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pple talkin this n that, all of a sudden everyone on NL is born again, thowing verses and theologies here and there. no sooner u think, they all be back on some obscene thread spewing away!

to the fella claiming women encourage this gay/sexual distortion, and hence possess lesbian tendencies, its simple

-yes, i have gay 2 male friends.i met them before i knew they were gay and at some point along our friendship, they opened up to me. i was atually on the verge of dating the first and would av sworn he was straight but we could not connect on that level. we later settled for friendship and one day he told me his big secret he neva told anyone before , he thot tryin on women could change him. i guess am expected not to pick his calls, return his mails or visits after 2yrs of frienship becos he's gay ? he's a friend just like any other friend i have. we talk alot and he tells me alot he goes thru, yeah sometimes its hard for me to grasp since its not my life, but will neva tear him down or make him feel is lower than a dirt, rather i encourage him not to give in on his extremely low days and i advise him on counselling.

three things i tell them

- this mite be who u are, but its not the way u were made to be.
- anything, anyone can be repaired with God in time.
- neva drag a woman into this situation ( DL men) , its a wicked thing to do.

long n short of it = do i condone their lifestyle or sexual orientation, NO!. but do i love them less as friends, NO! and it doesnt make me a lesbian.

and as for a gay church, am not for it.

KarmaMod:
Did you people even listen to what the pastor said? He said he wnats a church where the homosexuals can be free and hopefully he can't get them to change their lives around

Are you people like deaf or something?

clearly, most pple ddnt get or care to observe that part. i really feel sorry for those guys becos its a life i dnt even wish for my enemy.only God can turn their lives around.

Hannibal:
Mutual consent has nuthing to do with this. . . . .
It's the chase right from the onset that places the guy as the game player versus the computer!!!
The chase, phone calls, arranging dates and finally SEX. . . . . . It's a male dominated kizzack. . . .Guys have the right to brag about this.


Unfortunately, i didn't see the images.
You meanie.

even when the sex was lame? sayin its as it is the real issue here.

segzi cres:
them ladies go n tell them friends about what happened[b] in e secret chamber[/b] y can't then guys do d same?

thats why its called tellin not bragging,better than doin it in a beer palor

izeek:
why do women feel that they are the used party whenevr sex is involved.

if u can rid of that kind of mindset, then weda the guy brags or not, its nothing cosu both used urselves.

dear, u are breakin the 11th commandment of NL, "thou shall not generalise"

to some its a mindset that sex is debasing, but outside that context, even when both parties admit in their love nest that the sex was mutually gratifying, some guys still choose to make it all about them like the chic was some begging sex-starved slave in front of all and sundry!

Hannibal:
Lets do a poll on Nairaland and see how many chics would admit to plotting n scheming to bed guys.
Even when u do. . . . . .You pretend as if things just happened naturally so it's normal for any guy to think. . . YEA, i made it!!!
Reaction after sex is a relief guys get after the plot, plan and strategy. . . .
It's like having a car that won't start. . . You open the hooddive into the engine and finger the mechanism. . . when it works, u are fulfilled!!

i like your humor (not your name).

yeah, most ladies wnt confess to plotting to bed guys. but whats rlly crazy is guys who still do this with chicks they supposedly serious with. i mean brag about a one-nightstand, a bet, a drunk orgy. . etc and i mite understand, but with someone your supposed to be down with. its really disrespectful

Pataki:
Ewwwwww! You are so razzz


@ Topic,
It is so easy to identify guys who kiss and tell. Often times, ladies are too stupefied to use their senses and detect one when he is round the corner.

GOT THAT RIGHT.

Pataki:
Is bragging not a form of telling?


Let me go shag come first.

bragging is an exaggerated and debasing form of it.

make u do come back, we dey wait!

Hannibal:
It's in the DNA.

When a guy scores a chic. . . . . .It's like a football striker scoring a goal.
The build-up, the plot and strategy and finally the goal is like an achievement so he is in his own rights to BRAG about it.
However, for the woman. . . . . .she is the goalkeeper who has conceded a vital goal. . . . .She aint proud of it.
Geddit??

rlly? DNA? thats refreshin! d analogy is interesting though a bit flawed. u assume guys are the only ones doin the plottin and schemeing? well, welcome to the new age where some ladies too devise how to bed guys. they see u and just make it a personal life ambition to sleep with u. now the reaction after the sexual drama is what is annoyin. why do guys make it look like u crossed seven rivers and seas to get what was offered to u on a diamond platter? so the fellaz can say ur the man rite?

oops! dont answer that. u already said its in the DNA!

the concept of kissin n tellin is a little too sublime to describe the way some guys spin after gettin lucky.

a lady on the other hand my call up her close friends and tell them how indescribable the experience was ( much to the praise and gratification of the guy)

however, most guys dont rlly care to whom and where the relay their experiences. for all u care, they could climb mt. everest to annouce their lastest conquest to the world and make a pressing effort to debase and objectify the chic. its just pointless, especially when sex is consensual.

now that's scary! got no issues with gays but then why av their own church? what doctrine would be preached there? would it not end up becomin some kinda cult or fraternity? is the govt aware of this? its rlly crazy!

then how does it work?

highly felt.

@gamine- i quite agree, kindly explain a little more on the amalgamation thingy. thanks.

lol,.

michelin89:
Me exes are one worse than the other and are far below my current boyfriend. Being told I am as good as them makes me want to consider suicide!

makes perfect sense. i guess u knew could do better thats why u moved on so it doesnt mean ur as low as the are.

michelin89:
@ topic

Oh come on! This is an insult!

hey michelin, insult? i don't quite get it? kindly xplain. thanks

HCH3COO:
Hurrhh! Big deal. It happens everywhere, happens all the time. Almost no one is immune to it. We all know that dating is a very naughty game. Some you win, others you lose. Their standards are not just based on all of the above

yeah. its no big deal. but the story aint the same when its ur turn to burn!

for friends standards, let me guess could it be the ignoble virginity?

onyinye2:
@post

it is a yes and no topic. As they say opposites do attract. You can find love or what have you in people you wouldn't normally associate yourself with. But on the other hand, lets say you is a lady that some how only gets love from them no good thugs. If this consistantly happens, then there obviously a message that you is sending that brings them over.

i quite agree with u. if its constant occurence then i feel that sayin can apply.

HCH3COO:
aww ibk I'm not encouraging it.

ur friends are brash, and little did these girls no that they were rebounds? what were friends standards anyways, was it based on looks, status or character?

pple say that alot but i kinda disagree on certain levels. what do y'all think?

iice:
[color=#9900ff]You reap what you sow

@Siena, love the honor part of your siggy _{Tis one of my mottos} [/color]

u reap what u sow. pple wanna play around but then want to settle for decent folks.