₦airaland Forum

neocortex:
Are you okay ?

You are in for a shock if you think your excuses will help Babaonechance , he has promised miracles and he must deliver it.

RIP to the dead.

Nicepoker:
Where is babaonechance now that we need him most.

funkybully:
Kei shege Dan iska!

I neba enta po said rock, I dey see am po ten million menini nera po amaria hand. Kai dan allah , I don pinish am po za kwantiri pinance.

All za fiful wey I dey shout changi changi like nama I dey pollow u I don enter am po one chance ne?

Walahi talahi zis fiful I dey bery bery dissafointed po zis kwaroft fractice by our pirst lady.

Kai dan allah zis is a very unportunate kwandition.

Zis changi I don do us pour one nine

ShowYourCertificate:
Oops, sorry. Didn't know you were on nairaland

jmaine:
You are the irritating one mister, you should know when to deploy calculated silence until there is a very tenable explanation for this than jump at the every opportunity to show how hypocritically dense you are . . . . . .

ShowYourCertificate:
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Dorrobucci:
Baba One Chance is our messiah though he's brainless. We go manage am

shammah1:
Okay BabaOneChance. When precisely? I'm losing my patience already.

kasmail:
He's shouting for divorce all because his wife says " i belong to everybody and i belong to nobody "



I told him that was President Buhari's speech but he said he has been suspecting the wife all along..

chesterlee:
Buhari should stop partying and get to work!!!
No time for Owambe!!!!


BabaOneChance

ajebuter:
In Nigeria under Babaonechance, freedom of speech is allowed and guaranteed but

Freedom after speech is not guaranteed

Welcome to APC change

Kingsleyinfo:
Bros I personally make it a point of duty to cook for my first time visiting girlfriends. It usually drives home the point of what is expected.

First time even tenth time, as long as she is still in girlfriend zone, my kitchen is a no no for her.

The fastest way to a man's heart is through his stomach I nor dey play rough play reach there.

My problem is that the lady is no longer the typical visitor, she is now a familiar spirit
She should be free to do some chores around the house she plans on living after marriage. Abi the 'fiancee' na just for mouth?

Let me give you another story. I had this friend who was living in the elder brothers house after graduation, and he really enjoys cooking.
The elder brothers fiancee would come and he would cook, while she would be in the room playing romance with the brother.

Now food is ready, she comes out and serves herself and this very humble fellow clears the kitchen.

She didnt see anything wrong with it, even the elder brother didnt see anything wrong with it. He was an easy going person so he felt maybe it's because she was still a fiancee/visitor cos she usually comes from Lagos.

When they eventually got married, that was when this lady really showed this guy her true color. She would buy things from the market and be waiting for this guy to prepare the meals. Now my friend started getting angry, but it was already too late, the lady had been given the impression that he was okay with the arrangement. When he tried to point it out to his elder brother, he took sides with the wife. My friend just adviced himself and moved back to their parents house, before a girl he is quite older than turns him to househelp because he was being nice.

So Bros I have seen this kind of scenario play out before, if the younger brother doesn't make his statement now, he should be ready to keep serving that lady.

No properly brought up lady will finish eating, (am not even saying she should cook o) and leave HER plates in the sink for anyone to wash, let alone a grown man of over 25 years. While she calls herself someone's fiancee. That sp called elder brother needs deliverance.

Personally I would have jokingly talked my younger bro to clear the dishes. I will not subject him to such insults just because I pay his fees, just like I will not compel my fiancee to wash my younger brothers dish, simply because she is a woman.

Everyone must understand his/her place, I don't take rubbish from ladies, fiancee or not.

Kingsleyinfo:
No disrespect man..

First bolded line.
Living with someone doesn't mean you can't voice your opinion, he isn't a slave just as the young lady in question is also not a slave.

Second bolded line..
Respect is reciprocal, if your visitor doesn't show me some respect, i will naturally vent it on you, that's just how it is.

