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africanrapper: Parental Upbringing has a BIG influence on Self-confidence. I'll narrate a personal story to buttress this fact.

I used to be a very bright child - from Kindergarten, Primary and Secondary Education. Teachers, Colleagues and friends all attested to the fact that I was a bright (sound mind) person. But as I grew up certain things that happened in my Life altered my self-confidence.

I was raised in a very 'SPIRITUAL' home (you should understand what I mean by that). Popsi and Momsi were more concerned about Spirituality than the well-being of their kids. Popsi usually spanked me seriously for reasons such as playing football with my agemates, sharing jokes with my peers, etc.

Once we are back home from school, neither me nor my siblings were permitted to leave the House - even to see a friend. And my friends noticed this, because they were not permitted to even come visit me at home. My father would always literally chase them away, so that his children would not get corrupted. Today, those boys who he chased away are Medical Doctors, Engineers, Lawyers etc - doing well in their different endeavors. Point is: They were just nice people.

So, at a time, I even became afraid of my friends. I always thought that my father was somewhere around monitoring me to know what I do. He always wanted me to be 'LIKE HIM'.

When I was 13, my family got split (DIVORCE). As I turned 17, I took sides with my mother and went to be with her. My Father literally HATES ME TILL TODAY because of that decision. My father would always say that I'm a good-for-nothing boy, a stupid boy, bla bla bla. At a time, he started comparing me with some people I even thought I was better than - and mehn, that comparison was killing. Geez!

As I grew up in Life (maybe 20-25), I observed that I had lost my Self-Confidence. I wasn't doing well in School - not because I was a dullard academically, but throughout these years, my father had made me think I was good-for-nothing. To make speeches in public became a problem for me - cos I always thought I was going to say something stupid.

Even when I find myself among girls, I'd be EXTREMELY SHY to get close. Meanwhile, my friends did these things (Public speeches, getting the girls, etc) with so much ease that I once wondered whether I was 'NORMAL'.

Anyway, I've managed to finished school, started a business. And I've decided to get back on all the opportunities that I lost while growing up:

a)MY SOCIAL LIFE
b)MY LOVE LIFE
c)MY ACADEMIC

I will overcome these fears by God's Grace. I will ensure that nobody (I mean NOBODY) makes my children feel inferior about themselves.

#utchay#

Good to hear that am not alone in the boat.

[quote author=T_Bademosi]Oh my God! This is getting interesting. I cant belive people do not agree that a parent is the most important factor in how a child see him or herself. After the parents, then the significant others. The friends, school mates, teachers etc. Why do you think great teachers never put their students down but rather they encourage them even when they are dull.

I want to believe the people who had commented so far are not social scientist but im guessing computer engineers, chemical engineers, accountants and business people.

Relate with the story of greatgod, it cannot be overemphasized really. Parents should be careful how they treat their children, what they say to them.

Encourage your child, speak positively to them, motivate them, tell them their skills. Tell them they can better and that their weaknesses can make them stronger... Thats how personality is built. Thats how we have great men and women, its simply because of great parents.

WHEN A PARENT KEEP SAYING HIS OR HER CHILD IS PROUD FROM MORNING TO NIGHT ALL DAY LONG ALL YEAR LONG, I CAN IMAGINE THAT SUCH CHILD WANTING TO ADJUST MIGHT BECOME TIMID. WELL NOT PROVEN THOUGH, AT LEAST TO MY KNOWLEDGE. Lets just be careful.

Slim, like to meet with you.[/quote]Truth be told I am a victim of the parental stuff. Am still struggling to remold myself after finding out. My parents never gave me a positive comments till I graduated from the university. I was probable the most beaten soul on earth. Am the type you check my whole body and ask if I was involved in a robbery and later got caught. I am an extrovert with the lowest self esteem on earth (Thank God I found out and have started working on it). Growing up I think differently from every other person (like asking why people should be called witch and asking them if they have ever seen where they are doing meetings and stuffs). I was never allowed to think on my own, never allowed to mix freely with my peers, never even allowed to do any of the kids stuff. I hawked almost everything known to man on the street of my state but still I was very bright and my peers look up to me as their future savior. I graduated at 22 and never acknowledged that I had self esteem problem (something I have carried from home couple with my small stature). You might not believe that I still got beaten when I was in 200level in the university and I dared not fight or raise my voice back cos of what we have been made to believe of what will happen to anyone that raise his/her voice against parents and the fear of what to eat. I graduated at that young age got a job with multinational and lost the job just a year plus after (that was when I realized that there is definitely something wrong with me). I learnt to be a forex trader along the way and became very good but still couldn’t stay successful ( that is when I knew that my child issue have had different manifestations). Though people don’t notice I have the problem because of my extrovert nature but deep inside am always killing away. Am working on being a better person and am sure I will get there. My reply is just to give account on how parents have great effect on the outcome of their kids. Parents should know every kid is unique and there is no way we can train them the same way. Kids should be allowed to make mistakes (loads of it) without judging them. I don’t judge or hate my parents if there is anything I love them more than anything in the world (they trained me the way felt it was best for me). If there is any bad grammar in my rant pls pardon it ( I didn’t even know how to speak or write good English after my secondary school. I only picked up the challenge when I entered the UNI)

