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Ozkar:
you bet it isn't. It's Pseudo-science that became popular sometime ago, because it contained a lot of 'researchers say'. I think the original article was from 'Psychology spot' or so.

a child intelligence is dependent on 2 factors: environmental and genetic.. mothers care and teachings are environmental factors that help nuture the the intelligence of the child..but wen a child is genetically unintelligent, no matter the role the mother plays in his life, nothing much will change. e.g a child with down syndrome... in the same vein wen a child as the traits of intelligence and he is not notured properly by the mum( no matter how inteligent is the mum) or maybe if the child is nutured by a househelp which happen to be his first contact, there is every tendency that that child's intelligence will b dampened. that's d psych behind it

peepydelano:
doctor wey no sabi Bleep,is dat one a doctor?if u knack her well, which brain go remain for her to think say u no wear condom?And why is it such a difficult task for u to cajole her into running some tests for both of you? Oga take charge of that relationship and stop forming good boy.obviously u ain't letting her go from your response so far, it's good but will be better to know how clean and disease free is the river u want to jump in nd swim.I don't condemn people easily kos obviously she has some good side dat is making u stuck,so get u two to run some test before giving her ur raw dick.Stop bin d vegetable here.

okay...I think I know wat to do...tnx for this

Ishilove:
Yes, and I can see how the brain is working out for you. Mr clueless medical practitioner.

Better start thinking with your head and not your deek

I wasnt referring to you when I said slay Queen. I dint intend to insult u. you can take your anger to somewhere else abeg...don't av the head for that..
I wil start thinking with my brain now and not my pennis..tnx

BecaciaBarbie:
Op, so far no one has insulted you but only told you the truth which you are finding it difficult to chew. You deserve no advice from anyone, go ahead and please yourself and stop disturbing us! You obviously not ready to get losed from your imaginary love web, so please carry your wahala and go.

you gave a very important advice and am grateful.. the entirety of your contributions is like a mirror showing me how I may have been used by this girl...but am not just comfortable with u insulting her..haba!

lefulefu:
iyam sure though i no ask am
see ehn any man who sponsors a girl without any strong commitment or uses money to buy a woman"s affection is just playing himself for a maga

I hope this your discussion is another discussion entirely.. I hope you guys are not in any way likening me to the man who sponsors a girl and was later gilted. I just hope so

BecaciaBarbie:
Looolz who knows, op could be lying

you think am happy displaying my problems here on nairaland where badmouths and ever hungry predators like you are always available to tear me apart??
you think av been on this thread since morning to be lying? u think I have that time??
I just hope you haven't copied her number before my attention was called to blurr the number..
see this girl fa

Fourwinds:
OP...after reading the screenshot...i began to cry on your behalf


Such a girl ,it doesnt take me 24hours to take a decision on her without consulting...

I cant date for a year without seeing a positive indicator to stay put...

tanks for this...atimes you do things and tolerate things u feel is normal whereas in the outside world is far from normal..you just need someone to tell u its not normal.. that's y I shared it here so I can know wat is obtainable elsewhere

Ishilove:
My point is he should be the brains in the relationship.

madam Brain. if your guy is an authoritarian me am not..
I met her with an amount of brain capacity I admired and I don't av problem with it

well that crayfish seller might just have what most of the slay queens lack...you never can tell

Ishilove:
I've seen the second chat on Facebook so I'm wondering what the correlation is between her itching punny and immature, money grubbing.

the money grubbing was just another excuse for her to break up or I will say to press home her primary demand in the first three snap shots..she threatens break up over everything
who shared the last pix on Facebook to u
I have to remove this last pox before it reveals my identity..thanks for notifying me..obviously the only positive way you av contributed to this topic

Ishilove:
He says the chats are from the same person.

she was tensed while she was typin in the first 3 snap shots... the last snap shot happened recently

i put this here so I can be able to hear a good number of people's opinion to be able to know how situations like this is been handled by Nigerians. i will pick the ones I can pick and jettison the ones that their message has been clouded by insults like this lady above

Ishilove:
I'm not going to comment on your situation. Your girlfriend's atrocious grammar has left me so discombobulated, I can't even think straight right now.

*shudder

her bad grammar is more comprehensible than this your big grammar..
I hate sounding like am supporting her but you guys should just be nice with your words on her..

