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So I have a $50 voucher from linkedin and I do not really have anything to advertise for now so I decided to sell it. Its real o.
it's pay before service.
See the last one I used in the scrn shot below.
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Call him and tell him that daddy is very sad and its because of him. When he asks why, Tell him that its because he does not trust you, and he's hiding things from you . Promise him you will not beat him or shout at him and you will buy his favorite toy or snack if he tells you who it is. Dont pressure him , just tempt him. You can even pretend like you want to cry. Then when he tells you, you must keep every promise you made to him. Before you make any move, call him and tell him what you want to do, why its important you do it and steps you will put in place to ensure that the person cannot molest him again.
Shortcut: Tell him the man is an agent of the devil. It solves alot of problems very fast but dont use this line very often o

Thank you all for your contributions

Perspectives:
Thanks man, you see, about your points:

1. I think am being true to myself, I know exactly what I want in a woman, and am being flexible about it, I know I can't mould a human being.

2. Am also being realistic with my expectations , I know there's no perfect woman out there.

3. Am ready to tolerate someone but you know we all have limits.

4. Am also ready to discipline myself to be a better man.

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Now, this is where the issue lies, those things I mentioned above are all about me. The question I would like you to answer are as follows :

1. How am I sure that she's also being true to herself, not expecting me to be perfect and all that.

2. Even if she's all good and everything right now, what's the probability that she won't transform into something else after marriage.

3. If she's not perfect or meet up to my expectations, is it okay to take the risk and tie the know hoping we'll work it out along the line (at least we say no one is perfect).

4. How will I know of she will stay true to me in hard times.

5. Can I be certain that a particular woman will be faithful through her character in this age of pretence. Even if she seems faithful, how will I know if her ex won't come back and try to have way with her even after marriage or even some random guy when am busy.

So many other questions running through my mind but they are all based around the fact that is there a way to know a woman who won't give you problem in your married life because obviously it is no longer about love as it used to be in those days.

Pray and follow God's direction

So I and my friends have been arguing over the actual identity of the people laughing in this picture.
We know tu Face, we know Okocha, but the third person is who we need clarity over, we know he is a Kanu, but which of the kanus is he?

Please help somebody o.
Thanks.

tosyne2much:
Do you mean discussing it him is a bad idea?

Not at all, I was referring to your indication about knowing the sexual capacity before marriage. If you mean, discussing it with your partner, what if the partner lies? If you mean practical observation, it cant be trusted too for the reason I earlier stated.

olujaidi:
So, how does a fella distinguish between when no means- "I don't want" and "I want to be seduced".If one is mistaken for the other, your lover could be seen as selfish, inconsiderate etc

CC: bukatyne; athaliya; acidosis; PaperLace

It all boils down to understanding who you're with. There are days I wake up on the wrong side of my bed, nobody talks to me, neither do I talk to anyone (at home). Thats cus they understand me well. So you should be able to understand the body language of your partner. If you aren't good at reading the body language, you can make up for it with communication. No matter how bad we feel, we'll want someone to talk to, someone to share the problem with us. So if you notice she's squeezing face, you can ask how her day went, why she's moody etc. If there's really something bothering her, its most likely no will mean no. If she doesn't even tell you whats up, no will most likely mean no. If she's tired and worn out, no will most likely mean no.
Meanwhile.... for some ladies, they'll just want someone to hold them or touch them only.... But its easy for the guy to see it as a green light and want to go all the way down. Please don't misunderstand me, in the end, she may be a willing participant but next time, she wont want you to hold her cus she no get power to say no or go all the way. However, if you consent to just cuddling and petting, she may end up seducing you herself. So it all boils down to understanding your partner and communication.

Disclaimer: I spoke on behalf of myself and a few ladies I know. If what I wrote doesnt talk about you, dont eat me up
N.B: For the guys, if this works for you, kindly contact me for my address so you can forward my bottle of Rose Martini

tosyne2much:
It baffles me when people get married and one party starves the other party of his or her conjugal right, cos I used to think such thing only happens in "boyfriend and girlfriend relationship"

Some ladies naturally do not enjoy sex and they will end up frustrating their husbands with konji.. That's why every man should try to know the sexually capacity of the lady he wants to marry so that he will not be starved of sex in marriage

I beg to disagree sir
I can't be comfortable screwing a guy that hasn't put a ring on my finger no matter how the love hold me reach. Meanwhile I have a high drive. Guilty koko is another factor.

Congrats in advance while we wait for the daddys to come share their experiences

Joavid:
so men experience heartbreak like this

I never knew.

I'm as surprised as you

Laburos:
See you.
She is justifying it and please read the article before you display your sluttish life here.
You are just been naive and a big fool.
Go get a life. :-

I've said it before, you're a child that has alot of growing up to do.....
That being said, I don't roll in the mud with pigs. Go find your fellow pigs and stay out of matters beyond your IQ

[quote author=chukagates post=54175598][/quote]Listen to yourself.......... You need to shut the hell up....

If this woman came here to say she caught her hubby giving out fake numbers and so decided not to talk to him till he tenders apologies, will you support her? Tell her he's damn wrong?
One of you even told a lady in a similar case to wear red pant for a cheater.

I give out fake or sometimes real numbers too, when they call I simply tell them off or give the phone to my bf to help me out. I'm working on saying no but due to my temperament it's not easy. Luckily for me, le boo is well matured.

Let's try to see things from another perspective to give a non partisan advice.
Sorry for any insult dished out anyway

YACAA:
Sweetheart,

It is understandable if some women find it difficult to say no; but is that the best? We should all learn to say yes when we mean yes, and no when it is no; nothing in between. If you find it hard to say no to others then it means you do not have a will of your own, which makes it hard for people to trust your decisions.

No her husband is not possessive; her husband is merely unhappy that his wife can not stand up for herself in a situation that is disrespectful (there is nothing respectable about another man asking for a married woman's number; what is he going to use the number for?)

In addition, men know themselves hence her husband would be very upset that his wife could not decipher the intentions of the doctor and defend her husband and her marriage

And to add to that, it was very unprofessional of the doctor

This is how we open doors and windows for rubbish issues to enter our marriages

Perfectly understood. You didn't have to make me feel less human for me to understand that.
What I'm saying is that these hypocrites insulting her and saying how they'll send her packing are liars, go nau their wife is the dictator in their homes or they are cheats themselves.

If she came out with a story of how her hubby gives out false numbers, they'll all be talking about how she should be grateful he even gives false numbers, how she should be prayerful and patient, how she should wear red pant etc.

Let's treat everyone fairly and with love.

Laburos:
Just admit you are open and weak which will crash your marriage someday.
May God help you to be bold enough to face your Devil and tell them I am Married.

Ladies Like you (Who does not have a NO for an answer) are the reason Many Families are broken

If my wife do that I will redflag her and Start Preparing for Life without a wife.

I will Judge you: What you did is wrong,hurt his pride and No justification at all.

Abeg make we hear word.
Egoistic men like you are the reason marriages are scattering. This is obviously the first time she is learning that it's a sin/crime to give out numbers.

Whatever happened to correcting in love?

I really hope you're still a teenager cus you have alot of growing up to do.

amyzon:
Well I guest being married is a different school of its own

I find myself in your shoes every day, I just don't know how to say no. If I were in your shoes, I'll have done exactly what you did or even given my real number.
I guess your husband is very possessive (which is a good thing) so no vex too much.
Thanks for sharing, I never knew giving out digits is that bad, I always wonder why my bf puts on a stony face the moment I mention something similar. Well, now I know.