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~Xerxes~:
Invigorating!!!!

I still think guys have to be diplomatic when breaking up with a woman.
Women sometimes interprete a man's bluntness as arrogance or irresponsibility.
The best way to do it is not to tell her at all till she finds out herself or lie one is born-again!!!!

well probably becos men can do very little without their ego getting in the way.

as per the born- again line, if he says he's born agian then she's the mother of jesus! very compatible.

j-girl:
@ Topic, Just as usual. He's found someone else.
THe thing about this is that if you feel you're too comfortable with someone - you start taking things for granted. Maybe he's actually too compatible with her

i quite agree. my friend manages to pass across this "goody 2 shoes" personality easily. i guess he's just takin advantage of that.

~Antidote~:
Gave the guy the benefit of the doubt.Maybe, just maybe he is telling the truth for once, On a lighter note, men are known to spew shit when inside a different saga is waging war, Being honest with one's self is the best therapy one can offer,

assumin its the truth like u suggested, is being compatible a bad thing, would he rather ba happier always on the other side of the page, when he's up, she'd down or when she's in , he's out? besides i believe filal fondness takes awhile.

Esss:
He just said it's over in french.

after saying i luv you in spanish abi?

~Xerxes~:
Guys are sometimes worried to spill the beans in BLACK N WHITE because most women are suicidal or too emotional.
A friend of mine once suffered an acid bath for telling his girl it was over!!!!
Besides, how am i supposed to tell a chic suspected to be a witch/ogbanje that it's over. . . .
Am i crazy??

now thats funny.

i understand d emotional stunts women can pull at times like that, but then a lady cable of exploding like that will show such tendencies along the way. u can't totally blame ladies for being that way atimes, its means alot for a lady to reject other advances just because u make her believe her life revolves around u, and then, --poof!.the rage will be dangerous and especially with lame reasons like this. pple break up and still make d most of it and stay close , i think it just depends on personalities and the approach.

just turn on your God -given charm if u know what i mean, and if u don't, consult an herbalist!

ok, really just be your sweet self and pretend he is the most important thing in your life.

jkpretty:
He has found someone else.

exactly what i think.

but if he has, its no big deal. why can't guys come out and just say it the craig david way "i just don't love u no more" . as hurtful as it mite be, it puts everything in a clear pesperctive. now my friend thinks its something she did too much or probably did not do rite. she plans on goin on leave to check things out for herself.(maybe the guy is frosting with some carribean chic)

sheniqua:
does it take a rocket scientist to figure out that the word "train" in my post was tongue in cheek.
You people scare me with the way some of you reason.

dear, don't make em answer that!

a friend of mine @work is on the verge of breaking off her relationship of 2yrs with her guy. she said they begun dating while he was in nigeria and upon his departure they decided to make it official as in a committed relationship.basically, the rest of the relationship as been ova the phone and occasional visits which she makes abroad . the guy came back 2 weeks ago and came up with this line of how they are too close and too compatible to be lovers and says they're better off as close friends, that brother & sister kinda friendship thing. clearly my friends upset but i feel theres more to it than meets the eye. first of all , i thought compatibily was a thumbs up for any relationship, and secondly i believe the brother & sister sort of friendship thing takes time to build up, how can u claim to be too close or too compatible with someone u barely dated for about 6 months before ur trip i think she needs to find out more, what do yáll think??

sistawoman:
I kept my exhusband's last name, only because it is the last name that my children have.

sistawoman:
I kept my exhusband's last name, only because it is the last name that my children have.

exactly my submission

if my marriage finally ends ( heavens forbid!) i guess i will be more devastated than to worry about a last name. if there are kid, i'll keep his name (for their sake) but if i have do it again , the name gotta go.

@poster- first of how do come to label him unbeliever?

