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MrBrownJay1:
do you really call an artisan to change a light bulb?
do you call an artisan when your car doesnt start in the morning OR you call husband 1st?
do you call an artisan if you get hom and the TV doesnt turn on OR you call husband 1st?!
let us be honest here....



what does splitting bills got to do with BIOLOGY?!?!? YOU are the one who wrongly brought nonsense about biology to this discussion, trying to compare carrying a child for 9months with what men bring to the table (aka paying the bills etc).... and i corrected you by telling you that bringing biology to this issue is not only very poor, it is a fail of the highest order!



hhmm i suggest you educate yourself on MATERNITY LEAVE so i dont have to do it for you. by the time the maternity leave is over, there is no need to breastfeed children duh! as for you saying that it will be a man's turn to bring a child to work, (as if people in this generation even do that), you should be the one asking yourself the above question. nobody in this day and age bring children to work, unless they are market women etc. bringing your child to work is certainly not a life necessity as you have what is called KINDERGARDEN (if none of the parent can care for the child)!



why would you waste money on buying two prams if you only have ONE CHILD?!?!?!?! explain this to me as if i was a 5 yr old, because it makes ABSOLUTELY NO DAMN SENSE to my male's brain!



if thats what you feel, then why did you bring the issue to this thread, as if this was an important point?!?!?!



hopefully, they still have $common sense available for purchase!

I can change light bulbs with my eyes closed, if my car cant start and I cant do it, only a mechanic can do it. Even if I call hubby, he would still call the mechanic. I have am not a novice in engineering.

By nature, I should be sitting at home taking care of the home and raising children, he should be paying our bills. I cant withstand the strain a man can without blinking, thats what biology has to do with it. Maternity leave? You skipped where I own my own company? I work 20hrs a day!

Secondly u think C.E.O's dont take their children to work? Some women like me cant leave a child who cant talk in the hands of nannies and teachers for hours, so the nanny and the baby comes to work.

If we are using a surrogate, what happened to using IVF to get a specific gender or number?
What if I like a feminine pram and he wants something more bland? How much is a pram sef

Read my inital post, this thread is cruise for me, if you're gonna be sounding aggresive and personal, sweet dreams...

SeaTrade:
You are so kind ,thank you.
What's your name?

Please edit your post to remove the email before it gets spammed.

MrBrownJay1:
you guys would have a maid for all the above, no biggie! but even if you dont.... you will still have to do most of the above, unless you would also share 50/50 the FIXING THE HOUSE etc part

Would he really be fixing things or will he be calling artisans to fix them and spliyting the bill with me?

MrBrownJay1:
you cant expect the above BIOLOGICAL issue to be changed do you? maybe you also want to "penetrate" your husband to have children, abi?!?!? why not use your sperm too, lol! come on lady, at least make some little sense! whats next, you will want your husband to breastfeed the kids too?!?!

It's not my biological duty to split tbe bills na, since im doing mine and his, cant he help me with mine?
I'm not even saying he should carry the pregnancy, he should contribute money for the surrogate that will carry it. *WIDE GRIN*

MrBrownJay1:
the above makes no sense whatsoever....so you mean a person who works as a lawyer should bring child to court with him....what about the policeman, maybe he should bring child to checkpoint abi?!? thankfully , in the real world, husband do get 9 months maternity leaves too (if needed).
BTW why buy 2 prams if you only have one child?!?! see how your emotional state makes you write some gibberish stuff...

What if I'm an engineer too or a lawyer? Or a marine engineer? Should I carry the child and climb scalers on vessels? Lol, or should I resign?
Oga, 2 prams no be sin

MrBrownJay1:
... and you SHOULD!!!


the above is all down to UNDERSTANDING. a¡the name of a child should be chosen by BOTH Parents. its both their child. my question really IS: what kind of man do you even mingle with (that they would choose a child name regardless of your own choices)?!

Oga be calming down, life is not serious. Some of these things are cruise

MrBrownJay1:
if your friends and relatives needs his permission before they come into your family home, then you are definitely in the wrong union and should rightully RUUUUUUNNNNNNN! your friends and family are HIS friends and family!

Correct guy

MrBrownJay1:
the above is just immature childish rubbish...

Lol, Guy abeg buy $Rest on pancakeswap

olamoses75:
Goodluck, my sister.

Same to you my brother

SeaTrade:
Is this job offer still open?

U want it?

MistaCode:
This aunty is yet to realized husband scarce...!! The problem with most ladies this days is that they loved the idea of getting married but none of them wants to be wives...!!

But you guys said you dont want the broke housewives na...

