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Ishilove:
This must have been before the invention of hair straighteners

Fixed.

Explorers:
French Breast Washer, 1930s.

If this machine was a human!

Nicenixon:
so what is the difference bro?, dem remove association but dem still dy work.

The difference is numerous bro but I will mention few and important ones every passenger knows i.e they can't force drivers to pay them on a spot(which they see as their right to collect the spot money nor force them to pay for tickets, they can't even sell tickets like they used to.

You and I know they need to hustle so as to make ends meet, so hustling for prospective passengers into drivers/companies vehicles and asking the drivers OR whoever in charge for tips for the job done no bad, man go chop na.
If you dey enter park well, you will know drivers are not the ones that hustle OR call passengers into the vehicle that it is its turn to load but these guys.

What do you mean by educated and non-educated?

Explain please, if you mean graduates and non-graduates(i.e school leavers/O'Level and co).

You are right on that and that is because they make better wives than the so called enlightened OR woke ones.
They can be humble, loyal, hardworking etc., than the other ones who feel because they are graduates, they should be on the same level as head of the family with the men want to marry them.

That being said, my babe is a graduate and if is God's will, we will take to the next stage. She is

Nicenixon:
Mr man dy lie small small, transport touts dy upper iweka, for Onitsha or is Onitsha not part of Southeast again? Those guys plenty for Lagos and Onitsha.

No dey talk wetin you don't know, those guys are just the normal people hustling for passengers and not the union/NURTW people.
they may be members of the disbanded union but their official union activities have been made illegal.

Imagine government begging those they should have sent law enforcement agencies to handle it deal with because election is near and they will need them.

Over hyped place of shit.

PrinceMajestic:
It's normal I remember my last journey from north to south, the Benin babe that sat with me in the luxurious bus was fair beautiful, she was feeling sleepy from so when it was dark she put her legs on my legs and rest her back on the bus window, mehn I enjoy that night journey I kept caressing sexy fresh fair laps and sticking fingers in the pussy without knowledge of anyone but people could see her legs on me, this kind of thing has happened 3 times. It is always enjoyable just that say the man no get lyrics for mouth.

Weyrey chopping free food.

I remember one babe I met inside a bus on a journey, this babe started by resting her boobs on me, I moved to confirm if it was the normal touching body due to sitting together, but moment later she came closer again.
The rest na history.

Another one happened early this month on my way back from Christmas/New year holiday trip, this fair babe was just sampling her fair laps anyhow, I threw my face away, immediately I tried stretching my arms so that I will rest it on top of the seat, na so this babe rest her head on my shoulder to chest region.
If not that I'm disciplined, I know wetin fit happen when we got to the destination.

Ladyhippolyta88:
The answer is no who argued that with you the point is that he violated his wife and she can bring the case under domestic violence

CASE CLOSED, any further attempt to shift the goal post to domestic violence will expose your ignorance the more because that is an open case and was not part of the argument from onset because the two parties can always have a case there.

The article I shared was about Nigerian marital law and legal scholars in Nigeria so who is disproving that with you?

S*lly girl that is what you are, their opinions doesn't matter in marital rape because there is an existing and established law covering that.

You reason like a charge and bail lawyer, if at all I'm to believe your claim of being a lawyer or work in the law world.

Since you have shamelessly and stylishly accepted that marital rape is not an offence, YOU CAN DO ME A FAVOR BY GETTING OUT OF MY MENTION.

I'm done with this argument!

ravensckar:
I'm glad we're making progress. At least, we have been able to establish the fact that he didn't rape his wife. Whether he should be charged for domestic violence or assault is based on how far the wife wants the issue to escalate. And from the way you're sounding, I'm glad you're not in any way related to the woman lest you'd be throwing away the bath water and the child. That's why one should be careful of bringing sensitive issues to the cyberspace because of 'accidental activists' like you.


Thirdly, hear yourself; 'She should sue him and get out of the marriage'. If that's how every couple abandon each other at the slightest mistake, then, we'd have less than 5% married couples remaining in this country. I'm 80% sure you're unmarried yourself, lest you don't even have the slightest idea of what marriage entails.

Continue with your warped logic and disjointed reasoning. Life is waiting to teach you a lesson.

Shior!

Bro, I will advice you to ignore her on this topic/issue.

The funny thing is that this argument started when she quoted/mentioned my reply to someone with the claim that it is not wrong or an offence for the woman to deny the man sex for such long time, she even said its her body, she also said she didn't see anything wrong in that.
She used something like bodily autonomy in her bid to use one beautifully concocted warped trashy logic to support her argument.