Logicboy03: There is not one place where sharia law is practiced that there is freedom or proper justicefor the people.

can you just imagine how people think? by subjecting people to laws that they have know say as to when and how its being unleashed is an injustice to freedom of choice of people. the shariah law is one form of Monarch mind control game. am a Muslim myself or maybe a theist and i will continue to be (am a muslim because of the definition of the world Islam which means TO SURRENDER TO ALL THAT IT IS. i surrender to death, i surrender to sickeness and sound health whichever comes, i surrender to life, i surrender to consequences of all my actions, i surrender to all things that i have directly or indirectly put on myself). I dont believe in obligation and i dont believe some people are messenger of God and others like me are not. I dont believe in Praying all the time as a form of obligation( i pray whenever i feel like praying and whenever i feel i need to be calm or maybe i should call it a form of meditation that involve recitations), i dont believe in Zakat being obligation but i believe in free-giving (zakat was created to fund the center during the beginning of Islamic era). I dont believe in Pilgrimage to mecca as an obligation ( i only see it as a tourism to marvel at the creation of the great intellect, something i will do to all other places with equal right), I believe in Prophet Muhammed to be a prophet cos am also a prophet (even though what we preach and deliver might be different but i know a message is a message). the great Intellect (otherwise known as GOD) created us equally and no one is above the other and no one should suppress what others want/wantnot (Love is Love when is freely giving and turn to hate when its forcefully asked. if God want me to Love Him he will surely want me to discover it on my own term and not ask someone to force to love me)

Logicboy03: Have you read the Quran? Do you believe its a myth?


Haave you read the book of mormon? Do you believe its a myth?


Have you read the book of the dead? Do you believ its a myth?

Why is it that one's religion is not a myth? But others are not true?

Dont Mind him. maybe he didnt know that the bible was written more than five decades after the death of christ. maybe he didnt understand there is different between historical jesus and Christ Jesus. it will do him good by reading everything he can get on JESUS SEMINAR. people need to start asking questions and stop being scared or afraid of something they aint sure of yet

Silkmoth33: ^^besides, if salt water is that bad, how come its composed of in the dripping water bag they give to sick patients ill to the point they can't eat after prolonged emesis in hospitals.
To think he got 4likes, you are not getting any.

sick patients u say not healthy ones. Sea water is not suitable for drinking but doesnt mean it cant be make use of. the water we drink is spring water which comes from the north and south pole (Artic and Antarctic) through various passages including the ravines in the hills and mountains etc.

seunajia: Beejaay? Don't you think it's better to ignore? When I come across some of the offensive posts, I just say astagafurullah and scroll on! It's normal we engage once in a while though. You have been on this forum long enough bro. Bless you.

thanks so much for your words

KingMEXX: hehe yu dey vex??

bros vex ke?? ontop wetin na? e no fit happen?the only time i get insulted and can go ballistic is when someone tries cheating a powerless individual by my side i couldnt do anything but watch mennnn i fit die inside

berem: hmmm! Please carry your message to your muslim brothers who need it the most.we christians don't need your message.we don't kill in the name of God. Thanks

please what exactly did you want that will make you happy.
you have been posting provocative comments for lack of knowledge among muslims and now someone is trying to show you and other misguided muslims proofs of prophet Muhammad not supporting violence by any means and you are still being aggressive. please my sister lower you guard a bit and see other reasons. no matter how sad or bad you might feel try to still show kindness toward others. i know you can do it

ochallo: You are a big fool. is it us that made the film, are there not muslims in us,you should actually be gunned down for making this comment.

you are right but he his as wrong as people that have have been posting provocative comments including you. if you we wanna guide people people, we can without going their own lane

berem: and when they are going to hell,they should better buy truck loads of Viagra and Buran Tashi to fucck 70 virgins! Its gonna be a sex carnival in hell!

ok we hear. are you ok now?

seunajia: A true Muslims keeps quiet when he does not know what to say or has nothing good to say.
The event of the last few days have been disturbing to say the least; The protests turned riots, the media and the careless talk of many of us on here-- Muslims and Christians alike. At this point, it is necessary we guide ourselves a lil bit:

The Position of Islam

I'm not a cleric, but the position of Islam is clear on this subject. The reaction of the rioters, which included vandalism and the murder of innocent civilians, completely contradicts the character and message of our beloved Prophet. It is not allowed to cause harm to others nor to return harm for harm. The Quran teaches us that we cannot blame or punish a person for the crime of another and instructs believers to "disagree with them in the most courteous way.

