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GL:
i doubt a nigerian guy would ever date in that order. i tend to question the sincerity of nigerian guys who marry foreign women. i know many are sincerely in love, but still i come across a lot of them who seem to be using the women. some of them that marry these foreign women return home when they become rich and marry nigerian women. i guess in nigeria it's MARRYING a beautiful young nigerian woman and not a white woman that represents status. dating white and other foreign women is something guys brag about though. during the summer you see many of them in nigeria with their oyinbo wives, the wives would be trying to fit into the nigerian culture whereas the guys would be asking naija girls out.

that has more to do with the high infidelity in nigerian culture than the wives being oyinbo.
i wonder why one would question the sincerity of another man's marriage.  you ladies keep on proving jill scott's point.

what the hell is mainstream pollution?

[quote author=mama-gee link=topic=421092.msg5784831#msg5784831 date=1269806170]This is ridiculous,
Please can someone tell that your friend's aunty to wake up into a new year and decade, this is 2010,
we are no longer in the 1920s,
Your friend should go back to her husband's house and make peace with him
and she should also try to avoid her aunt in her marriage business,
that would make her stay away from her home.[/quote]I believe its the husband that needs to make peace with his wife but go ahead, you naija women are gluttons for punishment.

I do agree the aunt has no business interfering with the marriage.
chaircover - you have been making threads on infidelity recently, hope nothing?

why separate, why not just divorce the man in question?

why would a woman this century be financially dependent on her husband? doesn't she have a family home she can go too.  and yes that's an open relationship since both partners are having relationships on the side.

, i would then weigh my options whether to give him a second chance or finally divorce.

lol giving a serial cheat a 2nd chance.   The man has an addiction and can only be given a 2nd chance unless BOTH parties agree to therapy. I have a feeling that nigerian women are gluttons for punishment.

is this the 2010 version of sistawoman?

GL:
chris brown is not the only one who was exposed to domestic violence, people need to take responsibility for their own misdeeds and stop blaming their parents. i can understand the parent-blaming when the violence is perpetuated by a child, but not by an adult. we all have emotional scars, how we choose to deal with them is our responsibility. two of those ladies i mentioned are happily married and they still relate well with their dad.

so as marrying from another ethnic group helped them?

just wondering.   

The other one, if she hears her man has a nu babe, she'd go wi her sis beat up d girl and seize all the things her hubby bought for the girl

lol I guess that solves the issue of infidelity. the sis sef no get job.

you mav fans are delusional, comparing a back up guard to tyreke evans and brandon jennings. 

i would take kirk hinrich over some unproven backup guard

FYI - marcus thornton is a better rookie guard than that french import

no be only tony parker na smush parker.
dreaming peeps

Lamii:
the girl is married/engaged. jeez  

as if that has stopped me from my jogbon.

it's open season in bawo's world  

queeneve:
BAWOLO, YOU WANT A GREEN CARD BABY?  I got one in shiny lime green and it glows in the dark!  Buahahahhaha!

when can we get this relationship thing popping, i don't discriminate in my quest for papers.  AA girls need love too  
you two need to lay off each other or we need to settle this wrestlemania style. coffin match

panties pulled down ke? sounds like molestation going here or is it discipline.

ignore the queen and come holla @ brother 

you ladies need to take it easy, there are enough greencards to go around here 

^^^

i see you simping.

introduce yourself naijagal

so they basically have an open relationship?
that's cool if it works for both of them.

GL:
i hear this line of reasoning all the time but i'm yet to see someone who reasons this way. in fact, i see quite the opposite: girls who vow not to marry guys from their tribe or to remain single or to avoid guys in the same occupation as their fathers all because they detected abuse. i saw my parents make mistakes and i knew all along that they were wrong, and i'm determined not to make the same mistakes. besides, children of nowadays form personal opinions with less influence from parents and more from the media and their peers.

chris brown was exposed to domestic violence in his household, we all know how that ended. fact remains those girls you know ended up with emotional scars exhibited by refusing to date men from their ethnic group or avoiding men overall. That's not healthy thinking at all and those women might need therapy to get over their hurt.

ignore a naija man and not sleep with him during a marriage?

goodluck getting that one to work. just don't be shocked when a 2nd wife pops up in the house.

children aren't dumb and usually pick on such things especially the daughters. you don't want your daughters thinking its cool to date a mad man

you ladies are proving jill scott's point.

why do you care if a black dude is dating fat trailer trash  .  fact remains overweight women are not desirable regardless of race.

i think it's hilarious people in the new millennium consider interracial relationships a "sad" state of affairs.

