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Hello, and welcome

sevule:
@ nikkykayThis a pretty dumb ,unintelligent and myopic statement that could only be posted by a very vain person. WHat the heck do you mean by fat people are not smart. Didn't they teach you in school that intelligence isbnot correlated to weight?
@poster Your boyfriend is right to express his fears. He is probably thinking that if you look like this now then you would blow up 5 years down the line. And as we know Nigerian women are not really crazy about exercising. SO if you are serious, I suggest you forget the fact that you look luscious now and start exercising and let your boyfriend know that you are exercising. He would then know that you are serious about keeping in shape.

I agree!

word ^

Kudos to you, Inked.

Question [for women]:When you hear men on Nairaland using excuses such as the one I have stated in my first question to the men, how does it make you feel?
It makes me feel like the said men lack integrity and because they're from where am from (i.e they're a product of our society, culture and "nuture", we (as a people) have failed our men. Somewhere along the line, we miseducated them and some are too weak and too independent in their thoughts to take the initiative to correct our mistake, and educate themselves.

Does it affect how you treat men? Does it have any baring on how you interact with men? Absolutely. I used to try t convince such said men, now, I know better. Now, I steer clear of them. I'm too busy trying to actualize myself to be bothered with trying to make blind men see. Besides, you'd be suprised how contagious some opinions are.

I'd take the thief i think. Even if he steals, its okay while we live apart. If we ever end up cohabitating, whatever he steals from me, will still remain in our home. haha Besides, he'll be stealing from the prostitutes and the witch, but then again, the witch might put a spell on hhim and his family (which would include me) so maybe I'd better date the witch instead?! Forget the prostitute. That one is bound to be cursed by the witch someday.

They certainly can and I've seen lots of people who are married (and hopefully happily so) to people from other tribes, cultures and races

@"shes passed away"
oh damn. yeah, that'd hurt.

You're a hediot for the bottleflip you did on her sha,  but lol who am I to judge?
May her soul rest in peace,  sounds like you miss her. Thank God you only "used" to be crazy i.e you're sane and hopefully rational now.
Thanks for sharing though. May she rest in peace.

D-sense, do you find the word "stoic" offensive? if you do, care to share why?

A fight between you and your bestie? Because of the word "stoic", care to share the details?

Beync said it best.

Trying to make a person regret something is bound to be exhausting. Live your life. Your mind is still enslaved to her and will be for as long as you tr to make her regret her decision. You have to free yourself and move on, in time you'll realize that she really is only one of many potential females you could build a life n make memories with. It is well

Crazy, weird, funny, genuine, disorganized, intelligent (oh but then again, she is biased), resilient, and stoic.

does anyone actually answer "yes" to these?

When people are molested, they're often intimidated by the person. They believe that the person is superior to them. Reflect on this, and question your motive for feeling the need to go to her house "out of respect" when she is a pedopile who really, doesnt deserve respect. The fact that she had the guts to approach you with her number is sickening. She thinks she can still ride and control you. You'd be sending the wrong message by se-xn her. I'd say dont do it. Confront her, and tell her that what she did to you 20 years ago (or whenever it was) is shameful and wrong. A child is a child and and she had not right doing that to you. If she wanted a manliness that bad, she could've gotten it from a person her age, who could give her the consent.

BTW people, it is true. A 6 year old boy can get physically "excited".

@Eaglebabe
it is NOT the poster's shame to keep, instead,  it is his story to reveal. It is the woman's shame to keep because she is the one who was wrong. If the story is true, then the OP is a victim in which case, I commend him for sharing his story. You'd be suprised how often these things happen.

Narcissism for real @ ^

Fhemmmy:
That is just my own slang jare . . . . . .
You must be a sister to my father, cos he could eat that thing too many times a day.

lol No i dont eat it that much but where am from, its alllll they eat!

Please, listen to me carefully:

You are a gem for standing by her

You are a miracle for having not contacted the vius

You ae not a superman, neither are you God. You CAN still get the virus

Your woman needs education. She needs to know that although you have been lucky enough not to have gotten the virus so far, you are not immune to it. She also needs to know that although you love her, you need to remain alive AND HEALTHY for her and for the children. When her health deteriorates and she isnt able to care for her children, you'll be there to take care of them. When she is too ill to take care of herself, you will be there to care for her. You cant do these things unless you remain healthy. You dont want to get ill with her and die, knowing that you could have stayed healthy and taken care of the kids. If you two are both ill, who will care and shlter and love your kids? PLEASE for the sake of your children and for your health, WEAR condoms when you have s*e*x with her. Explain to her that you love her and will not desert her. Touch her more, hold her more, and tell her you love her more often. DONT do that flesh to flesh stuff. As hard as it is, it is irresponsible of you to do that when you already know that she is positive with HIV. PLEASE, realize that you have a choice and you have the benefit of knowledge on your side. Most people who got HIV had no idea their partners were positive. I'm sure alot of them wish they had the chance you have now because then they could have taken precautions (condoms and maybe even abstinence).

GET YOUR CHILD (or children) TESTED AS SOON AS POSSIBLE!

When she asks you for money what do you think she needs it for? Do you think she really needs it (as in, is it necessary) or does she ask, get t, and then spend it on unnecessary things? If she does, then you two need to talk about being fnancially respnonsible. If yyou two wil vbe making a life together in the future,, then its not too early to start learning how not to waste money and how to save some.It isnt easy being a student though so she truly may be needing the financial help. If her family is "well to do" as you said, then maybe instead f turning to you, she could consider turning to her mom. It seems to me like you two need to have a good talk about your concern