Lol, wait, wait wait, I get the gist now, you want a woman that works and contributes just like you, cooks, cleans, washes, takes care of the children etc while u seat with your fresh hair cut watching la liga and chasing small girls on facebook

Favfables1:
I would love this tbh...
But take away that surrogacy part, e no follow ...

You would love this? Wow, a redpiller that says what he does... He's not even vulgar like the others.

Though the surrogacy is me looking for trouble , indulge me a bit, why won't you want surrogacy?
Moral reasons? Religjous? Cultural?

emmyluizzz:
we still have broke ass feminist
so shut the Bleep up

U dont want the broke ass woman, you dont want the rich one either cus u dont want to wash plate

Truvelisback:
Barister Athaliya, U funny die! Walahi. I'm not a complete redpiller, rather i am partially a redpiller and partially not. And i read Ubunja's threads sometimes and pick out some meaningful comments too. Different people have different views abt what Redpill is all abt. If u ask Mr. A, he tells u his own view abt redpill, if u ask Mr. B, he also has his own view abt it. Yesterday, a guy was telling me that i am not even a redpiller, that i will be doing as if i am one. I now asked him to tell me what redpill is all abt, but he couldn't.

Wetin man go do?
What prompted me to make this post is the way they talk down on Nigerian ladies. The same them that said "what is she bringing to the table" are the same people that doesnt want to marry a "rich lady" because the lady said that they will wash plate

Furcko:
both the tester and the testee enjoy the sex, especially the one that lies like a log of wood, so why should the tester foot the bill for both

Case closed

Don27tiky:
thats not true.
There is No general submission of all women to all men as anticipated by most men, the more submissive role for women is reserve for MARRIAGE. And it is very interesting how many men love to talk about the submission of their wives to them and conveniently forget about making sacrifices or even dying for their wives, remember that its quit supernatural for a man to unconditionally love his wife for her to submit and more noble for a woman to consistently submit to her husband for him to love, all the same, if there is no love there will be no submission and if there is no submission there will be no love both most exist.

True,
1. So why do guys constantly ask women "what are you bringing to the table"?
2. Why do guys broke shame women and say "they are eating what their father want afford" when guys don't really care about the woman's finances?
3. Why do they call women liabilities if deep down, they want her to perform her wifely duties squarely? Men will say they dont want a broke woman, then they marry a working class woman and tell her to resign and take care of the kids?

Furcko:
YES

Sameway Nigerians in diaspora will choose a village girl than a girl there

You gerrit?

This proves my point! guys dont want a woman they can split the bills with!

You just want to date women and have sex in the name of "testing the engine" while she pays her own bills.

Raalsalghul:
At the above, stop stylishly avoiding the truth: own your nature.

You're not avoiding broke guys because they have drama, it's in your nature to go for a richer man.

Nothing wrong with that!

Honestly, don't know why ladies like using that line of "broke guys have drama or are insecure".

Even if you see a broke guy that'll lick your feet, you'll still find another excuse or worse you won't even respect him cos you're not wired to.

It is what it is. Stop fronting abeg!

Haba!

Jokes apart, dating a guy you're richer than has drama except he is very matured. The day u squeeze your face he will say its cus he doesn't have money, the day u greet a client, he will say it's cus that one has a fine ride. Its not healthy for a guy's ego naturally. It can only work if he and she are matured

Bonesbreaker:
you will marry urself then

Cus of the split chores or because of the split bills

Don27tiky:
God created us male and female. Structured us differently to fit into various roles. I wonder why woman always want to be like men but men never wish to be like women. Women be women stop eyeing men’s role

But men said they want a woman who will provide like a man

Nyascobar1414:
Aunty is feeling Big...
A sensible man cant marry and feel so committed at this era to a female...
Cos Ion see your worth..
Your toto smells, you also menstruate and relaease that stench blood...
So with all these, how would a man tie the knot with a female..

Its just to set an agreement, he gets you impregnated pay you..
And you GTFOutta his life simple..

All men are a product of that stinking blood, same way all your children will be born from that stinking blood.

You cant pay me, you dont have what it takes. Find and pay for a hoe on your level

evil1:
This is absolute rubbish and mentality built on sentimental notions.

No matter how much you earn, once you're married it is never enough. You can have it all but still be a liability to your husband.

What is see in you is pride, feminism, absolutely disrespect and too much I have it all ego.

Assuming you do all these, in no time you will get tired and even leave the marriage because there would be no love, no sex all these accompanied with the fact that you are self made, no submission, pride, feminism built the wrong way.

Well I won't say much on predicted outcomes where all these you hope to apply in your marriage.

And that is why, I believe, without mincing words, your ego has kept you were you are and unmarried.

Where am I?

