DoubleFingers:
N/B: This could be a bit lengthy, but please, read to the end.

I have been making preparations since late last year to settle down with my fiancee. I intend going to collect the marriage list this coming April to kick start the marriage processes.

My girl and I are very compatible in almost all ramifications you can think of. Honestly, she's the perfect definition of a supportive wife, well mannered and loyal to the core, just to say a few.

We now lived in different states, but we've known ourselves and have been seeing/dating each other in the same city between December 2016 and September 2019. I even made her to redeploy during her NYSC in 2018, to be close to me because of my intentions for her.

As usual, we've been praying and trying to seek the face of God to get divine revelation.

So on the 9th of this month (March), my fiancee and her mum visited a priest for normal pre marriage talk/counseling. The priest of course asked my girl some questions about me, which she answered sincerely. The priest then advised my girl and her mum to put everything in God's hand and be praying about it.

About a week later (around 16th or so), my fiancée's mother had a dream where my fiancée's hair was cut in the dream. In trying to understand the dream, my fiancee then called her cousin who is a Reverend, and the cousin told her that the dream is a bad dream, that it means "someone is trying to take her glory."

That dream compelled my fiancee and her mum to have two days midnight prayer (19th and 20th precisely) to cancel any bad dream.

Reaching today, my girl and her mum visited the priest again, to let him know about the dream. The priest then asked my girl about her understand of the dream. My girl said it means "widowhood." But my girl's mum was having a different understanding.

In summary, the priest then asked my girl if she had gotten a divine revelation, as to whether we're meant to be husband and wife. My girl said no has not.
Personally, I've fasted and prayed severally to God to show me reasons not to marry my fiancee, but I'm yet to see reasons not to.

Honestly, apart from divine validation which I'm yet to get, I'm yet to see reasons why I shouldn't marry my fiancee. And my girl have been worried since this afternoon, thereby getting me worried also.

Now my questions are:

1.) What does it mean for someone's hair to be cut in a dream?

2.) Is it 100% compulsory that one must get a divine validation to have a peaceful and happy marriage?

Please, your honest contributions will be appreciated.

Mods, please help a brother if this piece isn't in the right section.

And help send it to front page for more response.

Thanks.

Have you wondered why Africa prays from Sunday to Sunday and it still lacks development?

Wer very religious.. Which isthe wrong part
And very ignorant and not spiritual which is the right part.... We have been religiously brain washed..
Back to the matter, God guides Christian through their hearts.. (its in the bible).. Thats his major mode of operation.. If your waiting for God to come amd say.. My son xyz, do so so and so.. You go tey.. Ive been in your shoes before.. He doesn't work that way.. Its only in the old testment he did such.. What your asking for he may do it and may not do it.. The sure way is through your spirit if you have the spirit of God.. Can you cite one person God showed his wife.. Yes he did for Isaac only and it was by faith.. He done it for me too, but the lady had cocnut head and shes living regrets for marrying another..

After praying.. Follow the leading of your heart..
As for your dream.. Better be careful what you allow enter your mind.. The mind is a powerful tool... By faith cancel that dream and forget it.. God send good messages and it through his word..to inspire faith and joy..

The devil uses dreams,.. Men etc to speak evil it inspirees fear and negativity.. And i see your almost caught.. Paul said work out your salvation.. Fight the fight of faith.. Irs not Gods will for you to die.. But if you keep negative thoughts in your mind.. Brother it might manifest.

God bless

Yimu

John fashanu is still collecting pension from a few minutes playing for England years ago...

Am African and proud, but you choose the most backwards African nation that doesn't have basic amenities and your proud.. Keep deceiving you

Angelfrost:


The only issue is consistency especially once the hype starts all over...

It would be nice to have a Nigerian doing such great feats week in, week out! We have been out of the elite ranking for far too long.

Once upon a time, Nigerians ruled Europe top leagues: Kanu Nwankwo, Oliseh, Babayaro, Amokachi, Odenwingie, etc.

Not sure odwingie fits in among those players...

Him level no reach

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Naso..

One would never need help finding you, when theres no light.. Soft and well paded lol.

Anneka101:
This is a blessing in disguise. May God open the doors of heaven for every expectant mum.



Ladies go through alot during pregnancy.



The future is Female!

Beautiful hair...

From your dp.. Its obvious you're fine..

You'd have a big butt.. Too lol

But please work out a little more, you'd be perfect

Edited: you'd like amala too, lol

Zzor:
He's a lecturer in the spiritual realm

You're madness is from another realm

Uprightness100:
Any Spiritual eye will know that the young lady on that photo is loaded with legions of demons and forces

My friend shatap...

