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Yankeeboy02:
I want to stop, I pray and cry to God daily
I can’t point to anything I have achieved at my age, I have lost everything,my car , my land , I am losing my marriage.
Everyday I just wish God can take me away, emotionally down

Apart from gambling what else makes you happy? Can you shift your focus to that second thing? I don't have job now but I am doing small Poultry Farming at my backyard to keep myself busy pending when another job comes.
I honestly understand how it feels not having a job. The family depends on you.
Bros suicide is never an option pls I beg you. Me wey no get work dey beg you please

Hmmmm

Let them enjoy. Their son is in power

Hmm

Exprofressor:
I will try to be brief as I can. Pls read on

I was born in a broken home from two different tribes in the country.
My late mom was a lecturer in one of the state polytechnics though she resigned her job when she couldn't cope with her mental illness. Me and my siblings were only in primary school then

My dad showed no concern for her health and came back to his hometown engaging himself in politics that have benefitted him nothing.

Me and my elder bro grew up with our dad while my two little sisters stayed with my mom, though we lost our last born the year 2005

I grew up with asthma and lacked mother's care. My dad and extended family even my grannies disliked me because they taught I was slow and couldn't cope with my mates

The truth is that my asthma was severe. I couldn't move an itch without my inhaler. The abuse got worse when in my early youth I couldn't do basic work to earn like my mates by working on building sites.

I was called lazy and the day I tried to prove I wasn't lazy, I nearly died of cement dust

My mom died last year April
She died poor and in pains due to liver disease.

I didn't remember giving my mom anything substantial before her demise, though i didn't have, but I feel I wasted my early youth by not making use of the best opportunity that presented itself after I left secondary which would have bettered me

Few years before her death she pleaded I move to stay with her. I couldn't because she lives in Northern Nigeria and there's no job in the area. I am in deep pains!

My mum mental health resulted to her adding hypo in her food and water claiming it's a cure for BP.(she also have BP)
I feel I am responsible for her death and hate myself for not reaching for my mom when she needs me. If I was around she wouldn't have drank hypo occasionally thereby destroying her liver


Now I feel I am becoming a demon. I hate helping people, infact when I see people in need I withhold any kind of help because God didn't give me chance to offer help to the woman I love most. I think because I couldn't do for my late mom no one is worth it.

My lack of empathy is growing by the day.
My girlfriend left, saying she couldn't cope, she says I have to start forgiving myself.
Do you believe I refused rendering help to my dad when he had accident? This was even before my mom died

I have taught about suicide but I can't just imagine how my bro will feel. Despite causing him pains too, he have always tolerated me and I know the damage my death will cause him. I wish I was never his brother


Pls I am tired of being angry and depressed
Is there a remedy for me? Sometime I think I behave abnormal, I really don't know if I am mentally insufficient too

I strongly believe that you are okay. The depression is something you need to work on by forgiving yourself about your Mum passage. It hurts loosing someone you love and I do believe you know how bad your Bro will feel if you take wrong decision. Please be strong, you wil pull through.

And this is the same man some are clamoring to become the next President... What a shame

This is stupidity

Who is he telling

Anyim appears qualified and I do hope the Political Class considers him

Is it possible this man knows something about the Terriorism in 9ja?

NoQualmz:
Dont mind the SIMPle Op. he's scared of calling the exact state and town where this rubbish is happening...maybe he's scared the girls brothers will beat him up. He just wants some ediots to drag the entire igbo race.

The fake write up got me annoyed this afternoon. How can you come online to belittle a whole Tribe... It's a huge insult.

Na only few people like you understand the useless write up.

Ihatebuhariwith:
you wrote like one of the said aunties/uncles..

Bros, I am not but what he said sounds ridiculous. I am married already and I know what he said is not done anywhere in Igbo land.

Temptee101:
Which part of Igbo is that?

This is strange, I am Igbo and I have never heard of such tradition.

Don't mind the Joker that wants to trend

Munzy14:
As a son of the soil, this marriage list things are negotiable..To be honest, the only important thing is her bride price which are usually cheap sef.
Then, things you buy for her mom, dad and siblings...Those her uncle things na gra gra...Some people exploit thier brother's kids suitors in this type of situation.