BecaciaBarbie:
When I hear "Maga" the description of a rich fat old married man comes to my head, not a young medical doctor as op but op is clearly one... a big one at that.

you really think am a maga.....how can you just conclude that about my personality just from a single story I wrote...do you know what we av gone through, the ups and downs and the sacrifices she has made in the past? so from the bottom of your small displaced heart u really think I don't know wat am doing .trust me if u were in my shoes u wil b a more mega maga...
this nairaland sha i expected comments like this sha... thanks for your contribution anyway..

dairykidd:
That is the main issue with Benue girls but my brother if u can satisfy her sexually i swear down u will enjoy her. They can be very loving to a fault i swear to u. I have lots of them in Abuja & when i broke na them dey survive me but one thing be say them fit still dey cut corners on code based on hustle but once u fit dominate that side them ready to do anything u want

so you are satisfying the lots of them sexually? mehn you dey try o..are they ok with you using a barrier?? or they complain too

MissRaine69:
I will post it again
Obstetrics/Gynaecology with a special intrest in Fertility and FGM.
The emphasis being “special interest” did I mention FGM as a stand alone speciality?
I did not.
You need to be hit with a few blunt points to reset a fee things in your head. What is the point of mollycoddling you at this point in your life?
Anyway I will ensure that I put hugs and kissss to cushion the blow when writing future posts.

ok I get it now...
smiles...ya pls u better soften up in your subsequent post..the grace you av is that I don't know how to report someone to lala..

MissRaine69:
What do you want in life? What’s important to you right now?
Obstetrics/Gynaecology with a special intrest in Fertility and FGM.

Have not heard of FGM been a specialty on its own in medicine. i stand to b corrected though ..if your a specialist in O$G am very sure u got married before you became specialist...
tanks very Much for your contributions dear..though they were very harsh but I still managed to filter out some very useful messages in them..

MissRaine69:
Do you know how long it takes to specialise? How any unsocial hours you have to work? The impact that has on a spouse/partner? Especially if they have the mental depth of a teaspoon?

I don't intend marrying someone with a shallow brain..tnx

MissRaine69:
Well I disagree working in Lagos I treated more colleagues than I care to recall and some of them repeat offenders.

wow so you are a medic..you said you specialize in 2 fields..what are they? are u married?

MissRaine69:
Yes I do actually as I specialised in two fields.

I dont know your field of study but to be a specialist (consultant) in medicine or surgery, it takes a lot of time ranging from 5-10 years... for neurosurgery its like 8 to 10 years
so I don't know if your are trying to say I should wait for averagely 7 years again after my 8 years I spent in medscul before I should get married

MissRaine69:
It’s nothing to do with pain it’s a mindset. Nigeria has one of the highest rate in the world of children born to mothers who are HIV positive, Nigeria also has a very high rate of HIV infection and one off the lowest rates of condom use.
Those are things no one should be proud off.
You have not even specialised yet I bet? And you are worrying about marriage? Stop thinking with your d1ck. Children inherit their intelligence from their mother, do you want to have children who have the stupid gene?

do you even have an idea of how long it takes to be fully specialized in a given field?
this girl sef you will just be intentionally spitting our rubbish under the cover of 'blunt advice'

MissRaine69:
The concept of career is alien to you I see.

if am replying u it will be asif am supporting my ex.
ok now tell me how does marriage affect one's career pursuit? as a matter of fact missRains marriage does positively catalyze it

chikk:
Wait, thw last screen shot it real? Lol... I honestly thought it was a joke because I saw it on facebook yesterday and ignored. I felt it was made up because it doesn't make that a reasonable human being should respond like the girl. Like seriously, oga, just thank your God for setting you free from this girl Abeg. Run

#boyfriend material Ha!!! God!!!

did u see the the complete screen shots on Facebook or just d last one?? it was just d last one I posted recently on Facebook cos its d one dat happened recently
modified: I just saw where u stated that is d last screen shot

lefulefu:
why are u even letting him know this sef.i laugh when i hear some guys saying that withdrawal method will prevent u frm getting hiv and gettin a girl prego.

it takes a certain number of sperm cells to cause fertilization..its a very tough competition goin on in there so the spermatozoa in pre-cum is usually not sufficient enough to cause pregnancy so complete withdrawal before ejaculation ideally, is a way of preventing pregnancy. except in instance where the popular medical statement comes in " you can never say never in medicine "

MissRaine69:
He likes them immature and thick .....a sure why to be miserable Maybe that’s his thing.

missRaine how can an op recommend someone for banning to the super moderators? your comments sha!

