pathetic.

Sorry for your loss.

Starzo:

What lead to the increase is irrelevant for now .. we're talking about how it affects the common man and steps we can take on our own to reduce the hardship

Dstv and gotv increased their prices cuz of same 'issues'. When people acted and refused to subscribe,they had no option but to revert to the old prices

I had workers from benin republic who told me that bread makers in their country decided to increase their prices. The people shunned them and told them to eat their breads alone. The bread makers eventually folded and started reselling at the old price.

Our govt won't help us. We have to help ourselves

And 200% sudden increment is nothing but criminal. Nothing justices such, except the actions of the present day govt.

Those things you mentioned are things you can live without and survive because there are alternatives. You can survive without watching DSTV/GOTV - you have your phone to stream programmes online. People can live without eating bread.


But how will people's lives look like if for the next 3 months if there's no MTN, Glo, Airtel network and services in Nigeria.

Businesses will collapse, people will lose money. It'll affect banks and POS which means you won't be able to either withdraw cash or carryout online transactions.

Because people can't access their money, they'll find it difficult buying food and other things...which means there will be many hungry and angry people and this might lead to chaos.

You cannot make calls or send text messages...

Those working remotely will lose their jobs. Unless they're using alternatives like Starlink which is more expensive.

I could go on and on about the implication...

I spent my time reading comments here, and all I can do is smh.

Some people in their quest to throw blames (as usual) will suddenly lose their sense of reasoning. And talk as if they're far removed from reality.

How can you blame the woman for sending her child to "School" (of course any sensible person should know without being told it's a creche run by the school).

We all know that maternity leave is 3-6 months in most standard organisation. Even Federal Government that used to give 6 months maternity leave for their staff reduced it to 4 months max.

After 6 months and the mother has to resume work what do you expect her to do? Many organisations will not allow you to come to work with your baby.

So the solution is to get someone to look after your child at home while you're at work (and we all know it's difficult to find a good person these days)

Or you take the baby to a Creche (run by most private Schools).

If you say she should resign so she can take care of her child 24/7....then you'd have to consider the impact losing one source of income would have on the family.

Can the husband handle becoming the sole provider with added responsibility? In this economy?

The only women that may not need to send their 2y/o to creche are those that are self employed, those that work from home, those that have a trusted and capable relative or house help who will faithfully take
care of their child. Or full time moms.

nwirinedu:
Another irresponsible mother, she has not confessed who she truly went to visit. Do hospitals in the UK bar women from taking children to the hospital to visit a relative. She is using her crocodile tears to cover for her callousness.

Typical Nigerian behaviour. Always ready to blame and cast aspersions.

I have noticed that most Nigerians are quick to throw blames instead of empathizing.

Visit Nigerian platforms like this, and foreign platforms you'll understand what I'm talking about.

Abeg we can do better...

Let's choose kindness and empathy, it doesn't cost anything...

FORWARDEVERLY:
The Wife should have poisoned the fool before leaving him...
He is a useless animal .. may misery be on him till god knows when ..
That fool now has a younger brother and sister that needs his help but he helped a so called Wife...

Nonsense..
Kudos to the wife for dumping the fool

I hope you're not married and I'd advise you not to bother getting married because you'll not have a happy marriage.

Your comment tells me that you'd subconsciously consider your wife as an outsider or worse an "enemy" who doesn't deserve anything good.

AntiChristian:
How is the classification done?

Which one is worldy and which one is Christian song?

Which songs was approved in the Bible?

Psalms, hymns and spiritual songs are the songs approved by the Bible.

If a song is none of these, it cannot glorify God and it's unacceptable to Him.

Secondly, if the person singing any of these acceptable songs is living in sin (Whether Christian or unbeliever), he is singing in vain - his worship is unacceptable to Almighty God.

It's appalling that Nairaland has degenerated to this extent... tribalism, name calling, evil speaking and use of abusive words is now the new norm.

There's hardly any news you read where the comments don't constitute the above.

Two people on this platform can no longer disagree on an issue without resorting to insults and name-calling.

It's a pity what this platform has been reduced to.

Gistmedia10:
Outrage has erupted after a video surfaced showing congregants sleeping outside the gate of a popular church in Lagos. The incident, which occurred in the early hours of Sunday, has led to widespread criticism of the church for its perceived insensitivity.

The video, shared by a concerned Nigerian man who witnessed the scene, shows dozens of people, including women and children, sleeping on mats and makeshift beds outside the church premises. These congregants had arrived early in anticipation of the Sunday service.

