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HardMirror:
The number one question is Are there christians at all on Nairaland? . I don't think I have met any.
I know what being a christian is and those here only think because they go to church, they are also christians. If jesus was really going to come back to judge the world, is this how to conduct yourselves? Are there even those who understand what soul winning is? What you clowns are doing here, is that what your soul winning is?
Bunch of jokers

ekensi01:
well you can't take chances i was taking to people on Nairaland not preachers, in NL d case is a serious one. u need heavenly backup

Amberon:
As christians we shouldn't run from atheists. Like bennyann said, we are to draw close to them and show them the love of christ by our words and actions (though I've failed so many times in that regard) but that is because I was not able to stand some of their incessant insults against the most high and I often lost it and clapped back.

That being said, the atheists are there for a purpose and that is to test or strengthen our faith. Contrary to the opinions of many who said NL atheists made them lose their faith, these NL atheists actually helped strengthen and shape my faith. I already knew God was real due to the many proofs I had seen firsthand throughout my lifetime , so their talks couldn't break me but rather it molded and shaped me and right now my faith is rock solid.

CatfishBilly:
Bennyann
Tears almost came to my eyes while reading this your write up.
I've never seen such sincerity in a theist in a long time.
You're right, it's a score to settle between us and God.
Thank you thank you.

Pidgin2:
How did I miss this lovely post by my friend and sister in Christ, bennyann.

My dear, this world is a funny place. Most bad girls end up with a husband and kids, fact. As for good girls most times this is not the case.

The ruler of this world is the devil. The bible says we wrestle against so many unseen entities and whether we like it or not these beings operate through people who you discuss with on a daily basis.

Therefore the evil one knows your thoughts and will definitely try to frustrate you. Forget about strategies my dear our weapon is not canal

I can only recommend three things: prayers, patience and faith.

It might take years and challenges may come but God willing the lines will fall in good places, it shall surely end in praise

analice107:
My glorious sister. Most of us have lost the essence of marriage. And am not talking about the unchurched here, i mean the churched folks. We now marry becos we are of marrying age, or we need a man to assist us financially or we need OUR OWN FAMILIES.

How many Christian ladies even know why God the originator of marriage constituted marriage in the first place?

How many of us know why God created sex? Do we even know the significance of Sexual intercourse?

Do we know that sex is fellowship? Do we know that sex is work and God sees it as evangelism?

When i got this revelation, i stopped worrying about marriage. I will marry, and my marrying will be for God before myself.


It is fractured knowledge, distorted information and misplaced priorities that has brought us to where we are today as believers.

We do everything for the wrong reasons.

How many believers even know what purpose is? They just want to escape fornication and just marry anyone who shows up. The trend nowadays is marrying men who can not even buy their own wedding suits. They either marry money or marry paupers, no more purpose.

Check, the Single godly ladies are those who know their purpose on earth. Am not talking about those who have misused their time running around and are now in church hoping God will turn the hand of time. I mean the ones who grew up fervent in Christ, they all have vision and purpose and are resolute to do God's Will here.

Today, am still single because i won't and Can't marry a man whose aspirations in life does not include God. And am ready to die single if that is what it will take to do God's Will. But, i will be gloriously married and my husband shall be my king.

MizMyColi:
Lol
You don't have to let him know. Treasures don't need to announce themselves. They just BE.
Men, they are good treasure hunters, especially in this time and age where the so called treasures are in extinction. lol
As long as you are with the one who is meant for you, trust me, your treasuriness will ooze. You will find that you really don't have to do anything special.
It is not only we women that can sniff out wheat from chaff when it comes to men. They can too.
Once a man knows that he has found the treasure, he will move gibraltar nd everest together, if that is what it takes to keep you.

Also, let me share this here.
back in the days when I was forming guy I never liked being the one to call first in the morning. I always liked being called and stuff.
My dear, with this my Oga ehn, I troway that attitude. I didn't even know how I dropped it, but I found that it become like a ritual for me to wake him up with plenty plenty praises and petting.

