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myfantasies:
U already know the answer to my question

I dont like to Assume.
spill it.. is it that difficult?

cruzita:
and if a woman come out clean and tell u she is a cheat with all honesty ,will u call her a LovePeddler or will u be proud of her

she must have her reasons, and if you cannot help her, then find someone who can.

IamLEGEND1:
if awan cheat, I don't need a reason.

If I wake up on a Saturday feeling bored,I go just call my side olósho make she arrange her bed,coz badt man is coming so she can help jumpstart my engine.

hahahahaha hahahahahahaha hahahahahahahahahaha
you dey another level O...
lolz I hail O

HateU2:
This stuffs makes me to get scared of getting married. If I'm married, I'm married! What's d essence of cheating?

there's no 100% percent guarantee ... you husband or you will cheat now

myfantasies:
If u love someone, u don't want to see dem hurt

You don't want to do anything dat will make dem feel betrayed, my dear i have been dere, dat feeling is not good at all

that long answer, yet you didn't answer my question
Yes or No?

sickstars:
Cheatin hmmm i leave a relationship nd enter anoda one it pays dan cheating

Most of my frnds are guys so my partner myt nt find dat funny bt m too emotional to cheat before i do sumtin for or to my partner i tink can i accept if dis is done to me if no i wont do it my heart is too soft

let me guess... its difficult for you to keep friends with girls huh?

sickstars:
Nah if u cheat u shattering ur woman's heart especially if she doesnt cheat on u

wat guys dont kno is dat a woman who is strong she wud get tired at one point humans are designed by God to get tired at one point

Nd wen u decide not to cheat she has lost hope on u already

So my advise is if ur woman is nt cheating dont

Dats why i tell people kno thy partner well before taking ny action

just read your last Topic.
so really how well do you really know people.
even when you're married, you're still getting to know each other. and when you die... you will still leave with secrets.

Localamos:
Yeah! Many marriages faill due to reasons other than sexual unfaithfulness. The major reason why marriages break is because of breakdown in trust and communication.

I'm married and I have faced temptations outside. I almost did it in several instances. But I didn't. So I'm not a saint, I'm just a guy trying to live my life the way I want.

Trust me, there are many married men out there that have even stronger resolve than me, and they have remained faithful. It is a choice whether to sleep around or not. And that decision should be fuelled by your personal resolve as a man.

As a man thinks in his heart so he is.

Variety IS the Spice of Life. but just curious, how far was this "Almost"?

myfantasies:
I am not holding u to anything

Ur life ur rules

if a guy cheats on you.. does that mean he doesn't still love you?

sickstars:
Nah if u cheat u shattering ur woman's heart especially if she doesnt cheat on u

wat guys dont kno is dat a woman who is strong she wud get tired at one point humans are designed by God to get tired at one point

Nd wen u decide not to cheat she has lost hope on u already

So my advise is if ur woman is nt cheating dont

Dats why i tell people kno thy partner well before taking ny action

anyways we can only make intelligent guesses of the future based on facts, noone truly knows the future.
Have you ever cheated?

sickstars:
Most cheaters ends up with a good partner cos guys naturally are self centered dey dont wana share their woman with no body so been dat dey really go out nd seek for a very good girl so dey can av a peace of mind

Den d good boys who av no experience ends up with d cheating gfs till mayb dey get dumped nd hurt nd b bad

I agree with your statement, that said..
so if you're a guy with half a brain, would it pay you to not be a cheater I'm failing to see your point.

cheat=great woman
don't cheat = cheating woman

sickstars:
Cheating is bad and hurtful


Well if u kno u a serial cheat dont marry

Save an innocent lady d stress nobody values love again nd its sad sex everywhr babies every whr bt no love

A guy like op scares d hell out of me

LOLZ.. rest assured I shouldn't scare you. Just being a realist

you're already painting a picture here, that I will end up with an amazing partner
most cheaters always do... but why is that?

myfantasies:
U have promised to marry only one woman

But u did not promise dat u won't cheat

will you hold me to that...
like any sane person.. that'll only be something I can promise the deserving woman... lolz

sharp eye.. never mind sharp brain gaann ..

cruzita:
and with this few point of his I stand convinced that this OP IS A CHRONIC CHEAT

Yea.. I do cheat... doesn't make me a bad person though.

