Akinbahm:

Team virgin u wanna claim u've not been a victim of those lies?

Yes.

Only a dumb person would fall for any of those...

Happy Birthday to her!
Let me set alarm for 5pm so I can rush to the school.

Jigba:


Some people like me naturally have oily skin. It has nothing to do with cleanliness

Help me tell him oh!

CAPSLOCKED:




DOES WATCHING PORN HELP A YOUNG GRADUATE IN A JOB INTERVIEW?

I just can't!

adebayobr:

what if d user has exceeded d maximum number of times he or she can use the scratch card then how are dey going to confirm
dis school just like to dey wahala person on top irrelevant things.

You have to get a new scratchcard na.

bukdan:
What do they mean by scratch card for each copy of waec or neco

I think the scratch card(s) will be used to confirm the authenticity of your O'level result(s).

Awon Pastor yii sha.

Tollzara:
Don't worry, I fail most of the time, because I need a center to stay sane, to be a person with a bearing and identity.

I'm glad you figured that out.

Cheers to the freaking weekend!

Tollzara:
Hehehe. I'm full of contradictions at a very basic level, because things appear differently when viewed from different angles, and it's a part of my greed to always want to have a peep from all the windows.

You want to have a peep from all the windows? It's almost like you're trying to eat your cake and have it.

Quite true. Aside birth and death, life is all about nothing but growth. It is said that there's nothing constant but inconstancy. It's what makes life fun, and in the unpredictability lies the MEANING.

Ditto!

Tollzara:
Football is stupid, alright. I really don't understand it. And what I find even more incomprehensible is the fact that I used to love it when I was in Junior secondary school----I played football like mad, even in the rain. I was a Barcelona fan. It was Messi. Messi. Messi. - Leo, the God of Soccer! Upon entering senior school, I could no longer recall what I loved about it. I was like WTF.

But I won't really call it stupid, given what that would mean for a lot of humans (and they're very many). Moreover, it would be analogous to calling my brother stupid. Nigga's an aspiring footballer. I try to support his aspirations, even though I don't see the sense in football.

You started by agreeing that it is stupid....and then you went on to say that you won't really call it stupid.

I understand what you mean though.
I also think it's perfectly normal to let go of certain hobbies and unlearn certain skills. It's all part of the growing process.

There are certain things I do now that I couldn't see myself doing a few years ago.

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I DO

Hahaha! I'm not alone.

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You think so too?

Cute couple!

•I love dancing when there's no music on.

•I like to keep my eyes closed while eating meat...I only do it when I'm at home though.

•I love looking at my reflection... Each time I walk past a mirror, I stop and look at myself. Each and every time!

•I think football is stupid... it just doesn't make any sense to me.

•I love wearing my dad's shoes.

lovelygurl:


Lmao

I am, thanks

I'm glad.

lovelygurl:
I get irritated super easily

Hair videos calm my nerves down, especially wash day videos

I hate any form of chessiness e.g cheesy names

Ignorance, to be precise ignorant people give me headache

I don't mind walking up to strangers and giving them a compliment. It's weird because I go back to ignoring them, just like the strangers they are

That's so me!

Hope you're better now...

Tollzara:


Regret? It didn't seem like something that deep to me:

Sounds more like saying, sometimes she feels sad that her children do not need her around, because she trained them to be "independent"----in a sense of talking about the impact it had on HER----but also adding that it's not that bad for her, because she benefited in her career (but, where is she now? What has she achieved? I know actual professors who have reached significant heights without having to neglect their children----because there was no need to)----not that she thinks it was really bad for her children, or it affected them in some way. To her, they're independent and okay; what makes her sad sometimes is that they do not need her around (she wants them to accept her and attach so much value even though she didn't do her duty), which comes off as not considering it "that serious", and downplaying the actual gravity of what she did. I've witnessed such way of treating children first hand, and I'm not discussing it in the abstract, so I know the kind of effect it can have on children. That's why I'm being so disapproving of her.

That's right. Thanks.

You're right. But she comes off as insensitive to how her action might have negatively affected her children, and that's what would attract people to the bad side.

But then, there's something about THE AMBIGUITY OF LANGUAGE.

Oh dear.
I do not agree that she did not express regret. We're looking at this issue from two different perspectives and therein lies the problem.

I must admit that you have put up some strong points and though I understand your stance (especially on the issue of neglect), I'm afraid I still do not agree with you that she should be judged or condemned for the choices she made and the path she trod.

It's been wonderful talking to you.

naturalwaves:

This sums it all up that she didn't necessarily have to choose. She just decided she was going to shut off the home front due to reasons best known to her and that validates same point we have been making all these while.

It was nice talking to you.

Enjoy the rest of your day.

naturalwaves:

Talking about the irresponsibility part, she gave us some evidences to show she wasn't very much responsible as a mum. Except if you want to say that she cannot be totally irresponsible......maybe something like partially responsible .

Not every woman is cut out to be a mother..Something like partially responsible? Haha.
That's a moot point.

Talking about her decision, she wasn't incapacitated to make the necessary one. It is not something that would have required a very heavy wherewithal. She was obviously selfish and never cared because an academic position gives you the greatest liberty of all with respect to time.