Every other things is a test for you to scale through...It will be a mirror to know the caiibre of man who is coming to marry there daughter.

One secret, dont agree to any thing they present...Bargain, negotiate...If e reach to do small gra gra, please do...In the end they will know this in-law no be mumu...You will as well earn your respect..

But, have this in mind, no amount placed your woman's head is too big for her worth for the fact you really really love her...go and negotiate...

If they say 5k pay half...

Them no dey marry woman finish..

Most average homes won't allow you spend much, so if you treat their daughter bad, they can come back to take her...

All this require wisdom to navigate.

If na poor house with entitlement mentally you go marry, may God see you through sha...

He is a child that wants to get married. Make him no carry his Elders go marry... Na online marriage he wants. I think the Poster is not serious about the marriage but just want to ridicule his in laws to be if truly he is serious about the marriage

Blixon:
Please my Igbo brothers and sisters,

Help me answer this.

I went with my friend to collect list from my prospective in-laws last weekend..

I am fine with the list though heavily loaded already, but now the family are saying that that’s not all, that I will also bring wine and money in envelope for all her brothers, they are seven in number, same for all her paternal uncles and wrappers for her paternal aunts, they called it something in Igbo “to marry for someone”.

Please is this supposed to be so? I am not very knowledgeable about the culture, help me here pls. What custom is this? I don’t understand why I have to marry for anyone else or buy wine for every sibling, uncle and aunt.

The Diokpara’s own is already stated in the list so why asking to do another one for the same diokpara again including the siblings and uncles and aunts.

Bros if you are not ready for marriage better continue living your Bachelor life. If you want to marry the lady, why not go ahead and marry her instead of coming online to talk about these childish talk. It doesn't show you are matured. It's childish please. You are asking us without mentioning the community so that people from the exact Community will advise.

Sometimes you guys online to write whatever you want to write to trend.... Na 2022 we dey. Stop am

The New Hope Feed might be good but Availability is the biggest issue in Port Harcourt. I remember calling you before but there is serious availability issue in Rivers State. Help us. I can partner with you to supply.

PlayerMeji:
Truth be told..

Yoruba land especially Ogun State needs to apply the approach that the Igbos applied in the mpuri mriri (whatever it called) issue so that people can be sensitized to know that no where in Yorubaland is anyone permitted to kill the other without consequences.

Edited

How many times have you seen anyone coming out to campaign against these ritual killings in Yorubaland.

The families of the boys that committed this heinous crime should be made to face the music as well. When criminals and their families are made to pay for crimes committed like these.

It will deter prospecting ritual killers masquerading as yahoo boys.

Please I know of the fact that some innocent people may be wrongfully punished but the peace that it bring will outlast the damage

Would they hear you... Rather you would see them avoid this conversation to wait for IPOB post while their very homeland is sliding to something else.

Itulah:
This is lame. Please learn to shut up sometime, cause you sound very stupid.

Does he even know what he is doing? Sounding uncoordinated just because he wants to defend his Darling Daddy.

This car is my spec

Another nacking loading...

Roads done in every State? Is Abia State among?

This should be purely on bargaining ability and nature of the company. You need to know that only Government entities have that kind of range you are looking for.
All you need to do is ensure the salary is relatively market based pay

You may consider going to Abuja. Do your Bolt drive and plan more on what next. Deciding on going to SA within a week is short a time. Don't be in a haste to go to SA. The Visa will still come again. God bless you with your final decision.

Useless Govt. Insecurity you can't fight with 4G? What do they even know about 5G. Useless set of people

Ok

I think the Northerners might be encouraging these Terriorists to establish more ground while NA is busy looking for nothing in SE. May God have mercies on us in this country

Oga we hear

All na fake

Easy oooo Umahi

They want name instead of education. ASUU should work seamlessly una dey form my children dey private school

This is so shameful from people one would have expected to know better. Tomorrow they will tell us how they love each other.