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The cows and donkeys that they worship

Galatians 5:19-25

Now, the effects of the corrupt nature are obvious: illicit sex, perversion, promiscuity, idolatry, drug use,

hatred,

rivalry, jealousy, 

angry outbursts,

selfish ambition, conflict, factions, envy, drunkenness, wild partying, and similar things.

I’ve told you in the past and I’m telling you again that people who do these kinds of things will not inherit God’s kingdom. 

But the spiritual nature produces love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness,

and self-control.

There are no laws against things like that.

Imoh555:
Nigeria will get to this stage too very soon... We are the generation to bring the demon called Islam to stand still and go down

Galatians 5:19-25

"Now, the effects of the corrupt nature are obvious: illicit sex, perversion, promiscuity, idolatry, drug use, hatred, rivalry, jealousy, angry outbursts, selfish ambition, conflict, factions, envy, drunkenness, wild partying, and similar things. I’ve told you in the past and I’m telling you again that people who do these kinds of things will not inherit God’s kingdom. But the spiritual nature produces love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There are no laws against things like that."

Beremx:
“Every normal European, Christian or atheist fears this satanic pedophile creation of the devil,” rumbles another critical MP.

Colossians 3:8 

"But now, put off all such things as anger, rage, malice, slander, abusive language from your mouth."

*LESSONS FROM THE CASE OF THE MISSING GENERAL.*

Eventhough Maj Gen Alkali is no more, his disappearance is a blessing in disguise to the Muslim Ummah because of the following visible lessons:

***It shows how professional personnel of Nigerian Army are. Inspite, the actions of the over 500 sponsored ungodly women who demonstrated, the exercise continued and the killer community was exposed.

***It is not unlikely that the humble General must have introduced himself as a General and since he is a Muslim, he was not spared by Berom Terrorists. Yet some notable religious bodies who always speak out on issues like this, have not made any comment on this ungodly act.

***Most impotantly, Allah (SWT) used Gen Alkali case to answer the prayers of Muslims and exposed the Berom terrorists who have been killing innocent Hausa - Fulani and Muslims for over a decade.

***Also, God Almighty used the General's case to save lives of many Muslims. After all, 3rd September to date the Berom Terrorists no longer block road to kill or their motorists no long phone the killers and inform them they have Muslim passengers in their buses. Only God knows the number of souls Berom killers would have terminated since 3rd September 2018 till date.

***Interestingly, the actions of Muslim Ummah since the discovery of the General's car and his properties are worthy of emulation by the Christians in Benue, Taraba, Kaduna and Plateau States.
Muslim youths did not block road to kill innocent Nigerians. Rather, they kept praying to God to expose the killers.

*** The families of those killed by Berom Terrorists and their vehicles were pushed into the pond have equally surfaced.
Some cases dated back to 2003 when their loved ones disappeared.

Unknown to them it was a community that was tasked to be killing Muslims that was responsible.

*** Unlike the case in Kaduna where the Chief, his wife and 3 members of his entouraged were abducted. Incidentally, a man and his wife were abducted on the same road and at the same tme. The Chief's group 5 Christians and the other couple 2 Muslims numbering 7 were moved to the bush. The Chief' s wife was later released perhaps to arrange for ransom.

*** The kidnappers contacted the families of the two groups for ransom. The victims were both Muslims and Christians.
Unfortunately , the misguided youths misinterpreted the kidnapped case differently, blocked road and began to hunt for Muslims to maim and kill.

***This is the what HATE SPEECH and FAKE NEWS have caused the people of Kaduna and the innocent passerbys. Many innocent Nigerians were killed and properties destroyed.

***We have situation of the usual blaming the victims. It is usually Hausa- Fulanis are killing our people on the cover pages of biased print media.

*** Is the case of the kidnappers that abducted the 7 Nigerians and later killed the Chief different from that of EVANS- the multi billion Igbo kidnapper now facing trial. Most of his victims were Igbo and Christians both those that he killed and those that paid ransom. In a particular case he collected a ransom and still kill the victim. How sure are the Southern Kaduna youths that the Kidnappers are not within. Kidnappers do not care of your ethnicity or religion. Once you fall victim whether you are a Pastor or Imam, what they are after is MONEY, EGO, KUDI, OWO, etc.

Ironically, some of the best Nigerian lawyers from the Geographical Zone of the Victims of EVANS' ungodly acts are now defending him. We could recall when EVANS was arrested, he applies sober but now he is looking healthier and has the gut to say that his confessional statement was taken under duress. The tricks he was taught by those who want to have their own share of the blood money in the name of professional fee.

