₦airaland Forum

KingEbukasBlog:
I dont think these are extremes . Its like saying its morally wrong for a cripple to get a wheelchair .



You can adopt .

KingEbukasBlog:
Well not every Christian woman who newly weds is a virgin . I'm not sure its a big deal . Or is it ?



Are you a virgin ? Its painful either way - manhood or intimacy gadget

KingEbukasBlog:
If you were in that situation (God forbid ) , what do you think is the most appropriate step to take ?

Ngo40:
Sorry about that...baby sis.
I thought that once I replied the "mention" that me, you and a few others were on, then you'd automatically see what I'd done.

Yes, I also still use the email address that you have

Ranchhoddas:
Hahahahaha...

This is the best mention I have received in a long while.

Ngo40:
The love I have for you, Ranchhoddas, is as a raging fire that can never be quenched.......

KingEbukasBlog:
Of course , deceit makes it worse . But everyone makes mistakes that's why we should forgive as Christians . You can cope with his dysfunctional tool with intimacy gadgets and MouthAction . And like I said in the other thread , you can grow to trust each other again . We shouldn't make sex a priority . Some couples even stop having sex regularly after a long time . Naturally , you'll grow to be used to each other . So being spontaneous will not even be an option because there'll be nothing new to explore - that's why some ungodly couples opt for a menage a trois temporarily to spice up their sex life . So at that point in your lives where everything else seems insipid , making each other and your kids happy with love and affection will be your goal

analice107:
That won't be divorce. It'll be dissolving the marriage. Any one who goes into marriage out of deceit, the other partner can move for the marriage to be dissolved. The Apostle says, sex shouldn't be horded by any partner except by understanding and agreement on the bases of fasting and prayers, afterwards they shd return to it, to keep the tempter at bay.

If i marry a man whose glory doesn't shine (God for bit it)...

Chai, but nah waooo, i don dey pity the poor guy sef. It's well o.

analice107:
He is Faithful. He is not a man that should repent from his promises. He will fulfill his promises if we faint not.

Faithfulness is what counts. And, we shall win the race by His grace, not by force. For by strength shall no man prevail.

The race is not for the swift, neither the battle for the strong. His strength is made perfect in out weaknesses.

analice107:
My sister, 419 no be small o. My friend was used as the medical examiner for pregnancy tests for her Church. Couples were to go to her for the tests while she takes the tests to the marriage committee. Could you believe that Men were submitting their own urine for pregnancy tests becos their wives to be were pregnant?

When she discovered it, she insisted they urinated right there in the clinic while the men wait outside.

Thieves in Church. Satan full everywhere.

analice107:
No, i don't know what you mean. pls explain. what others ways are there?

See me holding myself tight, then eventually marry come begin dey talk of other ways.

analice107:
So, what did you do finally?

analice107:
He does indeed. But for Him, i'd ve married late last year.

like strong wind, one came along with the amor to take me to his la la land. My humanity was ready to run away with him. He was everything i ever prayed for. First for me is intelligence. His intelligence intimidated me, i loved him for that. He was handsome, hardworking, let me not call him rich.

He was everything. But 2 days before he appeared in the scene, my Father had shown me what he'd do. He seemed to be my Knight in shinning armors, but he was fake. He wasn't my Man. He would distract me from my focused destination and take me to a totally different destination, abandon me there disappears leaving me with no one to ask direction or seek help from.

When i woke up from that dream, i prayed and was ready for whoever was coming, but when he came, my humanity took over and i was blown off. I was begging my Father to reconsider. This man was a walking talking Bible. Every word he spoke was backed by a scripture. I was dancing. Oh Father, finally you sent your servant to me.

My father landed me another revelation to tell me He didn't send him. Three revelations in short successions. the third one scared me so much that i had to yield. If i go, i'll be scarred for life.

I had to wait before Him for three days asking for Him to take this man away by Himself. 'Lord, i can't say no to this man, make him go away by himself'. And He showed me how the man will leave, and he left in the exact same manner.

If i was not subject to Him, i for don Marry Amricanah by now. But how far is not how well.

God rewards faithfulness. He is not a user of men, but a rewarder of them who diligently seek Him. He won't allow me marry a man who is not subject to Him. i won't even do it.

Marriage is secondary to me now, pleasing God comes first.

KingEbukasBlog:
True . I thought of that too . If a man goes to such lengths then he wants something else from the woman , maybe she's from a wealthy home and he wants to tie her down with marriage ( but there's the option of divorce so it may not make any sense ) . Or he fears that he may not find any other woman because of his condition .

If that's the case then divorce is inevitable when they eventually get married .


But should a dysfunctional tool actually lead to the end of an engagement ? There are so many ways of achieving the same result nowadays .

Ranchhoddas:
I am not irritated, far from it. I just like to get to the bottom of things and usually the truth is unpleasant so it's easier to shut our eyes to it. I understand.