I think my change in attitude was spurred by my friend's words to me. he said....Be the change you want to see in your relationship or in any area of your life for that matter. Before you know it, he will unconsciously start behaving that way. It is important to let love lead, and please while letting love lead, do not lose your sense of self.
Thank you for having me here, Bennyann.
It's been a long time since I spoke on relationships on this platform.

analice107:
You satisfying his needs which may include having sex with him?

MizMyColi:
Moderation is key.
You should know that more oft, there is a thinline between godliness and being fanatically godly. Call it fanatical godliness if you may.

Dear Bennyan.

I will share something I consider personal with you.

....I surrendered.
I asked Jesus and our Father to take control of my life.
I knew very well that I wasn't always getting it right. I was well aware of my weaknesses, but still I would talk to my father about these things and I was convinced within the core of my spirit that it would end in praise for me.

I used to sing a song then -- "My hope is built on Nothing less than Jesus' blood and righteousness (not my righteousness nor my godliness )" I also used to pray by saying--- "Abba, for all you have prepared for me, prepare me; for that which I do not see, show me; for that which I do not know, teach me. Call me back again and again till I can no longer stray from the eternal lesson of absolute dependence on you.

MizMyColi:
@Cancelled....AKUKO, serious AKUKO!
Analice, I know you like argument a lot, so if my fingers allow me, this will be my last post to you on this thread so I will try to make it count.

In a way, you are right about the neediness part. but you need to understand that when men or women show neediness, it is only a symptom of a yet to be diagnosed self issue.

If I am very happy with myself and feeling soooo ontop of my game, I can call a hundred times if he is less busy and it will be soo fun. but if I'm not, I will transmit that negativity to him, hence the name "neediness" you catch my drift?

I was once that kind of girl who believed that I have to hold back my caring and VERY nice nature so that I can attract the kind of partner I desired. As time went on and my knowledge horizon expanded, I found that there was something intrinsically wrong with girls who run after bad guys. It is not normal for a modest girl to be attracted to a guy who makes them feel insecure, less appreciated and unneeded.

I have been there, I have done that. pffffftttttt.

See ehn, he told me not to talk about him on this platform o, but I will make an exception and confess my sins in za oza room later today

I cared for him. I made him know that I enjoyed his company. I was super nice to him. please know that I did not force myself to do these things. They came from a place of genuineness. he kept thinking I was too good to be true. But he knows much better now.

Bennyann, I was my true self. I was true to myself. No fakeness.
please avoid fakeness. be true to yourself.

make sure you are always happy and full of joy. Don't let any human being, even THE man, be the determinant of your happiness. Most times, it is when we are not happy and content from within that we exhibit signs of neediness. if you are happy and showing love to yourself, you will freely give it to others, that they will be the one coming to you for more sef.

analice107:
Emm, pls lets define "Goodgirl".

why will anyone consider a good person as a liability?

analice107:
I read a book, 'Why Men Marry Bitches', i saw why men leave good girls and go for Bitches.

Stop being to available to men who come around you.

Men don't like needy women.

Men don't like women who care too much. They like disobedient and arrogant ladies. But, shd you go against God to be stubborn? No.

I have friends who treat their husbands as shit, b the men complain but won't leave, they cry to Friend's around, but won't leave, but the friends who are jumping hoofs to please their men are treated like shit.

Again, Doing the right thing meets with oppositions. The adversary wants you frustrated and back where he can control you.

OtemAtum:
I have also compared Yahweh with a dog before and it is because it is a norm in the world. It is easy for a christian to compare Allah with poo. And it is easy for atheists to compare Yahweh with anything. It's all for the fun of it. Right from the ancient times, even the so-called great prophets male fun if other people's god. This reminds me of Elijah of the Neanderthal who was making fun of Baalim and his prophets. There is no god immuned from being ridiculed.

IMO, I think the matter of gods should be taken the same way we take football clubs. For example, as a Chelsea fan, it is allowed for me to make fun of Arsenal and Man utd if they don't make the top 4(sebi they also make fun of Chelsea last year when we didn't make top 9) . However, it should not affect my normal day to day relationship with the arsenal fans in real life. I think the spirit of sportsmanship should be introduced to religion. It makes a lot of sense.

randomperson:
Good Christian girls don't always end up with good men, whether early or late..... Even the ones who marry pastors

limamintruth:
I understand your point and I'm not trying to dismiss the fact that a lot of sisters since time immemorial have been opportuned to have godly men take them to the alter in holy matrimony.

