₦airaland Forum

Ujujoan:
I'll greet him, no doubt about that. But is that really what 'respect' is all about

okenwa:
a lot of things in this world is not compulsary:
food, drug, vehicles, school, marriage etc but we need it to move on in life.
the problem with marriage is that it has a lot of laws attached to it because it deals with life. the mistake in it is heart breaking

Ujujoan:
If it didnt matter so much, why would I have a husband who hyperventilates over it

Marriage is alifetime committement, that's why I dont want to be in one that would feel like I'm in a prison and his the warden!

I gree with you. If my hubby wants it, I'll give it to him. I'll even add 'sir' if he wants. But that will in no way make me respect a man I don't want to respect.

Salutation is NOT love! _{I'm beggining to sound like a parrot!}

queeneve:
If you wanna get technical bruh, ARSE IS NOT A CURSE WORD, it a donkey,

How dare you compare yourself with my fiance! My fiance can read and knwo when someone is agree with him. I am known? Who is you? Chile, you sipping on that PATRON A LIL TOO MUCH, stop it!

Oh, Beau, THIS ISN'T FIGHTING TRUST ME,

But, I digress, I see a fool gotta feel good somehow,


Done with it,

chaircover:
I always say this and will say it again; Marriage is NOT about 100% equality. There can never be 2 captains running the same ship without a mishap happening long or short term.

If your husband is the type that likes these types of things, then let’s face it; it won’t take 10 seconds to say “good morning dear. Hope you had a nice night” to the man for peace to reign.

I suppose us loci’s that use the words “e” and “won” etc for hubby will be told off sternly for letting the side down

Ujujoan:
LOl


Are you married? You too Benedictac

Ujujoan:
And Christianity & Islam are the only religion in the world

Well whatever, I'm just saying that we dont need the bible to solve this puzzle!

Ujujoan:


So what about the non-christians who don't have the luxury of knwledge of the bible They are doomed for bad marriages

I am a christian and I beleive in all what you are saying. But we don't need them here. There are basic laws of nature that guide us and one of my favourites is 'do unto other what you want them to do unto you' . . . Why would a man want to intimidate me just because he's my husband

OEO:
Devoh! Both the husband and the wife decide together,you should have talked about this with her before getting married so you don't fall into such problems after the wedding.Anyway no need crying over spilt milk,both of you should have a one on one talk.Ask her the reason(s) she wants only 2 kids.Have you considered maybe her last 2 childbirths were a painful experience.
Do you have the finances to manage/train/raise 4 kids? Better yet visit a family planning center.Hope this was useful 2 u?


I remembered when I was to get married. I sat my honey down. We agreed on a whole lot of things, even though not written.

1. How many number of children we would have. (3)
2. Where we would like to reside be4 we build our own home. (Surulere)
3. How much will go for savings every month. (=N5K)
4. Do we need a househelp or not. (No househelp)
5. Who will stay with us when we have our babies. (My mother i.e her mother in law)
6. Where are we going to settle down after retirement etc. Between Ogun st and Oyo St)

things like this and many more shd be discussed and agreed upon be4 marriage, so as not to pave way for argument and disagreement that could jeopadise interests in yr marriage.

Ujujoan:
Don't bring God into this one abeg! I think it'll be hypocritical of me to greet my husband in the morning just because he says so. If I think I should I would do it without any qualms. You can't force respect, and who says greeting is a sign of respect

gentlegg:
You are rare honest girl in this post.

Why should we argue who greet first? Why should a wife expect the husband to greet her first? Nigeria women and their westernization while they are still centuries back with reasoning of the western woman.

joe4christ:
What? I cant believe i'm hearing this from most 9ja ladies! How can you live with a man recognised by all as your husband and you find it difficult to always be the first to greet him which is also a sign of respect and admiration, WHAT IS THIS WORLD REALY TURNING TO? I CANT LIVE WITH A WOMAN WHOSE PRIDE WONT LET HER ALWAYS BE THE FIRST TO GREET ME NOT JUST EVERY MORNING BUT EACH TIME WE SEE, GOD KNOWS I CANT STAND THAT excreta mehn!

agathamari:
who ever woke up first, why do people turn such little things into a huge a$$ deal?

Ujujoan:
There is no big deal about greeting, so it really should not be an issue. It has absolutely nothing to do with respect. Salutation they say is not love. I can greet him every minute, every day, and still be very disreespectful!

miarmor:
Can somebody please explain why most men still run after other ladies after marriage. Why do men find it difficult to stick with their wives no matter how beautiful or attractive she is? This is so pathetic.

yahoo!:
Not seen anyone with these below qualifications so far!

HIV, AIDS, STD, TB and so on.

Are you ashame to flaunt your papers. lol

simeonval:
benedictac

i want to become a DIRECTOR,MD, OR CEO.

MrPrsdent:
@OP

nice one,quoting my post on that 'other' infamous thread

check out my profile and see my YIM,thats what am worth