[quote author=Kal/El link=topic=420803.msg5783148#msg5783148 date=1269782337]The truth is as pure Africans,I don't relate with everything black American or Black British says!

I came from a different setting and grew up not feeling oppressed by anyone or inferior to anyone!

Even though i can understand what Jill is saying,i just can't relate to it.

I believe people can find love everywhere no matter the race or culture!

At this time and age ,i think it's racist of anyone to think marrying a white woman or white man is wrong!

As for me,white women just don't have the features i look for in a woman,so I'll stick to my Black ladies! [/quote]not only is it racist is ignorant to consider it a sad state of affairs.

people should be allowed to marry or date who they are attracted too.

if you are a black person and you aren't attracted to a black person, there is nothing wrong with that.  It's called a  preference, just don't bash people because you aren't attracted to them though.  I have no loyalty to black people and black women as a whole.   Love has no racial bounds.


Jill Scott is only mad because this friend of hers was "successful" and wealthy(she had to point that out).   i didn't see any outrage when flava flav was dating bridgette nelson.  The only outrage comes out when the likes of reggie bush are dating kim kardashian (key word here is successful black man).  Jill Scott might want to lose all that excess weight and then maybe she would find more suitors.  Overweight black women with 2 kids are not highly desirable on the dating totem pole.

I guess its the familiarity of it all, I guess we feel they understand the constant struggle in a foreign land.

quick question, couldn't you understand this same struggle with a ghanian, jamaican, indian, pakistani, romanian immigrant to the UK?
my struggle is not the same as your struggle just because we could be nigerians in the UK

Was I jealous? Did the reality of his relationship somehow diminish his soul’s credibility? The

lol @ soul credibility, this india arie/erykah badu neo-soul bishes are irritating.  i would take diminished soul credibility if it means i'm an happy married man.  Jill Scott with her "high" soul credibility is a divorced baby mama.  where did all that black love get her?

. My cousins (Nigerian British) said they just dont find black women attractive (they have a sister, a mother and two aunties)

and why should they find black women attractive, because they have black family members? ever heard of something called choice? The key here is finding happiness. if it's with a white, blue, indian, purple woman so be it.

H202 - do you think 13 yr old women are ready for marriages?

what about the risk of VVF?

you are a woman now?

[quote author=na2day? link=topic=344420.msg5781330#msg5781330 date=1269729751]lmao! waiting for the new health care bill to take effect but still bulls lose 2nite [/quote]i hope the scoreline tonite motivates you to get them dog ears checked

which kin gay question be this.

which one be in-view now?

as for my qualification - GED in tow

go treat your ear infection before its too late

wahala dey o.

the law should be changed.

agent zero has got nothing on king derrick

do not believe mediatakeout.

if tmz no talk am, its not true. tmz get word of a crime scene before the cops gan self.

you are high on some good weed if you think a volume scorer like gilbert arenas is a pure point guard.  pls no make that kin mistake.

who was starting in the all-star game

[quote author=Diva 2.0 link=topic=420268.msg5776170#msg5776170 date=1269648124]lol Yes you will.[/quote]not me, a rich uncle or aunty will

[quote author=Diva 2.0 link=topic=420268.msg5776154#msg5776154 date=1269647526]At the end of the day, you guys will still lie on the ground for the bride's family.[/quote]there is actually nothing wrong with that.  a baby ijebu like me isn't paying exhorbitant shi shi in the name of tradition. would the bride take a virginity test in the name of tradition?

I might have no choice but to marry an indian woman 

H2O2:
ROFL A whole SIMP

mi o je gba. ella part 1! bawo, a gentleman should be polite.

i see you simping.

abeke doesn't want it with bawo the great. traditional ko conditioner ni