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Romance / Re: I Sent Her Out Of My House Late In The Night: Did I Do The Right Thing? by AyobamiOluwole: 5:53pm On Mar 24
Thank you all for your well thought-out advice. Some feel what I did is right with regards to her not keeping up with her agreement some feel otherwise. But majority agrees that it is not the right thing to send her out at that time of the night.
For some saying I wanted sex, I swear down that I wasn't in any mood to have sex with my frustrating situation. I simply needed comfort or whatever name I could call it. Most importantly my anger is so bad that I can be heartless unnecessarily.

I regret doing that and I am begining to get over the whole thing since she is alive and nothing happened to her. I have learnt my lessons.

I sent her WhatsApp messages apologizing since she refused to pick my calls but she replied with insults. After that, I have deleted her number and our chats and hopefully her chapter is closed and life goes on.

Thanks once again guys ✌️

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Romance / Re: I Sent Her Out Of My House Late In The Night: Did I Do The Right Thing? by AyobamiOluwole: 8:37pm On Mar 23
GodHimself:
Provide an update pls.

Have you guys spoken since then? Did she apologize?

What ia your perception of the outcome of your decision?


She wouldn't pick my calls. She only replies my chats. I have apologised to her, but she keeps replying with insults. I have deleted all our chats and deleted her number as well. It's all bygones now.
Romance / Re: I Sent Her Out Of My House Late In The Night: Did I Do The Right Thing? by AyobamiOluwole: 5:39pm On Mar 23
Dracula123:
This is/was a friendship that wasn't built on romance. There's no part in your story where you asked her to be your girlfriend.

The fact that you are generous to her doesn't mean you can do whatever you want whenever you want.

Sending her out of your house isn't bad since she's not giving you what you want, you should have given her a little token for TP. Don't forget you were the one that called her to come

And she agreed to come for that simple reason.

Romance / Re: I Sent Her Out Of My House Late In The Night: Did I Do The Right Thing? by AyobamiOluwole: 5:04pm On Mar 23
AndrewTate:
The mistakes of this generation are plenty… one of them is young men not having the right knowledge about women.
Women are not as decisive as men, they are softer and more “child like” no matter how hard they try to portray themselves as. I’m sure from the moment he said that to her deep down she was troubled cos she didn’t want to do that but now she can hardly say no cos she has put herself in that situation by ignoring her gut feeling which has probably told her it was a bad idea to keep receiving things from a man she wasn’t in any form of intimate relationship with. Some girls would be able to fight through and struggle with their conscience and allow him have his way then feel damned deep within there after and keep devaluing themselves leading to other acts of self destruction after that. But she couldn’t do it.
The thought process of men is very different from that of women. Women need a lot more guidance from care. As for men, the universe wouldn’t even cut you a slack before you face the consequences instantly and there’s only betterment as a result. But for women the damage is mostly permanent.

Treat women with more care and love today lads! She’s someone’s little girl 📌

But she came to my place for that reason Bro. Pls get that part. She came to my house for that reason.


I get what you are saying to be true. But how could she do something like to me when she knew she was coming for a cuddle.

If you tell me I did wrong sending her out, I will agree without any doubt. But you see the issue of "she didn't want to do" is just infuriating cos to me I felt like I was been played. I felt she just came for the comfort of it and just being unnecessarily selfish.

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Romance / Re: I Sent Her Out Of My House Late In The Night: Did I Do The Right Thing? by AyobamiOluwole: 5:03pm On Mar 23
hopeforcharles:

Because her been there would increase your hurt and at that time you need a healing touch which she is not ready to give u. Do u know people do kill themselves because of losses like this? What if what it takes to keep them alive or make them have hope is cuddling and she was in the position to do that what would you think would have happened?

And stop been guilty tripped by those Lilly selfish people up there acting all holier-than-thou I am sure they will do more even worst.
I have lost thousands of usd on crypto and forex I understand what you went thru.
Just make sure u cut your losses in time because I was hoping it will come back to my entry and it never did.
So stop crying over spilled milk and man up

Thank you very much..