Furcko:
Wow athaliya amazing completely amazing, why didn't I think of this before.. You just highlighted points to consider that makes you and your gender completely replaceable in Marraige,
Like seriously why imprison myself with a Jezebel when my 7figures can sort out all I need surrogates, maids,chef, and still retain my peace of mind...who needs ur money, u could as well be single mother ni

Why then is the entitled feminist boss chic is my home when she isn't the mother of my kids, but a business partner, I can aswell fvck the maids and marry them while they take care of the kids..

And suddenly, the broke ass maid is a glorious option

RedpillAnalyst:
From experience Miss independent bring more to the table than needed.

Finance isn't what men refer to when talking about the table.
Are you bringing peace? Or you are finding someone to argue with everyday.

Are you bringing purity? Or you are bringing that repackaged high mileage mediocre pinyanta?

Are you looking for Mr entertainer to always make you happy and surprise you till he is drained? Or you are contented and derive pleasure in doing simple basic things like reading that bible, knitting and engaging in charity?

Haaaaaa, you guys that complained that girls are always broke, eating what their fathers cant afford etc.

Oya lets drop the charade a bit. I am jovial, I hate stress, I dont have strength to argue, I don't like noise or fight. I am not even a feminist sef. I am just a lady tired of these endless general bashing of my gender on social media.

I just want to prove a point today especially on the issue of finances that guys dont really want that 50-50 arrangement, they just want to broke shame women which is unfair

Starzo:
Anthem of Nigeria association of dirty oloshos

You just exposed yourself

Instead of you to be sending me your cv, you're typing trash, you don't even know where ur help would come from.
I currently need a cleaner, waec or neco will do. salary is attractive

RedpillAnalyst:
@athaliya

While I agree with you on most of your points. If what you say about yourself is valid. Most men don't qualify for you and [b]many sensible me[/b]n will opt you out as a viable option.

Average ladies who are very basic think about 80% of guys are thrash and undateable already. With money and resources on her hand that increases the number to 98%.

And a true redpiller won't go for the power couple arrangement. A woman is always looking for someone she can respect and have some form of dominance over her and a man is always looking for someone who will look up to him as a figure of authority. You don't need to look far why the likes of Tiwa Savage, Linda Ikeji or DJ Cuppy remain single.

I know many miss independent for are very comfortable either through hardwork or inheritance, but I don't opt for them because nothing good willl come out of it in the long run.

An astute man will find a way to make his own money and find a basic woman who is ready to follow this program not a loud, miss boss chic who will never be satisfied with basic things.

So most likely you will end up with a trickster and not a redpiller.

Is a redpiller a sensible man?

Someone who wants a woman to share his responsibility but doesn't want to share hers?

Lalasticlala

emmyluizzz:
a redpiller and a feminist

very bloody combination


but I love her write up

I think is fair

What combo goes with the redpiller? The broke ass you guys badmouth alot?

Starzo:
I see I hit a nerve. Besides na you first derail go begin talk about spec

Something is really wrong with the present crop of naija girls

Which nerve? You said I will end up in shilloh and I told you that I am a limited edition, my type no dey 2 for market I will get married when I want to and he will be the happiest man

Premiumwriter:
wait make I make money like you first

You go make am

RedpillAnalyst:
@athaliya

While I agree with you on most of your points. If what you say about yourself is valid. Most men don't qualify for you and many sensible men will opt you out as a viable option.


A true redpiller won't go for the power couple arrangement. A woman is always looking for someone she can respect and have some form of dominance over her and a man is always looking for someone who will look up to him as a figure of authority. You don't need to look far.

I know many miss independent for are very comfortable either through hardwork or inheritance, but I don't opt for them because nothing good willl come out of it in the long run.

So you agree that men don't neccessarily want a woman who will bring something to the table.

Most times, you guys are just bashing the women for fun

Starzo:
Wether full spec or half o, almost all naija girls na starfish for bed

Lol, abeg dont derail the topic... This is about what are we bringing to the table apart from the overrated p*ssy

Premiumwriter:
in order to sound posh, you ended up showing how selfish a relationship with you could be.

Anyways na men wey De do love is blind go get your back

Pray tell how I sound selfish

devilmaycry:
For this naija This one never tire to dey single...Shiloh is calling thee

Me wey be full spec I'm your dream come true jare, I dont upload my pictures again so nobody will take my picture to Shiloh

chatinent:
Una get time sha

I get time today

insidelife22:
Auntie even you wey write this thing know say e no dey possible.

so just for get it.

Why isn't it possible?

thorpido:
Yes,you have an ideal home with what you have written here.
Make sure he agrees and maybe even sign documented agreements before you tie the knot.

If he's asking for 50-50 then he should have figured these out right?