I'm being Honest.

I Love Women. My great grandfather had many wives, my Grand father had two, My Pops has One, but i'm still waiting for some stepbrothers to come out lurking... so it might also be genetical.

I've promised myself to only marry one woman though.

StarboyMichael:
Many of the points raised are true, but doesn't justify cheating because of karma, I can't stand the thought of my wife with another man. I have response to 3 points.
>3. If she gains weight after childbirth, she could lose it, she should try and be sexy while at it. Not like a log in beg.
>4. I have a colleague that has said it to my face that she wants to feel me. I just pretended I didn't hear.
>5. Some very nice babes are just somehow frigid, maybe they had bad experiences. Or circumcized

I agree, with you ... but women will get that affection you gave her, from her children, so she'll not feel the need to work out on her body for you. she's got these children who see her as the most beautiful woman alive. so its just easy for her to let herself go after kids.

Luukasz:
Men who love to Cheat on their significant other will always try to justify the act. Here's one i hope your babe or spouse is reading this.

I do Hope she reads this because then she will further know me better, I'm cut straight Direct...

Localamos:
Grow up.

Do you think it is a thing of pride to sleep around in marriage? You better don't configure your martial life for failure.

So Marriages where there is no cheating don't end in failure NO I don't think its a thing of Pride, but that doesn't mean it probably won't happen.

I just feel like defending my people, my guys. Because at the end of the day, I am a Man and a good one at such, so I will admit that the chances of me cheating are really high... needless to say, since it might be possible I fall into this category someday.. let me come up with good excuses why it happens now. You may not necessarily agree with my... Guys you're welcomed to add yours. and women, what can I say... you shouldn't be surprised since majority of you always Buttress the fact that men cannot be trusted so, this shouldn't surprise you... right?

1 The ratio of Women to Men in the world is 3:1.... meaning if every man, married a woman, there would be two free leftover women. And someone must help those women too feel, and know what it is to be loved na. this is the simplest of reasons.... other women need us.

2 Women are always constantly lying to us with their apperance. If you wanted to but a phone and you wanted a Iphone, you paid took it home only to open the box and find out, theres a techno inside. This metaphor is to symbolize the deception that make up plays to a man. sometimes you don't get to see everything about the girl till its too late, and then.. voila

3 This is for the married men, they fail to anticipate the weight gain that comes with child bearing, so when they get that full body woman and after 3 kids, she turns to .... someone else, and theres no more physical attraction... you start looking for alternatives to meet your physical needs.

4 Good Man Complex.... its when women study you and come after you. its already difficult to resist temptation on your own from what you see. And when a woman wants you, she will do whatever it takes to get you. please don't argue the fact men...

5 Your girlfriend/wife is not sexually adventurous. and you love her for other reason, but then you find out. Believe it or not some guys are too nice to come out and voice out their opinions because they don't want to hurt the girl.. so they go really far out and get what she lack and everyones happy

6 Introducing men to women who are very much single, hotter than you and are searching. Thats like taking a hungry man to a buffet and asking him to sit and not eat. why would you introduce your hotter, hornier friend to me. Because you trust man... NOPE. Women will go and broadcast how good you are at one somethings. Her friends will then eventually come and sample you na... and she expects you to cope.

7 THIS IS THE BIGGIE.... you meet your true love after marriage. No explanations necessary.

8 End time Oloshos... sex is too cheap and when you mix peer pressure and Alcohol, the end result is always a one night stand... but you sha HELPED some girl.

9 When your woman, belittles you and you can't seem to find any way to get back at her... you cheat and cheat... thats just an old school trick.


