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phemmyflexxy:
Can you tell me why God made the population of women grow more than that of men

So God did that so men can marry more than one abi

phemmyflexxy:
It baffles me how some educated folks behave as though they are not logical in their reasoning.
Our knowledge and perception of polygamy has been shaped by what we are being fed from childhood. :a polygamous home is a battle field. the problem of Christianity and Islam was as a result of polygamy. it makes women inferior, women in polygamous homes are 2nd citizens...etc.
I was born and brought up in a polygamous home. I am still living with my step mum and my half brothers and sisters since my father died.
I can categorically tell u that polygamy is not the problem, but our mindset and misinformation about it.
Mine is/was a peaceful and loving polygamous home not without challenges though.
Let me give a list of the reasons why my home is a successful polygamous home;
1. Our mothers never planted hatred for our siblings in our minds, and if anyone of them was doing that, then her children are definitely not listening.
2. Each one of us was paired with a half brother/sister to eat together and where possible be in the same class at school. e.g. Me and my half twin brother attended same school most times same class up till NYSC and PGD, our friends are always marveled at our bond.
3. Our mothers are all business women, so they can take care of their personal uncommon needs, at some time even have a fatter wallet than my father.
4. My father was a disciplinarian and takes no nonsense, he was feared, loved and respected by everyone. Even when there is a quarrel, ones he honks his car at the gate, its game over.
To mention a few.
For this reasons there was more bond amongst we the children.... and that is a the core pillar of a successful polygamous home. we are a family of 20... I.e. 16 children to 3 mothers ratio 6:6:4.
I am the 7th child and the 3rd son of the family. I believe I wouldn't be who I am today if I didn't pass through this family. I have benefitted more from my half siblings than my mother's fruits. I can't say no to my half siblings request like I do to mine. This is because I don't want them to think I'm bias towards them.
personally I still believe polygamy is the future.
presently on my street are a minimum of 4 unmarried women who are in their 40s, more than 12 single mothers, 1 divorcee, 8 widows including my elder sister and excluding my mothers and over 20 ripe single ladies. The gender ratio is 3:1 ladies to men.
My widowed sister has 3 kids already, her husband died when she was 34. The question I ask is would she remain single for rest of her life, or get married again. what are the chances for her to get a single man as against a married man ready to get take her as second or 3rd wife. or she will just have to suit her emotional and sexual needs wt different men who won't marry her (which makes her a public property) as the case of many of them on my street.
This applies to all the aforementioned categories. I can tell u that its just as difficult to get a married man to marry as it is to get a single man.
Many of the arguments above capitalized on the economy. For God's sake, we are in the 21st century, where women work and even earn more than men. And even if she is an housewife, who says she can't make millions from her bedroom... thanks to the internet. and yes, men don't want liabilities.
So I believe rather than all these categories of women competing and causing unrest in the world over the scanty limited men, the world will learn to be more peaceful if we all make a peaceful polygamous home possible by unlearning what we have been brainwashed wt . Ladies, i will advice u to accept the offer if any responsible married man wants to marry you. Go into the polygamous home not wt a battle prepared mind but with peace is possible mindset to contribute our own quota.
Married ladies should help their sisters by allowing them to come into their homes as wives and not as mistresses.
The Bible says love ur neighbour as thyself. Prophet Muhammed (saw) also said u are not yet a true believer until u love for ur neighbour what u love for yourself.

Nevertheless, not everyone can lead or be part of a polygamous setting. This has to do with your maturity, financial status, temperament and leadership skills.

Talking about advantages or disadvantages depends on which position you stand in the family... Husband/father, wife/mother or child...

As a father/husband...
Does your faith/belief allow you to? If yes, you have a better option than committing adultery. If no, stick to your belief system.
Can your financial status cope? If yes, you would be investing on children who may take care of your old age and help each instead of wasting it on oloshos and side chicks. If no, pls marry a working/business woman or stick to one.
Do you have the emotional intelligence to deal with women palava? If yes like my dad... You will build a big loving family like mine. If no pls don't marry at all

As a wife/mother
Does your faith/belief allow you to? If yes, you have a better option than committing fornication or being a side chick/public property.
Do you have a source of sustainance and can cater for your kids? If yes, go ahead and save yourself from depression and societal pressure, if no marry a wealthy man.
Do you have the emotional intelligence to deal with your fellow women as mates/rivals? If yes, you have an helper and save yourself a lot of burden, plus your children have spare mother's like me. If no, pls leave those who can to live in peace.

As a child.
It is not your choice to make but if you find your self in one....
You have spare mother's to care for you and possibly a bigger number of siblings to cater for or care for you. If you are lucky they are well to do... You have a better chance at it too.

Haven said all these, there is nothing wrong with polygamy except our attitude and mindset towards it. Same applies to monogamy. What baffles me is how we detest polygamy and endorse cheating husband's and baby mamas and mistresses.

Peace out...

Apart from mindset, polygamous family has its side effects. You forgot to tell us the negative effects on your part except you want to tell me there's none which i will find it hard to concur.
Before you will want to quote me, let me categorically tell u that I'm from a polygamous family too. There are some issues i can't even tell the closest person to me because of the fear of the unknown.

KingZaddy:
ladies are lovers of attention, how do you intend to compete?