*** Some of the Berom Terrorists on the wanted list have surrendered themselves to the police in Jos.

Nigerians are watching. God is watching. But the memory of Gen Alkali and the hundreds of Muslims that were killed by Berom Terrorists shall haunt the killers and their sponsors including the over 500 women.

Proudlyngwa:
No , we will continue educating them on the consequences.

Your education won't sell guy, remain single and that will practically make up for those giving birth...

Ugosample:
do you even know what you are saying? ?

China's population has been over a billion for a long time
The same for India
that means that there population did not double over the last 40 years

Nigeria'a population has tripled since the 1960s, and that is the big problem

it's not the number, it's the growth RATE

Nigeria's population was estimated to be 140m in the last census

And it is projected to be 240-250m in 2025

That is almost double in less than 20 years

And you think there is nothing wrong with it

The Nigerian census is not credible.

The agencies handling it manipulate figures for religious, economic and political reasons.

So the premise of the growth rate argument is not tangible.

Additionally, why do the Americans need to grant more visas to people to come in to their countries.

Are those coming in not in creasing their population?

Mynd44:
Compulsory vasectomy will be on the agenda after 2 kids

You kuku ma don't born pikin at all. Then I will hail you.

DonFreshmoney:
Why don't you also limit number of sperm per father??

Very useless government

Very useless alien idea!

Mynd44:
How about number of children per men? If you want to limit the number of children woman have, it only makes sense to do so with men too seeing that a lot of times, men are the people who decide for the family

You see, many a time, we just want to borrow foolish ideas at all cost using flimsy excuses.

In countries where family planning is enforced by the law, immorality, fornication, same-sex marriage, abortion etc are prevalent...

Are they willing to legalize all those evils too??

daddytime:
This will be a great step at tackling one of the major issues in our country which is "children manufacturing" as if it were going out of fashion, without any recourse on how to give these kids some quality life thereby constantly recycling poverty, ignorance and nuisances.

Part of the circumstances that led me to trekking the desert onward Europe in search of a better life and to help my siblings/family make a sense of their lives. The kids are always the dupe of this poverty-induced past time of baby making.

I support this move wholesomely.

It's a simple arithmetic;

remain celibate (and invite others with like minds to that) and allow others to have 15 children per woman.

Proudlyngwa:
Misleading headline,
I support the motive though, if we continue giving birth like this, I wonder how ten years from now will look like.

You better become a catholic father and invite your acquaintances to that to save the chance for those willing to bear as much as possible.

lovedatruth:
I have being waiting to hear this news a very long time ago. Our population is our greatest challenge in this country.

I always wonder how people reason; is Nigeria as populous as the US or China.

They have a better governance not a smaller population.

"This recent religion (christianity) is neither new nor strange as it is only a pale reflection of earlier pagan beliefs."

- Celsus, 360CE.

priceaction:
Na wa oo. What is the aim of this thread now? To discredit the Lagos own as local class? I don't know why many people on this forum are so bitter? You are comparing a developing country to many countries that have developed for over 100 years together?
Who does that ,if not a bitter soul.
In the first place, ambo is trying to change the face of Lagos generally. Yes, he makes some harsh policies, but ,hey, this is good for investors in the long run.
Instead of you lots to put pressure on your state government from the other end to have visions, spend money wisely and put meaniful projects on ground, they are building statues and monuments up and down. In the next 15 years when the face of Lagos is totally changed, you will be claiming it was your tax from your 50naira gala that ambo used to megalize Lagos. The only fault I have with the whole story is bubu coming to commission that, which ,to me is unnecessary because of the traffic and pressure it will create on motorists because of many road constructions going on around the exit axis. If it was Accra district that build something like this, it is you lots that will be making mockery of Lagos state upon her IGR. The place that has digital settings and to know the schedule of buses in and out? What else do you want it to have?
By the way, the Ikeja own is one of about 20 stations about to commission in his first tenure. And about 10s of modernised jetty are still underconstruction and many more. Just wait and see. Shebi you hardly sleep while compiling this, by the time he is done and all almost the same time, it is only God that can save you not to go into coma and land in ICU

Softly, softly... He won't repeat that again.

Why I hate Muhammadu Buhari!

How do I vilify a man who is guided by the doctrine of social justice? Ayo Fayose who literally wish Buhari death was recently paid a whopping sum of N11 billion as refund of money spent by Fayose to rehabilitate FG roads in Ekiti.

