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TV/Movies / Re: Live: Big Brother Naija 2018 (Double Wahala) BBNaija Live Thread by babuji(f): 3:45am On Apr 03, 2018 |
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Jobs/Vacancies / Re: NNPC Experienced Cadre, What's Up? by babuji(f): 5:58am On Dec 17, 2014 |
Check your spam mails 1 Like |
Education / Re: University Of Abuja 2017/2018 Admission Updates by babuji(f): 4:40pm On Nov 25, 2014 |
Pietee: Thanks Piete, but how do we go about it? your assistance or advice will be appreciated. |
Education / Re: University Of Abuja 2017/2018 Admission Updates by babuji(f): 1:54pm On Nov 25, 2014 |
hello everyone, is there anybody in sociology here who can help me answer the below questions can someone with p7 in maths be allowed to screen? my niece needs your help ooo |
Religion / Re: Myles Munroe, His Wife & Daughter Are Dead (Plane Crash) by babuji(f): 10:33am On Nov 10, 2014 |
I'm trying hard not to think you're unkind Heavenly father, you know my heart Surely you can read my mind Good people underneath the sea of grief Some get up and walk away and some will find ultimate relief Home free Eventually At the ultimate healing We will be home free Home free Oooh''ve got to be there At the ultimate healing We will be home free Rest in peace Myles Munroe, wife and daughter. You impacted and are still impacting my life. 1 Like |
Nairaland / General / Re: Six Bizzare Facts About Saliva You Dont Know by babuji(f): 10:44am On Nov 06, 2014 |
NICE KNOWING THIS |
Education / Re: University Of Abuja 2017/2018 Admission Updates by babuji(f): 2:52pm On Nov 05, 2014 |
rakish: All you need to do is to submit your reg number and pin again and it will bring out your details. the 1st time is to validate your pin, the 2nd time will bring out your result. best of luck. |
Family / Re: Man Returns To Children He Abandoned For Eight Years (With Video) by babuji(f): 3:42pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
i really hope for the sake of the poor children that he has changed. i hope he is not trying to gain sympathy and financial gain from all this. there is no other word for this man and his wife but WICKEDNESS!! May God have mercy on them and help the children to forgive them. only God knows the kind of emotional, verbal and physical abuse those children have endured for being at the mercy of the school. 1 Like |
Politics / Re: Sheikh Gunmi And General Buhari, The Bitter Truth by babuji(f): 12:33pm On Oct 24, 2014 |
Nairaland / General / Re: River Turns Red by babuji(f): 7:43pm On Jul 25, 2014 |
Hmmm |
Adverts / Re: Brand New Elliptical Exercise Bike @ ₦50,000 by babuji(f): 2:32pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
I am interested is it air resistance or magnetic resistance? is it also front wheel or rear wheel? |
Adverts / Re: Orbitrac Elliptical Bike by babuji(f): 2:26pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
Hi OP, kindly list the features I am actually looking for the 7 in 1 Orbi trak elliptical machine. looking forward to your prompt repl |
Nairaland / General / Re: John Akinsoji who got Missing,Around Ikosi-ketu,Lagos was found in Ijebu Mushin! by babuji(f): 9:57am On Oct 03, 2013 |
Where is Becacia to update us all? |
Politics / Re: Jonathan Not In New York With 600-man Delegation – Abati by babuji(f): 3:37pm On Sep 23, 2013 |
Abati should have come up with a more believable reply. You debunk allegations with verifiable facts and figures and not with vague info. Maybe he is tired. |
Politics / Re: Are Prophet Suleiman's Prophecies Coming To Pass? by babuji(f): 3:30pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
Oduntan Gabriel: 46) ASUU to call off strike very soon.... Next month ,next two months or next year.... All I knw is dat ASUU to call off strike very soon....... this got me laughing so hard.... |
TV/Movies / Re: Big Brother Africa "The Chase" Official Thread by babuji(f): 1:52pm On Sep 05, 2013 |
Kslib: I remember the day of the grand finale,mariarocks was very eager to see what maria wore,she was very anxious to see how fashionable maria dressed.. I totally agree with kslib. mariarocks writing and gushings are utterly feminine |
TV/Movies / Re: Big Brother Africa "The Chase" Official Thread by babuji(f): 2:30pm On Aug 21, 2013 |
@F-addict, let bygones be bygones. You are an old BBA thread member and you have stayed true. Yes some people allowed emotions overrule them over Melvin but you are now doing the same and two wrongs don't make a right. pls let it go. |
Autos / Re: STOP WASTING MONEY BY GOING TO COTONOU TO BUY CAR - TRIPLE A AUTO AUCTIONS by babuji(f): 11:33pm On May 11, 2013 |
hi Ademola, Please give me the following prices with shipping to nigeria etc toyota venza 2010 - 2012 toyota sienna 2010 - 2012 my email is ecclesj2@gmail.com thanks |
Business / Re: .::. Scam Alert : Omowunmi Allen And The Pre-order Mess .::. by babuji(f): 3:56pm On Apr 16, 2013 |
bfire: @aieromon: I agree with this . Take the car, cut your losses and move on if there is indeed a car at the port....... |
Religion / Re: My Brother Goshen, Please Explain Your Stand On Fornication Here by babuji(f): 5:47pm On Apr 07, 2013 |
^^^^^^^^^^^ He that hath ears should hear or rather he that hath eyes should read the above. The kingdom of heaven is at hand. Peace. |
