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99thEnemy:
You, still coming here week after week writing a long epistle about your estranged lover from Benue tells me one thing.
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Dont derail... is this how benue girls behave? Can u see the level of promiscuity

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How it ended finally, before Dubai boy came in

one Certain time i was starving, so she beckoned on me to come spend some days with her. I happily went . It was all good until when i complained about the food , she was not gonna serve us because she didnt like the food , so she was willing to waste it. Instead she opt in for coke. "Efx go get coke for us" she said. I told her there was no money with me, after 5mins i realised i had 300naira in my pocket , but it was for tomorrow's class and i cant beg my girl for money , but still i wanted to make that sacrifice. I stood up and said "oh i have some change" , i was about leaving to get coke when she said she wasnt interested . 4mins later she got up and went to get coke for us. I wasnt happy. So i asked her why she behaved that way , lo , she sparked and i felt battered. She said she has had enough and i just have to leave. It was 10pm. so i tried to waste sometime so she doesnt make us have eternal problems beyond resolution. It is humiliating to ask me to leave. I tried to calm her, but she raised her voice and finally called her caretaker(the guy without shirt, in my previous post) to kick my ass, said i was a rapist .. bla bla. Now it was 11:30pm . I left with shame and vowedd never to go back.

She started blowing my phone next day, feeling sorry and apologetic. she professed and prophesied her feelings for me and how i meant the world to her and how she had no one but me.. I forgave her but i needed time to process the humiliation and disrespect, so i avoided her and her placefor the rest of the week. She started coming over, bringing food, and bribing me with sex that was already non existent in the relationship.. She sent me money for the first time and opted to buy me a brand new phone but i declined. She started being sweet and doing all the things she ought to have been doing in the relationship. Mary God will punish you. ..

I finally acceptedd her back and barely a week after she changed again.. I gave her 5days space thinking she would change , and when i came back, she had dump me for Dubai boy and was already entangled with her neighbors... I was writing my 2nd semester final exams , i do hit 4.20 cgpa yearly ..but this time, i almost failed woefully, i have never been so drained in my entire life. I still made 4point..but my health depreciated badly and im still recovering.

lemme stop here. Check my previous thread on how she treated Dubai man like trash.

Finally, i managed to heal after begging and begging, she refused to come back. When i had moved on 2months later , she started coming back. we had casual flings and i was okay with just being friends. But she insisted she wanted more and infact wanted to give it a shot again. I was convinced because at this point, i wasnt having money as i used to. I had lost focus and i had mis managed my funds and i was now worth less than a million.

She decided to move in as she was having a challenge with accomodation. She was Like "Efx i wanna move in and i promise if we have issues, we would resolve it" . I agreed cuz deeply i missed her and i wanted us to leave the past behind. As a man, i was taking care of us , we never lacked food. She stayed for 2months.. I was motivated to start up my own school and other businesses, but it failed and i even incurred more losses than i bargained for. This girl never supported me one bit, she never changed, she was 10times worse than before, always gaslighting , stonewalling me during conflict resolution and was always being dismissive. Things became very rough i could barely feed. I had some funds i couldnt access short term. At this point she was already grooming the dubai guy( guy she kicked out in my previous thread.. lol) She was my hope at the moment, cuz she was earning better. I never begged her for money . Again i was isolated from my friends, i barely attended classes . I was trying to be a man, build my business so i could stand and maybe she would see how hard working i was and would respect me even more.

She finally got her own place close to me and she totally became a beast towards me. She wouldnt visit me or come cook for me, or least send food over to my place. I noticed her attitude and i decide to question her motives, it didnt end well. It always ended up with disrespect, silent treatment. She never loves to communicate or be accountable. I stopped questioning her, so i would have to go over to her place to eat and sometimes spend the night for peace to reign. I started developing high BP , sometimes my whole body will go numb and my heart will begin to beat so fast and then soooo slow.

i was really losing in business, my relationship was a mess and i couldnt tell my friends because they were nt in support of me coming back with her. Infact i had stop talking with my mom and sister.

I never accused my girl of cheating even tho she did under my nose. I tried not to display insecurity while questioning her motives. But, hey , she was slipping away for the second time and i could feel myself losing my grip off her. I couldnt do sh*t. Is it because i'm broke now? or did she come into my life to use me for my house, and now she's trying to discard me for someone new and unbroken? Questions i pondered on, while what was left of myself esteem was completely shattered. Now i settled for breadcrumbs, i was always looking forward to those little hug and kisses she would give even if it was once a week as sex was totally gone. I started walking on eggshells cuz she gets angry easily when called out.

