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Narrated Abu Aiyub: The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “It is not lawful for a Muslim to desert (not to speak to) his brother Muslim for more than three days while meeting, one turns his face to one side and the other turns his face to the other side. Lo! The better of the two is the one who starts greeting the other.”[b][/b]

[Bukhari Hadith No: 254]

@Uplawal

@Azaruddin,you are so hypocrite and fool of yourself for posting hadith left right and center inbetween my posts.

Sister, This is not the best way to learn Islam.

Al- Fudayl said; 'Manliness is pardoning the slips of one's brothers.

This is why the prophet (saw) said: 'seek refuge in Allah from the bad neighbour who sees some good and conceals it, sees some bad and reveals it.

There is no one at all whose condition cannot be improved in some respects or made worse.

Tradition tells how a certain man praised another in the presence of God's messenger (saw) then blamed him the very next day. So the prophet (saw) said: 'You praise him one day and blame the next! Yesterday I told the truth about him and today I did not lie about him. He pleased me yesterday so I told the best I knew of him. He angered me today so I spoke the worst I knew of him.

Just as it is incumbent upon you to hold your tongue from mentioning his misdeeds, so ought you to observe silence in your heart. This is done by giving up suspicions, for suspicions consitute slander in the heart, which is also unlawful. Keep within the bounds by not putting a bad construction on his action, so long as you can see it in a good light. As for what is revealed unmistakenly and before your very eyes, so that it is impossible for you not to know about it you should if possible ascribe what you witness to absent mindedness and forgetfulness.

Barka Jumah

Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah's Apostle (peace be upon him) said, "If somebody keeps a dog, he loses one Qirat (of the reward) of his good deeds everyday, except if he keeps it for the purpose of agriculture or for the protection of livestock. "
(Bukhari Vl 4,No 541)

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “If any of you says Amin (during the prayer at the end of the recitation of Surat Al-Fatihah), and the angels in heaven say the same, and the two sayings coincide, all his past sins will be forgiven.”[b][/b]
[Sahih Al-Bukhari, Vol. 4, Hadith No. 446]

He looks like the same Isang that had debate with Jamiu adegunwa several times in Lagos. He was defeated on those ocassions and most of his members reverted but I still do not know why he moved to Oyo.

Narrated By Ibn 'Umar : The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, "The sun and the moon do not eclipse because of the death or life (i.e. birth) of someone but they are two signs amongst the signs of Allah. When you see them offer the prayer."[/b]

[b]Bukhari Volumne 2 Book 18 No. 152

He who has done an atom's weight of good will receive his rewards, and he who has done an atom's weight of evil will receive his punishments. [The Holy Quran, 99:7,8]

Barka Jumuah.

The Messenger of Allah (peace & blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "The grave is the first of the stages of the Hereafter; whoever is saved from it, whatever comes afterwards will be easier for him, but if he is not saved from it, what comes afterwards will be worse for him."

[Al-Tirmidhi, 2308; Ibn Maajah, 4567; classed as hasan]

Of course you should not hide any praise you may hear, for the pleasure in it is received directly from the conveyer of the compliment as well as indirectly from the original source. Concealment here would mean envy.

In short, you should keep silent about any speech unpleasant to him in general and in particular- unles obliged to speak out to promote good and prevent evil, and even then only if you can find no valid excuse for saying nothing. In such cases you need not worry about his disapproval, since what you do is beneficial to him when rightly understood, even if it looks bad at first sight.

As for mentioning his deeds and faults, and the misdeeds of his family, this is a slander and unlawful in respect of every Muslim. Two things turn you from it:

First examine your own condition and if you find there one blameworthy thing then be tolerant of what you see in your brother.It may be that he is unable to control himsef in that particular characteristics, just as you are important in the face of your own difficulty.So do not be too heavy on him on account of one blameworthy trait wehat man is completely upright? Wherever you find yourself lacking in your duty to God, do not expect as much from your brother in his duty to you, for your right over him is not greater than God's right over you.

Second, you know that were you to seek for someone free of all blemish you would exhaust the entire creation without ever finding a companion. For there is not one human being who dies not have both good and bad qualities and if the good outweight the bad, that is most than can be hoped for.

The noble believer always keeps present in himself the good qualities of his brother, so that his heart may be the source of honour, affection and respect. As for the hypocrite of low character, he is always noticing misdeeds and faults.

al-Mubarak said: 'The believer tries to finds excuses for others while the hypoctire looks out for mistakes.

Days of Muharram: Ethics & Significance

The month of Muharram is one of the sacred months. A Muslim is supposed to gain the advantage of these months so as to draw nearer to Allah by offering voluntary religious deeds such as supererogatory prayers, voluntary fasting, charity, etc.