Critics argue that the church, known for its large congregation and significant influence in the community, should take better care of its members. "If they can build massive structures and collect offerings, they can certainly arrange for proper accommodation for those who come early," one social media user commented.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MYZ4Ok1MF8c

Why should there be outrage and what's the criticism all about? Are y'all so uninformed?

During Katherine Kuhlman programs in America people used to go very early and sleep outside the venue even during winter waiting for the doors to be opened at a specific time. They do this because they want to get seats inside the building.

And this is not limited to religious gathering.

I remember reading somewhere that when Apple Inc releases new iPhone model in America, people who want to get it before others queue up and sometimes the queue is so long that it could be hours or days before it gets to your turn.

So most people erect tents in front of the place. And those who cannot wait pay people who will stand in line for them until it gets to their turn

drimzsmoke:
I love this news pa!!!

YOU...a mortal man who doesn't know what can happen to you in the next second...is rejoicing that another man took his life.

Where's your humanity?

SoNature:
God called him when He wanted his spirit; his death has nothing to do with the game. RIP to the deceased and may God give the bereaved family the fortitude to bear their irreparable loss, amen.

While rooting for your favorite team during an exciting game, your body may release stress hormones. These hormones can increase heart rate, raise blood pressure and make blood stickier. Stickier blood can lead to blood clots which are associated with heart attacks.

I saw this on Google 👆🏾

So, it's possible his death is because of the match.

Iamjobless:
Pls pardon all errors.

I will try and keep this short, I have an aunty who works with one of the FG parastatals but she is contemplating on resigning. Reasons being:
1) the transport fare takes more than 50% of her monthly earnings as the distance between her house and workplace is far (ikorodu to CMS)
2) due to the distance she does not have the time to take care of her children as she has to leave very early and return late at night.

Ever since she told me, I tried to convince her to just hold on as i strongly believe that the minimum payment will be reviewed soon which will address the issue of salary but she stated that my solution does not address the other challenge of negligence of children.

Please i need advice on what she can do to get to work faster amd return home faster

Also, the husband is a business man that owns a business in the CMS area, I will be in the comments.

Since this is a Federal job and not private, instead of outright resignation, ask her to take leave of absence without pay for 6months, or one year or even 2 years. This will give her an opportunity to test the waters. She can always go back to work if it's not favourable.

pocohantas:
You think your mum isn't looking good because she stopped wearing makeup, wig and jewellery?

I thought natural is better and more beautiful?

Mummy is on the right track and I can assure you she looks beautiful in her natural state.

Exactly 💯

Many women have been brainwashed to believe that if you don't wear makeup, you don't use attachment or weaves, then you don't look good.

This is pure nonsense!

Many are ashamed of their natural hair, and have completely destroyed it with chemicals and hair styles that keep cutting their hair and giving them receding hairline.

Men don't wear these things but they look good.

What's wrong with someone choosing to be natural.

Op, the problem is from your mindset, change your mindset.

The natural look is beautiful.

I refuse to live by the society's perception of what "beauty" should look like.

All I see is two families & culture (most likely with different religious beliefs) - one family prefer modesty and simplicity, while the other loves opulence and extravagance in dressing.

This has nothing to do with wealth or status.


How this should be a topic for discussion on social media beats my imagination. It tells me that many people are so simple minded.

Simple minds discuss people
Average minds discuss events
Great minds discuss ideas

nabegibeg:


crypto is scam

Stop this ignorant statement!

Saying Crypto & the Crypto industry is scam is like saying money and the banking industry is a scam.

That there are scammers in the Crypto industry doesn't make Crypto a scam.

That there are scammers in banks working with yahoo boys doesn't make money a scam.

izonborn098:
You're a fool for accepting a cheat back.. She don't have ur time mumu

What is wrong with you? Can't you comment and make your point without the insult/name calling?

It seems Nairaland is now full of emotionally immature people that don't understand that it's possible to express a divergent view without the insult.

hopefulLandlord:
Religious belief is an invisible security blanket for insecure individuals.
Closeted minds will continue to allow brainwashing and indoctrination by religious leaders that there is a 'god', and there was a 'jesus', in order that the people with closed minds allow themselves to be controlled so that the various Corporations (churches) remain profitable as the tax-free money continues to roll in.

Oga whatever you have typed here doesn't change anything.

There is a God. Jesus Christ exist. Heaven is real, hell is real. It doesn't matter what you say or believe.

One thing is sure...

One day you will know the truth...either in this life or on the other side of eternity.

I just pray that it won't be too late before you do.