Religion / Re: My Brother Goshen, Please Explain Your Stand On Fornication Here by babuji(f): 5:45pm On Apr 07, 2013 |
Pygru: Matthew 24:11 ► |
Religion / Re: My Brother Goshen, Please Explain Your Stand On Fornication Here by babuji(f): 5:36pm On Apr 07, 2013 |
lets assume that definition has always been the problem as you said,dont you think indulging yourself runs contrary to the spirit of the above scriptures? Name me one culture in Africa that doesn't frown at intimacy before formalisation of marriage even before Christianity came into Africa. I keep asking,what should prevent a Spirit filled brother who knows he's meant to be an example of good character to gentiles around from formalising the union @a church,registry or traditional setting before he starts enjoying with his spouse? No scripture condemns smoking,does it mean i can go ahead and smoke? What is needed is simply self control.will doing it before marriage increase my righteousness or make me more effective in the service of God? It has no single benefit to me or to the household of faith so why should i try to find a reason to indulge in it? Our society,our law,our senses tell us we are not married until formalized,lets wait and fulfill all righteousness to avoid scorn and ridicule on the body of Christ. waiting wont kill anyone.It qualifies as self denial which our Christ advocates @okeyxyz, and it is not a little dangerous. It is overtly antagonistic to the Cross of Christ. And as far as I'm concerned, you don't belong among those saved by that Cross. I have sought for signs jjthat you do for months and you are a hopeless confusion. If you do not sort yourself out with the Lord, the end that awaits you will utterly destroy you |
Religion / Re: My Brother Goshen, Please Explain Your Stand On Fornication Here by babuji(f): 9:50pm On Apr 06, 2013 |
Its strange that a christian is actually trying to defend what even unbelievers know is wrong spiritually, morally, traditionally etc. #endtimesigns# 1 Like |
Religion / Re: My Brother Goshen, Please Explain Your Stand On Fornication Here by babuji(f): 9:05pm On Apr 06, 2013 |
[[b][/b]i][/i]Lets be careful not to give out cheap gospel to people in the name of "Grace period". Cheap gospel is a poison coated with sweetness to deceive the receiver and we need to be very careful with what we are teaching because we shall answer for every soul we deceived with our teachings. |
Phones / Re: Mobile Number Portability In Nigeria: Advantages & Disadvantages by babuji(f): 1:26pm On Apr 06, 2013 |
MNP is definitely not for everyone. The major beneficiaries will be corporate bodies or organizations, multinational companies who have had their numbers since the advent of GSM in nigeria. They would have been frustrated by their network provider time after time but cant afford to change their numbers at will because of the negative connotations. Corporate organizations and MNC's don't have the liberty to change their corporate numbers at will because it will signify instability to their customers, suppliers and partners. To these ones MNP will be a blessing. Prior to porting they should have tested the service of the network they want to move to using test lines to ensure that the service is better than what they are currently recieving. All in all, MNP is a welcome development. 1 Like |
Family / Re: This Means War: Family Friends Say I Cheated With Daughter..... by babuji(f): 10:48am On Mar 23, 2013 |
@OP I believe you. Shit does happen and your good becomes vilified. Thank God, your wife believes you. That's all that really matters. Learn from this and move on. All the best. 1 Like |
Politics / Re: Jonathan Pardons Bello Magaji, Homosexual Molester, Triggering Fresh Controversy by babuji(f): 9:48pm On Mar 18, 2013 |
I wonder who is next. Reverend King? |
Family / Re: Connect With Someone Born On The Same Month & Day You Were Born! by babuji(f): 10:39pm On Mar 13, 2013 |
25th march 2 Likes |
Family / This Diety Called "Husband" By Toyin Fabs by babuji(f): 7:52am On Mar 09, 2013 |
Toyinfabs Let the stories flow……. This Deity they call Husband…….. You lay alone on your big, lonely bed and asked yourself the same questions that have been troubling your mind for months. Young, beautiful, with a good job, an equally very good car, a doting boyfriend and wonderful friends, you should be satisfied but it is not to be. Your weekends are never boring, from candle lit dinners at some of the most expensive restaurants in town, late night movies at the cinema to weekends spent in some of the most exotic countries of the world. So why do you feel this dissatisfaction? Why do you feel incomplete, like there is something missing in your life? There is an emptiness in the pit of your stomach, the things you have achieved seem to be inconsequential, there is that void in your spirit and it depresses you. Nobody but you knows, you have told no one, not even the one you avow to be your one true love. You alone know why the dark cloud hovers over you, no one else knows why you toss and turn in your bed at night. Most people would be shocked to know how sick and tired you are of your father’s name. You can’t wait to replace it with his surname. The name has been scribbled on your notebook a thousand times; you even tried out the new signature you would use