- is becos he doesnt attend ur church
- from a different religion
- morally bankrupt
- a professed athiest
- or u just consider yourself stronger in the faith.

my dear, desperation and devastation are backdoor neighbours. marriage can be good and fulfilling but there's more to life.

if the ist is the case, its simple invite in over to a service in your church, he just mite stick it out

if the second is the situation, personally i don't cross that boundary cos if faith can be compromised, its not faith.

if the third is the case, ur a christain right? lead him to the path of salvation and move on( at least u'll ba a +ive influence in his life)

if the fourth is the case, dont go there (athiest are stuck on their idiosincracy, only God can make them believe)

if the fifth is, then build him up spiritually (remember u were also weak at some point)


most importantly, don't see this guy has the last ticket to marital paradise, like some said he may be playin to your desperation. if u say u have feelins for him, is out of conviction or just because he says he loves u. patience no matter how pathetic is always a virtue.

for those askin for the other side of the story, why don't to refer her to curtis court or judge judy?? she has stated her situation so why dont u give your opinion based on that instead of demanding a sequel? clearly the guy would have something to say to justify his loony act which makes it a battle of accusations and counter-accusations.

@stephany- nobody has your best interest @ heart more than u, self preservation and survival are core human instincts, please act in your own best interest.

thanx for clarifyin the sex thing, no biggie anyways.

Sweet T:
Yes sir, women can be funny sometimes. You said your in a relationship but yet you do things that arouse suspicion. Just let me know if your tired of the relationship, Don't start playing me as a second fiddle to another dude. it's not a crime. I'll try my best to add glitters to my gold but if that is not enough, then Goodbye and Godbless !! No be long thing.

what d hell is suspicious in leavin ur life, there is a place for a boyfriend and another for friends, so why would d guy be interes ted in switching lanes?

my dear, do YOU always, if ur ways are suspicious to him let get help frm a shrink, for the record, no man alive (or dead )is worth half the trouble . eventually they fall in line like other exs'

av u bin sexin him?

@stephany- 2 months and he already bin acting up, not a good start. been with someone like that and it was one hell of a relationship cos i had to calculate my every thot, words and action and this guy aint God! one day i got tired of calming his jealous nerves and pacifying his irrational fears and told him i was choked in the whole thing . that was it. u gotta let him know before him u had a life that was yours and his presence won't make you accept a substitute life just to please him. there's no point being with some who wont let u be urself.

poster- though am a lady, i certainly do not want to be begged or coaxed for 3 good years!i would have gotten a restraining order after the 1st yr, haba. what part of capital N.O. is hard to understand. within that time u could have moved on after all when one door closes , another opens. no matter how strong your love hangover is u gotta wake up and start livin again. love ain't gonna refund u 3 wasted years!

could neva hate my ex , we had some unimaginable times together, i guess loved him enouf to know it was time to let him go and sadly not all birds return.

@poster- its cool that u admitted what u did was wrong ( i guess person wey wan die jam person wey go kill am).

u said she accepted you with all ur arrogance knowing u were out for the kill, does that mean she knew u were messing with her emotions at that time but chose to play along?

if she did and she still wants you then she's a brain-dead!

but if she doesnt, give her the the wake-up call ( i mean the truth). get your friend and u guys should tell her she was a stupid bet. i mite cold and ruthless and your friend mite also neva get her (she neva fell for his charm anyway) but she'll get the msg for sure. its ur call.

frank 3.16:
@poster,
you sister is a 19 years old prostitute, ashawo
please go and check weather she has blessed the guy with HIV

u harsh o!


@ima1 - i would pretend that your not naive to swallow every garbage u read, for pits sake, this is Nairaland!! and your askin for proof, do u need to smell it, touch it and probably taste it before u know its shit?


@poster- ask for our opinion on how to deal with rape situations and u'll get the needed responses, but don't go writing stuff like that to get attention, its not somethin u wish on your enemy, let alone your sister .

omoovie:
because the "fine" girls you know are carrying the aids virus waiting for wonderful players like you.

