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Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Dtruthspeaker: 1:53pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Noah9: Looks like a set up or revenge or Judgement. Did you break a girls heart in your past? If no, then, it is another wickedness which you have done to someone else which is has been repayed. (Judgmen) If not, then you ought to know that Satan hates you and I do hope it is because you are normally righteous. If so, then Job, Daniel and shedrach Test is taking place which means God is using you to mock Satan. Now the children of satan are coming for me. |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Nobody: 1:57pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
ravensckar: Wow, insightful, I just researched on this now and realized spousal rape is not a crime in Nigeria even if there is overwhelming evidence of lack of consent. So much for those shouting, he would have been jailed. His main crime is assault! |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Nobody: 1:57pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Breakingnews101:You are not a wise man, now I believe the statement that indeed academic intelligence is way different from wisdom which you obviously lack.You are just shouting rape but you never really addressed the situation that lead him into the silly act which I condemned him for in my statement. Learn to tackle issues from the root cause if you want to go smoothly and far in life.On a normal day I know what to type to cause wahala but this is a family issue and I don't want to be biased. If a man is responsible and doing his duties (80%),the woman has no right to be silly and feel so comfortable in her silliness while been supported by her equally silly family. If the op were to be my brother, I bet you that woman will not return back smoothly, its going to be a tough ride for her and none of my brothers can be this silly. 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by BigBashiru: 1:57pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Ladyhippolyta88:A woman/ wife is the PROPERTY of her husband; this may shock you but it is actually found in the Holy Bible. Hence, there is nothing like marital rape. This doesnt mean men should beat their wives or force sex upon them though... but legally speaking a woman should consent most of the time.... |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Richy4(m): 1:58pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
NoToPile: I hope he takes the good advice...Reading all the insults on this thread is just heart breaking... The guy is already bleeding inside...Adding derogatory words and insults to his situation will not solve anything....He might even loose his job if care is not taken,... |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Jobig(m): 1:58pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Maybe the wife is a lesbian 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by BabaIbo: 2:02pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
[s] Ladyhippolyta88:[/s] Go and read the law guiding marriage or marital issues in Nigeria with respect to consents in marriage and stop asking me silly question. You claimed you are married and you didn't read that before you signed your marriage contract/certificate(if at all there is any). [s] Indeed, anyway she is not his property that his why he will keep suffering for his misdeeds, property my foot she did nothing wrong it is her body and you don't force the person to have sex with you when men do this to their wives their wives don't rape them[/s] Like I said I made that statement because you're being s*lly. With the way you folks visit different places when searching OR praying for life partners, one would think you will be reasonable when you finally meet one. I'm 95% sure you're not married, 80% sure your older ones are also on the same boat. He paid her bride price, so he bought her. Your d*fected sense couldn't see I made that statement because of your failure to accept she was wrong by starving him of sex in their union. [s] Abeg keep quiet will the some men foolishly rape her the worst they can do is carry another woman and not be all women dey dey affected or moved by that so it is nothing new.[/s] Go home and tell your old*r male siblings/relatives to keep quiet. Who says they are all moved by that? But that will save him the stress, and again he wouldn't need to worry over her. Infact, making it official(2nd wife) will be better. If she like make the thing rotten after that na she know, as long as the man is getting serviced adequately from the other, and if she tries the same her papa house(or divorce) straight. [s] You are the one talking trash that is why I am taking my time to correct you because you are just embarrassing yourself get raped and violated by your wife first and see if you will talking like this being dummies to whom?lol you think I will settle for low class men like you and the OP? I am too enlightened and educated to be a dummy in my own home.[/s] St*pid talk, see as your sense sour sef, see reasoning, omo the man wey go dey with you gat a big task ahead. In one instance, you will claim married, in another you will contradict yourself. I knw the truth about your status even before seeing the bolden. You want to drag head with the man in his home? You will receive what people that did that before you received, efulef*. What will a man like me be doing with a woman that has every tendency to be fo*lish and wh*rish like you in the first place? My prayers and the prayers of my loved ones over me won't even let that happen. A woman that sees no wrong in starving his husband sex but shares it freely to her secret lover. Tah! [s] I don't need to pray for anything because I didn't end up with a bush rat and beast in form of a man who can be stupid enough to force me into sex, tueh I don't sleep with beast lowlife in the form of men any woman going through that should deal with such a man before leaving the animal and run for her dear life you men think women of today are idiots.