After She left my place, a Week later she started getting offers and contracts...She changed again and started forming too busy with life, like it wasnt the same job i did. We had an arguement one evening and she hung up and ignored me for 7days before she finally broke up . If i called her to make peace, she would say i was accusing her, she would avoid the topic like a plague and then she would hang up before i say jack, or if she was near she would stonewall me like i wasnt talking to a human in the room. It's so painful and disrespectful, i did have to bite my lips and squeeze my fist.

She gives me the silent treatment that would last just for hours anytime i questioned her attitude or after we've had a slight arguement. But this time , it seemed she was taking it too far. Slowly i felt her leaving my grip, i was so hurt. For the first time it was beyond resolution. This was someone that wouldnt go 6hrs without hearing my voice, she would tell all my friends how amazing i was and how i changed her life . I felt betrayed and heart broken. When my friends would call her and asked what the matter was, she couldnt give a straight answer, but all she would say is "He is too jealous and insecure".. I never knew what i did wrong til she called me and broke the news that it was over. At some point i realised she needed me no more cuz she was having contracts bigger than the money i do give her. So it wasnt about love, it was about what i had to offer financially. I was just a supply that got dropped for a bigger supply.



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When she called it quit without a good reason or closure and she wouldnt let me talk or ask questions(usually manner) , she was about to hang up and i angrily called a gold digger, i was really hurt and i insulted her and blocked her. At this point i was feeling used, betrayed and manipulated all along. Part of my frustration was that i had lost about 1m at this point in a business gone bad and all "my girl" could think of was abandoning me cuz life was going on well for her.

9days after the break up, She had traveled to see her ex for 2weeks . Apparently he had promised her a contract worth $10k , so she had to go there. I was about to write my 1st semester exams in my finals, i couldnt focus because of the set backs, heart break and feeling of rejection, while my ex was in the bed of another man. It was a sting and thorn in my soul for weeks. I almost gave up on everything . I had foodless days and sleepless nights.. She isolated me from my friends i couldnt even call for help, but then , same friends still came through for me. I would go drunk some nights and talk and swear, my friends would watch and take care of me. I managed to write my exams and i moved on.

I came into her life and i spiced it up. She told me how evil all her exes were and also told me about her ex ( my instructor) and how she had moved on. I'm very empathic , i felt pity for her. My weakness is being too soft and helpful. I needed a friend , all i wanted was her companionship as well, i wanted to be there for her and but then we moved too fast. I started asking her out. She was very touchy and i noticed it was reaally early for such but she kindled the intimacy anyways..

This story is gonna get long, i have to shorten it now..

We started dating. I helped her stop her drug addiction . 3months in, I was always supporting her financially, would sub for her, and also help her capital-wise in my own little way. She started building up her capital and then i noticed her attitude changed, she started to feel so independent. she had grown the 50k i gave her to about 260k in a week, i was doing good too, i raised 60k to about 300k that week. She would always hang up on me , she would form too busy that she wanted to focus on work and im being to insecure, too emotional whenever i questioned her attitude. At this point she was distant from me, so i booked a flight for her to come see me, a friend advised me to do so. She came and we spent 2weeks together. I spent close to 200k for the 12days she stayed. She had a high taste and class for material stuff and food. very extravagant too.

After seeing this thread , you can check on this one linked below.. its kind of a continuation..
https://www.nairaland.com/6925431/dating-girls-broken-homes-raised


A Story of a relationship that almost cost me my life and sanity

I was ready suffering from low self esteem, but when she was done with me i was completely shattered , empty and void of purpose . I can laugh about it now because i'm healing and looking back i can see how foolish i was.

I had stumbled on some couple of millions as a young guy , so i wanted to invest or learn a trade so i could multiply my money. I joined an online academy where i met this Benue girl. Prior to my notice she had already gotten entangled with our instructor, she couldnt exploit him as she wanted because he was a greedy man, he wasnt ready to invest in her especially in something that won't last ( she isnt schooled) , she would be a liability, so she dropped him before he could drop her. This was when i came in... When i met her , she was broken, depressed , skinny , addicted to sleeping pills(2yrs in a row) . She had lost all her money in forex and was gonna quit, she was helpless at the moment. As a friend i noticed she wasnt showing up on our online group, so i had to reach out to her and i found her in that state. I took it upon myself to take her out everyweek , i also needed a friend. ..

typing...