In the month of Muharram, we should remember the Hijrah of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) from Makkah to Madinah. There are many lessons in this story and it can help us understand the basic significance of the Hijrah calendar. It is good to remember that Hijrah was a significant move for the growth of Islam and throughout history, Islam has benefited from the Hijrah. The presence and growth of Islam in America also came by the efforts of those who migrated to this land and worked for the cause of Allah.

It is also the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) to fast on the 9th and 10th of Muharram. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) used to fast on the 10th day (`Ashura'). When he came to Madinah, he found out that the Jews of Madinah were also fasting on this day remembering Prophet Musa (peace and blessings be upon him). The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) admired this tradition and he said to the Jews, "We are closer to Musa than you are." He fasted and he also told his Companions to fast on this day. Later, before the end of his life on this earth, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) told Muslims to add the 9th day also. Thus, it is highly recommended to fast on both the 9th and 10th of Muharram by the Sunnah. Imam At-Tirmidhi reported that Ibn `Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both) used to say: We should fast on two days: the 9th and 10th of Muharram to distinguish ourselves from the Jewish community. (At-Tirmidhi)

Moreover, in his well-known book, Fiqh As-Sunnah, the late Sheikh Sayyed Sabiq states:

Abu Hurayrah reported: "I asked the Prophet: 'Which Prayer is the best after the obligatory Prayers?' He said: 'Prayer during the mid of the night.' I asked: 'Which fasting is the best after that of Ramadan?' He said, 'The month of Allah that you call Muharram’" (Ahmad, Muslim, and Abu Dawud).

Mu`awiyyah ibn Abi Sufyan reported that he heard the Messenger of Allah say: "Concerning the day of `Ashura’, it is not obligatory upon you to fast on it as I do. Whoever wishes may fast and whoever does not wish to is not obliged to do so" (Al-Bukhari and Muslim).

It is also good to remember the great sacrifice of Al-Husain and his family (may Allah be pleased with all of them). Theirs was the true Jihad for the cause of truth and justice.

The Day of `Ashura' (10th of Muharram) is certainly a sad day in the history of Islam. It was on this day that the grandson of the Prophet (i.e. Imam Al-Husayn, may Allah be pleased with him) along with many members of his family were brutally massacred in Karbala. We should learn the lessons of courage, patience and perseverance from the episode of Karbala' (year 61 A.H. / 680 C.E).

Jazakhallah

I would continue Insha Allah

Measuring Success

Our Approach[b][/b]

As Muslims, our whole approach to life is different to the agenda which society sets for us. It is sometimes very hard to avoid following this agenda, when everything around us is telling us to do so, but we try. As Muslims, our number one priority is to please Allah. We have certain obligations which we must fulfill, before anything else. We must, for example, pray five times a day. We must fast during the month of Ramadan and pay zakah, the money due to the poor, if we are able to do so. We must also go on pilgrimage once in our lives to Makkah if we have the resources. These things make us different. We do not do them for personal gain, but for the sake of Allah alone. Without these basic things in our lives, we cannot really call ourselves Muslim.

In talking about success in life, however, it might be tempting to give advice about which courses to take in school or college. It might be tempting to give tips on how to prepare for a job interview, so as to impress our potential employers. It might even be tempting to advise on how to clinch a business deal or secure promotion at work. Giving such advice, though, if that is all we did, would be selling ourselves short. Of course, being Muslim means that we should be the best we can be at all times, so preparing well for interviews, dressing well, and speaking politely and with confidence should be a natural part of how we behave. Good manners and a courteous approach to other people is what Muslims should excel at. We can also aim to be the best on the football team, the fastest athlete on the field, or the first in our class. But if we do not achieve these things, it is not the end of the world. They are important, but they are not that important. In fact, so many things which bring "success" in this world, like being an expert in our field and like giving 100 percent effort all of the time, are part of the message of Islam. Muslims know that they are created by Almighty Allah and that all they do reflects the gifts He has given them. Similarly, all that Muslims do is a way of telling others what Islam is like. The way we behave and the way we speak tells others about Islam, far more than our speeches about faith can ever do.

What's Expected of Us

Real success for Muslims, though, is not about getting a job or acquiring money, however important these things may be. For Muslims, the greatest success in life is to do what Allah wants, and this might even put us at odds with what society expects. We are called upon as Muslims to be honest men and women, no matter what. We are called to promote justice, no matter what the cost and no matter how difficult a position that might put us in. We are called upon more than anything as Muslims to be men and women of prayer. With prayer will come the real success of this life. Through prayer we see things as they really are, not as others would have us see them.