Hallelujah.. A Mumu bmc has been cured now, he done run..

Na western bmc i de pity.. Una go take

Sharp man

Igbo kwenu!!!

yinkuscious:


I was friend zoned for one year and 1 months, she was always rejecting me, but still want to know things about me, now WE ARE MARRIED.

Why are ladies like this?
Met this lady.. I liked what i saw, i believe she liked me too, vibe was nice.. After exchange of numbers.. Shes forming expecting me to be chasing her.. I mean wtf.. Wer adults..

Shes the one who will give birth, etc.. So why all the mumuness etc...giving birth late isn't always the best so why this mumuness i ask again.. Please ask your wife why they act that way.. Science has proved women have smaller brains.. Maybe they can't think far

Everester:


well naturally, I don't get excited or impressed with ladies,but since I met her,things changed,

u are right about that prayer part, but praying about a lady that's still rejecting me is somehow awkward,

though this is what my mother too is saying(prayer first),cos she has never see me like this,she see that I really love this girl,
but if I were to follow this prayer first, assuming the prophecy support it, and she doesn't agree, how long would I do that for,how many girls will I follow this trend for

My brother.. Have been in similar shoes.. Presently in similar shoes..

If your a child of God.. GOD God dwells in you.. If your waiting for God to say everst my son, xyzis your wife you would grow old.. God does at times.. He doesn't at times.. But the constant way is bearing witness with your spirit..

What i mean is God directs us through our spirit (the spirit of man is the candle of the Lord) amd if you feel this way about her.. I believe its your spirit man, which is born of God directing you.

I wish you all the best in your pursuit.. I asked a similar question like yours weeks ago.. For me ill ignore her.. For now and see how it goes

AlphaLover:


So because urgent 2k girls tell you that you look younger than your age you believe them?

Grow up

Urgent 2k girls.. Whats that? I don't speak that language... We're not the same.. Go meet your kind.

milann:
this means age is nothing but a number. People don't grow according their age anymore

A very deep and sensible way of putting it.. Because man isn't the physical body.. Man, the real man is subtle something that can be discribed.. His physical body takes shape according to the nature of his spirit or inner man..

A man is only as old as "he thinks he is"... Thats why you find, the jay z, nas, p Diddy all looking young even when their 50 and above

AlphaLover:


I think she is closer to 40 maybe 38 at least

My elder sis who is a mum of 3 kids and works still looks younger than this so no this lady is probably 38 if not 40

She May be lying
But you're analysis makes no sense..

I look 10 years younger than my age..Especially when i shave and rest well.. Diff people have different genes etc..a lot of younger peopler look older than me..

Hmm

StacyO:
Please read through.

I'm actually in my early twenties, not that I'm too old for marriage anyway. One of my top clients who I'm trying to polish out a business with, went ahead to arrange a mini impromptu by fire by force relationship for me and his brother.

Like bethrothing someone to someone else without their full consent.

It was a men's arrangement cause, I was surprised how they all came to that agreement.

I tried breaking up with him the first time and he told his brothers about it. Guilt almost finished me cause, I was blamed for the excuse I brought up. His uncle who is in charge of the contract brought us back together again.

The main issue now is that I want to break up with the guy once and for all but, I don't want to hurt him and I still have to save the contract at hand.

The guy is very much attached to me already and I won't fake it, I'm equally beginning to feel butterflies in my stomach.

I want to go about it in a very simple way. So that at the end, we all go our separate ways happy.

Any idea is highly welcomed. Serious and mature minds please.

Thank you.


Modified:: I told him my own part of the story and my reasons of not wanting to be in a relationship with him.
I'm not ready for any relationship now and I dont like him. Most importantly, I dont want to chop his money while deceiving him.

He is still not accepting reality but, I'm sure with time, he'll move on.

PS: His uncle isn't aware of this yet and I begged him not to tell anyone.

Correct me if am wrong...

These butterflies in the tummy.. Isnt that what wr all want?.. If their butterflies in your tummy.. What else is the issue?.. Please am confused.. Butterflies means great vibes.. Abi not?

Manq:
It's not bad Belle but HOOOOOWW come?

Its a valid question..

HellVictorinho:

Okay.
I want to do online Maths lessons.
Can you get a student for me?

This help whey you need, funny o.. Anyways its a legitimate desire..

I do business online etc.. But to acquire students.. Hmm, its not my line

You know what your offering, and should know how to offer PARENTS.. That will entice them to want to pay for your tutoring.. Most students won't register with you, target parents..