[/s] Trash as usual. As long as you see no wrong in a woman denying her legally married husband sex(his conjugal right) for no serious/meaningful/known reason, everything you typed are trashes. You can claim whatever you like here but I am not the type to be moved by the usual Nairaland faceless people lies/bragging. D*llard, you didn't end up with a... yen yen yen, meaning you are married, right? So you got married without going for marriage class, because if you do you would have come across "SEX" as a topic. It is an important topic in every religion. Who knows if you're a baby mama or the type they put at home without doing the needful on them. You can write whatever you like, one thing is certain you are not what you're claiming. Even ladies better than you in all ramifications that tried it with their men knw where they found themselves(divorce). You're not fit to dust the shoes of some women that doesn't deny their husbands of their conjugal right even when their union is experiencing friction at some point in time. 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by ADAMUdaCOWBOY: 2:06pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
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Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by showbiz4all27(m): 2:06pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
@OP please take this advice I quoted. Two wrongs don't make things right. Fine, you bleeped up big time to have raised your hands against your wife to the level of rape which you've admitted and one can feel your sense of being remorseful here. I'm married with kids and I can't even imagine my wife denied me one of her conjugal bliss duty for a whole 2 months when you both haven't discussed it. You really need to retract not for lack of insensitivity but to keenly know what's up with your wife. To me, I'm thinking your wife set you up on this and you fell for the bait. Just follow this advice this person I quoted highlighted and definitely you'll get to know the root cause of all this. Lastly, focus on your job and man-up. Like people have said, you've done ALL that is required as a sinner begging for forgiveness. DON'T EVER GO FOR RECONCILIATION AGAIN. Give her enough of the required space on earth and watch as things unfold. Apologies if there's typos nairalanders Raalsalghul: |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 2:08pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
BigBashiru: Lol no matter how you want to lie to yourself in year 2022 no woman is the property of her husband especially not in today's world where slavery is a crime. A wife is not a slave to her husband that fam be owned and purchased. The majority of democracies around the world are secular, not religious and so the Holy Bible is not a foundation of laws in Nigeria and the country is a secular one so what the Bible says is irrelevant here. In countries that have established marital rape as a crime you will not bring in the Bible as your defence so that is a very silly premise, the law is the law while religion is religion and in some countries, there is marital rape which has been legally established Stop reasoning like an illiterate it is embarrassing 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by ravensckar(m): 2:15pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
princeeze1:Bros, that's the beauty of the law for you; it's based on facts and not morality or emotions. Most people screaming 'rape' don't even know what the law says about it and they wouldn't bother to find out. Funny enough, even when you point it out to them what the law says about it, they will still choose to wallow in ignorance. For them, the law only exist to sausage their emotions. You see all these arguments for online forum, e dey sweet well well. |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by BabaIbo: 2:16pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
BigBashiru: Don't mind her, I was even using that statement lightly because of her failure to find any wrong doing in what she did i.e sex starvation. The OP erred big time but the wife is also to be blamed. If the OP did not do what he did, maybe he got a side one instead, I don't think he will have any blame on him. She(the lady you quoted) is arguing emotionally and the funny thing is she claimed she is married, and she doesn't know what the law both religiously and legally say about marriage. Some of these people don't know that when a woman signs a marriage contract, it supersedes any other consent. Reason why there is nothing like marital rape. Although courtesy demands the man ask in order to have an enjoyable one with her or make her feel like a partner. This is faceless forum o, I dey enjoy her rant sha. |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by ravensckar(m): 2:17pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Ladyhippolyta88:Perhaps he didn't put his assertions aptly. But under the Nigerian law, there's nothing called 'spousal rape'. Try to research about it so that you don't end up being the 'illiterate'. PS- ignorance is no excuse in law. 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Maxxim: 2:18pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Tell your family members to reach out to hers esp the elderly ones, after that call her so you can both have some good time together but if she and her family still insist. Turn things around, give her some time frame if she doesn't resume to your house within that time she should just forget whatever you've had together, be a man op. |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by BigBashiru: 2:20pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Ladyhippolyta88: The Bible is my standard.... |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Henz81: 2:21pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