I was just laughing at her ignorance, because she's unaware that a marriage can be dissolved on the ground of prolonged denial of sex by Nigerian law.
This is someone that claimed she's married, enlightened and educated.


I think she is an upcoming ndi-ife ne me nisi another title for Nigerian feminists.
Even their patrons were honest with their opinions on the first few pages.

Ladyhippolyta88:
https://thenewsnigeria.com.ng/2021/05/14/can-a-man-be-declared-guilty-of-raping-his-wife-read-what-lawyers-others-say/

Read this before you are claiming nonsense about marriage contract, get it through your head your marriage contract does not give you the right to violate your wife.

I am not arguing emotionally you are the one doing that and I am telling you now that you don't know zilch, nothing concerns me with religious law and read through that link how does signing a marriage contract supersede consent?abeg make it make sense reason this nonsense you stated so in such a case there should be no grounds for divorce then you don't even know that contracts can be repudiated or ended abi how do you even reason.


Shame on you, no contract you signed is bigger than consent even the contract you signed was as a result of one's will and can always be taken back.
Learn to use your brain over a 100 countries around the world have established marital rape and they are not stupid to say that contract supercedes consent Nigeria is among 33 countries where marital rape has not been rectified so don't come here spitting trash that contract supercedes consent it does not, Nigerian laws are not up to date that is why they cannot establish laws to tackle male abuse because they don't even see that as an issue which is very bad.


And also read more about VAPPA.

Imagine, you are so d*ft and you're still proud of it.

Quoting article about people's opinions and not the actual fact or what the law says, nawa o.
I wonder how your teachers, lecturers and those that have tried passing knowledge to you before this topic cope. It must be really hard for them.

What is my business with that trash of a write-up in your mention?

The incident happened in Nigeria and the question should be "Is marital rape a crime in Nigeria or not?"

Nigeria marital law is the only thing that matters here, quote it and let's see if it says otherwise.

Mu..mu, talking about nothing is greater than consent, in Nigeria marital act, something was referred to as general consent upon going into marriage contract i.e when they agree to go into a marriage contract and that is the thing that made nonconsentual sex not to be a punishable offense in marriage.

Let me use a simple example for you...
Do you know there is what is called "rules and regulations, terms and conditions..."
Why do employers control some rights of their workers even though it is their basic rights?

Get of my mention joor, you are ignorant.
It is becoming annoying.

Read this article about marital/spousal rape in Nigeria, and you can also help yourself by making more research.
https://www.thecable.ng/marital-spousal-rape-what-the-law-says-about-it/amp

This "future is femail*" people won't keel innocent men with their outrageous acts.


Ladyhippolyta88, I'm wondering if this is one of the reasons you didn't see anything wrong in what that other woman did.

Anyway, na the same boat carry all of una.

BigBashiru:
A woman/ wife is the PROPERTY of her husband; this may shock you but it is actually found in the Holy Bible.
Hence, there is nothing like marital rape.
This doesnt mean men should beat their wives or force sex upon them though... but legally speaking a woman should consent most of the time....

Don't mind her, I was even using that statement lightly because of her failure to find any wrong doing in what she did i.e sex starvation.
The OP erred big time but the wife is also to be blamed. If the OP did not do what he did, maybe he got a side one instead, I don't think he will have any blame on him.

She(the lady you quoted) is arguing emotionally and the funny thing is she claimed she is married, and she doesn't know what the law both religiously and legally say about marriage.

Some of these people don't know that when a woman signs a marriage contract, it supersedes any other consent. Reason why there is nothing like marital rape.
Although courtesy demands the man ask in order to have an enjoyable one with her or make her feel like a partner.

This is faceless forum o, I dey enjoy her rant sha.

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Ladyhippolyta88:
Point out the lie, do you force anyone to have sex with you without their consent have you not heard of bodily autonomy?it is the truth and you are the one not being reasonable.

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Go and read the law guiding marriage or marital issues in Nigeria with respect to consents in marriage and stop asking me silly question.
You claimed you are married and you didn't read that before you signed your marriage contract/certificate(if at all there is any).

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Indeed, anyway she is not his property that his why he will keep suffering for his misdeeds, property my foot she did nothing wrong it is her body and you don't force the person to have sex with you when men do this to their wives their wives don't rape them
He didn'buy her and even if women were for sale you shameless men will not be able to afford them.
Your reasoning is so low the wife's family should throw his small money back at him no amount is too big for them to watch a beast kill their daughter because she did not have sex with him.It only a foolish woman that will settle for such a man like the OP and she will leave as the other one left too.