The ancient Romans used to have the finest system of roads ever known. These roads were straight and well-paved and they enabled soldiers and messengers to be dispatched quickly to any part of the Roman Empire. All roads, of course, led to Rome, the centre of the Empire. The Roman Empire, like all empires after it, has long gone. Once great men, who held sway over the whole of the known world are now not even remembered. Their triumphs and their successes are long forgotten, like the success of all worldly power. One man or one country holds sway over others for a time, but when their time has come, they once more fade into insignificance and someone else takes over. The Romans, though, have left us with the famous phrase, "All roads lead to Rome." Nowadays, all roads no longer lead to Rome. For Muslims, however, living always in the presence of Almighty Allah and seeking always to please Him, the phrase takes on a different form. For Muslims, all roads lead to Allah. That is success in life, when everything we do and everything we say brings us closer to our Creator.

At the end of our life, we will look back on a life well lived and see if it has been successful, and we will not judge our success in terms of what we own. As we prepare for that final judgment, when our deeds will be laid bare for all to see, the kind of clothes we once chose to wear will not be important at all. Success, on that day, will be whether or not we responded straight away when we heard the Adhan, the call to Prayer. Success will be judged on that day by what kind of person we were, not on how may things we had.

And somehow, everyone knows deep down that this is the real success. All the money in the world cannot buy happiness. We cannot buy a devoted husband or wife or loving children. People respect honesty and integrity. They look up to people who are wise and they want to be like people who are kind.

Reaching out for success, then, is a lifetime's activity. It means struggling every day of our lives to be better and more faithful to what we are called to be. The most successful person in the entire world has achieved everything when he has managed just one thing: to live as a good Muslim. Let's hope we can all try to be successful in the same way, too.

@Muhsin

W/Salam, brother,

I wish we could. The temptation is irresistible. Ppl can barely fold arms while the greatest figures in Islam are ceaselessly mocked and vilified.

May Allah, the Exalted, guide us all to the right path, amin.

Salam brother. You just have to resist the temptation. You would have noticed that I kept mute and it is not that I do not know what to say but most times, silence is golden. It is better to keep silent than commit sin trying to argue out issue with someone.

We should also note that in the Christian section, we have Jehovah witness, Deeper Christian Life Ministry, Catholic members etc and each of them claiming to be the real christian while the wise ones the TRUTH.

He came with this thread in order to advertise his sect and I dont know where he got the impression that the prophet belonged to a sect (referring to his username) despite the prophet's warning on that.

We should still not be surprised because the Holy prophet (saw) aforesaid all that is happening now. Sects would arise claiming to be following the right way and 73 sects sect would arise in which only would be inhabitant of heaven.  Like I always say, truth is different from falsehood even if you wash, polish it and try to make it look like truth, it would still show that it is falsehood while truth is like oil,

Let me stop here because I do not want to engage in any discussion with anybody.

Maa Salam.

Anas b. Malik reported that Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) was the sublimest among people (in character) and the most generous amongst them and he was the bravest of men. One night the people of Medina felt disturbed and set forth in the direction of a sound when Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) met them on his way back as he had gone towards that sound ahead of them. He was on the horse of Abu Talha which had no saddle over it, and a sword was slung round his neck, and he was saying: There was nothing to be afraid of, and he also said: We found it (this horse) like a torrent of water (indicating its swift-footedness), whereas the horse had been slow before that time.

Barka Jumah

The Month of Muharram


Introduction
With the sighting of the new moon the Islamic new year is ushered in. The first month Muharram, is a month of great reward and virtue. Muharram itself means `sacred' and is from those months which have been mentioned as sacred in the Holy Quraan.
Almighty Allah states in the Holy Quraan:

"Four of them ( Zil-Qadah, Zil-Hijjah, Muharram and Rajab) are sacred."

(Surah At-Tawbah:36)

Virtues

From out of the four sacred months, Muharram has been blessed with certain specific virtues:-
The Holy Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) said:

"The best of fasts besides the month of Ramadhan is the fasting of Allah's month of Muharram."[/b]
(Muslim)

In another Hadeeth, Hazrat Ibn Abbas (Radhiyallahu-Anhu) reports: "[b]that the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) said: "The one that keeps a fast in the month of Muharram will receive the reward of thirty fasts for each fast (in this sacred month)."
(Tabraani)

Although the fasts of the month of Muharram are not obligatory, the one who fasts in these days out of his own will and choice is entitled to a great reward by Almighty Allah. The Hadith citied above signifies that the fasts of the month of Muharram are the most rewardable among the Nafl fasts i.e. the fasts one observes out of his own choice without being obligatory on him.