That's another point. I wonder how long it will take to comprehend

dejolly post=88099646:
With money there are lot of advantages but go broke you will hate why you were born

Convince me more to believe this

Will you keep quiet?

Oracle23:
They both have advantages and disadvantages

In what ways pls?

comos:
An elderly man once told me,
If you want to leave long and enjoy your old age, marry more than one wife if your first wife is the nagging type.

What if she's not the nagging type?

MrBrownJay1:
advantages:
its best to have all your kids under one roof than scattered everywhere and them not knowing one another
its best to have all your wives under one roof so you can control and sort any issue on the spot
its best to be honest about who you are and be who you desire to be....especially if you want to fukc every sexy single women out there


so you believe its ok to cheat on your wife with unilag olosho...?

You see what I'm saying?
How can a man be married to two women? And expect to have peace? Consider the hatred ahead

Check it out https://www.nairaland.com/5772897/ibrahim-kasimu-oboshi-how-married

You see what I'm saying?
This is exactly what I'm saying on this tread below
https://www.nairaland.com/5772739/does-marrying-more-than-one

aumeehn:
I have observed something among polygamist and that is "Selfishness and self centeredness, the posts above confirmed it. Everyone is talking about Himself, they will be competing to take care of you, competing to do this do that for YOU! Everything is all about YOU! But let me remind you, while they are competing to please you, Your children are also competing for favors from you. Some will live with hatred for their step moms and step brothers until they die. They will hate you and destroy your legacy. In this 21st century polygamy is not worth it.

At Old age none of them will look your way because each an every woman in that house will work towards the progress of her own children and once that goal has been achieved, oboy forget it even the children will careless about you.

I have a friend who was born into a family of 28, their father passed away late last year, and as i am typing this, their father's room is occupied by a tenant, they sold everything including the family house. Sometimes its not all about you, think about the future of your children.

I strongly agreed with you. I came from a polygamous family but i have vowed never to marry more than one wife. Even my mom has said never will she allow any of her son to marry more than one wife. I'm sure is because of what she has encountered.

MrBrownJay1:
it all depends on A) the type of man you are and B) the type of women you hope to marry.

not all men CAN/SHOULD have multiple wives and not all women CAN/SHOULD be in a polygamous union.

Don't you think marrying more than one wife is part of the problem we are facing in this country

Michelle55:
Not worth it... Just stick to one because one woman is enough problem already,why are you trying to die young by having massive heartaches?

PS: and if you must become polygamous, make it 3 instead of 2... Because when those two will gang up against you, the 3rd will snitch on them to become your top priority and favorite heard this secret from one baddest grandpa in my area

Sense will not kill you

mignone:
Who ever desires peace of mind in life should not consider polygamy or having 'many' children.
Ask those in such shoes at a time like this.

Strongly agreed

bjbjbj:
BIG NO.

Expatiate pls

NextD18:
The nagging and bad-mannerisms will be lesser as there will be competition between the wives to impress you with good characters and doings.


This is only if you are RICH!

Very true.

NextD18:

Let's learn bro

Thanks all for your contributions.
In summary may we all marry the flesh of our flesh and the blood of our blood.

Let me not use this medium to say I'm single sha...okay bye

Modified

Does Marrying More Than One Wife In Anyway Has Advantage?

Please let's discuss and learn from different ethnic background if marrying more than a wife in anyway has advantage, disadvantage or either ways. I'm sure people from polygamous family might have learnt one or two lessons that will/might make them conclude that marrying more than a wife is a no no for them. While some believe there are still benefits in marrying more than one wife.

Note: this discussion is open for both Christians and Muslims including the atheist as far as we are here to learn, unlearn and relearn

Pls my niece haven't been able to check her result due to the Sim card that got lost. Pls which other means can i check for her pls?

Before?
You want make e be women

3verblazing:
ganaja i guess

Alright bro

madridguy:
Laughing in Lokoja

Where in lokoja

okpalaAnambra:
What an ediot

Idiot indeed

I wish this idiot can do better

Good for him

AroOkigbo:
Mtcheew. ..finally he's learnt how to pronounce it.
BTW, where's the "light" to take listen to his address?


Lala, do the needful. Life isn't all about snakes

Guy you wont kill me aswear

Frezhkid10:
...u're just saying rubbish...do u think it's cost effective to test everyone..if they ask u to pay the $120 for test...can u?...
They are only testing people with symptoms and have travelled by air into the country in the last 14days..the virus is an imported one and does not exist naturally in Nigeria..so it's unwise to start testing every dick and harry that just develops small cough or fever..wasting scarce resources..

I wanted to blast you but i suddenly realize you are still a kid...you have to grow up first b4 i can reply your trash

Agent8706:
One thing I wish we all are sensitized about is that testing positive to Convid-19 is not testing positive to death. The survival rate is high. The rate at which people panic a lot can even cause some their untimely death even before they get infected with the virus

I'm sure you don't really know that if this disease affect the poor it won't be funny. Its because most people affected now are the rich.

This is serious

[quote author=IamgratefulLord post=87860075][/quote]The guy dey very useless

AmazonHippolyta:
Someone screenshoted it before it was deleted
The guy was a fake I suspected that he had an ulterior motive something must give for something not that he wanted to help genuinely how bad.

And he gave some people hope.

Imagine human being