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Like I said I made that statement because you're being s*lly.
With the way you folks visit different places when searching OR praying for life partners, one would think you will be reasonable when you finally meet one.
I'm 95% sure you're not married, 80% sure your older ones are also on the same boat.

He paid her bride price, so he bought her.
Your d*fected sense couldn't see I made that statement because of your failure to accept she was wrong by starving him of sex in their union.

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Abeg keep quiet will the some men foolishly rape her the worst they can do is carry another woman and not be all women dey dey affected or moved by that so it is nothing new.

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Go home and tell your old*r male siblings/relatives to keep quiet.
Who says they are all moved by that?
But that will save him the stress, and again he wouldn't need to worry over her.
Infact, making it official(2nd wife) will be better.
If she like make the thing rotten after that na she know, as long as the man is getting serviced adequately from the other, and if she tries the same her papa house(or divorce) straight.

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You are the one talking trash that is why I am taking my time to correct you because you are just embarrassing yourself get raped and violated by your wife first and see if you will talking like this being dummies to whom?lol you think I will settle for low class men like you and the OP? I am too enlightened and educated to be a dummy in my own home.

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St*pid talk, see as your sense sour sef, see reasoning, omo the man wey go dey with you gat a big task ahead.
In one instance, you will claim married, in another you will contradict yourself.
I knw the truth about your status even before seeing the bolden.
You want to drag head with the man in his home? You will receive what people that did that before you received, efulef*.
What will a man like me be doing with a woman that has every tendency to be fo*lish and wh*rish like you in the first place?
My prayers and the prayers of my loved ones over me won't even let that happen.
A woman that sees no wrong in starving his husband sex but shares it freely to her secret lover. Tah!

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I don't need to pray for anything because I didn't end up with a bush rat and beast in form of a man who can be stupid enough to force me into sex, tueh I don't sleep with beast lowlife in the form of men any woman going through that should deal with such a man before leaving the animal and run for her dear life you men think women of today are idiots.

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Trash as usual.

As long as you see no wrong in a woman denying her legally married husband sex(his conjugal right) for no serious/meaningful/known reason, everything you typed are trashes.

You can claim whatever you like here but I am not the type to be moved by the usual Nairaland faceless people lies/bragging.

D*llard, you didn't end up with a... yen yen yen, meaning you are married, right?
So you got married without going for marriage class, because if you do you would have come across "SEX" as a topic. It is an important topic in every religion.

Who knows if you're a baby mama or the type they put at home without doing the needful on them.

You can write whatever you like, one thing is certain you are not what you're claiming.

Even ladies better than you in all ramifications that tried it with their men knw where they found themselves(divorce).

You're not fit to dust the shoes of some women that doesn't deny their husbands of their conjugal right even when their union is experiencing friction at some point in time.

DonBenny77:
Preach on
These type dem no dey last for husband house
I don talk my own finish

It is funny how they see no wrong in their fellow woman's action but see wrong in the man's action and wants the man that acted upon that root action crucified.

That is one problem with some of them, they don't handle issues from the root/source, they focus on that part that pays them.
Her type is very manipulative and cunning.

PS: Shebi na when their type see men put them for house them go get the choice/option of choosing either to last in husband's house or not.

At the bolden, let he who has ears hear.

Ladyhippolyta88:
I have realised what led to it and I cannot comprehend how assaulting and raping your wife is the solution or reaction to such, the op is not completely honest the wife will not deny him sex without valid reasons and even if she does it is her bodily autonomy and she can decide for herself you don't force anyone to sleep with you without their consent I don't understand abeg where is denying someone sex a crime even if the person is your husband is it not her body to do what she whats with it,rape and assault are both crimes sex denial is not so his reaction was distasteful and overboard,even men deny their wives sex do their wives assault and rape them?

I thought you're one reasonable being but after reading this from you, I don't think there is anything reasonable about you.

Since you didn't see any wrong in what she did, I think the OP is in his right by handling his property the way he likes.
After all, he is free to do whatever he likes with whatever he buys with his money.
The OP is even mild and humane, shey she want to leave abi, it wouldn't even take time before another replace her and the man will send his people to go get back his money(bride price).
Had it been she is with some men, all these won't happen because her brain won't allow her take the silly action that gave room to this.
Shebi you want to be silly ni?