The Hadith does not mean that the reward promised for fasts of Muharram can only be attained by fasting for the whole month. On the contrary, each fast during this month has merit. Therefore, one should take advantage of this opportunity.

The Day of Aashora (10th Muharram)

Although the month of Muharram is a sacred month as a whole, the 10 th of Muharram is the most sacred among all its days. The day is named 'Ashurah'. It is one of the most important and blessed days of Allah in the Islamic calendar.

According to the Holy companion, Ibn Abbas Radhiallaho Anhu, when the Holy Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wassallam migrated to Madinah, he found that the Jews of Madinah used to fast on the 10 th day of Muharram. They said that it was the day on which the Holy Prophet Musa Alayhis Salaam and his followers crossed the Red Sea miraculously, and the Pharaoh was drowned in its water. On hearing this from the Jews, the Holy Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wassallam said, "We are more closely related to Musa than you." So the Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wassallam directed the Muslims to fast on the day of Ashura. (Abu Dawood)

According to another Hadith, it is more advisable that the fast of Ashura should be either preceeded or suceded by an additional fast. It means that one should fast two days: the 9 th and 10 th of Muharram or the 10 th and 11 th . The reason of this additional fast as mentioned by the Holy Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wassallam is that the Jews used to fast on the day of Ashura alone, and the Holy Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wassallam wanted to distinguish the Islmaic-way of fasting from that of the Jews. Therefore, he advised the Muslims to add another fast to the day of Ashura.

Some Ulama (scholars) are of the opinion that before the fasts of Ramadhan were made compulsory, the fast of the day of Aashora was compulsory upon the Ummah.

This is stated in a Hadeeth reported by Hazrat Aisha (Radhiyallahu-Anha):

"that the Holy Prophet Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) ordered the observance of the fast of Aashora. However, when the fast of Ramadhan became compulsory, then whosoever wished, kept this fast and whosoever desired did not observe this fast."
(Bukhari)

But, nevertheless the Prophet (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) continued to fast this day and encouraged his Companions to do the same.

Recommended deeds on the day of Aashora

The Prophet (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) has exhorted and encouraged his Ummah to fast on this day. He said:

"This fast[Aahura] is a compensation for the (minor) sins of the past year."
(Muslim)

One should also observe the fast of the 9th Muharram to safeguard his deed from resemblance with the Non-Muslims who fast only on the 10th Muharram.

Hazrat Ibn Abbas (Radhiyallahu-Anhu) said:
"When Rasulullah (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) observed the fast of the day of Aashora and ordered (his Companions) to fast, they said: `O Rasulullah! It is a day revered (glorified) by the Jews and Christians.' Thereupon Rasulullah said: "The coming year, if Allah wills (I remain alive), I will for surely fast on the ninth (also)."[/b]
(Muslim)

These Ahadeeth indicate clearly that one should fast on the ninth and tenth of Muharram. However, if one does not manage to fast on the ninth, then he/she should fast on the eleventh of Muharram instead.

The Holy Prophet (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) said:
"Observe the fast of Aashora and oppose the Jews. Fast a day before it or a day after."[b]
(Baihaqi)

Hence, it is important to either fast on the ninth and the tenth or the tenth and the eleventh of Muharram. To fast only on the day of Aashora is Makrooh as stated by Allamah Ibn Aabideen Shaami.

One should be generous on one's family and dependants and spend more on them than what is normally spent.

Rasulullah (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) said:
"One who generously spends on his family on the day of Aashora, Allah will increase (his provision) for the whole year."[b][/b] (Baihaqi)

These are the actions supported by Ahadeeth. Let us observe this great day according to the ways of Rasulullah (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) and the Sahabah (Radhiyallahu-Anhum), and refrain from all innovations which deprive us of the blessings from Almighty Allah.

May Allah guide us all upon the Straight Path and save us from every act which brings His displeasure.

The same reason he want to wear a ring (silver specifically)! BTW ring is a jewellery too

We all know what ring is for , the prophet's stand on it and I would need to know why would a man wants to wear a necklace (be it gold or silver).

The Proper Way of Celebrating the New Hijri Year

In Islam there is no special religious ceremony to mark the New Year. However, since our religious calendar is the Hijri calendar, it is good to remind ourselves about the meaning and significance of Hijrah at this time. We should talk about Prophet’s Hijrah from Makkah to Madinah that took place in the year 622 CE. We should talk about its meaning and significance and we should also talk about the general concept of Hijrah in Islam.