10 This last one if for the RICH and BOORED..... because Money isn't everything.... and since your life is boring and you can't believe there are actually women out there that are better looking than your own, you use your money, power, position to cheat. because it excites you and there is nothing sweeter than an affair. yeah...


Bcc
Some men were actually abused by women at a young age, and because of that...
I know far too well the repercussions of this... and you can't tell anyone too


Cheating is a big deal is because for majority of women and the "exception" is Sex workers.... Emotions is tied to Sex... and guys aren't like that we can separate emotions from sex... and women who are the exception would understand. And thats why if you've had sex with her before... you can do it again even 50 years later... unless you're rubbish in bed.


pardon the length and the typos

Again... Forget all these minor details... things that aren't supposed to happen will happen, it might even RAIN!! yeah I said it lolz
Bride and Groom won't have anything but a bit of the cake and sip of wine. People won't be happy, Others wouldn't want to go home
Couple will fight and people will ask for more money for things you clearly got enough of.

The amount of your stress will be based on these 4 letter R.S.V.P

the best weddings I've been to, had open bar where you drink till you get carried home
Serve yourself food, and enough for whoever wants to take home to do so too.


but then again... not many can afford to rid themselves of these stress.

Side Story

I was best man at my friends' wedding, and the evening of the introduction, the MC wouldn't let us in because we had to pay to get in, we paid and paid and paid o, but this lady who I coulda sworn was part of the brides family, wouldn't let us in because we hadn't paid enough. So we kept paying O, until an actual family member of the bride came outside and yelled HABA!!! .... we later found out the lady was HIRED and had already been paid too... but it was just tradition to give her something.

Hence I came to the Conclusion that During my wedding, whenever I'm not having my way...... my go to line is "ALRIGHT, I DON'T WANT ANYMORE ... just to see the person's reaction.

If you're prostrating too Long, just get up and say "ALRIGHT, I DON'T WANT ANYMORE"
If they aren't allowing you into the introduction for payment just say "ALRIGHT, I DON'T WANT ANYMORE"
If Someone is asking you for money for something you've paid for already, just say "ALRIGHT, I DON'T WANT ANYMORE"

its a joke btw.. but I'm just the person to try it.

uhm just to be on the safe side, let your bride be aware before that its a joke, or else you might have the sobbing bride marriage pictures

tomyka81:
Certainly not. Black women don't go by the term southern belle lol

lolz of course... you sound really cool.

Just for quirks, remind your fiance of how lucky he is

my pleasure..... for the chat.

tomyka81:
Actually I do have a sister. She lives in Texas

the plot thickens, I had an ex from New braunfels, Texas

southern belle though... so it can't be your sister..

life sure is funny, don't you think.

tomyka81:
J/k lol but what you wrote was on point.

My fiance may see this and think I was serious lol
I'd never hear the end of it lol

haha... the internets never that serious.
thanks for the compliment btw

and who knows, you might very well have a sister

tomyka81:
ummmm are you seeing anybody ? lol

depends on who's asking?

Marriage is not easy, yet it isn't hard either... but after reading many case studies on the topic matter, the pre wedding agreements seems to be the problem seeds thats planted in the relationship.

1. Be the man, decide your budget and stick to it, do not let the parents of the bride decide for you, how much you will spend. Neither should your wife to be. Once they've held their meeting and dictated to you and you agreed to whatever it is they've lobbyed, that will always be the trend in your marriage. it will be forever difficult to Dictate in your own house.

2. Marry within you level, people always say this as if its an insult but it isn't. You can marry a woman with 50K and she will be with you forever and you will make billions and children together. your wedding is not an investment that will yeild money in the near future. so look for someone that shares the same idea as you, fall in love, marry them and live happily ever after.

3. Budget for After your wedding first. save up for the first two year after your wedding and plan what you're going to be doing in that amount of time. too many couples have no long term goals, until when the veil is off and baby is on the way after the honey moon. you are now finding out that your wife, and you together don't earn enough to build your a house. so the struggle is just beginning.