I don't need to reply other trash you typed because they are irrelevant to me.

After all these gragra, ladies like you end up being dummies in their various homes.

Just pray you don't come across man wey go beat you finish, light him blunt, after that tells you to open sey he wan do or the one that will tell you to open few weeks after childbirth and he won't handle it with care even if it hurts/pains.

Ladyhippolyta88:
I have never been violated and never will be but I have seen women share their stories even men too, I must not be violated to know how terrible and disastrous the victims feel.

You should be the one taking your advice since in your head you could not reason that it isn't about the OP or his remorse but about a woman he claimed to love and protect whom he violated and broke her trust and it is up to her to decide heal and forge ahead

But your selfish self could not see that and you try to trivialise the suffering the wife faced in his hands and you think think that a mere apology can suffice in a psychological and physical issue you should be the one healing because you obviously need help.

Keep quiet please.

"To err is human and to forgive is divine."

OP erred st"pidly/f*olishly, but erring is erring, he is a human, and he has realized it.
What he needs is to give her space/time to process, think and act i.e decide on her next step, not expecting her to heal OR forgive/forget immediately.

What the OP did is terribly wrong, but have you reasoned what led to it?
Someone denying her husband sex for two months.
Do you know the importance of sex in marriages?
Ask anybody that has been through marriage class to tell you how important "SEX" as a topic is in marriage class.

You didn't see anything wrong in what she did because she is your fellow gender.

Do you know people are wired differently to handle issues differently? Not everyone can handle sex starvation from their legally married wife appropriately.
Some can even go to depression, anxiety, restlessness etc because of that and that is why some women use it as a weapon.

Some men will never fall for such act from his wife, they would have done the needful which will put her on the blame and regret spots anyhow people spin it.
Anyway, she or her kind wouldn't do that when they her with such men because they would have thought about how the men will handle it and how they will be the ones to lose out in their own game.

Lastly, I think OP should tell his parents and if they can, they should follow him to meet her parents to fulfil all righteousness, and if nothing changes, make the guy give her space and move on.

Walkee:
I have a lot of sisters I know how they manipulate their husband. I know this will be difficult for you. Don't call her for one week. She and her mother were laughing when you left and have both promised to make sure you see shege.
If you didn't cram her phone number, delete it from your phone so that you won't be able to call her even if you lost it and tried to call again. Erase your call history. The more desperation you show the more they will suffer you. Block her on WhatsApp. I swear she will come and spy on your house in less than 2 weeks. This is 100%

cc Noah9
OP, if truly you have realized your mistake, learnt from it and have truly and genuinely asked for forgiveness from God and from man(that is her and her family).

I don't need to start blaming OR condemning you over what you did because you have already done that and trying to make amendment.

Try opening up to your parents and if possible they should follow you to her parents place, to fulfil all righteousness of going there with elderly people. They(elderly ones understand themselves better).

After that, if the issue still persist.

Please and please, follow this advice I quoted or follow your parents advice, there is a very high probability she will come checking indirectly(if she is the proud type) or directly if she really care when she notice you're about to move on with your life without her, i.e if she is truly what you said about her, else she has left you emotionally and was just buying time to do that physically(i.e leave you physically) which you gave her on a platter.

Read this, prolonged begging won't be good for the healing process you're hoping for in your marriage.
She need time to think about and process your actions both the bad one(the rape) and the good one(the remorse/begging), and also to form her decision i.e next move. Prolonged begging won't give her that time.

PS: Always think about your actions before you take them.
Had it been you got it outside, the blame would have been on her because she sex starved(you which is very wrong) even though you're the one that committed the adultery.
Now, nobody is talking about that manipulation(denial of conjugal right) because you fell for it.

BlackBaron:
You are ignorant if all in life is about your belly.
Like said, read between the lines and if you fail to see the benefit, then you owe your wards whatever education they might have paid for your level of knowledge.

Stop disturbing me over this with your mentions.

Someone has already explained what I needed to know, please.

mutantninja:
You’re really ignorant… gtfoh with your low mentality

Ignored!

BlackBaron:
Some of you are just plain ignorant. Never a fan of this regime or so but this is a highly commendable act. Not every thing is about food and our belly.

Read between the lines however and you also see the potential losses in tourism, foreign exchange amongst others.

So yes, it actually affects the common man, your pride and Nigeria as a whole.

For starting your response with an insult, kindly get the fv ck out of my mention after this my response.