_{Na who release bingo 4 here? Make una euthanize this stray dog be4 e carry give person rabies! Nonsense!}

lol

see me see diction wahala!

Dr.OgaSir:
How was I to know that making public my honest research findings will amount to this controversy. I never knew that the numerical strenght of the the guilty party is this massive.

honest research findings indeed, my friend look for someting better to talk about jare and save us the lamentations!

Uby40:
please cud any one who read through, break down what he/she understood.?

its simple , dont give a situation its anticipated response but rather the unexpected, am sure the hubby must have expected hell to freeze over but her calmness and composure must have stunned him and that makes him weak and defenseless before her.

sage_:
The guy said it is what he experienced. He said he has done his own share of the fine girls and only a few not-too fine ones and he found the fine ones to be more cooperative( as against his misunderstanding of them being cheap). So instead of trying to castrate the young man, I would suggest we try let him see them as being more cooperative instead of being cheap. Besides, there is this feeling amongst the fine girls that if they like you, they Bleep you.and if you mess up, your next dude will be more willing. Anyways, my girl fine and cheap to me alone. As for the other guys, she won't respond to their overtures.

since u understand him, then please explain it to him. thanks dear.

@persona82- neva thot i'd say this, but thanks , i felt some honesty in your response.

@poster- first of all, am sure u've been fuckin nobody but urself. u come here sayin blah blah about how fine girls are cheap bleeps just becos u got lucky with some hood rats, which hood u com from sef and how do we know they were fine? the beautiful ones are where they are in the arms of real men givin them all the TLC they deserve and definitely stayin away frm strays like u!

([s]wonder why guys talk some downloaded crap![/s])

PRYNXLEX:
@POSTER
MY FRIEND
IF You POSTED DID THREAD because You ARE AFFECTED DIRECTLY BY THIS PHENOMENON REACH ME TO BE SOOTHED

even if i was, theres nothing u can do bout it

ELIJAHLOVE:
Love should be a bilateral affair, if your not appreciated neither is your love reciprocated abeg of u take to your feet and run for your dear life. u dnt have anything doing with such a person. The meaning is he does not want u in his life. The truth is WE are all lOVE BEINGS, our psycological and emotional make up is such that u tend to love someone, u desire to be loved and u crave to love someone.
SO if that guy does not return your love and all u do to make u feel loved, nthen i beg u burst the whole thing because he definitely LOVES someone else.

very true, but a what point do u give up he still doesnt let you go?

4gotnheros:
I am sure someone is at the corner there dying hard, provoked, broken hearted and seriously making you have a second thought on him and a chance of you having a better life with him as well!
But you wasting your life on a PLAYER!

DESTINY I GUESS

i didnt say this was about me, i said i was thinkin out loud, but anyway i get ur idea on the crazy love cycle thingy. u love someone who u cant have while theres someone else who also dying to be with you. atimes i think love can really be overrated but that doesnt necessarily make him a player, it mite be a defence mechanism.

what exactly do you do to or with someone who makes it very hard for you to love him? u do everything in your power to make it work, to get it right, u give everything u have and even what u don't just to please even if it breaks u but u get constantly runned down and feel unappreciated. love can be hard, but does it have to be this hard? just thinking out loud.

abegi, make we hear word . i bet this guy is typing this fraud frm one cafe in yaba!

ty4real:
wetin female do una for life sef!Hannnnnn,female dt,man hold your prick and give me a break o jare

dnt mind them. limp-ass morons who lack suitable female/mother figures in their degenerated lives!

annamaria:
Ehh, Jenny, I didn't say we see each other everyday. I said we do either mail or YIM or call or text. Not necessarily see o. We are both very busy people and most times we see it's even in the course of work. No ideas there, please.

And who is this Jackal?

meet xero himself! hi hon, how u doin? u know what, don't answer.

rampant- like a dog returns to its vommit? remember? (can't believe i didnt get banned that night)