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Romance / Re: I Sent Her Out Of My House Late In The Night: Did I Do The Right Thing? by AyobamiOluwole: 4:50pm On Mar 23
AndrewTate:
Her body for you to just chose to “cuddle” with is crazy…. Your spending on her was never pre-agreed to be one with strings attached so keep it that way. You want to “cuddle” with her cos you’re sad about your business? and not because you’re both in an intimate relationship. What is a woman to you?
If you can’t continue what you’ve started without keeping your hands off her then end it all or formally propose love to her and be in a proper relationship. Women are valuable humans too!! Geeeeeezzzz
Having to explain this is crazy sad!!!

Thanks for your honest opinion. But Bro, you're forgetting she told me she is coming to my place for something like that. Why not see from that perspective too.

I really bleeped up sending her out at that time of the night. But I felt that was the only way to teach her a lesson. 😔

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Romance / Re: I Sent Her Out Of My House Late In The Night: Did I Do The Right Thing? by AyobamiOluwole: 4:48pm On Mar 23
NoahHadNoArk:
So much gaslighting in the comments above me

She knew what she was coming for and she came for that purpose, only to chicken out at the last minute. It’s normal as a human to feel frustrated and believe you’ve been played on. Sending her out to create space for another female who is more than willing is fair if you ask me.
I mean she says that’s not what she’s here for

So telling her someone who is here for that is around and won’t be comfortable seeing her her, anyone would understand that logic.

Now to the part of throwing her out with no money, take to mind you’ve been generous to her in the past. Most girls go around with the so called “vex money” and I’m guessing that’s what she fell back on, otherwise she would have given in to your requests for a simple cuddling and all would have been well.

Don’t allow any vaginarian manipulate you for any reason, all you asked for was a cuddle. That girl is having her brains banged out on a daily by a guy who is not doing even half of what you’ve done for her and that’s the irony of life.

My peace I leave you
Thanks, I wish I can like this comment a million times.

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Romance / Re: I Sent Her Out Of My House Late In The Night: Did I Do The Right Thing? by AyobamiOluwole: 4:46pm On Mar 23
hopeforcharles:

Don't mind all those peeps nailing you. In the public every body just want to condemn you no body really cares about you.

Should I tell you what my wife did for me?
She noticed my mood.
Came and hugged me and told me don't worry you will win another day.
Made food and gave me
When the child was disturbing my eating time she called them off
Served me chilled drink
And faced the fan to my side.
After some minutes I felt better and energized.

That girl has lost a good friend
A Friend in need is a Friend indeed.
You needed her then and she didn't show up for you.

Wow. This is how I saw it to be honest. It wasn't a difficult thing I asked. In that moment I only needed someone to comfort me. A cuddle was the only thing I could think of. How could she not see it that way? And my anger was so bad I acted foolishly. 😔

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Romance / Re: I Sent Her Out Of My House Late In The Night: Did I Do The Right Thing? by AyobamiOluwole: 4:41pm On Mar 23
hopeforcharles:
Look I understand your situation. It's only a trader that will understand what u went thru.
I lost serious money yesterday on forex trading, if not that I have built a high level of inner strength to contain loss I would have done same u did or more.
She wasn't considerate you told her about your loss and need and she just came to leech on you. Don't apologize she is a very selfish person.
Had u injured or harmed yourself as a result of frustration and pain what would be her response.

Great you understand me. I'm talking about $1500, that's about #2.1million. Yes I was mad and frustrated but why should I send her out that time of the night. This is my regret.

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Romance / Re: I Sent Her Out Of My House Late In The Night: Did I Do The Right Thing? by AyobamiOluwole: 4:39pm On Mar 23
funkemary:
You are wrong and it doesn't speak well of you. Based on how you define she is just someone you assist with one thing or the other, no intimacy or whatever connection attached you now call her one day to cuddle and probably lay with her. Haba would you have succumb to it if it was to be you

Not all persons are cool with friends with benefits kind of thing. I'm glad your conscious took a better part. Please apologize for sending her out that late in the night

You are right. I was just frustrated that I felt it wasn't much to ask for. I felt she was just so selfish to even care for me. She knew I wasn't happy and I all I need was just a little comfort. I lost about $1,500. I was very sad the whole of that day. I wish you may understand me.

The part I sent her out is the part I just don't get why I did it. I really regret it.

