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noakchukibadan:
Hello,

Please no ethnic banters. One of us is from Ekiti, and the other is from Benue. I am married for 8 years with 2 kids. It has been one problem to another.

I must be very frank, before marriage, my wife had many very questionable characters, but unfortunately we did the marriage counseling in a church were the pastor happened to be her family member. Many of the issues would have been resolved, but when I raised those issues about her character the pastor promised me that everything will be fine after the marriage.
Although this is not an excuse, but looking back now I would have been more patient and taken my decision myself instead of rushing into the marriage. For this I HOLD MYSELF ACCOUNTABLE

There is hardly nothing we do not quarrel about, I have always been the one to initiate settlement. The only way I ensure that there is peace in the house is for me not to complain about anything. Even at that, there is always trouble. If the children do anything wrong, she always says those characters the children are exhibiting are not from her and that she is not surprised that they inherited such characters from me.

She can go for months without talking to me, even if I tried to, I have done all I could do, I have begged, cried prayed. I just feel tired and exhausted from trying to make the marriage work or have peace in the home, the sad part is that she often reminds me every time there is misunderstanding that I should remember that she can stay on her own without talking to any body. Just to add, she is very prayerful.

OTHER INFORMATION.
1. I can say conveniently that there is no money problem at home. Finance is okay.
2. I went to see her father 2 years ago, the man said unfortunately he can not do anything. This is true because she was raised away from her Father, she has no contact with any of her fathers family and her father has a zero say in her life.
3. she has 5 elders ones, non of them is in communication with her because of many unresolved issues. Of her 3 younger ones she only maintains a relationship with the last boy who is just 14 years. .
4. Her mum can not talk to her because she simply dares not. However, behind, her mother use to beg me and she kept saying she understands her daughter's character and that she is doing her best by praying and doing deliverance for her.
5. She is not in contact with her maternal uncles and aunt because she said they supported her elder ones when she had problem with them.

So I am stuck with no one to help call the both of us and resolve the issue.

Every year for 5 straight years, she always forgets my birthday, last year, she forgot also, three days later, she bought me a present and I refused to collect the present and I asked her why does she keep forgetting my birthday, year after year for 5 years. She just said sorry, but I left the present in the room, she never bothered to bring the present to me. Another birthday was gone yesterday 2nd May, and as I write, no happy birthday yet.

I literally cook for myself, and all domestic things I do for myself.

I will end this by saying that in fairness to her, her character was not too different before the marriage and courtship, sincerely only once, that was like one year before the marriage I broke up with her, she came to apologize and promised that she will change. Her mother also came to apologize to me also.

This woman has refused to change or allow peace to hold sway, she is right every time, while everybody around is wrong. Sincerely, I do not know what to do anymore.

I am tired and exhausted. I do not know what to do anymore. I am 42, I was diagnosed of high blood pressure 2 years ago.

High blood what! Pls send her away for a while but don't divorce her maybe by doing this she will come back to her normal senses beside she is not in good times with her family members so she will left with no options than to come back to plea......

bizzibodi:
The north always pfucking & borning useless kids.

U wey no useless don't die vanish to heaven.... nonsense

PureGoldh:
I laugh in Swahili.....Dem wan reject their blood nii ?

Guy no be our blood pls cos we don't have Almajiri there....

Sinerman:
This is horrible. How do you guys come up with this kind of reasoning?

Help me ask them ooo cos some people get the ability to think negativity

Escaped! Where are the security personnel in the gate.... pls she should go straight to the government house.....

silento:
Wetin happen to ur dick give her belle and relax they will call u to sort out things

Guy sense won't kill u.... I concur with this ur idea

He is my type cos I can't be a casual friend to a girl I feel for....

Guy this one that u already said the guy is financially ok than u hmmm just pray she reason with u.....

QueeenKKfire:
I need an urgent answer please.

Allow her to finish nursing the child pls... Impatience creature

Numerouno94:
ppl dnt hv shame ooo. I can't imagine myself doin this rubbish..See dem disgracing Naija.