Eveezy:
Thank u for this, op is confused nd his question is irritating to my eyes coming from who he claims to be.
Like what other advice is he seeking for? Are we nt d ones who would go to a doc for such advice? Doesnt seem real to mi

everything I wrote up there is real and true
tanks for your invaluable contribution

LadySarah:
love has scattered this ones brain.

Until now ,i didn't know that body chemistry had anything to do with unprotected sex.

Oga,unless you are a cleaner working in a hospital,you need to be knocked several times on the fontanelle area.that way your head gon reset.

am not a cleaner
unfortunately all my fontanalles are already fused so maybe the knock should be on the temporalis region...am serious here this one is talking about knock. come knock na

MissRaine69:
It’s nothing to do with pain it’s a mindset. Nigeria has one of the highest rate in the world of children born to mothers who are HIV positive, Nigeria also has a very high rate of HIV infection and one off the lowest rates of condom use.
Those are things no one should be proud off.
You have not even specialised yet I bet? And you are worrying about marriage? Stop thinking with your d1ck. Children inherit their intelligence from their mother, do you want to have children who have the stupid gene?

not really, I doubt if anyone wants children with stupid genes.
but how do u come about the assertion that intelligence is inherited from mothers..last time I checked intelligence is not an x-linked associated trait

dairykidd:
The last screenshot totally disconnected... Meanwhile Op if u like urself leave Benue girls alone oo. If u attempt what ur mind is telling u na community kpekus u just help shelter

she has been looking for a way to punish me primarily cos of the issue of unsatisfying sex...
I sent her 30k a day before the 5k demand seen in dat screen shot yet she stil "broke" up with me( she as broken up with me like 100times and always comes bak apologising so I don't take her break up seriously anymore )...everything habit she displays all boils down to the issue of sex...

MissRaine69:
You are in the medical profession and you are actuallly second guessing the practicalities of safe sex? What manner of doctor are you?
Do you reeally want to start your career with kids, a wife who won’t aide your developement in any way shape or form? You are dating mediocracy and nothing good has ever come out of dating a woman who has a mediocre mindset it’s like an anchor all it does is hold you in one sorry state of nothing.
So why is SHE not on the pill?
Why have both of you been screened for STI’s if the issue of unprotected sex is the issue?
Your parents put you through medical school to get confused over such fuckery?
What the fck is wrong with you?
What’s wrong with some men?

I don't even know if this is an insult or an advice.
well thanks for the insultive advice

BecaciaBarbie:
How old is she?


Wait, do you guys really think all ladies are this way? A lady who truly loves you and wants you will never compare you to other men not to talk more of wanting unprotected sex with you.... Please do away with her for your own sanity.

24...
tanks for this...I hear a huge percentage of Nigerian ladies don't like protected sex that it hurts them hence the increasingly growing number of STD incidence in African as a whole and Nigeria in specific..
ur response really changed my orientation about it.

chikk:
I'm sorry to say it, but I feel you know already that her mediocrity is on another level.

"Doctors are clean"? Chai...

Good luck op

most doctors are truly clean but you know there is always exception to everything... doctors and health professionals in general can be promiscuous but they take necessary precautions..

chikk:
I don't even understand...

Why is she not OK with the use of protection? I don't get women these days o

She's just dating and not married yet, and her partner is helping her protect herself form diseases and unplanned pregnancy, but she wants to "connect"? Hian!!

Anyway, I don't expect much from a person with such writing format

Oga poster, be careful o. I never heard of someone ending a reasonable relationship because they want to "connect"

It's either she wants to hook you with pregnancy (which you are already falling for), to hook you with STD(which you should test her for should you give in to her request) or she truly isn't feeling you sexually (which means you don't play your card well in bed because if you do, CD or not, she won't complain)

Either way, good luck

atimes i try to make her feel the need for a test by tellin her that i myself can av an STD that she never can tell but what she would say is that "doctors are clean" so she wouldn't think twice avin unprotected sex with me..she always has a response to whatever excuse I give
..that's I am scared that maybe she truly av an ulterior motive.
tnx for the advice