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Romance / Re: I Sent Her Out Of My House Late In The Night: Did I Do The Right Thing? by AyobamiOluwole: 4:36pm On Mar 23
AndrewTate:
Her body for you to just chose to “cuddle” with is crazy…. Your spending on her was never pre-agreed to be one with strings attached so keep it that way. You want to “cuddle” with her cos you’re sad about your business? and not because you’re both in an intimate relationship. What is a woman to you?
If you can’t continue what you’ve started without keeping your hands off her then end it all or formally propose love to her and be in a proper relationship. Women are valuable humans too!! Geeeeeezzzz
Having to explain this is crazy sad!!!

You are right. I only felt it was not too much to ask for.

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Romance / Re: I Sent Her Out Of My House Late In The Night: Did I Do The Right Thing? by AyobamiOluwole: 4:22pm On Mar 23
nifemi25:
That's really bad of you... You shouldn't have allow your emotions to control you... Imagine if she was shot or got.kidnapped... will you now goes to her grave to seek for forgiveness.... You need to go and apologize to her and let her know you have realized your mistake and it won't happen again

Thank you very much. This is why I like Nairaland. Honest opinions is what you get here. I must admit I felt very foolish after doing that. Now I see it that I've lost her for life. And that she will have the impression that I don't value her life or her for sending her outside at that time. Damn. I have done many bad things out of anger. I really regret this.

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Romance / Re: I Sent Her Out Of My House Late In The Night: Did I Do The Right Thing? by AyobamiOluwole: 4:18pm On Mar 23
AndrewTate:
You are mentally unstable.

Thank you but pls tell me how pls. And also consider that I did this out of frustration from a trade loss and anger.
Share me your perspective,I'll really appreciate.

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Romance / Re: I Sent Her Out Of My House Late In The Night: Did I Do The Right Thing? by AyobamiOluwole: 4:16pm On Mar 23
brain54:
The only selfish person I see here is you...

Please tell me. I need to see this from a different perspective. Pls. I regret it and I wouldn't like this to happen another time.

Perhaps my mindset. Pls tell me.

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Romance / Re: I Sent Her Out Of My House Late In The Night: Did I Do The Right Thing? by AyobamiOluwole: 4:13pm On Mar 23
eddynaira125:
You have done Well sir, please Kindly accept the New title called NONSIMP Man of the year

Leave this NOSIMP of a thing. I didn't do it based on whether I'm forming Red pill or not. Anger and frustration is a bad thing. Bleep Futures trading and Crypto. Damn. All this wouldn't have happened.

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Romance / I Sent Her Out Of My House Late In The Night: Did I Do The Right Thing? by AyobamiOluwole: 3:58pm On Mar 23
So this girl has been coming to my place, eat the best food and all that. I've asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no. I do give her money without asking her for anything on return because I could see she is not the lazy type and she is really hardworking. I am very much ok with finances and I see no issues with some of her demands.


Yesterday I called her and told her that I'm not happy and that I need cuddle only and not sex(I lost so much Dollars from futures trading that night). She later called and said she will come to my place for that reason. In my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex and all, but I don't really want sex.

All I just needed is someone to cuddle and get distracted with that's all. This is the only time I am demanding something from her.

So she came during the evening time, and later that night we went to supermarket and I got her something's to eat at home for the night. We got back home and everything was going well. We were both on the bed when I reminded her why she came. This is someone I've been doing quite a lot for without even thinking twice out of pity. She wouldn't give in and wouldn't let me know why she can't just allow me to cuddle her.

Mehn, from the loss I had earlier and all that, I got infuriated and called another girl telling to pls come over for the night. Then I told this girl to leave my house since she can be that selfish. I sent her out of my house around 10pm. She was telling me she doesn't have money to go home, I didn't care and I shut my door against her. Though I was scared letting her out on that road and that time of the night but my anger got the better part of me. It was later after getting over the whole thing I confirmed nothing happened to her from someone else.

Pls is there anything wrong with what I did?