The Arabic word Hijrah is often translated as “exile, exodus, flight or migration”. Its meaning is, however, much more dynamic and active. It means “to leave, to move, to shun and to quit”. It is especially used for an intentional transfer of residence, but in the Qur’an it is also used to mean leaving a wrong condition and moving to a better condition, even though it may involve some difficulty. In this context, Allah says: (But Lut had faith in him (Abraham): he said: 'I shall move (Muhajirun) towards my Lord: for He is Exalted in Might, and Wise.) (Al-`Anakabut 29: 26)

Faith (Iman) requires acceptance of Allah and the negation of falsehood. It means a total and radical departure to a new way for the individual and for the community.

Faith is:

· A departure from all kinds of polytheism (belief in many gods) to monotheism

· A departure from ignorance and superstition to knowledge and light

· A departure from enslavement to others to the service of Allah

· A departure from sin and corruption to virtues and righteousness

· A departure from division and strife to harmony and unity

· A departure from the state of wandering and bewilderment to guidance and straight path

· A departure from Allah’s anger to His acceptance and pleasure

· A departure from the Hellfire to Salvation in the Eternal Life.

Hijrah is a principle that is integral to Islam. It transforms a Mu’min from a mere believer to a Mujahid, the one who struggles for his faith. It is for this reason that the Qur’an has used in many places the words iman, Hijrah and Jihad together: (Those who believed and those who migrated and struggled in the path of Allah, they have the hope of the Mercy of Allah: and Allah is Oft Forgiving, Most Merciful.) (Al-Baqarah 2: 218)

(Those who believe, and migrate, and struggle in the cause of Allah, as well as those who give (them) asylum and aid, these are (all) truly the Believers: for them is the forgiveness of sins and a provision most generous.) (Al-Anfal 8 : 74)

(Those who believe, and migrate and strive in Allah’s cause, with their goods and their persons, have the highest rank in the sight of Allah: they are indeed the successful people. Their Lord does give them glad tidings of a Mercy from Himself, of His good pleasure, and of Gardens for them, wherein are delights that endure: They will dwell therein forever. Verily in Allah’s presence is a reward, the greatest (of all).) [/b](At-Tawbah 9: 20-22)

Muslims chose Hijrah as the focal point to reckon their chronology. In physical terms Hijrah was a journey between two cities about 300 miles apart, but in its grand significance it marked the beginning of an era, a civilization, a culture and a history for the whole mankind. Islam progressed not only from the physical Hijrah, but because Muslims took Hijrah seriously in all its aspects and dimensions.

Those who truly followed the path of Hijrah they were:

1.[b]The people of Muw'akhat: They became brothers and sisters to each other. (The vanguard (of Islam), the first of those who forsook (their homes) and of those who gave them aid, and (also) those who follow them in (all) good deeds, well-pleased is Allah with them, as are they with Him: for them He has prepared Gardens under which rivers flow, to dwell therein forever: that is the supreme Felicity) (At-Tawbah: 100).

2. The people who were willing to endure hardship for the cause of truth: (Allah turned with favor to the Prophet, the Muhajirun (Muslims who migrated with the Prophet from Makkah), and the Ansar (residents of Madinah who helped the Prophet and his Companions), who followed Him in a time of distress, after that the hearts of a part of them had nearly swerved (from duty); but He turned to them (also): for He is unto them Most Kind, Most Merciful.) (At-Tawbah 9: 117)

3. Those who struggled to establish Islam: They established Masajid, Islamic schools and other institutions. They defended their faith and they worked hard to establish Islam in all aspects of their lives and everywhere they went.

We should use this occasion to remind ourselves about the Hijrah; this is what is required from all of us now and at all times.

A New Year, 1st Muharram 1432AH


In commemoration of this auspicious occasion, Happy New Year of 1432AH to all Muslims around the world.

The 1st of Muharram is Blessed and New Year's Day, and with it marks the beginning of the Islamic (Hijri) Calendar. Its real significance lies in the major turning point in the course of Islam.

As told in the Noble Qur'ân: "Verily the number of months with Allah is twelve months (in a year), so was it ordained by Allah on the Day when He created the heavens and the earth; of them four are Sacred. That is the right religion, so wrong not yourselves therein …". [At-Taubah: 36]

Today itself, as we usher in the new year, many of us take the time to at least briefly reflect on the major lessons in the past year and anticipate new experiences in the fresh year of 1432 Hijrah. This is also the day that we should be reminded of the Prophet 's [peace and blessing be upon him and his companions] last pilgrimage and the message that he wants us to carry in our hearts.

The Prophet [peace and blessing be upon him and his companions] offered the noon and afternoon prayers in Arafah along with 100,000 worshippers, and the victory of Islaam over blasphemy became decisive and final. Thereafter, the Prophet [peace and blessing be upon him and his companions] mounted his camel, and delivered the historical sermon. In it, he had said: ", All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab, also a white has no superiority over black nor a black has any superiority over white except by piety and good action. Learn that every Muslim is a brother to every Muslim and that the Muslims constitute one brotherhood. Nothing shall be legitimate to a Muslim which belongs to a fellow Muslim unless it was given freely and willingly. Do not, therefore, do injustice to yourselves, ".