4. Never get conned into wasting money on anything that will only be used ONCE.

5. Set Objectives for your wife to be. Tell her you want her to have X amount in her account post wedding. Then you double it for her.

6. there is a direct correlation between High Priced weddings and Divorce. For those of you whose parents have reached the 40 year benchmark together, ask your mum how much they spend and calculate it with inflation and you will see that, it isn't really that much. My dad bought a small goat and there were a total 20 people at his wedding. They've been together for almost 35 years now, and i can ask them for Millions and it won't be a problem.

7. Emphasize what you want, its not a fight to know what you want. Have fun and save money for honeymoon too. Because that all you're doing at the wedding. show up, say I do, carry your wife and go. everything else is for her, her family and your family. and make sure you find time to hit it before the reception..... best advice ever.


@ OP Wedding = Budget not necessary
Life = budget Needed.


wedding is just a formality.

Wowzer:
From my experience of going to clubs in UK just to have fun with no agenda like talking to ladies, buying them drinks and taking them home:

I don't approach ladies in the club white or black.

White ladies who likes to dance with me always approach me or give me a sign, only then will I make moves. Most often times that's the case.

Some black ladies non-Nigerians are free style....They just came to have fun...dance away, They can dance with anyone provided you are polite and they like the look of you. Jamaicans, Somalians, Kenyans etc.

Asians and Others will dance with you if they are the type that like African beats and Dance moves.

As for Nigerian ladies, I have never had one on one encounter with them in the club. And do not intend to do so. Reason is their response to guys who approach them is awful. No matter the skin colour of the guy, most times it's always the snobbish look and response. They are always in colonies....standing and looking in a corner or they don't mix like most other ladies do. They prefer to dance with themselves. May be it's inferiority complex, that I can't say.

I prefer to go with Nigerian lady to club than approaching one in the club. (This is not an Invitation)

The best thing to do is go to club with no Agenda of buying drink to impress a lady or take home. Just be cool and have your fun. A lady who wants to dance with you will dance with you without effort and give you all her back side to rock. I do see some guys looking desperate to chat up ladies in the club aggressively...Lol. They are mostly NIGERIANS. Shame.

#Team Manchester Clubbing#

thumbs up... educate OP please... I see this all the time.
Nigerians that come with their experience..... even when he's not good looking, but he's got money and dresses like... he's stuck in a 80's Music video... He feels like all the women in the club would be lucky to have him... I applaud the CONFIDENCE though. Rejection always hurt them the most lolz

OlowoB:
I will go straight to the point. I went out with my friend on saturday night(09/01/2016) in a club called Sugar Cube. Infact, anybody who has been to glasgow or stayed in glasgow for at least a year will definitely know this club. This is the club most naija artistes visit anytime they come to Glasgow, Uk.

We got into the club, bought drinks and told ourselves that we should chill till around 1am before we start dancing with the ladies. Immediately it was 1am, we started dancing with the gals, going to the different sections (actually two and 1 VIP) of the club trying to see if we will get any girl to take home. We danced with some white gals, some of them politely, with smile on their faces turned us down saying they are with their guys or they are just there to hang out and dance with their fellow white gal friends.

To the issue at hand, me and my friend still kept on, we insisted, we must see a gal to take home that night after paying £8 each to enter and buying drinks totalling almost £100. We moved ahead and saw two black gals and we decided to help their ministry, got close to them like we have done with other white gals in the club and guess what, they not only turned us down, they walked out of our fronts and hissed while going. I mean these were just average looking gals dancing close to each other, not holding any drinks and we decided to help their ministry. I mean why couldn't they turn us down politely like the other white gals have done? It took the Grace of God in my life and the Visa on my passport to prevent myself from pulling them back and slapping them. (yes i was that angry)

I have also noticed here in glasgow that most of these average looking black gals hardly talk to their fellow guys. Is it that they are looking for white guys cos of visa? but at least still talk politely to your fellow blacks.