Kriss216:
Compound lashing

Help me ask the caretaker if there's apartment for rent for the compound. I need to relocate, I don stay here long

Fonglo house, opposite diamond lodge, choba uniport.. enough rooms and space

Godada:



Broken home or not, guys should be well advised to take heed to themselves when they get drunken in love.

You don't go weak (falling in love) and hand over the power to your supposed lover, power to destroy your life.

Relationship is simple, more like a business. You observe then you invest. You don't get successful, being sentimental. You handle cold hard facts and you take charge.

I don't get it when guys get mushy in the brains when the opposite sex is involved.

Pathetic.

It is well Boss. Careless love has been the reason for the fall of man before civilization

There is no romantic love in my dictonary now. Romantic love is a weakness. wahala for who dey love , dem go exploit u like mumu, still trash u

Kriss216:
He came back from Dubai to come live with a Nigerian girl in her apartment? He even spent 4.5M Naira to start a business for her...a business you can't start for yourself

On a regular, these mofos keep unlocking new level of foolishness.



The caretaker weak for the guy's foolishness

My brother

Local man was weak. He was narrating that he would have accomodated him but he just finish some hot rounds of sex and his babe had to arrange herself before leaving cuz she also stays in the compound..

I received a mail last night from this wicked Benue girl, with a video captioned ' All men are beneath me"

She did it again , the guy she dumped me for was kicked out around 2am because he stood up to her prosmicuity .. Benue Girls ehn

I quickly opened the video , it was a 1min video made by my ex, showing how her 30yrs old new lover was being humiliated and tossed outside like a beggar and slave . He looked so helpless .

I quickly contacted the guy and sent him the clip. Is this you? i asked . He relcutantly affirmed and explained the whole ordeal.
Apparently , he came all the way from dubai to see her. He was the reason my ex gave me those silly attitude before i was dropped. She brought him over, all through while he was with her, he supported her with 4.5m to trade with... But he wasnt enough ..lol Benue girls arent satisfied.

When they are together, she would sneak out to see her next door neighbor andd have sex for the whole day , then come back. Sometimes he would take her out to go get pizza and other foods. She would take out of it and go give her neighbor and spend time there for hours and come back like nothing happened . She would cook and serve her neighbor everyday and be there the whole day.. While he narrated, i felt his pain . i had to stop him. Wait!! I said.. You mean she was doing all this and you kept quiet? He then said he had already taken it up to his neck before he stood up to her. A certain day she left the room at about 7pm and came back at 1am . When she came back, he was already drunk and wasted( pains caused by a narcissist.. oh i have been there). Where are you coming from? He asked her. Abeg abeg which kind question be that? she answered as she charged at him violently . She pushed him aside and then said "so i cannot leave and enter my house anytime i want, u will come and be going tomorrow "..

On hearing that, he staggered drunkenly . He felt so shattered and pained. At that moment , he knew she had been having sex with another man under his nose and there was nothing he could do about it. He felt my pain, he was broken, rejected, disrespected and hurt , after everything? It didnt end there, she got up and knocked on the next door neighbor to come kick his ass away and sleep in her room instead. This was 2am for God's sake!!! While she kicked him out, she woke the caretaker(man without shirt in the video) to come kick his ass too. They beggged and begged her, no way... How could u allow a drunk guy to leave at such ungodly hour, with all his expensive stuff? No single empathy or remorse...
I no suffer for her hand reach like dat, i was thrown out by 11:30pm .

This is what you get when u date ladies who came from broken homes and backgrounds
especially the ones who resent their fathers so much because of all the bad stuffs their single mother told them about their father. These ones can never treat a man right. Kings, always check the relationship ur woman got with her father and brothers, if she treats them well, she will definitely treat u well.
. Most broken backgrounds are as a result of promiscuity, infidelity , lack of love and mutual understanding and Majority of this is found in benue(idom and tiv) relationships and marriages.. Make una shine una eyes make dem no use u shine like my Dubai brother below

crystalom3
99thEnemy

come and see what ur Benue sister has done again.. naso una sister wicked

Qpid5:
You look so stupid, dumb, abnormal and lack educational flows... This you just said, who's state it hasn't happened?