Much learning brings sorrow, wisdom brings grief--- King Solomon.

hopefulLandlord:
my confusion was brought about by the fact that the advice is vice versa

it should be my dad talking about condoms not my mom, I mean that's what actually obtains amongst my friends' parents at the time

Ranchhoddas:
Yimu.

Emotions are simply the results of biochemical reactions in the brain. This is why you can be manipulated into loving of hating a person.

If you were to go out on a date with someone who put on an oxytocin-laden deodorant, your chances of falling in love with him increases exponentially.

Go figure!

hopefulLandlord:
My dad said If I get any teenage girl pregnant I'll be disowned and thrown out of the house with the pregnant teenager

my mum however said I should be careful not to lose my virginity but I should make sure to use a CD if the temptation becomes too much to bear so that I won't fall afoul of Dad's sex ed law

I was freaking confused, not scared, confused

Ranchhoddas:
Come to the FSM dear. Let the Jew be.

How long you've lived what way?

KingEbukasBlog:
Yeah Good points . If that's the case then there should be medical examinations that would test the potency of the man's tool . The woman can go through results to know if she is satisfied with his condition .

KingEbukasBlog:
I don't think a divorce is the right step . I think its really harsh to divorce the woman just because she lied about her virginity . The marriage has started off on the wrong foot, that's for sure . Lies and distrust will lead to more lies and distrust , this is very probable . But with the right approach this can be avoided . The lady should slowly build a reputation of honesty and always show a trustworthy attitude . It should be slow and she should be patient . If she tries to hard she would come off as being desperate and it will only make him more suspicious of whatever she does . Its a slow long journey and a show of honesty at the right time or instance will disarm him . He will learn to trust her again .

Ishilove:
My mum will simply tell you not to allow any man 'foolish you' otherwise you will get 'big problem'. That's her own sex education

My dad will tell you he wasn't raised to have such awkward conversations.

analice107:
Thank your Mum for me jare. Many men are in Church looking for a godly sister while they have no fire behind them. He may just be using surrogacy as an excuse. I didn't even think of that.

My dear, If a man comes around you for marriage, no matter how Christian he is, and not even once attempting to touch you, babe run, it could be there's no fire. Let it be that we obey God in obedience applying self control than not attempting at all.

Me, i have learned, My Cousin met a man who screamed 'Bed Undefiled' more than anyone she knew, only to marry and discover cold bedroom.

They courted for 6months, not even once did he try to even pretend to touch her hand, but his christian character only was expressed in 'No sex before marriage', every other aspect, he was crude.

On wedding night, he was too tired, the days activities you know, she let him sleep. the second night, he brewed quarrel and slept off with his jeans and belt on.
6 months into marriage no show. This man won't bath together with his wife. He would pretend to go to poo, would bath from there.

One day my Cousin determined to rape her husband, lol. She was going to shout, "Have sex with me, am your wife", He broke down and started shedding crocodile tears. confessed that he couldn't. asked my sister to cover him and look outside. She said no, before God that would be adultery.


If i hear say...

Ishilove:
Hahaha! So you can have such a conversation with your mum?

Even at my age I can't o. It wee be too embarrassing for the both of us

Ranchhoddas:
**pukes**

hopefulLandlord:
atheistic future, wow! that would be a massive victory for the Flying Spaghetti Monster

Ranchhoddas:
An aggressive or hostile reaction is not necessarily an angry one. You are more accommodating than the average Nigerian Christian though so my comments may not fully apply to you.

Perhaps you have a liberal (probably atheistic) future...?

jonbellion:
huh

Akiintom:
Jesus appeared to me last night. He particularly told me that OP was going to deliver a message to me, and that i should take it as a personal msg.

Thank you Jesus, now I'm ready to forsake my foolish ways, i renounce you Satan and I'm the lord's now.

Jesus come into my ass, sorry into my heart now, come in to pump the blood into my brain, so i can become more rational and intelligent.

Thank you Jesus!

I'm now born New atheist!

Akiintom:
How did you know I'm joking?

Do you now think that Jesus can't appear to me?

Ranchhoddas:
Your anger is not from a place of logic or rationality. Like the typical indoctrinated person, you are wired to react aggressively to anything you perceive to be against your understanding of the natural order of things.

Issues should be weighed on their merit and not on how they make you feel. You will always oppose abortion, surrogacy, LGBT, etc before hearing the other side. With time though, the least irrational among you will start to see reason and begin to soften their stance.

This is why we now see Christians becoming more liberal and tolerative of what they wouldn't have accepted in times past. The merit prevails eventually.

There are some people who would never break free though, these are the ones who see every scientific breakthrough as a sign of imminent rapture.

BVN for example is Satan's way of preparing to fight their God. They cannot be helped...

hopefulLandlord:
^lol