@bolded... That's your opinion. Obviously, she believed otherwise.
You keep talking about how an academic position gives you the greatest liberty with respect to time. I find it funny because I happen to know a stay-at-home mom who has a terrible relationship with her children. Although quite unrelated to the issue at hand, it goes to show that spending all your time with your children doesn't make you capable of raising them well.

Yes! She placed her career above all...However, she regrets not doing a few things differently.

donstan18:


Lol, ladies can be funny.

Just like you.

Indeed.

Men can be funny too.
We're all regular comedians.

Tollzara:
Exactly. Marriage is not a must. Everyone has the opportunity to make choices and decisions----whichever one they make, they should be ready to face the responsibilities that come with it. You should know the level of your competence, and the extent of your capabilities, so you would be in no delusions about what you can do, and make your choices accordingly. If it so happens that you judged yourself wrongly and made a decision that turned out to be a mistake, you wouldn't be justified in saying you're proud of the mistake and make no apologies for it. Admit you were wrong----no one is above mistakes----and move on.

She expressed regret at not having a tighter bond with her children. That alone goes to show that she's indeed remorseful. One does not have to come out point blank with an apology before you realise that such a person is sorry. I believe you know that much.

She didn't train her children to be "independent". She obviously trained them to disregard her and put her at the bottom of their priority list. No one should be proud of that.

Refer to my previous comment. From what I could decipher...she's not saying she wouldn't have given up her career if she could turn back the hands of time. She's only saying that she would do right by her children.
Once again - Regret.

So, yes, if she knew she couldn't handle being a mother, she shouldn't have become one.

"KNOW THYSELF".

Yeah. I'm not judging her concerning the divorce. I was only asking questions and considering scenarios that would make it valid to call her irresponsible, which are not necessarily true, since I have no idea what happened. Don't mind me.

True.
She made a mistake by not fully considering the consequences of her actions.

True. But we can only judge based on the information she provided. Except the claim is being made that we should give her neither horns nor halos, since we're oblivious to the details, which I wouldn't contest.

My point exactly...There's no point calling her names and saying she's wrong or right to have done what she did.
I know I cannot make the kind of sacrifice she made..

But it's basic human nature to make judgements based on perceptions and appearances----and we can't be 100% rational 100% of the time.

I agree...We're all flawed.

So maybe people should stop washing their linen in public, if they aren't out to make clear revelations. Afterall, she's passing a message across in some way.

Exactly. She is passing a message.
For some, this would be a warning to always consider the consequences of our actions and our obligations and responsibilities before making certain decisions.

Unfortunately, we're quick to only see the bad side.

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I do not think they aren't responsible. What I meant was that, we do not have the necessary yardstick to say maybe or not they are responsible. There is no observable evidence that we can use to say that and if you are going by the fact that one of them is married, that doesn't mean such person is responsible. After all, their mum got married and wasn't responsible.

We also do not have the necessary yardstick to say maybe or not their mother is irresponsible. There is no observable evidence that shows that she completely cut herself off from her children's lives. Keep that in mind.

She regretted not being able to balance the two. That's what you failed to see underneath.

The home front and an academic career are not mutually exclusive. That's what I actually have a problem with. I have a problem with the fact that she couldn't strike a balance or a near balance.

Now you're talking! They are not mutually exclusive and yet people find it difficult to juggle the two perfectly.
She regrets not being able to balance the two. Why do you have a problem with that?
The fact that you believe you would have the strength or wherewithal to make different choices if you were in her shoes gives you no right to ridicule her own choices.

I didn't say she didn't contribute or anything like that. I said " I won't be surprised ". So, didn't make any assumptions.

So you didn’t make any assumptions right then...why go for the worst case scenario?

donstan18:


We mustn't have all the detail.

Our opinions should come as regards to what she, the woman told press.

Now, from what she said, do you think she did right?

If we are to base our opinions on what she told the press then it's not for me to say whether she did right or wrong.

That's the point I've been trying to make right from the beginning.

donstan18:


Not like I'm tyna force answers out from you, i'm questioningly highlighting the reasons why she should be faulted and blamed for breaking her home just for career, she should have focused on the career before going into marriage.


Furthering on your motion of judging people's decision, are we both to believe that no one deserves to be judged or faulted by people, even if he/she did a wrong thing, are we?

I understand perfectly. You've highlighted the reasons why she should be faulted for breaking her home. I still don't agree with those reasons because we don't have all the details. No matter...

The problem here is this - We have different opinions of the word 'wrong'.
You believe that she's wrong to have chosen her career over her home, trying to convince you otherwise would be fruitless.

We're at an impasse...

angels09:

Goalpost shifting. Your aunt if it's so... she's a useless woman. I am going to dig her lifestory out.

I encourage you to do so.

Please dig out the lifestory of this useless woman.

donstan18:


I think the question should be, Why did she go into marriage when she know she values and can sacrifice her home to her career

Why will she distance the bond of her kids?
Why put her husband in a broken home situation?

How much have you heard a man sacrificing his home to career?

Why didn't she focus of her career ahead of marriage?, why getting married?

How many great women broke their home for career?

Tell me.

You ask all this questions and it pains me to say that I can't answer them...Why you ask?

Because I'm not her.
It wouldn't be right to make any assumptions because we simply do not have all the details.
Making so much out of a comment she made on an interview is a complete waste of time, if you ask me.

Like I said while replying a previous mention.
It's so easy for us to judge the decisions people make when we don't have firsthand knowledge of what made them follow that path.