@op...so you want to deal with her for preaching to you?

djseanjohn77:



Nigerian women will always blame a man for their failure....they are never at wrong unless that happens to their family member or brother.

For every lady that blame this pastor, may such thing happen to every male in their family. Amen.

Many women today, after 2-3 years in marriage without kids, this is what they resort to doing secretly. Sadly, in an age where sleeping around is no longer anything, go to office and see how married women are making ridicule of themselves. The world has really turned upside down, knowledge has increase so is foolishness in our own wisdom thinking we are making right choices.

The Bible says if you sow the wind, you'll reap a whirlwind.

This pastor sowed deception, and he reaped it in triplicate.

The word of God cannot be broken.

As humans we have to be careful how we treat others and how we live our lives generally.

Zeal0000007:
I and my gal are planning settling down despite genotype not matching , she's AS same with me, but because of medical technological advancements, we visited a specialist who told us that we can still marry if we so desired to be together.

Just that If we can afford the cost of going for foetus testing whenever she's pregnant so as to ascertain the genotype of the child. According to him if the test is conducted and it turns out to be AA or AS, we can keep it, but if it's SS we determate, I have spoken to my gal and we are yet a decide despite this seeming goodnews that we can still be together if we choose to, she really wanted us together same with me.
On my part, I have been in terrible and toxic relationship for the past 4years that almost claimed my life but God served from her. And this my current gal came along and she's exactly what I prayed God for, she's really like a gift to me, since she came I have had peace of mind I don't want to loose her because of genotype but thank God for this technically medical advancement , please I want to know if anyone have undergone this treatment before , what's your experience or experiences

On one hand you see her as a God sent, on the other hand you are considering aborting any foetus that is SS, and you're not bothered that it's murder - a grievous sin against God.

So you're interested in God's blessing, but you're not interested in obeying Him?

Anyway... are you really sure she's God's will for you, 'cos the blessing of God does not add sorrow.

The world is becoming more & more evil as each day passes...if you're reading this repent and turn to Jesus while you still have the opportunity.

I remember when I finished youth service, at that time banking job was in vogue and I desperately wanted to be a banker.

I prayed and wrote aptitude tests, didn't pass any.

Finally had to settle for a 30k job in a one-man business.

Did that job for two years and got a good Federal government job with a very flexible schedule, which gave me peace of mind.

And because I had time, I was able to further my education and even do an online course that opened the door for a remote job.

Now, I have 2 good sources of income.

No stress.

I'm 100% sure that if I was working in a bank I wouldn't have had the time and energy to do an additional course and implement.

Sometimes when you're praying for something and God is not answering your prayer, it could be because He has something better for you.

And that thing will manifest in His time.

Blessings ❤️

ObalendeCMS:


You may be right.

How I wish I can help my aunt’s adopted 4 years old “son” in such manner.

I don't understand why you feel you need to help him. Is adoption an evil thing?

Look at the way you even used "son" meaning that he's not her son abi?

See how people have suddenly started quoting bible castigating op and I'm wondering why it should concern them if she loses her so called "reward."

Yet these same people will spew hateful speech here, insult people, indulge in or support people involved in fornication and support evil behaviour without remembering that there are scriptures that condemn these acts.

Hypocrisy!

Kobojunkie:
So the very God who stated over 2000 years ago that His followers are to no longer work for food that perishes is the same God who turned around and gave you a job so you can work for food that perishes?

Is God some sort of LIAR?,

I would really like you folks to consider carefully these claims of yours because it seems a lot like what passes as Christianity today is a system that makes God out to be some sort of liar, the very definition of Antichrist.

C'mon! I'm 100% sure that you're fully aware that you are misinterpreting that verse, but something in you is still pushing you to do it!

Chizzyjforce:
You've got bad energy mahn... You only yearned for increment in salary because your friend is earning more than you. I dropped off a friend because of something like this...

It's not bad energy, it's normal human reaction. You will feel the same way if it's you.

Don't you know that you can work for a company for a long time without pay increase, and you may not complain or feel bad.

But when they employ someone who possesses the same qualifications and skill, and pay the person higher than you, you'll feel bad & unappreciated.

At that point it dawn's on you that your company have the capacity to increase your pay but they're not doing it.

It's now left for you to request for pay increase or continue with the status quo.

The fact that they increased Op's salary immediately shows that they value him & knew all along that he's supposed to earn more than they were paying him, yet they didn't bother to increase it because it would mean more expenses for them.

That's how most employer's behave. Even if they know you worth more than they are paying you, they'll never increase your salary until you request for it or inform them that you're resigning.

I love working from home, it suits my personality.

