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LadySarah:
when a man cheats'just because i cheated',but when a woman cheats the man says ''my wife had the guts to cheaton me!.then his fellow guys will advise him to send her packing because they cant stand a cheating woman.


Now madam has borrowed herself sense and packed out like you would do and you arent happy.

I always tell the men,treat your wives as you'd love your moms and sis to be treated by your dads and inlaws respectively,because she comes from a home too.

she doesnt want to die or suffer stds and hiv all in the name of marriage,bikoo

FloraEC:
When they cheat instead of coming out clean and apologizing. They turn it around and blame the wife. Rude, arrogant, very disrespectful and a nag even underestimate him too, only one person. Ohhh! What do I know

enoqueen:
Are we still on this issue?

Your marriage isn't gonna last.

AnodaIT:
It depends on individual anyway but I can't be insulted by my in laws and still be talking about having their daughter but then, you are the guilty one and you sound remorseful.

Involve a clergy respected by both parties and sort things out.

Lastly, bear in mind that it seems what made you cheat is still there or even worse cos I am seeing a total lack of respect from your wife, so unless you are benefitting from the arrangement, your days will be rough

ladycomfort:


she is using style to run away from STD

Rubbiish:
Hope u are still very much close to your children sir?

tugar:
Considering recent happenings in marriage : disobedience,killings, infidelity, divorces by women ,what can a man benefit from marriage this present time when they can resort to babymamas for offsprings. can we discuss this maturely.

DukeNija:
Long enough. Pls don’t act desperate cos they will take advantage of you. If they want their daughter to remain married they must also act it. She’s not exactly a wife material anyways so if the marriage crashes you’ll have your peace of mind. In fact, let them be the ones to contact you cos I’m sure at some point, they’ll be tired of her in that house. Lol
This is an opportunity for you to set things straight in your marriage. She also has to show interest in the marriage and then you both can come to the negotiation or whatever table and talk about the way forward.
Please just let them be for now, while you focus on how to ameliorate your fathers condition.

Gloryr:
Chief,i will advice you as someone that has been married for 4years....i have also experienced temporary separation with my wife and i know how you feel....my case was even worse because i had the best of inlaws that dotted on me...i messed up big time and i didnt even know....i allowed the issue to linger even when she moved back to her father's house...we stayed apart for a whooping 7months.........yet nobody shouted at me or rained insults on me...i went with my people to beg and at the end of it all..i apologised....no body taunted me or degraded me..and boy your inlaws are toddlers in wealth and connections when compared to mine...but the respect and love was there.....dont ever be in a marriage whereby your inlaws treat you like thrash..its not cool


take these advice:

stop all communications with your wife and her people...lucky you that you guys dont even have kids yet...if you are important to her,she will find a way to reach you...if not you guys should move on.

start working and developing yourself and try and be dependent

do a thorough soul search and ask yourself if you really need her in your life...if not then take a walk.

never you agree to any meeting in her house....opt for a church or public place.

then tell your dad to mind his damn business and allow you patch up your life.

you need to get your ego back..thtats the only thing you need for now.

tayo60:
Just see! Dts why I can't do or tell someone to go for an arranged marriage. Most couples don't feel anything for each other ,but they just want to please d people involve dts why they go a head with it. Its is always best to marry your friend. Even if there are differences, you easily make up with d love between you two without the party interference. Even if you take her back now, how are you sure such won't happen again? Something that will still take her back will still come up.Both of you don't really love each other. Well, don't go there now. Give her more than enough time to clear her mind and yours too. If you can do it, let the time be long such that she and her family will be the one begging you to come pick your wife. By then you would have done all that is needed to make your marriage work as you are starting all over again.

kendrace:
Was it an arranged marriage?

kendrace:
Op I won't blame you. Your wife was being unfair to you she gave gave you silent treatments and you got the attention u needed from someone else. Her parents reaction was just too much..its normal for them to be upset but still they shouldn't have acted that way. The right thing to do was to call the both parties, sit them down and talk it out. Wonder why ppl change after marriage. If you still love this woman, give her time then go with someone you trust to talk to her parents. Then make sure she forgives you totally we don't want to hear sad stories later

Larryfest:
Oga from the write up it seems to be you are a gold digger sef, i mean you married someone you barely knew and it's all falling apart under a year now... Just get your shits together and quit the marriage cos there wasn't any love in it from both of you.

lizakon001:
I am not married o but this is my piece of advice. First you really have to stop cheating so ur wife can rest. Secondly you need to warn your wife to keep her mouth shut, she is acting like a kid here, she should not be telling her family all the things that happens in her home. Always keep yourself busy that you have no time to attend irrelevant meeting. They have their families too, they should mind their business. Another thing get your wife engaged either in work or business that she will not have time to go about talking all that goes on in her home to her family because it seems she is idle.

alexialin:
So anytime she leaves, u get summoned..

Honestly u have time


When she's tired staying in her parents house, only she will use her leg Waka come back home.

And with that been said. Such summons will end.

Just ignore them and go about your business.

alexialin:
Op seems you don't Av busy schedules at work.

U get time going every moment they summon you to their presence.

It's seems they are the one marrying u at home.