Please i have seen many scenarios and heard many of such but this particular incident in the club made me know that most black girls (at least 85%) in glasgow,Edinburgh and other parts of Uk except England specifically London (due to huge black population) are just suffering from inferiority complex and they lack basic ability to reason well.

If you have any similar experience, please share. Some of those gals may be on nairaland.

cc: lalasticala, seun

I don't blame them.... You're what girls like to call "Freshies"... as in you just came but you're still exhibiting traits of wherever you came from
that's just mild for try harder or you're not her type! simple

don't take it personal

hammerT:
Keep attacking dem, no be who launch first attack they win the fight.


They have not yet responded, wait until they start then the battle will be on, now u are fighting a war with people that have not declared war on you.


Note: They will not fight to keep oil but to gain independence. Dis time, their will be a winner and a loser.

Gain Independence... are you saying you're being colonized right now?
plus.. in case you're not following your Oil will be like Coal soon

Do you know what Coal is used for? or was used for.

Penisinpenisout:
My brother the story no just go well at all

you be sharp guy....

kay29000:
I have had so many heart breaking experiences in the past, and I have now limited the amount of girls I meet on social media . In fact, [s]I no longer try to interact with females on social media[/s] , cos 9 out of 10 times, you would probably be disappointed when you finally meet. Girls really need to chill on the heavy makeup, and filters on their pictures.

Last year, I was just minding my business when I saw one of my close friends on Facebook put the list of attributes of the type of guys she likes on her wall . One of the qualities was that he must have heavy beard, so I asked her if she also liked chest hair . And out of nowhere, this girl asked if I had chest hair, and I said yes, and [s]she immediately sent me a friend request.[/s] When I accepted , she told me she loved chest hairs, and that she got weak in the knees for guys that have chest hairs. We chatted for a long time, and then I thought, yea, i got me a freak. Only for the girl to switch on me the next few days, and start forming saint...and start acting like I was disturbing her.


Men! I don't know why I told that story, cos it is not really related to what OP is asking. Maybe I told it cos that's the story that came to my mind when I read this thread. I regret meeting that girl.

take your lies back to the drawing board.

theres no shred of truth in this story.... which raises the question.
what do you gain from lying?

“Put your hand on a hot stove for a minute, and it seems like an hour. Sit with a pretty girl for an hour, and it seems like a minute. That's relativity.” - Albert Einstein

too much Complainers nowadays... men, your fathers had it worse, yet they got what they wanted/deserved. Make use of the seconds she gives you and don't complain... be indispensable. I don't need more than a second of your time to know, what you are to me. some men feel that ATTENTION must be accorded them when in fact, you're not a baby and she's not your mother.


And to those that try to buy the heart of women with money, you're worse than the complainer.

but then again, its the Nigerian way....


but when you truly WOO a woman... with GUILE, GAME, ROMANCE. she knows you are a man and even if you fail, she will remember you for all eternity... and thats better than becoming "what's his face that used to give me money".

Complainers!!!!

cruzita:
if the girl agree know say she don dey find the thing since because this one no fit deceive anybody

further confirmation that were the prey... and you women are the hunters...

I always feel like you tricksters have selected the guy before he even approaches you..
and in our mumu minds we Men think we're the ones trapping you...

I'm not much of a player... but in my short sex life... i've heard of such excuses that my friends have used to have their way with women that made me laugh so hard, because I thought it was impossible that it'll work.. but its worked for some guys... and several women have heard tons of them.... just when you're sure it's happening and at the last minute, she has a change of heart and you need something to convince her and tip the scale back the other way..... it does happen.

so girls you're welcome to contribute tooo

but here's the funniest I've tried and I didn't believe it worked.

"I just want to put the tip in.... just the tip... I swear."

she said, "promise just the tip"



the rest is History.. because my tip is long and thick


so guys comeon lets hear it... and ladies if you're bold enough ... lets hear what you've heard.