A vain and petty man would have denied Fayose any benefits from the federal government but not Buhari. Obasanjo denied Tinubu his constitutionally permitted allocations to Lagos same way Timipreye Silva was booted out of office for daring Jonathan. Muhammadu Buhari like a father he is has remained like a dumpsite where all refuse are heaped on. And with measured equanimity, he accepts the shenanigans of everyone. In fact, a serving minister openly kicked against his re-election, yet she still remains in his cabinet. Who tolerate such affront if not a Buhari?

He is being accused of obstinate dogmatism, some said he is insensitive and a religious bigot and ethnic jingoist, yet he remains stoic without pandering to the expectation of the naysayers. Never for once has this man spoke from the mosque, yet we call him an Islamic 'agendaist'. We remember how GEJ used every church podium to address the nation, yet he wasn't accused of christianizing the nation. For Buhari, it is always a forced ascription.

We accuse the man of populating the nation's security architecture with only northerners but praise the western domination of our economic team.

We accuse the man of nepotism yet non of his children are holding any position. What exactly is the fault of this man? Beyond the blanket generalization of he has failed, can you in specifics, list out his area of failure?

You have a president without an oil well, no private jet and ownership of shares in our national asset yet you vilify him? Do you prefer a man who left the prison with barely 20k but now rich if not richer than Nigeria?

You can accuse president Muhammadu Buhari of slow decision taking effort certainly not of unfair dispensation of the nation's resources. He is too guided by conscience to treat Nigerians in unequaled template. The man has nothing to gain by changing from a good man to a bad man in his 70s.

Let not our personal biases and prejudices push us to vilify an innocent man who is doing everything possible to right the wrong of governance.

Frankly musing

There is absolutely NO difference between these sets of WAYWARD groups of people:

1 - Those who blame Islam, The Noble prophet and Buhari for the insurgents' attacks.
2 - Those hoodlums who went to burn churches because mosques were attacked. Islam is NOT of them and they are NOT of Islam.

It is disheartening however that, with most comments here, people cerebral normalcy are getting fewer on earth!

Bonapart:
After all the death boko haram caused the north and some illiterate are killing people for a non existing human
Let your prophet kill by himself
Like seriously these people are human....

















Biafra till......infinity














Quote me and run mad

I had wanted to reply you but when I saw your name, I said, no wonder, your cerebral hemispheres are already apart.

So I rest my case.

Polygamy is often seen as the end of a happy marriage, but it need not be that at all. Take it from me, I’m a happily married first wife and I’m friends with my co-wife, masha Allah; in fact she’s sitting in the same room as me as I’m typing this. Polygamy can work if the husband and both or all wives go about it in the right way.

I have heard many horror stories about polygamy gone very wrong, and in all those cases, at least one person in the marriage was not following the Qur’an and Sunnah, usually the husband. Polygamy requires us to adhere to everything that Allah has taught us about marriage, and to follow the example of Muhammad and his wives. This is the foundation upon which any marriage, monogamous or polygamous, is built, but with polygamy, it’s even more critical. Without this foundation, it isn’t going to succeed.

While polygamy is frequently seen as benefiting the husband to the detriment of the wives, the reality is that it’s far more difficult for the husband. He has to not only fulfil the rights of both wives and support both families financially and emotionally, he has to juggle his time between them, settle any disputes and difficulties that arise, and all the while ensure that he’s being just and fair. The penalty for him failing to treat his wives equally is being raised up on the day of Judgement with half his body paralysed. The Qur’an strongly warns men that if they can’t be just between their wives, they are truly better off with only one. For men that take Islam seriously, polygamy is a huge and weighty responsibility and it’s an arduous task to get it right. Meanwhile, each wife has no more responsibility than a monogamously married wife, and in some cases (e.g. where the wives choose to share accommodation) they can end up with a lot less responsibility than monogamous wives, as they share the running of the household and help each other out with the children.

Sharing love
One of the biggest fears women have of polygamy comes from a misunderstanding about the nature of love. Love is seen as something finite which has to be shared between people, so if a man takes a second wife, it’s assumed that he must love his first wife less because of it. The truth is that love is infinite and does not need to be shared between people. Just as when a mother has a second child she still loves her first child as much as ever, when a man takes a second wife he still loves his first wife just as much. Good Muslim men who choose polygamy do so because they truly want to love and protect two or more women. If he really didn’t love the first, divorcing her then remarrying is a much easier option for him both financially and emotionally than having two wives.