Retrospect

For the first 13 years of his mission, the Prophet Muhammad and his followers were exposed to demeaning abuse, mockery and torture on a daily basis in Mecca. Not only did he resist violence, he did not even return an insult with another insult. At one point in Mecca, his enemies twisted his name to call him 'Mudhammam' (The Loathsome) instead of 'Muhammad' which deeply offended his followers. But the Prophet calmly comforted them by stating, "Doesn't it astonish you how God protects me from the Quraish's abusing and cursing? They abuse Mudhammam and curse Mudhammam while I am Muhammad." [Source: Bukhari]

What a Muslim should Do

When lies are spread about our Prophet, we simply respond with the truth. And the most effective response is to embody his merciful character on a daily basis. Violence and vandalism carried out in his name are more offensive than the content of any film. The Quran tells us that the Prophet is praised by God and His Angels; even a million films cannot threaten his status as the Best of all Creation nor his love in our hearts.


Reference: celebratemercy.com

may the Almighty God bless you and increase your wisdom.this your post just made my day.loads of things happening around the globe to religions are the work of twister.above half of the so called Islamic cleric dont even understand the Qur'an and hadith. all this is not only happening to Islam but to other religions.

ciphoenix: its vesico actually

you are entitled to whatever it is you want so far you are threatening the existence of others in any way be it psychological or physical

blink182: let ♍ε̲̣̣̣ clear your ignorance
Jesus does not need anyone †☺ die f̶̲̥̅̊☺я him.
Jesus Iڪ the Son of God, as a matter of fact He Iڪ God, a member of the Holy trinity not a common worthless messenger of lies.

Jesus Iڪ the first born of God Ǎ̜̣̍Ϟd there was nothing that was created without Him thereafter, including your false prophet.

You Muslim folks really lack common sense on average, even your scholars. O f all religions, Christianity Iڪ the only one with a living founder that manifests His presence daily still you choose †☺ remain with such a crude religion. Funny enough Christianity Iڪ a way of life not a religion per se.

Muslims should wake up Ǎ̜̣̍Ϟd accept their position as a useless religion, fighting f̶̲̥̅̊☺я it will change nothing. Meanwhile more Ǎ̜̣̍Ϟd more Muslims keep seeing the light Ǎ̜̣̍Ϟd converting †☺ a living religion.

how do you know you are right?how does the Muslims also know they are also right? God is beyond the cloak or religion. why do we humans alwyas think that God is daft? if the true Religion is Islam/Christianity why do you think He will allow the existence of other religions (sebi he says he is omnipresent). if you are born a Zoroaster you will almost be a Zoroaster by now. does that mean God hate you? abeg wake up Religion dwell in God and not the other way round that we have been conditioned to believe. the world is indeed sick

Dawdy: Any body who insults Allah, Prophet Muhammed (saw), Qur'an and Islam without repenting will go to Hell (Jahanam) U will soon know.

how do you know who will go to hell and who will go to heaven? have you been there before? God doesnt make anyone a judge not even Prophet Muhammad(PBUH). so if Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) does nto have to right to judge who are you then to judge who will enter heaven or Hell. for you information brother am a Muslim too and am not happy with the way the movie portray our prophet but i will have to explain with love and kindness the reason why producing such a movie is wrong (This is what the Qur'an and Hadith taught us)

Batam: All these protest this protest that has some few benefited individuals brainwashing their illiterate society to perpetuate evil in the name of religious protest. They are everywhere in the world especially in Northern Nigeria and Middle East Asia.

why do we humans forget to look into the process of an action and focus more on the actions? "to every action there is always and equal and opposite reaction". tolerance should be in both ways same as respect. we shouldnt ask for respect but earn it. how will i feel if someone call me a bastard? how will 99% of humans react if they they are called bastard or sons/daughters of a prostitute in public? history has made us realized that people tends to respect and hold on to their faith than their family.

wizecoder: seen ur system but will not give this one a high priority.........got some request to attend to........coded something similar before....i suggest u include a high time-frame filter ...........coz of range movement.............
may code it if it scale through..........

bros you should know i dont create a timeframe specific system. if i try putting a system that cant work on any timframe together i simply discard it (meaning it doesnt worth my time). the system i posted work under any timeframe condition and any market situation. whether choppy market or trend market the system is always profitable. thanks for your soft tone this time i appreciate it.