Modified: Anger is a bad thing. I am wrong sending her away at that time of the night. This is probably the judgement I'll get 😔

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Health / Re: Please How Do I Treat A Bleeding Gum? by AyobamiOluwole: 8:41am On Feb 03, 2023
yrhuhfy113:


yessss

Ok. Thank you very much!
Health / Re: Please How Do I Treat A Bleeding Gum? by AyobamiOluwole: 3:16am On Feb 03, 2023
advanceDNA:


ask for hydrogen peroxide by pfizer ....if they dont have they will give another product...

This is it right?

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Health / Re: Please How Do I Treat A Bleeding Gum? by AyobamiOluwole: 3:13am On Feb 03, 2023
yrhuhfy113:


veryyyy MILD listerine... OR Bret

pls avoid TCP cos you may do more damage

Sorry is this the veryyyy MILD listerine??

Health / Re: Please How Do I Treat A Bleeding Gum? by AyobamiOluwole: 3:09am On Feb 03, 2023
advanceDNA:


Na hydrogen peroxide sure pass....and take plenty vitamin c

I made my research too. But then, I don't know which product to get. This is the more reason I brought it up for anyone with experience to guide me.

Pls what product of Hydrogen peroxide will work fine?
Health / Re: Please How Do I Treat A Bleeding Gum? by AyobamiOluwole: 3:08am On Feb 03, 2023
yrhuhfy113:


its a very strong mouthwash... it can hurt a sore gum

Wow. I really appreciate your response. Thanks
Health / Re: Please How Do I Treat A Bleeding Gum? by AyobamiOluwole: 2:10am On Feb 03, 2023
yrhuhfy113:


veryyyy MILD listerine... OR Bret

pls avoid TCP cos you may do more damage

Wow. Thank you.
But please what do you mean by TCP?
Health / Re: Please How Do I Treat A Bleeding Gum? by AyobamiOluwole: 1:49am On Feb 03, 2023
yrhuhfy113:


SALT WATER rinse day n night for 3 days with it....

or use mouth wash

Also should the salt water be warm or normal?

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Health / Re: Please How Do I Treat A Bleeding Gum? by AyobamiOluwole: 1:48am On Feb 03, 2023
yrhuhfy113:


SALT WATER rinse day n night for 3 days with it....

or use mouth wash

Wow. Thanks.

Pls which Mouth wash do you recommend?
Health / Please How Do I Treat A Bleeding Gum? by AyobamiOluwole: 1:36am On Feb 03, 2023
I noticed that when I suck at my Molar tooth, it releases blood. This has been going on for about 2 to 3 months now.

Out of curiosity I checked my teeth and found out that part of the Molar tooth in question has turned dark.

It all started when a little hole built up in between the said molar tooth and the one close to it. How it came to be, I habe no idea.

Please who has experienced this before and how did you treat it?
Romance / Re: See What Jelqing Has Caused Me (A Terrible Experience) by AyobamiOluwole: 6:50pm On Oct 25, 2022
Honestly, I don't think it has anything to do with jelqing. Like you said, it's a mental thing. Perhaps you couldn't believe it that you have grown so much. And sex on its own is a mental thing to start with.
Just look up for condoms for big sizes.
Romance / Re: What Category Do You Place 5.5inches Girth? by AyobamiOluwole: 10:21am On Oct 01, 2022
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Health / Re: Beautiful Lady Drops Suicide Note On Facebook (Photos) by AyobamiOluwole: 8:32am On Aug 17, 2022
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Tag on the thread

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Travel / Re: Uk Student Visa/tier 4 Pbs - Your Questions Answered Part 7 by AyobamiOluwole: 7:28pm On May 20, 2022
homesinabuja:

You can get data science with a good personal statement
But if you are relying on full scholarship
UK is not for you.
You can try Canada or US

Thank you for the advice.
Romance / Re: Please Advise On Data Science For My Masters by AyobamiOluwole: 8:06am On May 03, 2022
yanabasee:
I wouldn't be able to tell you which school offers scholarship to study data science....

But if you want to do your masters in data science, feel very free to do it.... Because, you can have upto 3 master's degree in different discipline of your interest....

If na data science the provide you food, you have the right to obtain a degree of any kind and improve on it...

Just do you ...

I wish you the very best....

Thanks a lot. I appreciate your good wish. I wish you all the very best as well.

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