I think you should just move on, after all she is safe at her family's house. |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by okoroemeka(m): 2:22pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Noah9:I feel what you are passing through now but believe these are lessons you are been thought about life,first lesson you must learn is mind control,she denied you sex,yes that is the main weapon in a woman's arsenal to fight back,you could have ignored her and controlled your libido by masturbation if you don't want the drama of side chicks,with that power to control your desire I don't see why you could beat and also rape an unwilling woman,the second lesson is damage control,you went to your in-laws house to apologize and bring your wife back they refused,you even kneeled down to beg,it shows that you are still a good man that has remorse for what he has done,you have done everything you suppose to do even nearly sacrificing your job for peace,this is time to be a man,do not kneel down anymore,stand up brush off the dust from your knees and wipe your eyes,your marriage is at a crossroad and whatever you do now will set the template of how you will be treated,be a man and ignore her,don't call or try to reach out to her, believe me in one month she will start having problems with her mother and sisters and she will try to run back,that is when you will stand firm and read to her the riot act, 2 Likes |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by SmellingAnus(m): 2:23pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
placeofallure:Nice one... Wish you and your hubby better days of favour and understanding in marriage... You have a reasonable hubby... You also acted well by not prolonging the matter ... Nice comment by the way... 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by iTearHerToto: 2:24pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Noah9:Read the first 3 comments and stop being a weakling. Ciao |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by SmellingAnus(m): 2:25pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
jahlove4jah:FACT... I pray he doesn't lose hi job cause it will not be funny especially in these trying times... |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Nobody: 2:26pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
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Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by iTearHerToto: 2:27pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Iyaebe:Hmmm 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Evidenx(m): 2:29pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
One big lesson I have learnt this January is : DON'T SCRATCH YOUR BODY D WAY ITS SCRATCHES YOU,OTHER WISE YOU WILL GET INJURED. OP if you didn't rape your wife,the fault would have been on ur wife for denying you sex for 2 months...now you messed up. Give your wife time. A wound doesn't heal in a day neither in weeks or months. As your wife dey her papa so,she dey see you as demon. She is traumatized. Give her time,work on yourself never to rape and lastly and more importantly pray to baba God to help save your marriage. 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Nobody: 2:31pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
olatunjithomas: What proof are you talking about? The op confessed on Nairakand that he raped his wife. Dont you think that is enough proof?. The marriage is gone and the op is indeed a rapist. |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 2:31pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
BabaIbo:Be quiet I know this and I was very specific not to reference Nigerian law or anything related to Nigeria, there is marital rape but not in Nigeria it has not been rectified as it has in other countries. You claimed you are married and you didn't read that before you signed your marriage contract/certificate(if at all there is any)Keep quiet I did not consent to non consensual sex and nobody consents to non consensual sex it is borderline rape, signing a marriage certificate does not give anybody the right to violate the bodily autonomy of their spouse get that through your head if your spouse says no you don't force it. Like I said I made that statement because you're being s*lly.Who cares about your assumption wet in concern me does it change my stance?no it does not. He paid her bride price, so he bought herHe did not buy her, slavery is illegal no human being can buy a human being if she was for sale he would not even be able to afford her if people come against bride price you lots will be shouting for the need of its preservation but you view brideprice as someone being bought how much you even pay self? Your d*fected sense couldn't see I made that statement because of your failure to accept she was wrong by starving him of sex in their unionYour low IQ could not see that OP is not being 100% honest and that no woman will deny you sex without a valid reason and even if she did it is her body and she is not wrong have you never heard of bodily autonomy? Go home and tell your old*r male siblings/relatives to keep quiet.Keep quiet you trashy men are not that important abeg [quot?]St*pid talk, see as your sense sour sef, see reasoning, omo the man wey go dey with you gat a big task ahead. In one instance, you will claim married, in another you will contradict yourself. I