For the past 3 weeks+ I've been on annual leave from my regular govt work. And have concentrated on my remote work and Fiverr freelancing gigs.

This has allowed me to experience what it's like working fully from home, and I'm loving it.

Honestly, I don't feel like resuming back at my govt. job but I'm gonna resume anyway 'cos it's flexible and doesn't affect my online work + it's another source of income.

And most importantly I don't need to start explaining about copywriting or remote work when I'm asked what I do for a living. I just mention my govt. job & go my way.

Dearlord:
I have learnt a lot here in NAIRALAND about the mind and thoughts of Nigerian and I have come to conclusion that we are mostly all evil souls.

Always despising and jealous coupled with abject illiteracy.

I'm telling you! Nairaland is a microcosm of the Nigerian society. Full of evil, wickedness, vileness and hypocrisy.
When you read people's comments here you understand why Nigeria is the way it is.

Buhari is not the problem.

https://www.nairaland.com/6048178/reality-every-guy-need-know/1308#111259797

Why do you people enjoy telling lies on this platform...@op are you not the same person that made the above post on March 22.

I'm currently working with my best boss remotely... she's an African American that runs a digital marketing agency in US.

She's very gentle, gracious and really cares about the people that work for her. If you don't know or understand something she will schedule a zoom meeting and take her time to teach you.

She's ready to do everything within her capacity to help you solve your problem, even if it's not work related.

Early this month, I nearly lost access to a foreign Copywriting course I had been paying for online because of CBN policy of max. $20/month for naira debit card.

I told her my problem, and begged her to help me complete the last payment of $297 for the course so that I won't lose all the previous payment I already made as well as the course itself.

She agreed, and helped me complete the purchase and then deducted the money from my salary at the end of the month.

One thing I love about her, if you perform a task well she will praise you sotey your head go swell. And she keeps thanking and appreciating us for the work that we do... meanwhile she's paying us o!

Our meeting last Monday was an emotional one as she burst into tears when telling us how much we meant to her, that she loves us and feel blessed working with us.

I told her that she's my ideal boss, and that honestly I look forward to our meetings. And my heart doesn't skip a beat on Mondays.

And I'm not the only person that feels this way about her, today she wasn't around for our meeting so my Pakistani colleague was telling us that she misses her and that she had a dream about her.

We were all saying how much we missed hearing her voice. Even her voice sef is soothing...

I don't want this post to be too lengthy but I'm just so thankful to God for connecting me to such a wonderful woman.

thesicilian:

The job of a woman is to care for her baby, otherwise she shouldn't have any at all. But you "woke" folks will not want to hear that because you have been brainwashed into thinking that abandoning children to make a career is the modern thing to do. When someone speaks the harsh uncomfortable truth, everyone shouts "crucify him!"
Well, maybe now that the baby has been killed by the carelessness of strangers, she should have more time for her job.

Life is not always black or white, most times there are a lot of grey areas.

This situation may have nothing to do with her abandoning her baby to pursue a career.
It's could be a case of survival.

I have a cousin who left her job after she became pregnant, her husband had lost his job many years prior to this & was doing nothing.

After she gave birth, that was when her suffering started... getting money to feed herself and her other children became a problem.

She resorted to begging money to feed. Her husband could not hustle to provide for his family...he depended on this same woman.

At a point, her other children stopped going to school 'cos no money to pay school fees.

Starting a business was difficult 'cos she had a fragile baby + no money.

I'm telling you all these because when a new mom takes her fragile baby to a creche just so she can go back to work...her survival, and that of her children may actually depend on it.


Do not be quick to judge people when you have no idea what they're passing through.

@Op... your husband is in bondage, so don't even hold your breath expecting him to change. It's not going to happen now 'cos he has not made up his mind to break out of his addiction.

That said...

I know you're frustrated, that's why you're thinking about divorce. However focusing on divorce will prevent you from thinking about other ways to solve your problem.

Trust me there's a way you can get around the problem of him not contributing anything.

If your husband is a salary earner, discuss with him about you receiving a certain percentage of his salary every month...this will be used to run the household.
(It's obvious that you should be handling the finances in your home...)

Then both of you should visit his bank and let him get a standing order that allows them to automatically debit a percentage of his salary and deposit it into your account as soon as he get's paid.

This way he won't have the chance to use all the money for gambling... he can use any amount that you guys agree to leave for him to fund his addiction.

Any right thinking man who means well for his family will definitely agree to this.

However, if he refuses this suggestion... that's when you should consider "abandoning the ship"... otherwise he'll end up drowning all of you in the sea of poverty.