once married, it was so perfect, you however ensure no one can access the secret notebook, you would feel so embarrassed if anyone were to see it. You are convinced its time to move on to the next level, trouble is he has refused to take the necessary steps. These days you avoid your family members as much as you can, they seem to have nothing more to say to you other than ask when they will finally wear aso ebi on your behalf. Attending wedding ceremonies of family members has become one big chore. Everybody has the same line; Pele, Stella. A ku inawo, tie naa a de oo, Olorun a yan fun e. yours will soon come oh Your birthdays are to be dreaded no thanks to your mum, she will call at exactly 12.00 am and start the plenty prayers all of which start and end with petitions to God asking him to assist you in finding a husband. For the past five years her calls to on your birthdays has always ended with; Iwoyi odun to n’bo ile oko ni wa wa o. This time next year, you’d be in your husband’s house. You always made sure the Amen was very loud, or else she’d say your spirit husband needs to be appeased again. You have lost count of how any times she has taken you to her Aladura, all in a bid to appease the spirit husband she is certain is stopping you from getting married. A day to never be forgotten was the day your cousin got married, the one that lived with your family since she was five; the one that calls you Aunty Stella. Your mother almost killed you with ’’corner corner’’ looks. The one time you caught her eye while on the dance floor swinging your waist and spraying the musician as he sang your praises, the look she gave you could have melted ice. The excitement was deflated immediately and you didn’t even wait for the end of the ceremony before leaving. The only thing she didn’t do when you bought your car was beat you; she made it clear that now that you have a car, you were never going to get married because no man marries a woman that has a car. But still as you lay on your bed in your darkened room on the eve of your third anniversary with Dimeji thinking about all these things, you couldn’t help wondering if you were being unreasonable. You asked yourself why not being married at twenty-seven affected you so much. Apart from the stress and pressure from your relatives, you asked yourself if the desperation you feel didn’t also have something to do with the things they have been drumming in your head since you were born. They here refers to your mum, dad, uncles, aunties, cousins, neighbors and in fact the whole world. From the time you were born, they joked about the neighbor’s son being your husband, from the time you could walk and your dad could see the beauty etched on your face, he joked about how he will stress any man that comes for your hand in marriage. When you were just five, you eavesdropped on conversations between the adults in your extended family and Sister Maria, the one who was unmarried at twenty-eight years. You heard how they all quizzed her about when she would bring a man home. You heard her sobs as she explained that she was trying her best. You determined in your spirit that you would never allow that to happen to you. From the time you were seven, your mother nagged you about how you would die an old maid if you don’t learn how to do house chores. They taught you that your life was all about the man, and you had to learn to cook his food, wash his clothes and do other housework so he could be happy with you. They told you to read your books so the man that will marry you will be proud of you. By the time you were fifteen, you were convinced that the main goal of your life was to find that man and be a good wife to him all your life, giving birth to his children and keeping the house for him until you die. You saw how the unmarried ladies in your community were referred to as ‘’Odoko’’. You saw how they gossiped about the separated and divorced ones; they said these women were not properly brought up and so didn’t take care of their husband well which in turn made the men leave them for other women. You promised yourself not to ever be like those women and you decided to start preparing for this deity- the one they called husband- the one they said was so important for you to be complete as a woman. You learnt how to grind pepper with the milling stone, you learnt how to make smooth and lump free ’’Amala’’ and Pounded Yam, you learnt how to cook your Rice such that the grains stood independently and not mashed, by the time you entered university you were ready for him, you could make most foods perfectly, iron a shirt, trouser or Agbada till the edges could cut a person’s head off, you were a master at keeping a house clean, your mother was proud, confident that any man that came across you would consider himself lucky. The first boy you dated, you took care of him, just like his mother would have done, he came to your hostel room every evening and you made sure there was food for him on arrival. Your weekends were spent washing his clothes; you ironed them and personally delivered them to his room in the boy’s Hostel. He told you how good you were and how he couldn’t wait to marry you. He later said he wanted to sleep with you, it was so hard for you to disobey him, not when you were already building