@Zubeyr

I read the Koran cover to cover thousand time and there is no verse that stated or alluded that a man can't wear 
jewelry I will be glad to bring me a  proof stating otherwise

For the fact that you might not have come across it does not mean it is good or vice versa.

Please what is your take on cigarette smoking _{(I just want to use something there)}

Please why would a man want to wear jewelry (necklace specifically)?

Bawomolo Dead

Just coming across this thread. What a surprise?

How did it happen please?

May his soul rest in peace.

@Zubeyr

     

There is no text in the Koran or Hadith that prohibited a Muslim man from wearing necklace or ring as long as it not made from gold
yeah there is Hadith that stated that cursed is the  man that make himself looks like woman and cursed is the woman that makes herself look like man
so I will say it all depend on someone culture and how they define male and female wear so please dont mix culture with Islam
If your ibo culture says that necklace worn by male would make him look female then just stay away it would be haram since only woman wear it but if is not so is halal for you to wear it Islam has always being flexible and accommodating people cultures it is what we call in Arabic ''Urf "(known and familiar customs ) is like a Muslim Scottish  won't be cursed because in their "urf" ( customs) men wear skirt but for an Arab man it  would be
prohibited (Haram) because in the Arab culture only women wear skirt  and therefore it would make him look like woman

Salam

I am surprised that you are drumming your support for men wearing necklace as long as their culture allows. One thing we should at the back of our mind is that ISLAM is totally different from CULTURE. Bringing culture into Islam is what leads to deviation which could be called Innovation (Bidah). The holy Prophet (saw) said we cannot accept the two together, it is either we accept Bidah or Sunnah because those  who indulge in Bidah are not practising Islam as it ought to be.

For example, the one that came to my mind as I am typing is that of prostration during Nikkah. It is well known that on no account must we prostrate for anybody and it is not until we prostrate that we show respect for the elderly but some would say no, it is the culture and you must do it.

Another is killing of cows and throwing parties at a funeral which Islam does not support but when you tell people, they would tell that that is how they have been doing it and one should just accept (CULTURE AGAIN).

On the issue at hand, culture can never supercede the sayings/doings of the prophet. We should also know that there was culture during the prophet's time but he did bring it into Islam because he knew the implication. It has been said that necklace, be it gold or silver is for women and it is for beautification because of their feminity and wearing necklace by men is like copying them and men should never try to look like women and vice versa.

Please, on no account must Culture come before Sunnah,Hadith of the Holy Prophet (saw) as it leads to Bidah.


@LeoChinedu

Salam and I heartily welcome to the fold of Islam. I acepted the call years back and even posted my reversion story. I had to stop there because we should not try to make Islam look difficult for reverts but should be a gradual process. As you proceed, there are some things that you would drop in which you might have been doing before accepting Islam just like prophets took their time in preaching oneness of Allah . They took time preaching because they know that foundation is very key and when that is there, others would be imbibed gradually.

Once again, you are welcome. Feel free to ask any questions bothering you and you would be enlightened.

Maa Salam.

Here are a few points about what the Imam said during the Friday Sermon:

He stressed on the fact we should be very afraid of Hellfire. The fuel of Hell is men and stones. He then mentioned 4 deeds which will help us from escaping from Hell.

1. One who takes part in congregational prayer for 40 consecutive days. The person should be present in the Jamath from the start of the prayer(ie from the moment the Imam says 'Allahu Akbar'.)

2. One who prays Dhuha prayer every day for one year. Dhuha prayer is a sunnath prayer which can be performed from 20mins after sunrise till the adhan of Zuhr prayer.

3. One who prays 4 rakat of sunnat prayer before and after Zuhr prayer.

4. One who performs Hajj 3 times, then Hellfire is haraam for him.

All the 4 mentioned people will be saved from the Fire of Hell.
May Allah give us the blessing to be in these category and may Allah save us from the fire of Hell.

Ameen.

Amin
Jazakhallah Khairan

Barka Jumuah.

Narrated Abu 'Abs: I heard the Prophet (peace be upon him) saying, "Anyone whose feet are covered with dust in Allah's cause, shall be saved by Allah from the Hell-Fire."[b][/b]

[Sahih Bukhari Volume 2, Book 13, Number 30]

Why not. My partners knows. There is no big deal once you marry your real wife. You know that some marry another person's wife (wife meant not be theirs).

By telling her the truth, you would plan together in achieving the best result because she would know that you are not hiding anything from her.