knw the truth about your status even before seeing the bolden. You want to drag head with the man in his home[/quote]The man is enjoying me with love and it is our home and yes we are partners and happy you must be miserable that there are men like that shey You will receive what people that did that before you received, efulef*Why the insults are you a lowlife too much tears that a woman like me is very happy I can never receive that because I don't live with a beast. What will a man like me be doing with a woman that has every tendency to be fo*lish and wh*rish like you in the first place?Please keep quiet and God has indeed blessed me that I don't have any business with your likes people that reason like you can never be friends with me not to talk of being boyfriends or husbands a man like you is too low for a woman like me. [s][/s] Trash as usual.Even men deny their wives sex too include it there, it is not trash nobody's body belongs to you except yours so learn to respect that. You can claim whatever you like here but I am not the type to be moved by the usual Nairaland faceless people lies/braggingWho cares about what you think you are not that important . D*llard, you didn't end up with a... yen yen yen, meaning you are married, right?Why the insults you sound so hurt stop crying na Please keep quiet who says sex is not important, you just don't force your way through anybody not willing to have sex with you.My body my choice Who knows if you're a baby mama or the type they put at home without doing the needful on themAnd so what is being a baby mama a crime if I were a baby mama I will be better than the woman married to you, what needful needs to be done when I have already consented to the arrangement why e dey pain you ? You can write whatever you like, one thing is certain you are not what you're claiming.You are talking like as if divorce is bad abeg jaare some kind divorce na blessing especially if the woman is cursed with a man like you and OP. Who is interested in dusting their shoes?nawa oo who cares, and get this through your head denying someone sex is not a crime go and learn the meaning of consent and bodily autonomy you don't force people to have sex with you and they can deny you all they want it is left for you to step out or divorce them not rape and abuse them. If the OP was a woman what will you say or how many women denied sex by their husbands go ahead to abuse and rape them? |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 2:32pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
BigBashiru: It is not the standard of the law so pray not get caught up with the law |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by dfrost: 2:33pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Iyaebe: Who hacked Iyaebe? |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 2:35pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
ravensckar: Who said I didn't know this did you in anyway see me refer to Nigeria. I said other countries and yes the law has not been rectified in Nigeria and the country is even lawless to begin with but then does it change the fact that spousal rape is established law in some jurisdictions? I am in the legal world so I very well know that and I don't need you to tell me yes there is nothing like spousal rape but then a man can not commit violence against his wife and it could be a sexual assault on her and he did assault her too that one can be very well established here. Before talking about ignorance check yourself too |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Breakingnews101: 2:36pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Iyaebe: Iyaebe do you know Noah09 personally? How do you know he is fulfilling 80% of his duties? Because he said it? You will be shocked if the wife presents her side of the story o! I'm just trying to be as objective and unbiased as much as possible here...domestic violence is an epidemic in Nigeria. It's ugly and alarming. Sad thing? We dey treat am with kid's gloves the majority of the time. The other day, a married couple came for consultation/treatment, the lady had a black eye, they said she fell and hit her eye on the door handle. Cock and bull story obviously, nobody pressured them b4 they eventually told me themselves that it was the husband that punched her in the eye. Reason? Sexual incompatibility. He wasn't satisfying her sexually and had become aggressive overtime. Sick shit! Don't be quick to take sides when you haven't heard from both sides. You're smart this was a lesson. You've learnt, i know. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by BigBashiru: 2:38pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Ladyhippolyta88: There's nothing like marital rape in the Nigerian criminal code.... someone recently quoted it on this thread.... |
Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Nobody: 2:41pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
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Re: My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Crashing. by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 2:41pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
BigBashiru:Did I say I did not know? Nigerian laws are not up to date anyway that is why the law cannot recognise than even men can be abused and raped too, when the rest of the world is moving on only 36 countries or less including Nigeria has not criminalised marital rape whereas majority of countries around the world have The OP can still be held for assaulting his wife too if she can prove sexual assault and domestic violence and this is a clear cut case on that even though marital rape even male rape has not be rectified in Nigeria. 1 Like |
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