Sharing time
What you share in polygamy is your husband’s time. Whether spending less time with your husband is a good thing or a bad thing depends on your outlook. Of course it’s natural to want to spend plenty of time with people you love, but we also need time for ourselves. On the days when he’s with his other wife, there is no benefit in sitting around missing him. Instead, treat it as a time for you, and a chance to enjoy things that married women find it hard to make time for. On your nights with him, you have a husband to share your bed with; on the other nights you get the whole bed to yourself and can snuggle up with a good book and have some “me time”. Plan your evenings when you’re not with him to do things that you enjoy, so you look forward to your evenings without him as much as your evenings with him.

Co-wife rivalry
Try not to see your co-wife as a rival. Instead, try to focus on strengthening your relationship with your husband. If you don’t feel secure in your relationship, then it’s only natural that you’d see the other wife as a threat. If you are sure of your relationship with your husband, then ask yourself why you feel threatened, and remind yourself of what you have. If your husband is going to love you and stand by you no matter what, then what can she take from you?

A useful piece of advice I heard from a brother is “the insecurity of the first wife is that the second wife is her replacement and he doesn’t love her any more. The insecurity of the second wife is that the first wife is his first love and he’ll never love her as much as he loves his first.” This reminds us that the other wife has her own doubts, and to see clearly what we have instead. Look at why your husband loves you and try not to dwell on what he may or may not feel about her.

No love triangles in Islam
Focus on your relationship with your husband as a single entity, disconnected from his other marriage. Islamic polygamy is not a triangular relationship; his marriage with you and his marriage with your co-wife are two separate relationships. You are not obliged to have anything to do with your co-wife, but if the two of you choose to be friends, then that’s a third and discrete relationship. This means when you’re with him, the two of you need to act like the other wife doesn’t exist. Enjoy your time with your husband and do all the same things a monogamous couple would do together. If you are friends with your co-wife, don’t discuss your husband when you’re together, and spend time with her when he’s not around.

Tackling jealousy
Jealousy is best tackled by focusing on what you have. “Jealousy is when you count someone else’s blessings instead of your own,” (anon). If you feel jealous about anything, ask yourself if it’s over something that you really want, or whether you desire it simply because your co-wife has it. If it’s the latter, then try to forget about it and remind yourself that you don’t actually want it. If it’s something you really want, then focus on how you can get it for yourself because you would like it, not because she has it.

If it’s the relationship you’re jealous of, concentrate on building your own relationship with your husband as though she’s not in the picture. If you feel that he loves her more than you, then maybe he isn’t giving you enough attention or affection, and frame this as a problem in your own relationship that you need to talk to him about and resolve, rather than as a problem with your co-wife.

These things won’t eliminate jealousy altogether, but they should minimise it. Remember that even ‘A’isha had times when she was jealous of Muhammad’s other wives, and even broke a plate because of it.

When things go wrong
If your husband is not dividing up his time fairly, or not fulfilling your rights in Islam then he is the guilty party so don’t blame your co-wife for this. This applies whether it’s something minor or very serious. Speak to him about the problem and tell him how you feel. If he’s a good husband, he’ll do something to rectify the situation. If he doesn’t and you’re having significant problems in your marriage because of it, then you need to go about dealing with it in the same way you would if you were monogamously married.

Marriages fail either because one partner is not fulfilling the rights of the other (or worse, abusing the other), or because the two partners are not compatible. This is the same in monogamy and polygamy. Relationships fail sometimes in spite of one or both partners putting in their best efforts, and that’s why divorce is halal.

Sometimes men try to fix a failing monogamous marriage by taking a second wife – in my opinion this is like trying to put out a fire in the living room by starting another fire in the kitchen. Other men want all the benefits of polygamy but refuse to accept any of the responsibility and end up treating their wives very badly. There are some situations where staying in a marriage is not in anyone’s best interests. If you find yourself in such a situation, then you do need to know when to call it a day. An important thing to remember is not to blame polygamy itself for the marriage failure. The failure is due to incompatibility, or one partner systematically failing to fulfil their responsibilities to the other.

Polygamy, when done according to the Qur’an and Sunnah can work and indeed be beneficial to the wives, and it’s my opinion that it doesn’t need to be feared. We should fear Allah, and be good spouses to each other. We should remember to show our husbands our appreciation of them and all that they do for us, and they need to do the same for us. This is the key to a happy marriage, whether polygamous or monogamous. Insha Allah, by following the advice above, this happiness can be maintained in a polygamous marriage, despite the specific challenges this type of relationship may bring.