How does it affect the common man was the question I asked but you're here blabbing.

What is the impact both economically OR any other way on those masses inside different markets, streets, districts etc., running their daily businesses etc...

Since you are daft, you think anything that is contrary to this topic is about stomach.

In your myopic mind you're smarter, wiser and more brilliant than those who don't see the need to start blowing trumpet over this kind of news, right?

This should be normal thing or a normal move by the government, not something that should be celebrated as if 1 naira is now equals to 1 dollar or a vital economic policy or celebrated as if it is a major economic development.

It was even a question at first not criticism, which another reasonable user gave an insightful response on.

Nawa o, Nairaland is gradually turning to what I don't know.

Is this news worthy to be pushed to FP, all I see there is a buyer and a seller.

If you get it, you get it, if you don't get it, forget it.

Attention seekers oshi.

Tetehjewels:
America and other countries keep pillaging African arts and culture. In this case Nigerian arts and culture.

They make a truck load of money off it for free due to the high demand from Americans of African decent who wish to know or see something about Africa up close and personal but without coming down here due to what their media keeps dishing out that Africa is a Jungle and we live like monkeys and there is no water or proper housing and it's not safe bla bla bla.

With this, if they wish to monetize our property they would need to not only pay for it but also get permits for them which they would also pay for.

In essence we determine what they get and the narrative they spin.

This way our culture and it's relics are preserved and we are now in the driver's seat to tell our own stories the way they truly are as against the sensationalism the western media always dish out.

Although I have modified my reply already, but still thanks for the insightful info.

To be honest, I don't know how this affect the masses here in Nigeria.
Like what is the impact on Nigerians in Nigeria or other countries.

Modified: It is an agreement to control the illicit stealing of artifacts in Nigeria.

Is this really news worthy at this point in time?
Is this what the masses need?

I think this is just a case of misplaced priority or an action that can be termed "make we do am make dem for no talk say we no dey do anything as leaders."

Lol, Nairaland no get news to post again.

All join sha.

Nice Write-up...

I know most of them.

OP, if someone is buying a virgin land in an area, let's say a fat developing area.

Which and which documents should he/she look out for?

marsman:
Lol
I can bet it with you that you are wrong have you experimented it.
A pretty face besides a normal face both bidding for a position of leadership. Cause i have seen it before and although the guy was fine and eloquent that day, he didn't really even say much in his manifesto while the other claimed to have experience from the moom to earth. The fine guy won with a huge margin.
Goodlooking people will be able to relate to what i am saying

You're right.

I remember during my NYSC CDS exco election.

Different people contested for the CDS president, guys and ladies pushed me to contest but I already have the plan of not being punctual in the CDS meeting because of the distance from my ppa/apartment location to the CDS meeting location, different LGAs with LGAs in between them and the meeting was weekly.
Back to my story, there was this fair Arab looking guy(also a corper) that I spoke with to contest that he will win, so I nominated him, the guy won the election against other contestants including females, pretty females o.
He won not because of what he has to offer but because of his looks and my permutation with my guys from other CDS group.


BTW, OP it all depends on how you make use of your looks.
I'm good looking and it is giving me edge over my competitors in my business because ladies want to patronize me and they tend to believe whatever I tell them regarding the products.
Maybe I don't notice it much because I don't keep plenty friends, even the few ones I have are also good looking people and are in faraway places and also maybe because I am a kind of person that like doing my things on my own, except on few occasions that is when I do group things.

If PDP present someone from Adeleke family, they may lose the election but if they present another candidate other than Adeleke family member, they have a better chance of winning.

frankson1:
Paulolee, why are you so pained Emancipate yourself from hatred

That guy is right and you're wrong.

It makes the award lose value/integrity.

Check with unbiased mind.

Normal normal Messi and Ronaldo no suppose dey that 11, Messi's own is still arguable because of that Copa trophy but Ronaldo no suppose near that list.

Fuckthamods:
Fifa The Best Award is voted by coaches & professional players, not clueless newspaper journalists that votes for the Ballon d'or.

Not only has CR7 won the most of these awards, politics were defeated tonight & Lewandowski won what he deserved. No chance for PR.

Congrats to Lewandowski and also to CR7 for winning FIFA special award.

This award is a sh*tty award.

Firstly, Mendy won best keeper award but did not make the world XI.
Secondly, Sallah made final three shortlist but didn't make the world XI.
And other errors.

Hmmm, absolute power corrupts.