The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) Said : "Every Prophet Was Given Miracles Because Of Which People Believed, But What I Have Been Given, Is Divine Inspiration Which Allah Has Revealed To Me, So I Hope That My Followers Will Outnumber The Followers Of The Other Prophets On The Day Of Resurrection, "

[Saheeh Al-Bukhari, Volume, : 6, Book Number : 61, Hadith Number : 504]

It is Only a Sunnah

Often, when Sunnah of the Holy Prophet Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam is mentioned we hear the remark, "it is only a Sunnah", implying as if Sunnah is a mere matter of choice, not a duty or obligation, recommended, but not required. The response, for most part, is a result of the lack of understanding of the importance and the place of the Sunnah in Islam and in a Muslim's life.

What is Sunnah? Allah sent his last Prophet and Messenger Mohammad Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam to teach and guide humanity how to conduct their individual and collective affairs and live their lives in a manner pleasing to their Creator. In this regard, the virtuous acts and deeds taught by the Prophet, through his words and conduct, are called Sunnah. They range in their scope from the manner of drinking water to burial of the dead to solemnizing the marriage to regulation of trade practices, etc. Even a simple task of drinking water becomes an act of worship if the intention underlying it is to comply with the Sunnah of the Holy Prophet. On the other hand, intentionally and habitually disregarding the Sunnah invites anger of Allah and His Prophet. The Holy Prophet is reported to said, "Whoever turns away from my Sunnah is not from me", meaning he is not my follower.

How imperative is it to obey the Sunnah of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihe Wa Sallam? The imperative significance of the Sunnah is evident from the fact that Allah has not linked the success and salvation of humans with His obedience alone but also conditioned it upon the obedience to His Prophet. That is, Allah Almighty has enjoined on us obedience to His Messenger, just as He has enjoined His own obedience. In the Quran Allah says, "And obey Allah and the Messenger that you may obtain mercy. (3:132).[/b] And at another place He warns, [b]", and whoso disobeys Allah and His Messenger, he is indeed on a clearly wrong path (33:36).[/color] To obey the Messenger means obey his Sunnah, what he has enjoined and what he has forbidden.

In the Islamic system of beliefs, Allah Subhanahu alone has the right to declare what is permitted and what is forbidden. He does so through the Quran and through His Prophet. Allah vested in His Prophet the authority of a lawgiver. The Quran says, [color=#990000]", (Prophet) enjoins them good and forbids them evil, and makes lawful to them the good things and makes unlawful to them impure things, and removes from them their burden and the shackles which were upon them, " (7:157). [/b]Therefore, what the Holy Prophet enjoins or forbids is from Allah. ("He does not speak from his desire; it is nothing except revelation revealed to him" (53:3-53:4)[b]. Another verse that tells us about Prophet's authority as a lawgiver, ", So take what the messenger assigns to you and abstain from that which forbids you , " (59:7).[b][/b] This verse is not limited to the division of the war booties as anti hadith groups claim, it is rather all encompassing and general in its proclamation.

The other dimension of the Sunnah of the Prophet is that it is a tangible expression of love for Allah, and the best way to gain Allah's love and forgiveness. Quran tells Prophet Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam to say to believers, "If you do love Allah, Follow me: Allah will love you and forgive you your sins , " (3:31). [b][/b]This verse makes it plain that without adhering to the dos and don'ts of the Sunnah, no triumph in this world or the next can be achieved.

The clear imperative to follow Prophet Mohammad's rulings and decisions can also be seen unambiguously expressed in this verse "But no, by your Lord, they can have no faith, until they make you (O' Muhammad) judge in all disputes between them, and find in themselves no resistance against your decisions, and accept them with full submission" (4:65). [b][/b]This verse clearly illustrates the supremacy of the Holy Prophet's decisions and judgment governing all departments of life - religious, social, economic, political and cultural, etc. Here the Quran establishes Sunnah - Prophet's decision and legal judgments - as irrevocable, not to be challenged or reinterpreted and must be accepted with full submission. The emphasis on the Sunnah is to the point that if one knowingly denies the decrees and judgments of the Holy Prophet, he jeopardizes his faith.

The obligation to judge all matters in the light of the Quran and the Sunnah is also recognized from the famous hadith of Muaz bin Jabal radiyallaahu anhu. When the Holy Prophet appointed him as a Judge in Yemen, he enquired him, "What will you judge by when you decide a case?" Muaz bin Jabal said, "By the Book of Allah." The Prophet further asked, "If you don't find the answer in the Book of Allah, what will you do?" Muaz bin Jabal replied, "I will look into the Sunnah of the Allah's Prophet." The answer of Muaz bin Jabal very much pleased Rasulallah Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam. [/b]The hadith further confirms that the Sunnah, after Quran, is a definite and absolute part of the Muslim constitution.