Washing of plates doesn't show respect to anyone, it's just common African etiquette.

I used to visit a family friend of mine during my service year.
She would instruct the househelp to prepare food and serve me each time I came. I would eat and the househelp would clear the table.

Recently I visited her, and found out the househelp was no more there, but she had another more erderly lady living with her now.

As usual food was ready, this time I quickly walked into the kitchen to get my food before the lady would start serving me again.
I also cleared my plates and washed up after eating. I could have played the visitor card, but heck we have become closer than that, were almost like family.

moral is that, when a lady who by all intent and purpose refuses to do what naturally is expected from someone of her esteemed status as a fiancee... trust me, there is usually more than meets the eye in such scenarios.

If the lady in question was in good terms with the younger brother, he would have happily washed the plates. His actions were definetely a reaction to something much bigger in the background, don't look at the dishes saga alone. Something is a miss already.

Adaeze003:
A million likes for this post. Nigerian parent forget to train their male children.

Back then, it was sensible that the boys went to farm with papa while girls did the chores and cooking but when education came, some people didn't know what to do with their male kids but still ensured that the girls were trained while going to school as well.

That's why some of these brats place themselves on a pedestal and think a girl is meant to serve them.

freecocoa:
You are a disgrace to whatever schools you attended, you are so shallow, the ignorance oozing from you is stinking up the whole place, you don't even know the definition of a visitor, I could go there everyday for all you know but I remain a visitor as long as I don't live there, you slowpoke.

I guess 'husband' is what it all boils down to in your small mind, your kind should not be allowed to raise children(especially girls) tufiakwa.

Kingsleyinfo:
Leave that dude, he is just seeking some cheap popularity.

Since the elder brother didn't see anything wrong in what his fiancee did, why did he not enter the kitchen, see the unwashed plates
Clean them up, enter his room and sleep off without making a case out of it.

Yet some simpletons can't see that there is already a cold war brewing in the family, they are busy talking from the top of their heads.

I wasn't there, but I can say for a fact... The uwashed plates is only a fraction of the issues on ground. Dig deepeer, you will find the fire for this smoke.

Again something is already fundamentally wrong. It's beyond the plates. I just pity the guy that want's to get married sha..

RedBenson:
How about severally coming to sleep and leave the next day? She is still a visitor? She has already started showing bad characters and the guy should know what he's about to delve his hands into, else, he will be the one going to market to buy grayfish, pumpkins and tomatoes and come cook for her and as well as washing her undies for her when they finally get married.

RedBenson:
Does the word "fiancee" reflect a visitor?

missKiffy:
Well you have a point but the girl no try

RedBenson:
Here we go again. Feminist egoistic ranter. Keep advocating for equal right but the promise remains that as you were a woman, till you return to your ancestors, you'll remain a woman and men must always exhibit authority over you.

Princessonelove:
It depends on the situation
From what you've explained she was a visitor and you don't expect a visitor to wash up after themselves. The younger brother should have washed it.

gunners160:
Hmm,It sims u guys dnt undstand the story .The elder broda owns the house nd d younger broda stays with him since he is a student. THE YOUNGA BRODA BROUGHT A lady to D house,ate with D lady and Left the plate. AFTER eating,the lady left the house leaving the plate unwashed.The elder brother challenged the younger 1 instead of apologising he got angry and wanted to fight is elder brother. . .

pek:
That's when you know lady that is a wife material. Reminds me of my own experience. Was interested in a lady then. She came to my place one day. Went to the kitchen to serve herself. Left the kitchen in a bad state without washing the dishes. The relationship ended before it started.

jidebaba69:
I think you are very right. A lady should show her upbringing by doing the right thing all the time. Because one day she will go to her in-laws place and expect her mother in law to wash up after her.

missKiffy:
Am a lady and would never support such, it's wrong for her not to wash the plate and to think the elder brother is even insisting his younger brother to wash it and not the girl is absurd