Opoki: I naturally don't responds to stuffs like this because you are sounding like a FRUSTRATED SOUL.
True, all those shits happens but isn't that not the beginning of African Civilization? Besides, were they "Colonial Masters" sent by Christ? Was it not the foolishness and selfishness of our fore-father made them sold their kinsmen because of mirror, gun powder, wine et al? So why blaming Christ? Why?

now you dont respond to frustrated people like him cos he accept your hatred for Islam ko? bros check what you typed again

[quote author=PAGAN 9JA]yes i feel good. i agree to all you said above. I only believe in the true Gods, i.e, the SPiritual Forces that over-shadow & guide our material Universe.
By the Gods, i hope to see African Traditional Pagan Religions, restored across the Continent ,among all tribes, within 2 decades or less.

then with Spiritual progress, we shall have TRUE material progress and development and rid oursefs on slave mentality and give the Spiritual Forces their due respect.[/quote]wetin dey pain most be say once you say a word against Islam then you are called a Christian apologist and once you criticize Christianity you surely an Islamic apologist. na serious waaaa for us in naija

KINGwax: i'm surprised nobody liked your post. I'm giving you +100

I'm giving him +1000000000000000. the guy just sum the whole thing up with very few words

wizecoder: Simple and straightforward get a third others to evaluate ur system....if u understand how fractals work real time u will know what u see on a chart is different from what u get, run a visual backtest then place fractals on the chart then u will understand better.....
Ur talk of having 3 systems...sorry i am not hungry for system ... i am only helping those that appreciate good trading strategies.....

C'mon no one is saying you are hungry for system. so you think am one of those that use something without knowing the mathematics behind it. from your reply its obvious you actually didnt take the time to understand the system i put down here. immediately you see fractal as being amongst the indicators, you just zip up your mind that it wont work. if you dont wanna code its fine but dont try make it sound as if i dont know what am doing or am a justcomer. if you know how fractal works you will surely know that two already formed fractal cannot disappear, the only fractal that disappear is the last formed fractal prior to the price breach and the disappearance is always visible realtime as the price is moving(this only happen when the formed fractal value is not an absolute figure as required by the calculation behind it). again if you try understanding the dynamics behind the system you will know the work of fractal in the system as a whole is for placing stoploss and not for trade triggering (which means if you dont want fractal in what you code, you can simply help disregarding it and allow manual managing of the trade once its triggered)

wizecoder: GGuy strictly working and profitable systems.......i hate fractals that shit repaints............ur system...share it in the trade alert forum.........and get other testers.......... no jokes

bros you are trying to tell me that my system aint working!!! this system has a 70 to 80% win rate if used properly. talking about fractal repainting means only one thing (you probably not familiar with is workability). the fractal there is strictly for stoploss and not trade entry. you can skip the stoploss to be managed manually and work on the other if you wanna help. you can do a manual testing of it yourself and see if its profitable or not.

and about sharing system on trade alert thread (I dont do that and never will). I posted this cos you asked for anyone willing to code a profitable system which i still have minimum of additional three.

CAN YOU HELP WITH THE CODING OF THE BELOW (this is one of the trading systems i have for coding. i very much hope you can help with this)
Indicator Used
Alligator; Settings (Jaw=34 Shift 13, teeth=26 Shift=8, Lips=13 Shift=5)
Awesome oscillator
Accelerator Oscillator
Fractal
200EMA (Close)

Method of Usage

Buying Signal

• When AO=AC=Blue. This is when a new blue bar is forming on AC and AO at the same time and the candle close does not coincide with any of the Alligator lines. Stoploss place below the immediate fractal
• Buy when AO bar=Blue and the closing candle just penetrate Alligator lines to the upside with stoploss below the immediate fractal
• Buy when there is a clear rejection on the Jaw and Teeth and the closing candle is a blue candle
Note
if the rejecting candle is bear, before the buy signal will be confirmed the next candle after rejection must be bullish candle
if the first candle penetrate either of the jaw or teeth and the next candle reject and close above either the jaw or the teeth. A buy signal is generated with profit being trailed below every fractal formed or use a manual take profit and stoploss place directly under the nearest fractal and a sell pending placed exactly where the stoploss is with minimum of 50% of the pips lost.

• Buy on a touch of 200EMA provided that Alligator is clearly above the EMA and close the trade once the three alligator lines cross the EMA to the downside or only Buy when there is a clear rejection on the 200EMA. Stoploss place some pips below the immediate fractal and trailed behind subsequent ones.

Short Audusd @1.0455 SL @1.0465

Total Current Equity =$42
No open trade

Total Drawdown = 8$

late to uopdate. i had to attend to some important issues down here. was in two trades that the SL got hit. my equity now at 36$. lost a whooping 14$ on two trades cos of absence.today is another day and hope to make some of the loss and geting back on track.

wish me luck

blink182: Good one, let's see how far you go this time.

thanks for the comment. your input will be welcome once in a while

trade closed at +16pips

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