I however believe the problem often lies in the character of the individual; and not one's religious zeal. I have seen instances where some sisters in the Lord refuse to relate cordially with men they consider not too religious for their taste. Whereas these men are believers who uphold the faith with seriousness. But maybe because the men do not attend most weekdays' church programmes as they should, or they are not active members of any church group, e.t.c, the ladies will not even consider relating freely with them, even as just platonic friends.

Nevertheless, I'm still of the opinion that godly ladies have an even better opportunity of successfully getting married than the unbelieving ones.

sonofthunder:
don't be 'so' disturbed about, the end that the bible prescribes/ordains for you is PEACE and I'm sure you don't want the opposite end of that.

frank317:
Your brother thinks chance created him and you think chance should be worshiped.... What kind of family did u come from?

akintom:
se o ti yo eebu niyen


Se o mo prophet Obadare?



Oo do'gbon yo eebu lara baba faa

limamintruth:
Good questions bro.
The irony of it all is a lot of the supposedly 'good/godly' girls tend to have certain attitudes that often prevent good guys from approaching them for relationship.

For instance, some tend to be so judgemental, unfriendly, and extremely reserved; thereby unintentionally sending away prospective suitors who did mean well.

Thus, being a godly lady doesn't just mean being religious, but it also means relating well with every person one comes across with utmost humility, kindness & respect.

MizMyColi:
Sis.
I can relate with your thoughts on this thread.
It may tarry, but if it's that which you strongly desire, it will come to pass.

I know the kind of person I am, so it was a subconscious mantra that I won't settle for less. If my heart and soul did not feel good about him, I'd rather remain single.

Honestly, there were times when I questioned my father. There were those times when it felt depressing. I didn't want some partner. I wanted THE PARTNER.

Even here on NL, folks taunted me. Lol

Well, I am where I am today.

Through it all, I just knew that it would happen at the right time. I was mostly happy and at peace. I was filled with joy and an unshakable quiet faith that the one in whom I have placed my hopes and fears and dreams on would always see me through.

Also, remember, it is one thing to be good and godly, it's another thing to be full of Love. Love does not discriminate, love is not judgemental. Are you the kind that discriminates? Do you somehow think of yourself as better than others because you have found the Lord? This shouldn't be.

There is nothing wrong in desiring a life partner. Please keep on. One Day....
I believe that link has really said it all.

orisa37:
Same as any good Godly Born Again Christian.

annunaki2:
I think the bolded should be the other way round. In reality it was Allah that was mohammed's messenger. Mohammed was clearly the boss in the relationship as allah was always doing mohammed's bidding and trying to please him.

MizMyColi:
This issue of good girls and marriage is one that is so close to my heart.
I really want to speak my mind, like bare it all.
But sometimes I remember that I can be very honest and open to a fault, so I hold back.
I wish I could talk to you in private.

https://www.nairaland.com/2638676/woman-know-thyself-more-than

Several months ago, I found myself thinking about how whenever a girl or young lady in my nation is corrected by her parents or guardians, it is always done in view of her eventual marriage. For example

“Chinwe look how dirty your room is! Is this how you will handle your home?!”

“Rebecca this your arrogance and tongue will drive away your husband”

“You need to learn how to do domestic chores so that you can be a good wife to your husband”

And so on

dingbang:
can I help u?

LiberaDeus:
I dont know if this is the right time to say this but i have to tell you that you are a very special, wonderful, beautiful and lovely person. Continue loving yourself and i hope and know that the best in your life is yet to come. Blot out all the negative words typical nigerians throw to you and listen to only statements like mine and the positive things you say to yourself

dingbang:
Hmmm na so one girl stroll into my room oo.. Say she want tea... I give am tea...

But they won't ask for fvck... Raabisssssh...


Dingbang I am hungry . I resemble ya papa...

akintom:
Longest time my sister in the Lord .

akintom:
The only bad thing in good babes, is the very godliness.