Dhakiyya is happily married and currently lives in Bahrain. Her co-wife is living nearby, and they have four children between them, aged between 5 months and 6 years. Dhakiyya plans to work as a literacy and English as a foreign language tutor and freelance writer.

SISTERS Magazine © 2014

Using logic here would only land us in a recycling error.

A tenacious attachment to divine traditions is the only measure of safety so that what happened to the Christians and the Jews will not happen to us with time...

Allaah says:

Surah Al-Ahzab, Verse 1:
يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ اتَّقِ اللَّهَ وَلَا تُطِعِ الْكَافِرِينَ وَالْمُنَافِقِينَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيمًا حَكِيمًا

O Prophet (Muhammad)! Keep your duty to Allah, and obey not the disbelievers and the hypocrites (i.e., do not follow their advices). Verily! Allah is Ever AllKnower, All Wise. '

Surah Al-Ahzab, Verse 2:
وَاتَّبِعْ مَا يُوحَىٰ إِلَيْكَ مِن رَّبِّكَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ خَبِيرًا

And follow that which is inspired in you from your Lord. Verily, Allah is WellAcquainted with what you do.'

May Allaah protect us from misguidance.

dekatrons:
There are numerous verses in the koran which made mention of knowledge,intellect,pondering as a human vital instrument for worship
I will ask you a simple question here..if the human sole goal is the worship of God and the brain one of mans most important organ,doesn't it have a vital role to play to enable man accomplish this sole aim? Indeed God does not create anytin in vain,he exppects us to use our brains in worship dat is why he has created us with one
Yes you are indeed very correct we should love and fear Allah but don't you think a better definition is "The FEAR TO DISOBEY HIM DUE TO YOUR LOVE HIM" it is only natural that when you love some1 so much you will always want to do what makes him happy and desist from that wich makes him unhappy.
What is your say brother?

The similitude of the human intellect and the divine relations is like that of the eye and light.

We are required to use our senses to understand and comprehend divine revelations which is to be understood as Allaah revealed them with the tutoring of his messenger (sallalLaahu 'alyhi wasallam).

Allaah says, Surah Al-Anaam, Verse 106:

اتَّبِعْ مَا أُوحِيَ إِلَيْكَ مِن رَّبِّكَ لَا إِلَٰهَ إِلَّا هُوَ وَأَعْرِضْ عَنِ الْمُشْرِكِينَ

Follow what has been inspired to you (O Muhammad SAW) from your Lord, La ilaha illa Huwa (none has the right to be worshipped but He) and turn aside from Al-Mushrikun.'

A Muslim worships Allaah out of love for Him definitely. It is part of His love that one fears His chastisement too. The above verse describes a true Muslim.

In Islaam, we are not given to logic.

Allaah commanded that we worship Him hoping for paradise and with the fear of Hell.

Allaah said about some of His prophets - who are our role models as Muslims,

Surah Al-Anbiya, Verse 90:
فَاسْتَجَبْنَا لَهُ وَوَهَبْنَا لَهُ يَحْيَىٰ وَأَصْلَحْنَا لَهُ زَوْجَهُ إِنَّهُمْ كَانُوا يُسَارِعُونَ فِي الْخَيْرَاتِ وَيَدْعُونَنَا رَغَبًا وَرَهَبًا وَكَانُوا لَنَا خَاشِعِينَ

' So We answered his call, and We bestowed upon him Yahya (John), and cured his wife (to bear a child) for him. Verily, they used to hasten on to do good deeds, and they used to call on Us with hope and fear, and used to humble themselves before Us. '

So, the classification is of no value. We only take to what Allaah stipulates without the use of logic.

In the belief of Ahlus Sunnah wal Jama'ah which every Muslim is obliged to subscribe to, Allaah prescribed punishments for sins so that we may shun sins.

It follows therefore that a Muslim shuns sins because of the fear of Allah's punishment.

In the Sufi parlance and erroneous belief, they claim they worship Allaah because of the love for Allaah and not because of the hope for Jannah or the fear of Jahannam. This is against the belief that the Messenger has left us upon.

Aboo Hurayrah narrated, the messenger of Allaah said:

"The similitude of myself and people is like that of a man who prepares fire and when it lightens up, insects began to fall into it. The man began to prevent them from the fire while they overpower him and were falling into it.

So, I am holding back your loins while you are finding your ways of falling into it. "

Reported by Bukhaaree and Muslim.

So, this hadeeth proves that we shun sins for the fear of Allaah’s punishment.

Allaah knows better.