That being said.. This is a wonderful idea, but for Nigeria i have doubts about this idea.. Due to poor power supply...i may be wrong

But then if you target high brow areas, lekkis etc you should sell well..

What you need most importantly now is
Website
Knowledge of internet marketing

HellVictorinho:
.
Can you help me?
I'll be grateful.

What can you offer...

When asking for helping hand from people.. Don't come empty.. It makes it easier for the person to help.. So what can you do?

ShackWes:
Abegi

We don't want this otu, Braitwaithe sef has more goals than this flop

Otu..

Remember he's a human like you
Remember hes some ones son, darling, husband etc..

Flop you call him, but all the money hes made it will take generations upon generations from you to acquire, if ever they will.. Nonsense

Truvel:
Ur Chance Of Getting Her Is Very Slim. Dat A Girl Gave U Her Number Doesn't Always Mean Dat She Has Interest In U. If Not 4 Anything Atleast 4 D Sake Of Her Work In D Church Free Her, Make She No Go Backslide because Of U.

Am talking of some one i I'd marry your talking of back sliding.. How old are you again?

Truvel:
Op, Free D Lady. Na because Of U She No Won Come Church Again.

Lol, i doubt this..

Wanted to free her.. I asked two guys opinion, they said chase her cos she wants to prove you really want her.. This made sense to some extent as ive lost girls in the past to not having power to be chasing anybodys fada... One of them boys also said he lost a potential wife to not putting up a chase...

At the end of the day, il free and ignore her and see how it goes.. Talk is cheap, but eyes don't lie.. And her eyes i believe say something else.. But ill free her and update this thread in time to come

lagusboyyy:
Being cute does not necessarilly mean a lady will fall for you,its just an added advantage.

Last time i checked,not too cute guys date and marry the most beautiful women most.

Ol boy na wha ooo

This marry wahala de tire me

Michelle55:
If the university of that aunty is unattainable.. Try other girls university.. Don't lose yourself while chasing a woman, if it's meant to be there won't be too much stress and mental breakdown attached to it. Give it a rest bro.

Thanks well noted and appreciated

punisha:




more reason u should up your game.

if she told u to call again she'd answer it means , ur on her waiting list and could join probation soon.

God is working wonder for u, hallelujah.

Not doing bad at all my self.. Though am not flashy

VanillaIyce:


The thing is she doesn't like you or let me say she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, and for the giving out of number..that one is to avoid long talk of why don't you want to give me your number, last last you might get a block..so just leave her and save your emotions for the one that will reciprocate.

Appreciate your reply and opinion, thanks

HopeVictor:
Just ask for her account details but don't send her anything..she will now be the one calling you...

she's a banker.. Has a car.. I doubt she needs money

pozehnani:
See now you don't pursue usher commot for Church

Lol, not true..

Am quite cute though

Ladies have a question to ask.. A need clarity

I meet this lady in church.. Been seeing her always as shes an usher..

I decided to approach her.. . To my surprise she was quite cute from close distance (she wears those chromogrohic or something glasses, gets dark etc) so from distance you cant really seeher face from far..

Approached her.. We spoke, i really liked her.. Collected her number, conversation seemed to go well, i thought she liked me too from the way conversations went.

I messaged her during the week,(monday of first Sunday) she didn't response, she comes to church every Sunday.. Prior to talking to her, since she didn't respond to my WhatsApp.. I thought id ask her about that in person in church (the next week) she didn't show up.. Was really hoping to see her.. Called her the following week she picked and said she didn't come to church cos she was ill, said shed call me back.. Never called back.. Came to church last Sunday.. I asked her about her health and why she didn't reply messages said shes been busy.. But that i should call again, shed respond.. This Sunday was hoping to see her.. She didn't show, so i called her.. She said she went to another church, so shed call me later.. Till now no call..

I thought this lady liked me oo..
Ladies please interpret this attitude.. Cos i also really like this girl, but am not ready to be chasing etc.. Or she doesn't like me and i should not waste my time.. Abeg opinions..

Does she want me to chase her? Because shes not consistent in church like before.. Seeing i really dig her..

Or am just fooling myself

tempest01:


Na you're broke type person go make claims online, you go dey kiss ass, if crumbs go fall for you.

Lol, how will he even see what i wrote..

Me broke, lol.

Your the one that has shown how frustrated /broke you are.. Smoke like truth cant be hidden..

Your English even gives you away.. I no go follow you enter your frustrated state.. Na to sorry for you