Who gja epp?

Sammy07:
On the Eligibility Criteria (EC), the minister said that States had to meet in order to be eligible to receive any grants included: the online publication of the approved annual budget and audited financial statement for the previous year.

The 24 states were said to have achieved: improved financial reporting and budget reliability; increased openness and citizens’ engagement in the budget process; improved cash management and reduced revenue leakages through the implementation of State Treasury Single Account (TSA); strengthened Internally Generated Revenue (IGR) collection; biometric registration and Bank Verification Number (BVN) used to reduce payroll fraud.

The 24 beneficiary states who were: Abia, Adamawa, Bauchi, Benue, Delta, Edo, Ekiti, Enugu, Gombe, Jigawa, Kaduna, Kano, Katsina, Kebbi, Kogi, Kwara, Niger, Ondo, Ogun, Oyo, Osun, Sokoto, Taraba and Yobe states.


What's happening to SE and SS now...
They didn't met the criteria

Even Lagos isn't there.





I don't know why you guys don't read.
Are you an illiterate??

At least the post isn't lengthy, just 5mins of your time you'll understand what is written up there.

Later now they will say northerners don't go to school...

LegendHero:
Borno, the home of peace!

E no go better for Boko Haram for turning the state to a killing den.

I remember I read a book then sometimes in 2011 which the author claimed that Maiduguri got lot of beautiful houses and planning and used to be a residential abode for rich northerners.

Although I can’t verify that claim coz I’ve not been there before. But a view of Maiduguri from google earth reveals it’s still a nice city even with all it is passing through currently.

yeah is a nice place I have been there once

fulaniHERDSman:
2023 don sure for me. We all love El rufai.
Sai El rufai!!!

Btw ... Rheno is an opportunistic bastard

b We are talking about herds men one of them is here....

It all started when I gave her my phone to go for a wedding cos her own had problem at the time, so she log into her fb account chatting with a guy from our area that also went for the same wedding and their chat shows that after the wedding they met.

Why must it always be katsina?

I concur with u.... he should go and collect his share

Lockdown without paying local government staff salary? that's nonsense

SharonLoveth:
Almajiri Don Wise

Pls Mr olodo Taraba has never and will never be an Almajiri state we are 80percent Christians

Man ur story is an inspiration and same time mind blowing

laser fever

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Before making this wrong decision he should have consulted Alli first cos he is nowhere to found in England squad after few games....

This is a return match ooo

Hmmmm the wife's ex at work.....

Hmmmmm prophet of end time everywhere, so u mean to tell me that u re good in telling what can happen tomorrow or next and am still sitting here wit cut cut ticket every day.... I hav 2 locate u for business..

Nokia x2 cos de battery last long nd it doesn't consume much DATA.....

Vivuch:
Jolly looted Taraba, he couldn't record one single project during his tenure.

Guy re u a Tarabian leave us 2 talk for ur information he brought specialist hospital,stadium, he started de state university general hospital in 7-8 LGA e.t.c

If he should go to jail cos of 1.64 billion than obj should die by hanging cos of 16 billion electricity fund. Free him jare we de tarabians re not complaining ooo abi na him be de only ex governor we steal Apc! Apc!! Apc!!! Hw many times did i call u hmmmm ur dayz re numbered rubbish party.....

Oga Darius Ishaku Dickson pls settle ur Local government nd primary school teacher first b4 promising us Mercedes Benz...

manmoraskk:
Who is this one again

pls help me ask them cos I'm from that area but i never know him....

LesbianBoy:
Meanwhile they both have some things in common


Their names start from C, they both fell in love with yoruba guys and they are both virgins!

lols

inoki247:
Taraba nd Death sha... abi d opposite of Taraba iz Death nii... mr death e don du..

lols abeg no tag my state wit death.

nzeobi:
why always borno

where else do u want them 2 bomb they should continue there oo cos they start it there