your dreams around him, and you eventually allowed him after making him promise to marry you. You soon learnt it was a foolish thing to do, when you both graduated and he stopped calling you. You called his mum, the one that always called your line when she couldn’t reach him on the phone, the one that called you ‘’iyawo mi’’ She assured you she has given him a piece of her mind, she told you how she made him realize that the only person he is marrying as far as she is concerned is you. You felt better after that call confident everything would be okay, until you saw his wedding pictures on a wedding blog two weeks later. You could see the bulging stomach of his wife, she couldn’t have been less than seven months pregnant, and you think back and count on your fingers how many months it was since he broke up with you. It was exactly three months to the day of the wedding. You opened your jaws in surprise, you were so hurt you couldn’t sleep for days but you got over it, you went for youth service and that was where you met Toju. You decided Toju was a good enough candidate for the husband and so you started doing everything you did for his predecessor, cooking and cleaning, being just the perfect wife material but that ended abruptly too the day he told you tearfully he couldn’t marry you because you are an Ijebu girl. This time you wept uncontrollably and begged him with everything he held dear, but he assured you it wasn’t his decision, that his family mandated him to break up with you and there was nothing he could do about it. He told you how much he still loved you but insisted he had to let you go. It was two weeks to your passing out, you were devastated, you had already started planning the wedding in your mind, you had even picked the aso ebi in your mind, you were already sure of what you want the wedding colours to be. You got over that too and two more boyfriends after, here you are with Dimeji, the one you call your one and true love, you had made up your mind before you met Dimeji that, no more clothes washing, no more cooking and cleaning, no more wife-acting, you simply want to be a girlfriend, your friends who you thought were so ill mannered that no man would ever marry them, they are all married, their children were even old enough to talk, they call you Aunty Stella. Lying there on your bed that afternoon, the eve of your third anniversary with Dimeji, you realize that you have probably gotten it wrong all along, you realize that you have been too desperate to get married that the men that came into your life could smell it miles away. You realized that all the washing and cooking you did was not out of love but of the burning desire you had to be seen as a wife material. It became clear that you might never have any control on when you will get married and you might as well relax and enjoy your singleness while it lasts. You thought of all the other things you could do with your life, the things that might be easier to achieve now that you are still single, the professional examinations you could write, your unfulfilled dreams that can be set in motion and a host of other things that a girl doesn’t have to be married to do. You know definitely that you won’t be single forever, you are sure it would happen soon enough, it was only a matter of time. With that realization filling your mind and replacing the bitterness with contentment, you stood up from your bed and prepared to leave for the market, you intend to cook Dimeji his favorite dish for your anniversary, it will be the first time he will ever taste anything you cooked. There won’t be any restaurant food tomorrow you said aloud chuckling as you splashed on your body spray. ***** Foot note: In the end, whether at 18 or 36 most ladies will eventually get married. Your friends might be already married and even have kids that call you Aunty; that should not make you feel like God has forgotten you. A journey that doesn’t have a return date should not be planned lightly. If you know you don’t have a return date in mind, don’t say YES to just any man that comes your way. Be sure it’s someone whose face you will still want to see in the next ten years. Be sure you will be able to tolerate his shortcomings for the rest of your life. The reality is the people (Parents, Aunties, Uncles, Family friends etc.) that keep bugging you to get married won’t live with you in your husband’s house, when you allow them to pressure and push you into marrying wrong, you will be on your own when the chips are down. They won’t be there when you start soaking your pillow in tears, it will be your face that gets punched when the maniac you married needs some boxing practice. My submission: Allow them to talk; at the same time make it clear that you intend to get married; but you are not in a hurry, you plan to take your time. They will get tired of bugging you soon enough when they realize you are not receptive to such talks. Enough said. 11 Likes |
Fashion/Clothing Market / Re: **Distributors Wanted **Different Kind Of Lace Wigs, Synthetic, Human And Remi by babuji(f): 4:34pm On Feb 28, 2013 |
Hi Fhemmy, I am interested in the indian Remy for my self and i want in wig form only. My email is amaderaresources@gmail.com thank you |
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