@spiritlifeNG send him some money too.. This one is clearly broke

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke.

Please I am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner.

I remember when I lost my job and things became so bad that I planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was I fell into a deep sleep that I didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, I stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened.

There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview, i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home.

In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her.

Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here.

The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is that things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belongs. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house.

Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

Where is she from?

Crystalom3:
you were and will never be a man like me when it comes to dating.

Stop the nonsense talk.

I don't date trash talk more of thinking about turning one into a wife.

Most men see signs of stup*dity in a girl before they even spend close to a month with her.

It's fools like you that think they can change her if they stay long enough. And in time, you become her handbag.

You are not even ashamed of yourself. Dating a harlot up to the point of talking marriage is with her and you don't even know until she decided to dump your sorry as*.

Yet you call yourself man. So, if she no dump you, you for marry am dey shine teeth like roasted goat?

cased closed. Your sister and your biological sisters are trash and harlots. Thanks for agreeing with me.

SpiritLifeNG:
Send me Your details oboi. Stupid child

leave that boy .. Make i drop my own details

Crystalom3:
that's no fact.

It's your bitterness at being a loser that you are projecting on benue girls.

Be a man. Grow some balls. Or go to the trenches and find a girl who will take your childish dating life.

You're the sore loser in a dating game, and you will lose again if you don't improve yourself instead of blaming everyone else and a whole tribe at that.

Mehn you are a baggage, I can't see why she clearly left you. There are some baggages that are not worth carrying in a relationship regardless of the money involved.

You top the chart in that list bro.

You are so crazily foolish. lmao .What do i expect from a benue bigot? Y'all are not educated .. I'm so surprised you as a man has never been in my shoes or dated a harlot or you expect me to keep a harlot for a wife? oh i forgot you're a Benue man.

Crystalom3:
sorry o, oga school trainer.

The father to the fatherless one.
And the mother to the motherless one.

Goan train your sisters first. Yeye man.

The next girl na trailer she go use crush your heart by that time na jupiter aliens you go find go date

i dont have sisters.. bast.ard lol
Let's not derail from the fact that your benue sisters are loose

Tezzi:
Nd they have family foursome too
Benue pipu sha

There is a part of benue that give their wives to visitors for entertainment

crystalom3

Crystalom3:
shatap abeg.

You only planned to f*ck and dump her but she beat you to your game.

Stop the whyning and grow up.

Can't believe you've created over 4 thread on a girl and still call her tribe useless.

You think i'm uncultured like your benue men? If i'm pained then it shows how genuine i was. I've had good relationships, but not with benue women.. Most girls these days are loose but these ones in particular are not for relationships.. Someone i planned to marry and see through school . You and ur sisters are the same. no point arguing with you

Crystalom3:
and yet you almost ended your life because of her

May God punish her heavily for coming into my life and draining my resources

Crystalom3:
No worry. I don c how the benue girl shatter your heart for your profile.
You go dey alright las las

Your sister sent me sex tape. If it's not all they can offer, what else?

Missionaire:
Runs girls championship in Abuja is usually won by Benue girls. I don't know if it is same in other places. I can only use Abuja because this where I'm familiar with.
After Benue girls, the next are Plateau girls, followed closely by Nassarawa and Kaduna girls.
Go to our Mammy markets in our barracks here in Abuja. You would see under 21 Benue girls scantily dressed selling barbecued fish and drinks in the evenings and when Mammy closes by say 11pm especially on Fridays, you would see them following soldiers into the barracks.
Most of them stay in Nyanya - Mararaba axis.
Few at Mpape.
Most of them are uneducated, have one or two children, stay in groups in apartments and many are of small stature (short).
Many tribal girls do runs nationwide, but most of these girls from other tribes attach some form of class to it. They would dress well and look fine even if na fake life.
But you see these Benue girls? Just forget. Can barely speak English. Most times look unkept and disorganized with some weird dressings. I was talking to one the other day. Why not stay back home, write JAMB and apply to any higher institution in Benue state instead of running to Abuja to do house help, runs girl and sales girl work? Little girls of 19 Years or less that just finished secondary school would run to Abuja to find work according to them. Which work dey Abuja for the uneducated? Sales girl? Hotel work? And from there, they would begin to do money for hand, back for ground.
Even the ones that are married to soldiers or are soldiers are barely educated. Girl child education should be really focused on in Benue state.