The Prophet Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam was created as an "exalted standard of character" (68:4) and the best exemplar for the human race[b]. In enjoining the believers to pattern their lives after the perfect example of the Prophet's life, the Quran says, "Certainly, there is an excellent example for you in the Messenger of Allah, for him who looks forward to Allah and the Last Day, and remembers Allah much (33:21)[b][/b]. The Holy Prophet said about himself, "Allah has sent me as an apostle so that I may demonstrate perfection of character, refinement of manners and loftiness of behavior and conduct." [/b]The believers have been exhorted to follow the Prophet Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam not only in the details of complex matters of their collective life, but also in the small details of their daily life. For example, matters of eating, drinking, dressing and sleeping, and those regarding which the Prophet gave specific guidance.

Today, Muslims overwhelmed by the West and its civilization and raised on secular education have developed inferiority complex about their religious and cultural heritage. Though they believe that the system of guidance, the Qur'an and Sunnah, is true, yet great many of them have abandoned Islamic values and ideals in favor of western standards and practices. Here it would be good to remember what the Holy Prophet said about imitating the non-believers. The Prophet of Allah said, "Whoever imitates a people is one of them." [b]

Since the Sunnah is an integral part of Muslim faith, its negligence and abandonment would diminish the faith of a believer in the same measure. It is for this reason that the Holy Prophet Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam has promised a great recompense for the revitalization of an abandoned Sunnah. He said, "Whoever revives a Sunnah from my Sunnah that has been abandoned after me, then he will have an equal reward of all people who acts upon it, without decreasing from their reward in any way."[/b]

The Fuqaha (jurists) and muhaddithin (traditionists) may debate over the binding and non-binding status of Sunnah. A common believer whose eyes are on the Akhira will not fret over the legalities, but follow the Sunnah with same devotion and conviction in all matters, big and small. I am reminded of a young British man who after embracing Islam started to grow beard. A fellow Muslim, perhaps a modernist, said to him, "keeping [color=#990000]beard is not an essential requirement."[b] The comment evoked a devotional response from the new brother, "Keeping beard is one of the clear commands of the Prophet and who am I to judge the essentiality of the Prophet's orders." [/color] [/b]The young new Muslim gave us a lesson in abiding in the Prophet's Sunnah without questioning and arguing about the legalities of it.

Beware those who neglect and abandon the Sunnah and say, "It is only a Sunnah": The Quran says, ", So, those who violate his (messenger's) order must beware, lest they are visited by a trial or they are visited by a painful punishment" (24:63).[b]

It is not just Sunnah, it is the way of life prescribed by none other than the Allah through the revelation to His Prophet.

@babs
good to see you back.

Salam brother. Thank you for remembering me and may Allah continue to be with you. I have been busy lately and I tried replying most times but ended reading contributions only.

Jazakhallah

Assalamu alaikum,

I am not trying in any way to insult anyone here, as doing so is not my doing especially at places like this very one. But @LagosShia, do you read at all? Haven't you seen (if not read) what our and your brother Lagosboy democratically said above? Before him there have been other callings similar to that but you simply choose to ignore that and continue with your tantrum infected posting on these so-called historical "facts", which are in fact fabrication or even fairy tales.

Shi'i, if you don't know, is hard sell here; and so it is to majority Nigerians. Lest you don't know, more-over, I live in Kano. I was even born and raise up here. You seemingly lack that in-depth knowledge to advertise your sect. I was once a member of Brotherhood, a faction from Shi'a. The Nigerian Shi'a started under a facade of brotherhood before our then leaders figured that out and ceded from the misguided sect.

Lastly, I, particularly, don't regard any Shi'ite as Muslim. I would rather live, "befriend" non-Muslim that you. Why? Whoever doesn't believe a single verse in the Noble Qur'an he/she is not good Muslim, if not Muslim at all. Qur'an plainly absolved Nana A'isha, for instance, while you still see her as an adulterer. Qur'an, further more, describes the pinnacle of Sayyid Abubakar's darajah (highness) while you see him as a dictator who snatched power from Sayyid Ali (RA), among other things. Why, why and why? You, worst, enjoy calling these two greatest persons and many more (like Sayyid Umar) in Islam with all derogatory names in many of your books.

Yet, all what I stated above notwithstanding, if you are here for peace so we all are; and if you are not we are ready as hell to deal with you (plural) inshaAllah. And expose your porous thoughts and views.

A word is enough for a wise.

Still enjoying his tales by moonlight

It seems he is here for division rather than unity.