I respect Kogi and Ebonyi girls here in Abuja to some extent. You see them hawking and selling groundnuts or Okpa.

Please, this is based on what I have observed in my domain and that is why I write only about my domain, Abuja. It may not be same elsewhere and we may have different experiences based on our locations and job type.
Maybe it is because Benue state is close to Abuja that is why there is a high concentration of them here. But Kaduna and Nassarawa are closer.

It is quite unfortunate.

You have just described my Ex and her people. . why are most Benue girls short tho..lol .. That aside.

Most of them don't value Education especially those ones that had their family orientation from the village. My ex and her sisters refused to go to school even after spending their lives in the city. They prefer using men to satisfy temporal needs and then dump them afterwards to look for another high bidder. So shallow in thinking. They want to be independent of a man so they can who.r.e all their lives...

meritadavize1:
The op observed well, 95percent of Benue girls in Abuja that's above 20 already have kids in the village, dem de Bleep anything they see all in the name of huzzle.... Recently I av problem with my woman the one that came to my house for settlement end up wearing my towel naked, as I Wan press bress sister say make I drop money, Las Las I drop 1k just to swim ���

is She a benue Woman?

Frigga13:
Tiv igede idoma igala which of them?

Tiv and Idoma i have experienced

i have not seen a single Benue woman come out to defend their people, it's only the Men i'm seeing ..

Crystalom3:
Every man does not have his opinions in the face of FACTS.

The fact is, only a person who HATES a tribe will take the wrong doing of one person and paint the whole tribe black.

Just as a racist whiteman thinks all black men are bad because of one black man.

Look at yourself in the mirror and say to yourself, 'I'm a shameless tribalist'.

Secondly, mention your tribe here and don't be a Coward about it let's see if they are truly better than our Benue sisters.

Forget bro. All nations play football, but e get very few wey be champions. Naso some Benue people be for promiscuity..

crystalom3 , 99thEnemy i lie?

chocboi78:
Oga relax, he crossed a line there I agree, but he was also talking from experience and multiple hearsay’s. Besides where did u come up with some these facts @ bolded?

Help me ask him..

Crystalom3:
First of all, you are a tribalist to the core but feel too ashamed to be yourself. And it really disgust me that you claimed not to be.

The way you painted this is like no one in Benue state is married

Or all girls in Benue state are unfaithful.


This is very far from the truth. Idoma girls are good cooks just as you have said. And if we are to count the number of broken homes in Nigeria, I'm sure idoma women will not make the top 200 list.

Secondly, the idomas are the most peace loving people in Benue state and probably the whole of Nigeria.

Don't because you've seen a problem with one family say it is so for the whole tribe.

Your benue sisters are mis representing your state all over in Ph, lagos, abuja , akwa ibom..
Every tribe get their pattern .. But when it comes to promiscuity, its very predominant in these set of people.

chocboi78:
Lol
TBH the op is not too far from the truth.
I once know a tiv man who had a side chick that was know to his wife who also has a younger bobo that was wiping her severely.
She said that as long as he provided for the family , she was ok with it

Depressed101:
99% of all hookers in Abuja are from that state.... No strings attached Tiv especially not even idoma

bigpapi innytee crystalom3 99thenemy

see the testimonies about ur benue sisters.

Crystalom3:
First of all, you are a tribalist to the core but feel too ashamed to be yourself. And it really disgust me that you claimed not to be.

The way you painted this is like no one in Benue state is married

Or all girls in Benue state are unfaithful.


This is very far from the truth. Idoma girls are good cooks just as you have said. And if we are to count the number of broken homes in Nigeria, I'm sure idoma women will not make the top 200 list.

Secondly, the idomas are the most peace loving people in Benue state and probably the whole of Nigeria.

Don't because you've seen a problem with one family say it is so for the whole tribe.

Every man got their opinion..

Omihanifa:
I currently live with two benue girls (Tiv) in my compound and I can tell you for free that they are shameless, very promiscuous, and uncivilised.

Sleeping around means nothing to them( they do it without shame,) like they can sleep with you just to buy basic things like toothpaste, fill gas, etc

They are experts in child marriages, their women (45-65) sleep with younger guys

My friend once forked mother and daughter (Tiv tribe) in Benue state for less than 4k and they both knew

Honestly something needs to be done to to salvage that tribe

My brother, you have observed well...
I'm not surprised